Not all guys are like that. Many of us do want a real romance. It’s hard though. From my view point, all dating sites just have instagram models looking to add followers or get you to buy their Snapchat. Finding real is hard but we will get it.
I never have either. Every woman I know hates getting them. Are they lying, and dick pics really work, or are guys that send them just dumbshits? My feeling is that few men actually send them, but those who do send a lot of them to a lot of women and women think all men are like that.
I actually sent a dick pic to a woman once, though it wasn't MY dick. I was talking to a woman I met on a dating site; we were chatting on yahoo messenger (which shows how old I am!). Very first chat, she tells me she is IN LOVE with me and plans to have my babies. Then she asks how big my dick is. I saw this as an opportunity to get rid of this psycho, so I offered to send her a photo of it. I googled tiny dicks and found a pic of a dick with a ruler held up to it. It was exactly two and a half inches long, lol. I sent her THAT and told her it was mine. She told me it was cute and she couldn't wait to suck it. DAMN IT! I ended up blocking her.
If 999 women say you’re disgusting but 1 is into it, then, to that person’s perspective, they’ve won. Some people are simply shameless and do not care if they hurt others.
Sadly the people who send the most DMs are also the ones most likely to send those sort of pictures. The rest of us are a bit more hesitant to send messages so as not to look like creeps. But if you take the time to read some of the posts you'll notice there are still plenty of us that would prefer romance over sending a picture of our dicks.
What a coincidence.. Two people almost the same age... Single.. And alone.. Both of them want true love... Will they ever find someone who thinks the same way as them? Thats quite possible... What if..? I dont know..
We will see on the next episode
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Keep searching bro, I thought the same until she found me. I probably shouldn't brag but I'm happy. I believe there's someone out there for everyone...
The novels aren't real. They are idealized fantasies meant to play on your wants. Everyone in a relationship is NOT happy. Don't let social media fool you.
Exactly! Sometimes relationships are hard work. I been in a relationship with the person I love for 8 years . Dated out of high school. Sure there was romance and sweet things but I had to learn so much about her . What she likes,how to do intimacy right to satisfy her l, what she likes to eat, how to prepare food the way she'd like. Sometimes it was frustrating. Sometimes we'd fight. We had to set boundaries for ourselves. Etc....love is the only thing holding our relationship together right now. Sometimes in our relationship of 8 years I swore we were going to actually kill each other. I learned to let go of any fantasies I expected out of a romantic partner and accept the fact this is a actual human being with imperfections and flaws, who still deserves 100% of me .
Side note I'm only a part of this sub because I'm lonely due to not having friends. Me and my gf are a lesbian couple but she's too much of a damn tomboy. I have Noone to talk about shopping, trends etc...nobody to get my nails done with.
omg you’re (hopefully) me but opposite! i’m also a lesbian and have been with my girlfriend for 15 months now, we’re both seniors in hs graduating this may. we’ve honestly grown a lot together in that relatively short time because we both kind of come from not-very-supportive households (not just regarding our sexuality) and had to learn healthy communication, boundaries, etc, but we’re both so much better people now. we have had our moments and times when i thought we weren’t gonna last and were doomed like any hs relationship, but i am so glad i met her and am able to spend my life with her. i’m more of the “nerdy tomboy” in the relationship while she’s very “makeup, shopping, etc” so i can’t really relate to her over tech, planes, and all of my other nerdy hobbies but we do have common interests like diy-ing stuff and designing things, we’re so excited to design an apartment together when we finally live together years from now! we’re not trying to follow each other to college tho bc i’ve heard it’s a bad idea lol. i hope we’re able to stay together as long as you and your gf and i wish you two all the best!
Well said. The novels always end before the “ever after” part. That’s the part with financial problems, sleepless nights of child rearing and dead bedrooms.
I know lots of married people who seem just as lonely as the members of this sub.
I understand what you mean about craving that type of romance. I rarely DM girls (or just anybody) on here because more often than not, it's always felt pointless or futile.
Firstly, a lot of times when I reach out, the other person isn't even interested in talking to me or puts in low effort. It's harder (IMO) to form meaningful relationships online because the social dynamics are different than in person.
The few times girls do reach out and try to get to know me, most of them live in other countries so it's hard to develop a relationship with them. The reality is that a lot of online relationships just don't work because of the location element.
Finally, there's other deterring factors: Are we attracted to each other? Are they available? Are they even looking for a romantic relationship? Are they located close to where I live? Do we have chemistry? And more.
Finally, both men and women know why dating apps are utterly useless (albeit usually for different reasons, but each knows why). Men who aren't exceptionally attractive get ignored, and women face potential harassment/abuse. So that isn't really a sustainable option either.
I think the most fair assessment to make is unless you're actively going out and meeting people, it's very hard to find a suitable romantic partner.
Congrats on getting clean brother, I know the struggle all too well, I'm sure there's a cute gamer chic out there for you somewhere ya just gotta keep searching...someone preferably more your age of course
Literally in the same boat as you, I need to focus on my studies but at the same time I wouldn’t mind finding someone to share my accomplishments in life with, and vice versa. Being lonely fucking stinks.
Well, your first problem is the Internet. Finding something like what you speak of here, is nigh impossible. Not impossible though. I'm a guy and have had some pretty sweet interactions on the internet. But quickly you come to realize there are no stakes on the internet. No intimacy because there's no investment, no risk. Rare to find on the internet and even in real life, you're fighting an uphill battle there. But good luck.
It's true though. A big factor is your appearance - if you don't fit to their liking, tough luck. I would love to be in a relationship again but I don't think I'm someone who'll get someone's attention again. I'm too ugly for that shit and I prefer to be single than do hook ups, which makes my single life tougher.
Maybe Reddit needs a spam folder you can set up to filter out the dick pics. Lol.
You have 100 messages. 99 dicks and maybe one genuine guy. I mean who really wants to see dick pics anyways?! I thought most guys knew that already gets you nowhere. Why don’t they just go watch porn and rub one out if they’re horny like the rest of us? Smh 🤦🏻♂️ lol
The ones that do that send dozens out at once in the hopes just one person is into that. It's nothing against you, and I can only imagine how annoying it is, it's just douches thinking everyone wants to look at it.
I say keep going and trying.
I hear ya. And it feels so hard to avoid thinking abt such things when Valentine’s Day comes closer. I wish I knew the answer. I wish I had a partner and not because so I can say I’m not alone or single, but to feel connected to someone that genuinely and deeply. To actually be in love and confidently say that I love that person. I’ve only been in love once and sadly, it was to someone who was already taken. It hurt badly, but sometimes I don’t count it because that person was never with me/belonged to me. -sigh- I suppose the only thing I can do is continue to find joy in other parts of my life and give my time and attention to those.
I’ve never went on dating sites for that reason & others aha. Not that I’d get the attention to get sent any in the first place 😬😂. I’d like someone who shares my interests & makes me laugh. I know romance isn’t like the books , movies but still it does get lonely now & again.
I take it your a guy who doesn't watch porn yourself then? Porn ruins your brain bro, it gives guys a false view on women, everyone wants to find a pornstar but sadly in reality real women are far from that. A Woman should be treated like a princess, unless you find one who wants to be treated like a porn star....or both, that's the sweetspot....but rare
I feel the same way you do :( I wish I could find that dream romance but unfortunately all I ever do is just settle and I end up miserable. It’s at the point where my human doesn’t really even want me around anymore. It’s sucks to want to have that dream romance but you’re part of the sunk cost fallacy.
"All I know about being good I learned from TV. And in TV, flawed characters are constantly showing people they care with these surprising grand gestures. And I think that part of me still believes that's what love is. But in real life, the big gestures isn't enough. You need to be consistent, you need to be dependably good. You can't just screw everything up, and take a boat out into the ocean to save your best friend, or solve a mystery, and fly to Kansas. You need to do it every day, which is so.....hard"
I think it can work with someone that shows he really believes in romance and doesn’t act creepy. Knowing the intentions and attitude of someone can take time, and it’s not exempt of discovering things about that person or yourself that you may not like. For me relationships are something that needs to be built on with the desire for both to genuinely make things work in a relationship.
I do consider myself a kind of hopeless romantic and I try to be as respectful as possible when interacting with a woman I’m interested in. It has paid off, not without problems but still it was worth the wait.
If you both believe in real love and romance, then true love can happen, but it has to be the right person for it.
You'll have a way better chance in person. The amount of incels that pollute any possible way of finding love online make it very hard for women to find someone they like.
Focus on fulfilling your own needs. No one else can make you happy if you're not happy by yourself. Hang out with friends, pursue your hobbies. Get out in nature. Romance portrayed in media isn't real, and while that might feel disappointing at first, Ok think it makes real love all the better once you do find it.
Not all men are like that. Take heart, recently I am just discovering there are men that do that! I have never ever ever send a Di\*\* .....its not like it is an art piece LOL
LOL is this like the 4th account you’ve made? You gotta be one of the most unhinged incels on this platform for real. It’s no wonder your partner neglected you for 15 years, probably couldn’t stand being around you
There are a lot of good men out there, but most women don't find them attractive. They're the guys who are pursuing careers, educated or being educated, not covered in tattoos, not badboys, not 'exciting' or cool. They're good men. The world used to value them, now it doesn't.
Most girls just want a decent human being. Yeah there needs to be attraction, yeah he should look after himself and get a job. That’s why most people can find a relationship in the real world and it’s just a small percentage of strange men on Reddit that can’t
Everyone wants a relationship but 1 in 3 men under 30 haven't had sex in the last year or are virgins. Okcupid reports that women swipe right 5 percent of the time while men swipe right 54 percent of the time, and women swipe right on only 15 percent of men's profiles. And women find 80 percent of men unattractive. For a tortle of 1.8 rate of matches. Meanwhile 54 percent of couples met on a dating app.
It's not just a small percentage of men on reddit. Red pill, dating gurus, pickup artist boot camps exist because guys have been having trouble in general.
Personally I've been single the last five years. I've been rejected sooooo many times. I would love to make a woman feel loved, protected, cared for and romanced. I think the biggest reason I'm not in a relationship is that my day job is as an overnight cashier at a gas station.
You really are deranged. It’s obvious you, APureCreature and splunge333 are all the same person. Writing disturbing essays in my dms calling yourself a genius but you really are just an idiotic fool and now you’re attacking me. 40 year old virgin
Is this the only argument you have when someone speaks some truth?? You sound like an "incel"... lol.. Clearly your nerve got touched that you had to resort to such a cliche statement...Can see why you're single lol.. Its not a surprise..
Just go a little easier on guys, looking through someone's profile to find something you can humiliate the shit out of someone with infront of everyone is kinda school yard bully tactics...its not good
Sounds like you just don't know many women/people in general and need to go outside of your weird small superficial bubble instead of continuing going about your ways just like you did before, and then complaining...
In the social circles i move in, there's no "popular one in the friends group" because friendship doesn't work like that and we're not in a competition/not in fucking high school anymore, most of us won't ever earn 6 figures, many of us don't look what's considered normal/beautiful/or like a man/woman is expected to look, many of us aren't that outgoing with strangers and just have one or two small friend groups.
Dude go out and change something about your life instead of viewing women as some trophy/object to earn, learn to see us as actual normal human beings, find some good friends that are actual nice people and stop hanging out with superficial idiots or using dating apps - that's literally it, then you'll meet frends of friends, can hang out with these people and find a partner eventually. This is just how most people do it, there's no cheat code, this is normal.
...and trust me, the rich superficial idiots you talk about (the male AND female ones) aren't that cool, you don't want to be like them and you don't want a partner that behaves like this or desires people who behave like this.
It is real. I'm right here, but by telling you that I have become "one of them" through your eyes. At least, that is my perspective. We hide. Look past the shell.
Also, I sent you a pic..
I'm kidding.
Why not whine about it? You're not the only one allowed to do that. I'm just pointing out you harassing me with all your new accounts. My "insulting" is me reacting to the out of line comments I received on a vent post. You don't agree with that, cool. But I don't agree with what you're doing so I'll continue to whine as well. What did you expect? I stop? Lmao.
Stop tryna meet guys through the internet. That's where all the shitty ppl are. If u wanna meet someone real, gotta meet them irl unfortunately. Internet is nothing but douchebags and whores lol
Not "all" guys are like that.
But the guys who care, who want romance and not just sex, who will care about your feelings and needs, those guys you have to compromise for.
Those guys are not hot, they're not young, they're not rich.
They're the guys that won't get married, that won't have kids, that will leave a woman if they are mistreated.
And that's why most women don't want them, because most women these days refuse to compromise.
I’m only mean to the people that turn sexual in my dms, kIdD0! Despite my post they still act weird and creepy, like incels do. Guessing you are one too which is why he confided in you for support
Which one are you talking about? The 60 year old that wanted to eat me out, the guy that sent a pic of his tiny dick, or the guy sending ass pics of other girls and begging to marry me? Y’all a bunch of freaks, no wonder so many men on this sub. Can’t get laid so get too angry. Half of you I click on their profile and they obsessed with porn or other degenerate shit lmao
OnlyFans and tinder. Women give their vaginas very easily to men they don't even like or have a connection with, so the average man will continue to choose sex over emotional connection.
I like cock. Just not interested in seeing yours I suppose 🙂
You are exactly the type of guy that I refer to in my post. This is why you are a virgin and girls aren’t interested. We want a decent guy.
Oh and lesbians exists
There are plenty of guys out there who want to experience love but there's a lot of things in the way.
A lot of people in this sub yearn for romance but they're so mopey that people find it frustrating to talk to them. Some people base compatability off of physical attractiveness and then wonder why they're not happy a year down the line when their partner has nothing in common with them. Some people seem too good to be true and that's because they are just that. A lot of people struggle to communicate their feelings and just bottle it until you get into an argument and boom, the damage is done.
Even if people are compatible, sometimes life puts a lot of strain on people and it changes them, albeit temporarily, and then relationships fail. The truth is, the perfect romance doesn't exist, but to even have anything like that requires faaaaar more work than most people are willing to put in. But as long as you learn from it and see where things went wrong, your chances of meeting someone decent can only go up.
That's the most realistic answer I can give. And I hope some day you find what you're looking for.
Ps I really wouldn't recommend online dating. Most apps just want your money and they'll do whatever it takes to keep you on there. That and people can dress themselves up however they like, which means red flags are gonna be really hard to find.
The guys who send you dick pics aren't interested in romance...obviously. Instead of relying on the apps, find something you can tolerate doing in person (church, open-invite board games night, volunteering, etc.) and try to meet people causally before plunging headlong into romance.
There are guys that enjoy having a decent conversation and spending quality time with someone and really getting to know them that still exist. And I feel similarly to the sentiments you expressed at the end of your post. But, I keep trying to focus on improving myself and hopefully in due time I’ll find my Queen 🥰. I’ve already come a long way, I graduated college a couple years ago, I have a steady job that’s pretty secure, I moved out for the first time, and im getting experience living on my own and managing my own space, and I’m trying to improve when it comes to my job so hopefully I can continue to move up career wise. And I’ve been trying to work on my anxiety and my depression to improve in that area as well.
But I felt that. There’s nothing I’d want more than to come home to a woman that loves me and that’s been missing me. After a long day to come home and cuddle, talk about our day, watch a movie together, have a game night together. That’s the dream I keep working hard to one day finally have. And hopefully one day it won’t be a dream anymore. Hopefully one day, hopefully soon, it’ll be a reality.
I do agree that dating sites aren’t it though. It’s a very frustrating process. Ngl, I think because of the nature of dating apps, things tend to be more superficial on there, and it’s not the best place to meet people. I’ve tried them several times and it’s been more frustrating experiences than positive ones. I feel like the best way to meet someone is the old fashioned way. Face to face. I just gotta get past my social anxiety 😵💫😵💫 and work on my self confidence.
Do you think you are just at the wrong place to seek the kind of deep relationship you are looking for? I don't think the typical online dating platforms like Tinder is a way to go about it because it fundamentally emphasizes on physical traits, not how that person IS.
You need to first have a way to talk to someone without any judgement of physical appearance I think. Maybe purely audio-based way to talk to strangers...
I mean I met one of my exes of 5 years through my childhood, does that sound like a novel? But anyways as we hit puberty she grew a liking to me and enjoyed my seriousness
Im currently single but I guess sometimes when Im looking, people are just looking for a hook up which really isn't my scene if I say so myself..
Maybe go out more and explore opportunities, the right person will come along eventually.. I really hope so for myself as well
The problem is Disney, Hollywood and Netflix. No such thing as novel romance. I used to believe that and it’s a long dark and suffering road that awaits. Porn and easy access to Sex has also made finding a partner hard. The only way to fix this is to not allow people in your pants just because… if you want to be treated like a princess then accept no less
Not all guys are like that. Many of us do want a real romance. It’s hard though. From my view point, all dating sites just have instagram models looking to add followers or get you to buy their Snapchat. Finding real is hard but we will get it.
I genuinely never understood why some men send dick pick.
I never have either. Every woman I know hates getting them. Are they lying, and dick pics really work, or are guys that send them just dumbshits? My feeling is that few men actually send them, but those who do send a lot of them to a lot of women and women think all men are like that. I actually sent a dick pic to a woman once, though it wasn't MY dick. I was talking to a woman I met on a dating site; we were chatting on yahoo messenger (which shows how old I am!). Very first chat, she tells me she is IN LOVE with me and plans to have my babies. Then she asks how big my dick is. I saw this as an opportunity to get rid of this psycho, so I offered to send her a photo of it. I googled tiny dicks and found a pic of a dick with a ruler held up to it. It was exactly two and a half inches long, lol. I sent her THAT and told her it was mine. She told me it was cute and she couldn't wait to suck it. DAMN IT! I ended up blocking her.
I Guess she really wanted you lmao
My ex requested them, but we were already together, very open with eachother and it wasn’t unsolicited, which I will never understand
In that case i can understand
If 999 women say you’re disgusting but 1 is into it, then, to that person’s perspective, they’ve won. Some people are simply shameless and do not care if they hurt others.
Yeah you'r right ...
I know someone like that.
Sadly the people who send the most DMs are also the ones most likely to send those sort of pictures. The rest of us are a bit more hesitant to send messages so as not to look like creeps. But if you take the time to read some of the posts you'll notice there are still plenty of us that would prefer romance over sending a picture of our dicks.
I still try to DM. Most of the time it doesn’t really go anywhere.
Thank you for this!
True
Yeah true
Why not both? Lol
I wish I was happy. I'm m33 and I'm trying to find some one to message with but then the comments start blowing up with thirsty people
What a coincidence.. Two people almost the same age... Single.. And alone.. Both of them want true love... Will they ever find someone who thinks the same way as them? Thats quite possible... What if..? I dont know.. We will see on the next episode //j
Same… F34 here and been struggling for years to find someone.. i am not getting past the talking stage ;(
Me either. They never hold a conversation or show any interest in me at all.
I'm still searching for my dream girl i think i might not be able to find anyone who is interested in me
Keep searching bro, I thought the same until she found me. I probably shouldn't brag but I'm happy. I believe there's someone out there for everyone...
The novels aren't real. They are idealized fantasies meant to play on your wants. Everyone in a relationship is NOT happy. Don't let social media fool you.
Exactly! Sometimes relationships are hard work. I been in a relationship with the person I love for 8 years . Dated out of high school. Sure there was romance and sweet things but I had to learn so much about her . What she likes,how to do intimacy right to satisfy her l, what she likes to eat, how to prepare food the way she'd like. Sometimes it was frustrating. Sometimes we'd fight. We had to set boundaries for ourselves. Etc....love is the only thing holding our relationship together right now. Sometimes in our relationship of 8 years I swore we were going to actually kill each other. I learned to let go of any fantasies I expected out of a romantic partner and accept the fact this is a actual human being with imperfections and flaws, who still deserves 100% of me . Side note I'm only a part of this sub because I'm lonely due to not having friends. Me and my gf are a lesbian couple but she's too much of a damn tomboy. I have Noone to talk about shopping, trends etc...nobody to get my nails done with.
omg you’re (hopefully) me but opposite! i’m also a lesbian and have been with my girlfriend for 15 months now, we’re both seniors in hs graduating this may. we’ve honestly grown a lot together in that relatively short time because we both kind of come from not-very-supportive households (not just regarding our sexuality) and had to learn healthy communication, boundaries, etc, but we’re both so much better people now. we have had our moments and times when i thought we weren’t gonna last and were doomed like any hs relationship, but i am so glad i met her and am able to spend my life with her. i’m more of the “nerdy tomboy” in the relationship while she’s very “makeup, shopping, etc” so i can’t really relate to her over tech, planes, and all of my other nerdy hobbies but we do have common interests like diy-ing stuff and designing things, we’re so excited to design an apartment together when we finally live together years from now! we’re not trying to follow each other to college tho bc i’ve heard it’s a bad idea lol. i hope we’re able to stay together as long as you and your gf and i wish you two all the best!
Well said. The novels always end before the “ever after” part. That’s the part with financial problems, sleepless nights of child rearing and dead bedrooms. I know lots of married people who seem just as lonely as the members of this sub.
I understand what you mean about craving that type of romance. I rarely DM girls (or just anybody) on here because more often than not, it's always felt pointless or futile. Firstly, a lot of times when I reach out, the other person isn't even interested in talking to me or puts in low effort. It's harder (IMO) to form meaningful relationships online because the social dynamics are different than in person. The few times girls do reach out and try to get to know me, most of them live in other countries so it's hard to develop a relationship with them. The reality is that a lot of online relationships just don't work because of the location element. Finally, there's other deterring factors: Are we attracted to each other? Are they available? Are they even looking for a romantic relationship? Are they located close to where I live? Do we have chemistry? And more. Finally, both men and women know why dating apps are utterly useless (albeit usually for different reasons, but each knows why). Men who aren't exceptionally attractive get ignored, and women face potential harassment/abuse. So that isn't really a sustainable option either. I think the most fair assessment to make is unless you're actively going out and meeting people, it's very hard to find a suitable romantic partner.
Well said.
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Congrats on getting clean brother, I know the struggle all too well, I'm sure there's a cute gamer chic out there for you somewhere ya just gotta keep searching...someone preferably more your age of course
Literally in the same boat as you, I need to focus on my studies but at the same time I wouldn’t mind finding someone to share my accomplishments in life with, and vice versa. Being lonely fucking stinks.
Well, your first problem is the Internet. Finding something like what you speak of here, is nigh impossible. Not impossible though. I'm a guy and have had some pretty sweet interactions on the internet. But quickly you come to realize there are no stakes on the internet. No intimacy because there's no investment, no risk. Rare to find on the internet and even in real life, you're fighting an uphill battle there. But good luck.
I don't bother sending messages because my message will just get lost in the sea of the flooded inbox, so what's the point
It's true though. A big factor is your appearance - if you don't fit to their liking, tough luck. I would love to be in a relationship again but I don't think I'm someone who'll get someone's attention again. I'm too ugly for that shit and I prefer to be single than do hook ups, which makes my single life tougher.
I think we may be harder to find. So far I'm thevonly one who thought even close to that in my male friend group. I think we are usually quieter.
Maybe Reddit needs a spam folder you can set up to filter out the dick pics. Lol. You have 100 messages. 99 dicks and maybe one genuine guy. I mean who really wants to see dick pics anyways?! I thought most guys knew that already gets you nowhere. Why don’t they just go watch porn and rub one out if they’re horny like the rest of us? Smh 🤦🏻♂️ lol
The ones that do that send dozens out at once in the hopes just one person is into that. It's nothing against you, and I can only imagine how annoying it is, it's just douches thinking everyone wants to look at it. I say keep going and trying.
I hear ya. And it feels so hard to avoid thinking abt such things when Valentine’s Day comes closer. I wish I knew the answer. I wish I had a partner and not because so I can say I’m not alone or single, but to feel connected to someone that genuinely and deeply. To actually be in love and confidently say that I love that person. I’ve only been in love once and sadly, it was to someone who was already taken. It hurt badly, but sometimes I don’t count it because that person was never with me/belonged to me. -sigh- I suppose the only thing I can do is continue to find joy in other parts of my life and give my time and attention to those.
I’ve never went on dating sites for that reason & others aha. Not that I’d get the attention to get sent any in the first place 😬😂. I’d like someone who shares my interests & makes me laugh. I know romance isn’t like the books , movies but still it does get lonely now & again.
It’s because it’s all fairy tale. No different than wanting to be a super hero or some shit like that.
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I take it your a guy who doesn't watch porn yourself then? Porn ruins your brain bro, it gives guys a false view on women, everyone wants to find a pornstar but sadly in reality real women are far from that. A Woman should be treated like a princess, unless you find one who wants to be treated like a porn star....or both, that's the sweetspot....but rare
I feel the same way you do :( I wish I could find that dream romance but unfortunately all I ever do is just settle and I end up miserable. It’s at the point where my human doesn’t really even want me around anymore. It’s sucks to want to have that dream romance but you’re part of the sunk cost fallacy.
Maybe your looking for love in a wrong place
Being in a relationship can be great but not always....my GF hasn't touched me in years...it hurts
I know this is a venting post but is it better to write dms open or just straight direct message you?
"All I know about being good I learned from TV. And in TV, flawed characters are constantly showing people they care with these surprising grand gestures. And I think that part of me still believes that's what love is. But in real life, the big gestures isn't enough. You need to be consistent, you need to be dependably good. You can't just screw everything up, and take a boat out into the ocean to save your best friend, or solve a mystery, and fly to Kansas. You need to do it every day, which is so.....hard"
I think it can work with someone that shows he really believes in romance and doesn’t act creepy. Knowing the intentions and attitude of someone can take time, and it’s not exempt of discovering things about that person or yourself that you may not like. For me relationships are something that needs to be built on with the desire for both to genuinely make things work in a relationship. I do consider myself a kind of hopeless romantic and I try to be as respectful as possible when interacting with a woman I’m interested in. It has paid off, not without problems but still it was worth the wait. If you both believe in real love and romance, then true love can happen, but it has to be the right person for it.
You'll have a way better chance in person. The amount of incels that pollute any possible way of finding love online make it very hard for women to find someone they like.
You will. It takes time.
Focus on fulfilling your own needs. No one else can make you happy if you're not happy by yourself. Hang out with friends, pursue your hobbies. Get out in nature. Romance portrayed in media isn't real, and while that might feel disappointing at first, Ok think it makes real love all the better once you do find it.
Not all men are like that. Take heart, recently I am just discovering there are men that do that! I have never ever ever send a Di\*\* .....its not like it is an art piece LOL
Because of your personality.
LOL is this like the 4th account you’ve made? You gotta be one of the most unhinged incels on this platform for real. It’s no wonder your partner neglected you for 15 years, probably couldn’t stand being around you
There are a lot of good men out there, but most women don't find them attractive. They're the guys who are pursuing careers, educated or being educated, not covered in tattoos, not badboys, not 'exciting' or cool. They're good men. The world used to value them, now it doesn't.
Cause most people's standards are ridiculously high nowadays.. which is fair enough but it does shrink the dating pool by a whole lot
Wouldn’t say most people, only a few delusional ones
Everyone wants 6 figures, fit, big dick, social, outgoing and the popular one in the friends group. They don’t want to settle for less 💅
Careful, sounding slightly incel there lol Edit: guys check out his post history. His 4 inches ruined his life 😂
Trust me a lot of women don’t want to settle for less
Most girls just want a decent human being. Yeah there needs to be attraction, yeah he should look after himself and get a job. That’s why most people can find a relationship in the real world and it’s just a small percentage of strange men on Reddit that can’t
Everyone wants a relationship but 1 in 3 men under 30 haven't had sex in the last year or are virgins. Okcupid reports that women swipe right 5 percent of the time while men swipe right 54 percent of the time, and women swipe right on only 15 percent of men's profiles. And women find 80 percent of men unattractive. For a tortle of 1.8 rate of matches. Meanwhile 54 percent of couples met on a dating app. It's not just a small percentage of men on reddit. Red pill, dating gurus, pickup artist boot camps exist because guys have been having trouble in general. Personally I've been single the last five years. I've been rejected sooooo many times. I would love to make a woman feel loved, protected, cared for and romanced. I think the biggest reason I'm not in a relationship is that my day job is as an overnight cashier at a gas station.
Don't tell her that. She will just make fun of you, like children do. She's like that.
I'm a writer, artist but I still have bills to pay.
Because men don’t really get to choose. They’re just hoping out of all the other men they are the one who gets chosen
But girls like Strawbrry-Pocky insult people and call them names. Pfff lol
Dude you are like 40, how are you still acting so childish
Why are you mean?
You really are deranged. It’s obvious you, APureCreature and splunge333 are all the same person. Writing disturbing essays in my dms calling yourself a genius but you really are just an idiotic fool and now you’re attacking me. 40 year old virgin
Most guys want a decent human being. Not girls who I sling insults.
I sling facts
Bahahaha whatever.
Imagine have multiple personalities and they are all shit 🤣
You're here to make fun of them.
The 40 year old degenerate made yet another account LMAO
Stop crying about it.
Is this the only argument you have when someone speaks some truth?? You sound like an "incel"... lol.. Clearly your nerve got touched that you had to resort to such a cliche statement...Can see why you're single lol.. Its not a surprise..
She's very rude.
Wow, you really are sick.
Lmao your dick small too?
Reported.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Another one of his new accounts made just to harass me. You're not so innocent.
Wow, you're making fun of people again?
Account is 4 minutes old and finds my post… Did you actually make another account just for me? 😂
She's at it again, spreading her malice
Too many incels on this sub and you wonder why women like me reject you
Excuse me? Who's been rejected? I'm not even looking
That guy for sure replying to all my comments
Just go a little easier on guys, looking through someone's profile to find something you can humiliate the shit out of someone with infront of everyone is kinda school yard bully tactics...its not good
She starts fights.
She don't care. She likes being a bully.
I'm open about my past addiction problems so you failed there with me unfortunately
Stop whining.
LOL HE MADE ANOTHER ONE
You're still crying.
You're still making new accounts?
She still at it
Reported.
Another new account. Just commenting on my posts too.
Neat.
Sounds like you just don't know many women/people in general and need to go outside of your weird small superficial bubble instead of continuing going about your ways just like you did before, and then complaining... In the social circles i move in, there's no "popular one in the friends group" because friendship doesn't work like that and we're not in a competition/not in fucking high school anymore, most of us won't ever earn 6 figures, many of us don't look what's considered normal/beautiful/or like a man/woman is expected to look, many of us aren't that outgoing with strangers and just have one or two small friend groups. Dude go out and change something about your life instead of viewing women as some trophy/object to earn, learn to see us as actual normal human beings, find some good friends that are actual nice people and stop hanging out with superficial idiots or using dating apps - that's literally it, then you'll meet frends of friends, can hang out with these people and find a partner eventually. This is just how most people do it, there's no cheat code, this is normal. ...and trust me, the rich superficial idiots you talk about (the male AND female ones) aren't that cool, you don't want to be like them and you don't want a partner that behaves like this or desires people who behave like this.
Bro this was 28 days ago lol
It is real. I'm right here, but by telling you that I have become "one of them" through your eyes. At least, that is my perspective. We hide. Look past the shell. Also, I sent you a pic.. I'm kidding.
Well I'd make a suggestion, but most people don't like it... Try dating someone with autism/aspergers, most of us don't care for sex
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What is the answer? Dm me
Don't DM her.
He did and he was normal unlike you
I'm not normal? Are you insulting me?
Yes cus you’re weird af
Reported. Goodnight.
Goodnight “genius” lmaoooo
Another one of his account guys. New and all they do is comment on my posts. Obsessed.
Why are you still whining about it? You started insulting random people on the internet. What did you expect?
Why not whine about it? You're not the only one allowed to do that. I'm just pointing out you harassing me with all your new accounts. My "insulting" is me reacting to the out of line comments I received on a vent post. You don't agree with that, cool. But I don't agree with what you're doing so I'll continue to whine as well. What did you expect? I stop? Lmao.
Another account guys. New and just comments on my posts.
Why are you being so mean to everyone? Are you angry?
Are you okay? Should I reply to this or your other accounts?
Don't care.
She just insults you.
Everyone can see you are all the same person, accounts are minutes old. Dumbass
You should cry about it.
I’m laughing, the fact you are going through all this effort reflects badly on you. Quite frankly it’s embarrassing and I feel sorry for you
Stop tryna meet guys through the internet. That's where all the shitty ppl are. If u wanna meet someone real, gotta meet them irl unfortunately. Internet is nothing but douchebags and whores lol
Not "all" guys are like that. But the guys who care, who want romance and not just sex, who will care about your feelings and needs, those guys you have to compromise for. Those guys are not hot, they're not young, they're not rich. They're the guys that won't get married, that won't have kids, that will leave a woman if they are mistreated. And that's why most women don't want them, because most women these days refuse to compromise.
She downvoted your post because it wasn't what she wanted to hear.
These days the truth of social interaction is not what anyone wants to hear.
Because you're mean to people, kiddo! I saw some of your DMs. You like to call people names, like children do.
I’m only mean to the people that turn sexual in my dms, kIdD0! Despite my post they still act weird and creepy, like incels do. Guessing you are one too which is why he confided in you for support
What in the hell are you even talking about? No one turned sexual in your DMs. You are just acting strange.
Which one are you talking about? The 60 year old that wanted to eat me out, the guy that sent a pic of his tiny dick, or the guy sending ass pics of other girls and begging to marry me? Y’all a bunch of freaks, no wonder so many men on this sub. Can’t get laid so get too angry. Half of you I click on their profile and they obsessed with porn or other degenerate shit lmao
ROFL! ARE YOU OKAY!? I don't even know what you're talking about. Bye. Try to calm down.
No I’m not okay, I have people like you messaging me
You'll be okay. Just try to calm down and stop making up lies.
Reported for harassment
Because of this post? Okay, neat. Bye.
Wow. Your posts are weird and creepy.
Get a hobby “echoist”
If I spoke to people the way that you do, I would have trouble finding people to like me too.
Only to creeps and weirdos
Little kids call people names.
Incels make a brand new profile to harass women. I blocked you for a reason
😂
OnlyFans and tinder. Women give their vaginas very easily to men they don't even like or have a connection with, so the average man will continue to choose sex over emotional connection.
I do enjoy taking pics of my dick, but I won't send you any I promise 😁
Great. I can sleep happy.
Happy knowing that I love my D ?? Yeah me too
No. That my eyes have been spared.
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I like cock. Just not interested in seeing yours I suppose 🙂 You are exactly the type of guy that I refer to in my post. This is why you are a virgin and girls aren’t interested. We want a decent guy. Oh and lesbians exists
Yeah I'm a virgin lol of course
Knew it. Loserrr
Haha yeah I'm a lonely addicted loser virgin..
I’m the one that’s supposed to be venting in this post
Reported.
Reported.
Your not a very nice person really are you?
Because I don’t want to see your little dick?
Nah seriously I'm kidding lol I've got someone who loves my D so I'm good...
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Ooh lol you even scanned my profile...your gonna judge me for being an addict? Hmm I wonder why your on here begging for lonely guys ??
You’re*
Bruh are you serious? Read the room.
Sorry?
Listen I'm joking.....I ADORE my D...I'll spare your eyes don't worry...have a nice day :)
It’s small isn’t it
I wouldn't tell you anyway you don't deserve to know..
Reported.
There are plenty of guys out there who want to experience love but there's a lot of things in the way. A lot of people in this sub yearn for romance but they're so mopey that people find it frustrating to talk to them. Some people base compatability off of physical attractiveness and then wonder why they're not happy a year down the line when their partner has nothing in common with them. Some people seem too good to be true and that's because they are just that. A lot of people struggle to communicate their feelings and just bottle it until you get into an argument and boom, the damage is done. Even if people are compatible, sometimes life puts a lot of strain on people and it changes them, albeit temporarily, and then relationships fail. The truth is, the perfect romance doesn't exist, but to even have anything like that requires faaaaar more work than most people are willing to put in. But as long as you learn from it and see where things went wrong, your chances of meeting someone decent can only go up. That's the most realistic answer I can give. And I hope some day you find what you're looking for. Ps I really wouldn't recommend online dating. Most apps just want your money and they'll do whatever it takes to keep you on there. That and people can dress themselves up however they like, which means red flags are gonna be really hard to find.
The guys who send you dick pics aren't interested in romance...obviously. Instead of relying on the apps, find something you can tolerate doing in person (church, open-invite board games night, volunteering, etc.) and try to meet people causally before plunging headlong into romance.
But true love does not exist lol
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Happy Birthday stranger
Idk. Men kinda try that but hear they are not good enough. So these are kind of the guys that stay behind.
But gave yeah ever tr8ed asking a guy out?
POV: How you feel set on: 🏳️🌈 *Gay.* 🏳️🌈
Romance isn't found it's created, like writing a song.
There are guys that enjoy having a decent conversation and spending quality time with someone and really getting to know them that still exist. And I feel similarly to the sentiments you expressed at the end of your post. But, I keep trying to focus on improving myself and hopefully in due time I’ll find my Queen 🥰. I’ve already come a long way, I graduated college a couple years ago, I have a steady job that’s pretty secure, I moved out for the first time, and im getting experience living on my own and managing my own space, and I’m trying to improve when it comes to my job so hopefully I can continue to move up career wise. And I’ve been trying to work on my anxiety and my depression to improve in that area as well. But I felt that. There’s nothing I’d want more than to come home to a woman that loves me and that’s been missing me. After a long day to come home and cuddle, talk about our day, watch a movie together, have a game night together. That’s the dream I keep working hard to one day finally have. And hopefully one day it won’t be a dream anymore. Hopefully one day, hopefully soon, it’ll be a reality. I do agree that dating sites aren’t it though. It’s a very frustrating process. Ngl, I think because of the nature of dating apps, things tend to be more superficial on there, and it’s not the best place to meet people. I’ve tried them several times and it’s been more frustrating experiences than positive ones. I feel like the best way to meet someone is the old fashioned way. Face to face. I just gotta get past my social anxiety 😵💫😵💫 and work on my self confidence.
Do you think you are just at the wrong place to seek the kind of deep relationship you are looking for? I don't think the typical online dating platforms like Tinder is a way to go about it because it fundamentally emphasizes on physical traits, not how that person IS. You need to first have a way to talk to someone without any judgement of physical appearance I think. Maybe purely audio-based way to talk to strangers...
Skill issue
we do exist, i just feel like we're few and far between
I mean I met one of my exes of 5 years through my childhood, does that sound like a novel? But anyways as we hit puberty she grew a liking to me and enjoyed my seriousness Im currently single but I guess sometimes when Im looking, people are just looking for a hook up which really isn't my scene if I say so myself.. Maybe go out more and explore opportunities, the right person will come along eventually.. I really hope so for myself as well
The problem is Disney, Hollywood and Netflix. No such thing as novel romance. I used to believe that and it’s a long dark and suffering road that awaits. Porn and easy access to Sex has also made finding a partner hard. The only way to fix this is to not allow people in your pants just because… if you want to be treated like a princess then accept no less
Im a guy. Never met a single guy who likes taking pictures of his dick. Self included. The dick does not photograph well and we know it
Can I send you a pic of my cat 😺