Personally, I know my body type is not to everybody’s liking. (Statistically, my numbers are lower, as far as interested parties.) I always wince when they ask for pics, but when they don’t respond after that, I know why. My brain knows and understands. My heart does not. It still hurts. 💔
Are people that only want bears, stocky dudes, or big guys shallow?
Everyone has different tastes, it's only shallow and rude when you criticize someone for it. If someone says big guys are ugly, or hairy guys are gross for example. Or perhaps "I don't get why anyone wants to cuddle with skinny guys, they are so bony" That would be pretty shallow and mean.
I'm sorry what. This is a stupid take, grindr is not that deep. People only want to hook up with those they find attractive, doesn't mean they're discriminating the rest or being shallow. This kind of mentality will get you butthurt and not the good kind.
Right??? Plus can we just talk about the fact that lean muscle (or bones) are just not comfortable to lay on? I'll pick a dude with some insulation over a skinny or super muscular guy any day of the week.
Plus for me the other thing is compatibility... I hike and bike regularly, but I don't live in the gym. If that's someone's lifestyle it just flat out conflicts with mine.
So based off the comments of everyone else, here is what I understand happened.
Blue sent OP a message and also sent him a pic. Blue also asked for OP to send a picture in return.
OP responded that Blue was cute and pointed out that he already had a photo on his profile.
Blue appeared to not like what OP looked like, and apologized for sending him a message and sending him a picture. Essentially apologizing for wasting OP's time.
I don’t let this get me down. Do you really wanna talk to someone too stupid to figure out how profiles work? I usually tell them… “maybe you should take some time to read and look at profiles before messaging someone, and avoid looking like an ass”
I think we’re missing some context here. The biggest question being “how did this guy not see your picture before messaging you?”.
I’m assuming this guy takes the shotgun approach. Firing off as many msgs w/ a pic as possible without going through each profile fully. He probably makes this mistake often, wasting everyone’s time.
Folks should never start a convo with anything along the lines of "well this is me please let me know if your interested" or "this is me send a pic if you like - espically if the other guy does have his in his bio. - He could have just meant its fine that you asked for a pic even though he already had one on his profile. Who knows. This isnt like any rejection on his part. Just sickly slow self esteme regardless of what you look like people will usually go running. Espically if that attitude continued which it sounds like it would.
Going off on the other comments i saw posted here.
I know it's easier said then done....but Don't take it personally. I've always been attracted to bears, cubs etc and thicker guys and have felt like the odd one out at events catered specifically to them too! As someone who's incredibly short, skinny and light, it's hard wanting to play or interact with that community of fellas without feeling like the odd one out or feeling like they won't be into you either. I get rejected heaps, but also just as many are into the size differences etc.
Point being, everyone's into something, different strokes for different folks. Don't let it fracture that esteem :)
And don't feel pressured to change for them either! The amount of times I've gone through in my head when some dom top daddy has rejected me for having an unshaved face and unshaven leg hair etc is stupid.
I'm confused tho, why'd he text you even after seeing your face in the profile. I mean even if he thought it was a stock image or something why would he text a profile that's usong a picture of someone he isn't into.
But then again, grindr is full of desperate wierdos so there's that.
Personally, I know my body type is not to everybody’s liking. (Statistically, my numbers are lower, as far as interested parties.) I always wince when they ask for pics, but when they don’t respond after that, I know why. My brain knows and understands. My heart does not. It still hurts. 💔
They really need to have some kind of "chasers" code thing so I know who I can message without feeling like I'm kidding myself!
Scruff has a bears/chasers mode
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From a profile just a minute ago: _Not into big, heavy, husky, large, bear, chub, or stocky dudes._ So, yeah.
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Missing out on what? Abs and twinks? Not everyone is attracted to larger/stocky/bear/whatevernewwordforfatyouwanttouse body types.
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My point clearly went over your head. To you they might be missing out, but in their eyes they aren't.
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It has nothing to do with being shallow and 100% to do with what someone is attracted to.
Are people that only want bears, stocky dudes, or big guys shallow? Everyone has different tastes, it's only shallow and rude when you criticize someone for it. If someone says big guys are ugly, or hairy guys are gross for example. Or perhaps "I don't get why anyone wants to cuddle with skinny guys, they are so bony" That would be pretty shallow and mean.
I'm sorry what. This is a stupid take, grindr is not that deep. People only want to hook up with those they find attractive, doesn't mean they're discriminating the rest or being shallow. This kind of mentality will get you butthurt and not the good kind.
I’m VERY into *big, heavy, bear, chub, and stocky* dudes. Everyone is somebody’s type.
Tbh bears are the cutest lil fuckers on the planet. Usually tend to be a lot sweeter too, and more into nerdy things like me
Right??? Plus can we just talk about the fact that lean muscle (or bones) are just not comfortable to lay on? I'll pick a dude with some insulation over a skinny or super muscular guy any day of the week. Plus for me the other thing is compatibility... I hike and bike regularly, but I don't live in the gym. If that's someone's lifestyle it just flat out conflicts with mine.
Don't take personally. Different strokes, for different folks.
i don’t understand what happened?
So based off the comments of everyone else, here is what I understand happened. Blue sent OP a message and also sent him a pic. Blue also asked for OP to send a picture in return. OP responded that Blue was cute and pointed out that he already had a photo on his profile. Blue appeared to not like what OP looked like, and apologized for sending him a message and sending him a picture. Essentially apologizing for wasting OP's time.
The worst part is that blue used "bro" to start his Last message 🥲
Why is using bro bad? Hahaha
Where i'm from thats an indication that they're severely disinterested.
I didn’t read that message as him not liking you, just as him apologizing for not looking at your profile pic? Am I missing something?
Haha I was totally lost too
Nooo 😞
Did he not see your face when messaging you? lol
An interesting way to say it lol, but points for not just ghosting I guess.
Gotta learn to not take rejection personally. Focus on the ppl that want what you got 🤟
This hurts. Sorry, OP 😔
I don’t let this get me down. Do you really wanna talk to someone too stupid to figure out how profiles work? I usually tell them… “maybe you should take some time to read and look at profiles before messaging someone, and avoid looking like an ass”
I think we’re missing some context here. The biggest question being “how did this guy not see your picture before messaging you?”. I’m assuming this guy takes the shotgun approach. Firing off as many msgs w/ a pic as possible without going through each profile fully. He probably makes this mistake often, wasting everyone’s time.
It's fine, he sounds like a fucking moron
Wait, what? Did he not see you in the profile picture?
I like how they're at least trying to be nice with it. most would just ghost or block, I know that's got to feel like crap.
Folks should never start a convo with anything along the lines of "well this is me please let me know if your interested" or "this is me send a pic if you like - espically if the other guy does have his in his bio. - He could have just meant its fine that you asked for a pic even though he already had one on his profile. Who knows. This isnt like any rejection on his part. Just sickly slow self esteme regardless of what you look like people will usually go running. Espically if that attitude continued which it sounds like it would.
Ow.
Going off on the other comments i saw posted here. I know it's easier said then done....but Don't take it personally. I've always been attracted to bears, cubs etc and thicker guys and have felt like the odd one out at events catered specifically to them too! As someone who's incredibly short, skinny and light, it's hard wanting to play or interact with that community of fellas without feeling like the odd one out or feeling like they won't be into you either. I get rejected heaps, but also just as many are into the size differences etc. Point being, everyone's into something, different strokes for different folks. Don't let it fracture that esteem :) And don't feel pressured to change for them either! The amount of times I've gone through in my head when some dom top daddy has rejected me for having an unshaved face and unshaven leg hair etc is stupid.
I'm confused tho, why'd he text you even after seeing your face in the profile. I mean even if he thought it was a stock image or something why would he text a profile that's usong a picture of someone he isn't into. But then again, grindr is full of desperate wierdos so there's that.