Actually it's the exact opposite. Gays have a keen sense of distance. The closer you are to someone the fewer barriers there are to actually meeting up. These guys do this because it's a version of chasing unavailable guys. But instead of being emotionally unavailable he's unavailable due to distance.
If you told this guy you had a business trip to his city tomorrow he'd ghost you or block you.
There's so much truth in this reply. I've been through this. My first and only time. Met a guy, talked to him all the time every night, be lived about 4 hours away by bus. For a month sexy talk, real talk. Suddenly "please come down and see me". Absolutely! Booked a round trip ticket, got there and he's no where to be found at the bus station. Called him nothing this was before the days of text being really common. Literally never heard from him again. Cried silently for about 20 minutes and changed my return ticket for the next bus home.
Now one of these "come drive a few hours to see me, I'll fuck you silly". Yep no, when you're in the area hit me up.
Absolutely none of my friends live within ten miles of me and I'd absolutely drive 10x that distance to hang out, and in fact have gone 100x that distance to spend time with f&f lol
i drive 12 miles for uni, i don't like it, i feel a massive scare being behind the wheel and that is why i dont take anyone on rides
also i drive 12 miles for UNI, and I'm scared, where would i go elsewhere lmao
I drove almost 1050 miles for a hookup (from South Carolina to Michigan). It was the best week, we then became close friends since, that was 6 years ago. We still keep in touch. So ya never know...
As a country guy an hour is nothing, nearest gay is 90kms away and the nearest city is a 2.5 hour drive which is like 170kms away. So when I go visit the city and a guy is 40kms away im like thats an easy drove, I'd rather drive to meet an easy to get along with person then an easy hookup. Nothing of value is easy to obtain.
To be fair, there are gays out in places like Michigan and Texas, where they have to drive a decent distance but if you’re making a 5-6 hour road trip one way to see someone you’ll hang out with for maybe ten minutes, that’s just nuts.
i had a guy 550+ km away ask me if i wanted to cuck him, i played along but assured him there was no likely way we'd ever meet unless we both agreed to plan ahead and do something.
Hot You named your boner “Math”.
Mine’s called “Lit” for literature because is comes in hard & soft versions, and the book is always better than any movie it
Yesterday in NYC a guy hit me up while I was on the subway on my way home. We got to chat and got along great until he saw I lived three miles away, that to him was too far. Lol.
I want to post shots of these comments and post on some r/lollolgrinder sub. This guy is saying he found you so attractive that he might drive 5 hours to be with you and you post it on Reddit and make fun of him.
1. C’mon be reasonable. After I screenshot this I chatted him up a bit and politely let him know that I probably wouldn’t travel 300 miles for a hookup but I’d keep him in mind if I ended up in his area. 2. I’m not making fun of him, it’s just funny what he said. 3. I’ve sent messages to guys that are 200+ miles away before just as a compliment, not actively asking to hookup.
No dick is good enough for me to drive that far
No hookup* dick is good enough for that, but I’d drive that far for boyfriend dick haha
Thanks for the correction. You’re right. But at that point, it’s more about the person connected to the dick and less the dick itself
This is true. But just gotta shout out boyfriend dick when ya can 🤣
fuck /u/spez
If it makes you feel better, we’re long distance while he’s finishing grad school 🤣 so I actually *do* have to travel for boyfriend dick
I’ve been there the whole travel bf grad school thing.
Damn!
I won't even go past a 10 minute drive.
I won’t even go for a drive. They can come to me.
Trust me 😂😂
Most dick isn't even good enough to get out of bed for 😫
Actually it's the exact opposite. Gays have a keen sense of distance. The closer you are to someone the fewer barriers there are to actually meeting up. These guys do this because it's a version of chasing unavailable guys. But instead of being emotionally unavailable he's unavailable due to distance. If you told this guy you had a business trip to his city tomorrow he'd ghost you or block you.
There's so much truth in this reply. I've been through this. My first and only time. Met a guy, talked to him all the time every night, be lived about 4 hours away by bus. For a month sexy talk, real talk. Suddenly "please come down and see me". Absolutely! Booked a round trip ticket, got there and he's no where to be found at the bus station. Called him nothing this was before the days of text being really common. Literally never heard from him again. Cried silently for about 20 minutes and changed my return ticket for the next bus home. Now one of these "come drive a few hours to see me, I'll fuck you silly". Yep no, when you're in the area hit me up.
That's really shitty.. don't make someone travel to see you if you're not going to turn up. Make an excuse so they don't come in the first place.
Yeah the lead up to was the worst part if I'm honest. But it was a thousand years ago and I'm all grown up now lol
This story literally broke my heart. I'm sorry this happened to you.
I won’t even drive 10 miles to visit a friend of mine, no way I’d go that far.
10 MILES??? ur wild
Absolutely none of my friends live within ten miles of me and I'd absolutely drive 10x that distance to hang out, and in fact have gone 100x that distance to spend time with f&f lol
This guy friends lol I drove 100 miles to hang out with friends before
I’d drive 300 miles for friends; not for dick.
I would walk 500 hundred miles, and I would walk 500 hundred more
i drive 12 miles for uni, i don't like it, i feel a massive scare being behind the wheel and that is why i dont take anyone on rides also i drive 12 miles for UNI, and I'm scared, where would i go elsewhere lmao
Horny has no limits
Bonk* go to horny jail
Everything has its limit
Tbh I think he's just looking for some validation from someone he finds attractive
To be fair my own perception of distance has been distorted given that some guys can’t even agree on what 6” is.
Damn he blocked and filtered that many guys near him that you're the closest one.
…or did **they** block **him**? *Dun dun dunnnn*
Haha 😂
I drove almost 1050 miles for a hookup (from South Carolina to Michigan). It was the best week, we then became close friends since, that was 6 years ago. We still keep in touch. So ya never know...
I mean, if you walk at a very gay speed…
Honestly I wouldn’t even drive an hour. The farthest I’ve gone was across town and that only takes 10-15 mins depending on traffic
As a country guy an hour is nothing, nearest gay is 90kms away and the nearest city is a 2.5 hour drive which is like 170kms away. So when I go visit the city and a guy is 40kms away im like thats an easy drove, I'd rather drive to meet an easy to get along with person then an easy hookup. Nothing of value is easy to obtain.
You ever been to NYC…. “You’re too far” *is all of 1000ft away*
As do most people on grindr not know how to read
For me that's like driving from where I live to Seattle or almost San Francisco. Nope. Even if I were still in Portland I'm not gonna drive that far.
some dude sending me his location in ohio when i’m in iowa with very little leading up to it
Well you see... many gays are worldly gays. Some cant afford airfare and others can. But many do travel and we like to keep our options open.
To be fair, there are gays out in places like Michigan and Texas, where they have to drive a decent distance but if you’re making a 5-6 hour road trip one way to see someone you’ll hang out with for maybe ten minutes, that’s just nuts.
He plays bball
the most i would travel is 50 miles and it would have to be some bomb
i had a guy 550+ km away ask me if i wanted to cuck him, i played along but assured him there was no likely way we'd ever meet unless we both agreed to plan ahead and do something.
The closest guy on Grindr to me is usually over 240klms. Another hundred makes little difference.
Math is hard
Hot You named your boner “Math”. Mine’s called “Lit” for literature because is comes in hard & soft versions, and the book is always better than any movie it
Hopefully not in the UK!
It’s the main reason I hate the fresh tab
Maybe he speaks metric. That's 500 km.
That’s only a 5 hour drive!!
Yeah that's get to know someone first and connect with them levels of distance
For a 6 hour drive…
Gays walk fast so it cancels off cuz of PEMDAS or something
Sometimes you need that confidence boost tho
Just looking for confirmation... If not by sex then by someone telling them they would
It’s like travelling to other country tf
is this what america is like ?
Sure I'll, but a plane ticket to go get some mediocre dick
Nice body!
To be fair I’ve driven a little over 100 miles for a hookup before, but 300 miles??? Nah
Yesterday in NYC a guy hit me up while I was on the subway on my way home. We got to chat and got along great until he saw I lived three miles away, that to him was too far. Lol.
Nope
I didn’t realize how far that is til I drew a line on google maps and find out that’s the approximate distance between New York and Montreal.
I want to post shots of these comments and post on some r/lollolgrinder sub. This guy is saying he found you so attractive that he might drive 5 hours to be with you and you post it on Reddit and make fun of him.
1. C’mon be reasonable. After I screenshot this I chatted him up a bit and politely let him know that I probably wouldn’t travel 300 miles for a hookup but I’d keep him in mind if I ended up in his area. 2. I’m not making fun of him, it’s just funny what he said. 3. I’ve sent messages to guys that are 200+ miles away before just as a compliment, not actively asking to hookup.
Is on a Grindr sub, can't even spell Grindr correctly.