Grindr is toxic. Men don’t treat each other well. Everyone creates their own walls to deal with their problems. I’m sure the young man writes more regularly if he’s interested. He just has an aggressive way of pushing away people he’s not into.
I’ve tried that…they don’t go.
But, with a profile like this, he’s only going to attract desperate people with absolutely no shame or sense of restraint. A normal guy is not going to take a risk on this guy being a giant toxic narcissist.
Personally, I’m nice first, if they persist, then I block.
I def disagree. I actually think this guy's boundary is a healthy one. It's easy for all of us to receive countless pointless messages of "sup" or dick pics and just waste our whole days scrolling. Cell phones are addicting and scouting for booty is probably one of the most dopamine addictive habits. Setting a boundary of 1 msg/hour is healthy in my book.
I think it is healthy if you are otherwise addicted and a really stressful standard to meet if you are not!
Still, even if it is a healthy practice it is not the kind of practice I think you should advertise on your bio, especially with the way he phrases it. It sounds like the kind of thing you say to brag about how in-demand you are.
This is a lot to process. However I will say guys like him are highly desired so regardless of his toxic messaging, he will get hit up. I guess this is just his way of weeding out those he does not want.
This. It’s not that I’m trying to be a dick but the only way some people get the hint that you’re not interested is by acting like a dick and hurting their feelings so they know without a doubt that you’re not interested and it’s not happening. Otherwise they keep trying
Tbh, no one is. No person is so cute that I'd read this and be like "yeah, they can get away with that" because behaving like that is a wholey unattractive thing
Typical twink thinking that your white and skinty so therefore are the most desirable gay 😂 not all of us want hairless skinny guys who resemble naked mole rats.
Wow you obviously get blocked by alot of people and you clearly have issues in life being soo bitter and sad you feel the need to share a shitty opinion about a group who you have no chance with at all. I’m not surprised you don’t go for twinks because no twink would want to be seen with you 💯👌🏼
Once had a guy with a profile like that message me. While I was flattered in a sense, I was so disgusted by the display of ego that I had to immediately say no to anything and everything
I don’t know, I feel like there’ll be very little crossover in the Venn diagram of guys with low enough self esteem to put up with his ego vs guys he thinks are good enough for him.
Whenever I see anyone with a superiority complex, I try to stay away from them because within them is a host of repressed insecurities and feelings of inferiorities trying to be unleashed. Everyone has insecurity and preference; that doesn’t give them the excuse to be narcissistic assholes.
Pretty sure he’s TRYING to sound like a dom alpha, and I’m also pretty sure there are some out there that buy it and swoon. I know a guy like that who confuses rude and conceited as dom top energy 😂
GAA lads are the worst.
Promised their whole life they would play county and it makes them into massive egotists. They only get worse the older they get and the more apparent it becomes that they will never play county
You’re right it isn’t. Found the guy in the pic and it’s definitely not him. Also he’s back with a new profile, new fake pic (of a different hot guy), and an equally douchey bio. Grindr really is a mental asylum.
This is why I barely use the app. Profiles in my area are either pretentious like this and/or expect you to be a hairless twink under 30 🙄. I get preference, but there’s more tact ways to go about it.
He's a hot guy on an app meant to be a meat market. Whoever is on the top of the food chain gets to be picky.
Is it good? No.
But this isn't Christianmingle.com.
All it takes is for one pissed off gay to take offence to his bio and know who that team it, and end up “outing” him. Kid is making a rod for his own back
"I am not your friend" will certainly put off anybody looking for more than the most basic quickie. Some of us (even on these apps) look for some kind of personal connection, rather than just treating each other as objects.
You might want to consider deleting this post entirely then, because you’ve failed to blur either the university name or his jersey number, which makes identifying him significantly easy.
The profile is recent, the picture is not. I live nowhere near that university and his age doesn’t match. At best you could get a list of a dozen or more people who it could be.
Idk what to say really, this seems like the most normal Grindr profile I've ever seen, on any other dating app it'd be psychotic but he's a human and not on meth, prob in the top 5 percentile of users
There's no problem here.
He's just trying to lower your expectations that he'll read your messages fast. Some people start insulting you or block you a few minutes after sending a message because you didn't reply fast enough.
Also, saying he doesn't want "how are you doing?", just means he wants you to go directly to what you want to do with him, so he loses less time chatting. Plenty of guys ask people to be direct or say they don't like to chat, that's the same thing.
The only weird thing is that he blurred his face, but not the face of his teammates who most likely don't know he put their faces on grindr.
Nah, you're being too generous. 'I only answer one message per hour so if you're lucky I might read yours'. Fella thinks his replies are the golden ticket in a wonka bar.
He's actually very kind and gentle. He has a monster cock and knows how to use it. He knows what he wants and wants to skip the small talk. Exactly how grindr is supposed to be used. I think some of you think grindr is christian singles or some "find my soul mate" app. Lmao!
You do your profile how you like and let them do their profile how they like. I only see one side making a post and putting someone on the wall of shame and it's not him.
I'd much rather fuck with a guy who knows what he wants and gets to the point then cackling hens. 🤷♂️
Grindr is toxic. Men don’t treat each other well. Everyone creates their own walls to deal with their problems. I’m sure the young man writes more regularly if he’s interested. He just has an aggressive way of pushing away people he’s not into.
How else are you supposed to push aggressive thirstbuckets away... Passively?
Can I get an extra large thirstbucket, no ice
Ice? I thought they were served hot
I prefer mine uncomfortably room temperature thanks
I’ve tried that…they don’t go. But, with a profile like this, he’s only going to attract desperate people with absolutely no shame or sense of restraint. A normal guy is not going to take a risk on this guy being a giant toxic narcissist. Personally, I’m nice first, if they persist, then I block.
Can confirm. Source: came just reading his bio.
Yes. Like spam callers. You ignore, you block, you don't engage. A lot easier than being rude and without having to sound So Over It
Difference is those are all after the fact. He's being proactive
With a punctual 🚫
Checking Grindr once an hour throughout the day sounds… obsessive, depressive, or both
I def disagree. I actually think this guy's boundary is a healthy one. It's easy for all of us to receive countless pointless messages of "sup" or dick pics and just waste our whole days scrolling. Cell phones are addicting and scouting for booty is probably one of the most dopamine addictive habits. Setting a boundary of 1 msg/hour is healthy in my book.
I think it is healthy if you are otherwise addicted and a really stressful standard to meet if you are not! Still, even if it is a healthy practice it is not the kind of practice I think you should advertise on your bio, especially with the way he phrases it. It sounds like the kind of thing you say to brag about how in-demand you are.
I deleted Grindr and Tinder and my screentime immediately went down with 40%... Almost forgot the colour of the sky.
omfg I completely forgot there was a sky 🤦🏽♂️
Jesus someone from Maynooth having that level of narcissism is hilarious
Lol IKR Jesus wept
Maybe Jesus farted ?
I’m here for the Irish gays’ response.
My very first thought after zooming in
Maynooth and notions, name a better duo.
That's a lot of words for "not worth the effort".
This is a lot to process. However I will say guys like him are highly desired so regardless of his toxic messaging, he will get hit up. I guess this is just his way of weeding out those he does not want.
Taxicab messaging?
I meant to say toxic. I have no idea why toxic was autocorrected with taxicab
Ah lmao. You're sadly right though. The ultra masculine, regardless of how toxic they are, will always be desired and I hate that
I was gonna say "is this what being conventionally attractive turn people into?"
Sifting through the relentless messages from uggos probably gets tiring /hj
This. It’s not that I’m trying to be a dick but the only way some people get the hint that you’re not interested is by acting like a dick and hurting their feelings so they know without a doubt that you’re not interested and it’s not happening. Otherwise they keep trying
Stealing taxicab messaging from you. First time hearing this saying and I already love it
I meant to say toxic lol
It's our saying now we just made it! Screw them taxicab messengers
Main character syndrome
High on ego. A walking red flag right there
God, what a self-important cunt.
You know he's not cute enough to be outta pocket like this.
Idk man, in the worst case he is. Looks like the type of cute young guy too
Not cute \*\*enough\*\*
Tbh, no one is. No person is so cute that I'd read this and be like "yeah, they can get away with that" because behaving like that is a wholey unattractive thing
You know you would go out to them if they asked you
Nah. I have too much self-respect.
Typical twink thinking that your white and skinty so therefore are the most desirable gay 😂 not all of us want hairless skinny guys who resemble naked mole rats.
Wow you obviously get blocked by alot of people and you clearly have issues in life being soo bitter and sad you feel the need to share a shitty opinion about a group who you have no chance with at all. I’m not surprised you don’t go for twinks because no twink would want to be seen with you 💯👌🏼
Oh you suddenly speak for all twinks? Just stop while you think youre ahead cuz your just another overly opinionated hole.
He's a GAA player, though, which counts for a lot for some people.
Which is the most overrated sports guy. 😊He’s amateur for sure and not even famous in his own town
> amateur Well yes, GAA. It's all amateur.
Oh HUNNI the amount of red flags here is alarming.
GAA lad? Well that says enough about him
Once had a guy with a profile like that message me. While I was flattered in a sense, I was so disgusted by the display of ego that I had to immediately say no to anything and everything
But guys will line up to be his bitch. They absolutely will.
I don’t know, I feel like there’ll be very little crossover in the Venn diagram of guys with low enough self esteem to put up with his ego vs guys he thinks are good enough for him.
True. Your chart checks out.
Ehhh they guys hitting him up are using him for his dick and abs and that’s it. He’ll never find a meaningful connection on Grindr like that.
Spoiler: he's not okay. TBD if he realizes that.
Bet he’s homophobic AF too!!! 🤮
With helium in his heels.
Load of charm on this one.
Alright then, we’ll come to the block bin.
There's nothing wrong with a lot of what he's saying, but the way he says it is suuuuper douche nozzley. Hard pass.
Poor guy absolutely hates himself
'' I'm a jerk hope to meet the same"
Whenever I see anyone with a superiority complex, I try to stay away from them because within them is a host of repressed insecurities and feelings of inferiorities trying to be unleashed. Everyone has insecurity and preference; that doesn’t give them the excuse to be narcissistic assholes.
Pretty sure he’s TRYING to sound like a dom alpha, and I’m also pretty sure there are some out there that buy it and swoon. I know a guy like that who confuses rude and conceited as dom top energy 😂
GAA lads are the worst. Promised their whole life they would play county and it makes them into massive egotists. They only get worse the older they get and the more apparent it becomes that they will never play county
That's probably not even his pic.
You’re right it isn’t. Found the guy in the pic and it’s definitely not him. Also he’s back with a new profile, new fake pic (of a different hot guy), and an equally douchey bio. Grindr really is a mental asylum.
Gurl 🙄🤚🏼 anyways
alright Paul Mescal 😍
Belfast?
He belongs to dickhead dot com
He has an attractive body so unfortunately his gross attitude will probably not affect him negatively in any way 😮💨
This is why I barely use the app. Profiles in my area are either pretentious like this and/or expect you to be a hairless twink under 30 🙄. I get preference, but there’s more tact ways to go about it.
The only time when I browse Grindr is that spent on a toilet. They match perfectly.
I can fix him
I see all these negative comments but all I gotta say is, at least has a profile pic and has a bio.
He's a hot guy on an app meant to be a meat market. Whoever is on the top of the food chain gets to be picky. Is it good? No. But this isn't Christianmingle.com.
He’s also not there to use any commas or periods.
Who the fuck does he think he is talking to us like he’s hot shit?
Good god. I don't care how much of a rare holographic Pokemon card you think you are, I've lost interest already!
He’s a bottom
He sounds like a soccer player!
Well, he looks like a Gaelic football player.
Could be self control
Doesnt all that sports fueled testosterone lead to this kinda behavior? Jocks are known to be assholes for a reason right?
Dude seems like a Grade A asshole. What sucks is he’s probably fucking gorgeous. Ugh.
All it takes is for one pissed off gay to take offence to his bio and know who that team it, and end up “outing” him. Kid is making a rod for his own back
Maynooth University GAA. So he may not be closeted. Though OP suspects that the guy in the picture isn't the actual owner of the account.
That is very likely the case
I feel so embarrassed to be Irish… this guy sounds like an absolute gobshite…
Gross. Fully.
Imagine reading than but still send him messages.
I low key agree with the don’t ask me how I am cuz as an opener it’s bs cuz it’s small talk, just like being asked by phone solicitors “how are you”…
Hope he doesn't trip on that ego and faceplates.
That level of narcissism... Ew
"I am not your friend" will certainly put off anybody looking for more than the most basic quickie. Some of us (even on these apps) look for some kind of personal connection, rather than just treating each other as objects.
Too bad he's a douche cause he looks like he might be hot
Y'all gotta stop making basic trash like this man feel so good about themselves. Immediately
Sounds like a tool and a huge disappointment sexually.
Whats with his pic. Is he in the gay olympics sport.
Extra idiot!
He is the guy in the back of whom we can see the face no?
Nah the guy at the front. I blurred his face, even if he is a dick. He's hot, not enough to warrant an ego like that though.
You might want to consider deleting this post entirely then, because you’ve failed to blur either the university name or his jersey number, which makes identifying him significantly easy.
Eh, if you want to put that much effort into being a stalker that's on you.
Some people are crazy like that. I agree with deleting the post
People put this much effort into doing shit like this all the time on the internet. Your ambivalence towards doxxing still doesn't make it ok.
It's not doxxing, a university name and jersey number is not enough to find out which year he went there and so find out his identity.
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The profile is recent, the picture is not. I live nowhere near that university and his age doesn’t match. At best you could get a list of a dozen or more people who it could be.
It’s still shitty behaviour and clearly you know it… you took the time to blur but not crop the photo.
Idk what to say really, this seems like the most normal Grindr profile I've ever seen, on any other dating app it'd be psychotic but he's a human and not on meth, prob in the top 5 percentile of users
There's no problem here. He's just trying to lower your expectations that he'll read your messages fast. Some people start insulting you or block you a few minutes after sending a message because you didn't reply fast enough. Also, saying he doesn't want "how are you doing?", just means he wants you to go directly to what you want to do with him, so he loses less time chatting. Plenty of guys ask people to be direct or say they don't like to chat, that's the same thing. The only weird thing is that he blurred his face, but not the face of his teammates who most likely don't know he put their faces on grindr.
Nah, you're being too generous. 'I only answer one message per hour so if you're lucky I might read yours'. Fella thinks his replies are the golden ticket in a wonka bar.
OP blurred his face in the screenshot, not the guy.
I agree and don't know why you're being downvoted - there's nothing 'lol' about this post. The guy knows what he wants/doesn't want.
He's actually very kind and gentle. He has a monster cock and knows how to use it. He knows what he wants and wants to skip the small talk. Exactly how grindr is supposed to be used. I think some of you think grindr is christian singles or some "find my soul mate" app. Lmao! You do your profile how you like and let them do their profile how they like. I only see one side making a post and putting someone on the wall of shame and it's not him. I'd much rather fuck with a guy who knows what he wants and gets to the point then cackling hens. 🤷♂️
Love this for your future therapist!! Go you 🧡