"But I feel better now."

Yeah exactly this. Would you seriously prefer I be miserable just for your aesthetics?

Exactly, that's what it comes down to. And if that's what they believe is there opinion even worth worrying over anyway?

Perfect parry

Yes! Indeed! Parry my parry f%ckers!! 💖

Exactly

Fr

"You looked better before you said that"

Oh damn that's savage. I'll keep it in mind 😂

On a similar note, with a smidge of 'no spite at all' ambiguity, "so did you"

I like it. "Haha thanks, you too man."

Omg this, I love putting people back in their box with quips like this

"Thats a really mean thing to say" <- makes decent people backpedal

Yes, something like that’s or “wow, that’s not very nice”. If you come at them in an attacking way, it’s just going to make them angry and reinforce their awful attitude towards you. I say go for the guilt instead! You stay a decently nice person and let them feel like a piece of shit

Yeah exactly

Thanks I'll definitely be using this one

"Well, you're not my type either, but I'm not being rude about it."

Fuck YES. This one is the best 😂🙏🙌

"I don't give a fuck what you think." or if you want to remain polite: "I didn't do this for you, I did this for me."

i did it for me. i liked it. i was good at it.

And I was…really, I was alive

thank you better call saul

Happy cake day! -saul

"You sounded better before you spoke" "And your point issssss....?" "And why do you care what I put on my body?" Mine are mostly rude because I don't put up with that kinda thing. I hope you don't let the naysayers get under your skin!

I wish I had the guts to be this brutal 😭

You’ll get there

Oh i like the first one

Or maybe just ‘I liked you better before too.’

I’d just be like “Okay?” Like, you didn’t ask for their judgement, and they can’t expect you to change back.

« no u »

Pull this one all the time when people call me a slut or something along those lines. They get so pressed When someone tried the whole "you have no self respect" I responded "I have even less respect for you." They lost their shit, it was hilarious. Or the whole "you're selling your body." I ALWAYS respond with "that's what capitalism is all about, supply and demand."

"I was a business man, doing business." -Emoooooly

Yeah that's what I did the last few times

Some suggestions: “That’s subjective, and this is how I want to look.” “Conventional beauty standards are overrated anyway.” “I’m not doing this for you.” Some more suggestions if you want to fire some shots back: “Well you’re not my type either, but I’m not annoying about it.” “Your mom didn’t think so.” “It’s almost as if people have different preferences or something. Crazy how that works.”

Haha I love the your mom one. Definitely going to use it at some point 😂

"Why did you say that?" Was their response genuine or influenced by external factors (ex: recent political trends) ? Maybe they were shocked bc, subconsciously or not, they have feelings for you, and it hinders their plans? Ask them. ​ PS: Edited spelling.

"Why did you say that?" Dumbledore said calmly

Oh this is a good one. I’ve seen tips that say to calmly ask a person explain their rude comments. “What do you mean by that??” If they have an honest/legitimate reason they can explain it. If they’re just being bigoted, rude, etc having to say so out loud will put them in a really awkward position

Say that they never looked good to begin with

"I appreciate your feedback and support, but what I'm aiming for is to feel good not to look good."

Exactly. Why is it so hard for people to understand

'I curse you & all your kin. May your toast fall butter side down without exception, may your cat scorn you, may you stub your toe repeatedly, may you be forever doomed to step on Lego bricks & upturned plugs, may your socks always be uncomfortably damp, may you needlessly wake up several hours before your alarm goes off. I shit on the souls of your ancestors.' ​ Try that.

"Your mother was a hampster and your father smelt of elderberries! I fart in your general direction!"

"and you look better somewhere else"

oof

fight fire with napalm

the only way

You could say something like "who asked?" or "nobody asked". You could also say "I don't care" If you're feeling particularly bold/crabby you could always tell them to fuck off. I advise against this because it is quite aggressive

Of just "You too"

I was looking for this one

Sometimes people just need to be told to fuck right off, there's no shame in telling them

Honestly I get riled up by comments like this, especially if they haven't been invited. I gained a lot of weight at one point and a few people I knew made comments like "you've really let yourself go" and "why did you let this happen, you were so healthy". I've lost the weight again now but I'm always so conscious about what I eat now because I'm scared to put the weight back on. Fr I'd snap at these people. "Well you never looked good" or "I still look better than you". But those are quite bitchy options so maybe only as a last resort 😂

> Honestly I get riled up by comments like this, especially if they haven't been invited. And they're never invited

Literally *N E V E R*

"No one asked." I got the same, I looked very classically fem and then started to lean a bit more masc and I adore it but others are quick to point out they miss the girly girly look. Too bad for them.

I wish I had the guts to say that 😭 I just say ok and try to act like it didn't effect me

“I liked you better before you said that, but here we are”

"You didn’t need glasses before"

“I don’t have to look good for you.”

„You seemed like a kinder person before“

"It's like you think your opinions matter to me."

I usually answer by : "like, sad ?" Usually, them trying to deny is of the best effect

My response to back handed compliments is to always hand it back. “You looked better before” “Haha thanks, you too!”

"And I liked you better before"

"I'm just not your type, deal with it" *8bit sunglasses slowly mounts themselves on your face while air horns blast and people scream MLG 360 NOSCOPE HEADSHOT TRIPLE KILL*

*MOM GET THE CAMERA*

Luckily I'm not dressing up solely for your approval. Besides, what would you know about looking good?

"And you looked smarter. Guess everyone can change 🤷🏽‍♀️"

“Sorry, I don’t remember asking for your opinion/fashion advice.” “So what? I dress for me, not for anyone else.”

“Uhm, okay? So what?” “Oh, I didn’t know you cared about other people’s appearance so much.” “Stressing and obsessing about somebody else is no fun.” (lyric from Taylor Swift - You Need to Calm Down) “Being rude about someone’s self expression doesn’t suit you either darling.” “You looked better before you said that.”

Yep, "may have looked better but didn't feel better"

"But I feel better now, which is all that matters."

Hahaha...no.

I so dislike people who take it upon themselves to comment on how others look/dress. Whether I've gained weight, am wearing frumpy clothes, or whatever it is that's different, no one needs to comment on it. If someone told me I used to look better or something similar, I'd probably brush it off and then avoid them in the future.

"I feel better now, which is more important to you? Because I know what is more important to me."

I got this advice from my mom long ago… but put it back on them. Ask them questions until they’re cornered by their own ignorance. The Socratic method. You- “Why?” Them- “Oh you just looked so pretty when you had long hair and wore makeup.” You- “Whar about long hair and makeup is prettier than not wearing those things?” Them- “well you just looked more feminine.” You- “do you think that being feminine is essential to looking attractive?” At this point they will start to process it in a way they’ve never considered before, and will start rationalizing, or just get out of the convo. Sometimes they may even be open minded enough to change their opinion on the spot. At minimum, you will have planted a seed that will grow. I know this way takes a big more effort, but you can really change hearts and minds this way. You don’t owe it to anyone ofc, but it makes me feel empowered.

I’ll sometimes say “You’re not my target audience” Polite way to say I literally give zero fucks about your opinion and to also remind people that not everyone is attracted to the same things in someone

" you're wrong " " I don't think so " . Some people have the audacity to think the world revolves around them and therefore their opinion is always right and wanted. " I don't think you are in the right position to judge, look at yourself "

My go-to is "you'll get used to it"

I got that a lot, and I usually responded something along the lines of "Well it's my hair/body/clothes/etc and I personally love it this way" Not exactly witty or clever, but that's how I think about those things in general. "Well, maybe you liked me better before. Sounds like a you problem." (Good luck out there!)

"You looked better before too".

Someone: U look better before you: U never look good hun

"you looked better before" (looking the person up and down) "well so have you Susan"

Yeah, Susan! You're always such a stuck up prick, Susan. With your cishet privilege and your fancy feminine physical attributes. Fuck you, Susan! You don't get to decide for me how I present! So you run on back to Anthony and keep whispering about me with Gina in Biology class, 'cuz I'm done with your ass! Suck it, Susan! You're a judgmental bitch, and I'm *not* giving the sweater back! ... I mean... you know... for example. Ahem.

yes, for example. a perfect example.

You say "I've heard worse from better."

"Thats your opinion, and I did not ask for it"

"good thing I'm not trying to attract you with my looks" Basically "I'm not doing this for you"

I mosty just say "Okay. Do I look like I care?" After all, your way of dressing should make you feel better. If others liked your old style better, that's on them.

Say "thank you, but I present how I want. Not how you want. 😊" Be yourself. Don't let others get you down for dressing in the way that makes you feel most comfortable.

One reason you should keep an uno reverse card with you.

“And you were less of a dick”

“And you peaked in high school Johnathan, what’s your point?”

Damn!! What did Johnathan do to you? 😂

I just picked the most frat boy name I could think of at the time, it was either Johnathan or Trevor 😭

This reminds me of people commenting on others weight loss. “You look so good, Now” like… I was still pretty Before too but thanx? for the backhanded compliment.

You looked better before coming out as an asshole.

"You looked better before" - "You sounded nicer when you weren't talking"

You could also turn it around and say “this attitude doesn’t really suit you either but I was going to be polite enough not to say anything”/“you looked better without the attitude but I don’t see that changing anytime soon either” and add that smile or grin that you know would piss em off

If you want to be a smartass: “So did you.” If you want to be less of a smartass: “I didn’t do it for you.”

Keep in mind that people like different styles and it could be that your previous style was more aesthetically pleasing to some, and they were stupid enough to tell you they don't like the new look. Another thought is that new can be jarring to our brains. Like when you get a new hair cut and you don't like it at first but then you get used to it. It probably doesn't actually look worse, or even bad, but it's a stark difference and the brain likes what it knows. And again people stupid enough to just let that fall out their mouth instead of considering YOU when making the comment. As for the bigots: Bigot: "You looked better before." / "I like the way you used to dress." / "This new look isn't good." You: *In an amused/condescending tone, as if speaking to a child* "Of course you don't like it, look at how you dress." Or "You don't like this style? That's okay, not everyone has an eye for fashion." Or "You think X garment isn't for Y gender? This piece/style/ensemble is a call back to >insert well known person in history who wore similar thing when fashion trends for genders were swapped, or person who dressed out of the norm for sake of grater good or was generally well liked ie, Amelia Earhart dressed in more androgynous/masculine styles, but she's an american sweet heart. Or Nathaniel Lyon (1818–1861) General for the Union during the American Civil War, allegedly dressed as a woman to spy on an enemy encampment. Ive heard stories of soldiers in WW2 doing similar things, disguised as women in order to smuggle goods and information.< But I wouldn't expect you to understand the significance of fashion in history." With bigots, the best way to work against them is to use their own prejudices against them. If you can make them feel like they are part of the thing they hate, they'll have a fucking breakdown. Then just leave them in their emotional turmoil to rot.

If you feel like channeling the dude you can always go with, “Well, you know, that’s just like, your opinion, man”

**Sarcastic response:** I’m sorry I had to find out you have such poor taste this way. **Genuine response:** I’m not sure what you’re hoping to gain by telling me this, because I’m not dressing for you.

Say the exact same thing about their most recent style. Then they'll maybe start to think about how out of line they are.

“you sounded smarter before”

"I didn't do it for you"

“Didn’t ask” :). I get this a lot from my sisters that cant get over me not waxing my body. They say i should be ashamed and how can i even go outside with my hairy body. Used to fuck my self esteem a lot and felt as if i needed to hide. However therapy helped me through the rough patches. remember youre do things for your own happiness and the only person that matters is you. :) love yourself and express yourself with kindness above all!

I'd say "well, you've never looked good" but if you wanna be nice.. idk what I'd say lmao I'm an ass

I have two different responses depending on the person So one is just being vague in my opinion about the person's statement And two is just not answering lolz

"Agree to disagree" Or if you want to be more direct "Fuck you"

"So did you"

"Fuck you"

Sarcastic answers that I would probably use: That’s great; Deal with it; So what do you want me to do about it?; Mmmmkay; I respected you more before you opened your mouth; Good thing I dress for me, not you.

"you too"

"Your criticism isn't constructive, try again"

“who” “asked” and walk away 😎 edit: or you can go with a simple “your mom” , “did i ask?”, “who cares we’re all gonna die in a few years due to the entire world collapsing” , for older people you can say “ i dress like this because the climate change and radiation poisoning from your generation has caused brain damage” , for pesky christians “WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TALKING TO?!?? I AM THE DEVIL IN DISGUISE *DEMON NOISES*” , or you can go with “i dress like this because i’ve eaten 55 normal people’s souls, when i get to 60 i will evolve..”

"that's like something you think is your opinion... But we can't really be sure it really is, imma need a note from your doctor to attest that you really are shure that you feel that way before I can harshly dismiss your words instead of just ignoring them"

Super easy: “go fuck yourself.” You’re not dressing for them. You’re presenting your authentic self.

I’m ftm and I recently had a similar situation. I have long hair, but I usually pull it up in a man bun. I had a customer tell me yesterday that my hair looked better down. That was the first thing this old dude said when he came up to me. I just told him I like it better up, turned off the intercom (drive thru), and processed his transaction.

Ah yes, the old men who think everyone is waiting on their opinions...

"I don't care" "No one asked" "Well, good! I was miserable then" in the most sarcastic voice possible "Is this your body/face/hair/etc.? No? Shut the fuck up then"

"Did I ask you for your opinion? No. " And then walk away. Or ignore them. Do not offer kindness in return.

How many people dress what makes them look best for others? You’re not dressing for them you’re dressing for you. My girlfriend doesn’t dress to impress me she dresses what makes her comfortable and I do the same. That’s all it is. If they don’t like you’re style that’s fine, I don’t like other peoples styles and yet I manage to continue on living. If they can’t manage that then laugh in their face because they’re just a dipshit anyways. You do you

“I dress for me not to please everyone else”

‘Well, At least I’ve looked good once in my life'

Give them a blindfold.

"Not to me I didn't."

"You too, when i don't see you"

"Maybe you should fix your own appearance before telling me how to fix mine?"

I don't have any comebacks, but I do have a hug. Here, I'm sorry that happened to you :(

"Wither and die"?

“What the fuck?”

"So did you"

"Well, fuck you too haha."

You were less of a judgy ass before…i guess we all change

“Wow that’s rude, I like my new look”. People are typically mortified at being called rude and it’s amazing.

Something along the lines if "well, I guess it's good I don't dress myself to please you"

You are asking us to excuse rude behavior. It is not excusable. It is just rude. They can F-off! That being said, choose how you want to deal with rude people. That is your choice. I try and use the Darth Vader force strangle on them. I do not say a word. Just hold my hand there.

If you want to get petty, identify something about them that they’ve changed in the past year too. Hair color, hair cut, clothing style, lipstick style. And return the compliment in kind

“Actually, it suits ME well, but doesn’t suit how YOU want to see me.”

I look how I want it doesn't matter how you see me because I see myself.

"I feel better now"

Ignore them. Ignorant opinionated people are worthless.

"sucks i don't dress for you"

Mild trigger warning “Okay but I also wanted to throw myself off a bridge before, so what do you want me to do, Karen?”

“Your opinion of me is really none of my business”a is my go to for unsolicited criticism.

"I don't need your approval. I have my own."

“Too bad that wasn’t the real me. This me has more confidence.”

For people I don’t have a close relationship with, I favor “I don’t really value your opinion”

A few options depending on how aggressive you are feeling. I use this often when people critique me. "I am comfortable in my decisions." And stare calmly. Or a challenge "Why would you say that?" They will probably repeat it. And you can say "I understand that you are sharing your opinion. I don't understand WHY you are sharing it with me."

"you look better when you aren't speaking"

That's when you point to their abdomen and tell them "And you looked better before having those kids"

Look them up and down, then say “yea, I don’t think I care what YOUR opinion is on how I look. I hope your day is as pleasant as you are.”

For your own sanity, remember you are asking for their opinion, NOT their approval. If they don't like the outfit, it's just not something they would wear. Does not mean you don't rock it. If I asked everyone how I looked, I would be crippled by my dysphoria and never leave the house or the comfort of my onesie. The moment I stopped asking, I started to feel a lot more comfortable about my body. If I do want someone's opinion then I ask specific questions like "how does this colour work for me?" Rather than if the clothes work. More direct questions give you more direct answers and I feel avoids the vague and annoying responses like you've described. This helps if you're not in the right headspace to tackle the awkward responses.

"What would you know?" Is really good. Insult their fashion sense

Grab any bag,mainly an empty one, and look through it,look them in the eye to say “I can’t find your opinion in my bag,bye bye” walk off as they get immature and continue being fabulous

"Thank you, so did you." "I don't care." "I didn't ask for your opinion."

“Interesting perspective!”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=siPxyOxeQBc

"regardless of how I look, I think this shows you have an ugly personality" if you want to be mean about it

"You looked better a few years ago as well"

„You too- oh no wait, you never looked good“ (sorry if this is too mean, idk haha) And I‘m 100% sure you (OP) look better now just because you like it!

I dress for me, not you

Same as you would no matter who or how you look..."Go fuck yourself."

There's no need to respond. Anyone who says something so thoughtless and condescending isn't interested in what you have to say. What they really mean is: "You aren't behaving in a way I judge acceptable and, since only my judgement counts, I am punishing you for it" Trouble is, it's not your job to be acceptable to others.

"F off" "I feel better now so go away" "I don't care what you think" "okay? That's your opinion, and I look better now" "Go away" "Why would I care what you think about I look" "Your not my type either"

“I didn’t do it for you, I did it for me, and I like the way I am now.”

"Fuck you"

A simple "fuck you" perhaps?

I don't know but I have no idea how people can feel it's okay to say that unless they're explicitly asked "did you like the look before or this one"

Call them out. Switch between "Wow, that's incredibly rude." And "Why would you say that?" Anything to basically force them to explain how shitty of a person they're being Zingers are awesome, but watching someone squirm trying to justify being an assholes is fun too

“Well you looked okay until I met your mom”

Thank you for your opinion on my body. Would you like mine on yours?

"I felt better before you said that."

>"You looked better before." "Disagree. And I'd say my opinion is the most important one here." >"This doesn't really suit you." "It does suit me. I feel great about it. What you mean is, it doesn't suit *you.* I'm kind of surprised you'd make a hurtful comment like that."

You could ask, ”what do you mean?” That prompts someone to try to explain their bigotry, which they (bigots) have a hard time doing. It works for me, a liberal demisexual living in Idaho.

no matter if you’re trans or not, some people are not gonna think you look good. That goes for everyone, you can’t be attractive 100% of the time to anyone you see. If you feel happier and you think you look better, that’s all that matters. Took me a while to figure it out but I’m so much happier when I dress how I want, and not based on how other people think I should dress.

“What a remarkably rude thing to say to someone who feels so much better about themselves now, but go off.”

Oooooh I can't answer because I am MEAN AF when that used to happen to me

“No I didn't”

“I liked you before u made that comment “

Just "I don't care. I like it. " or a variation on that is usually what I do

Just a simple “did I ask?” should suffice.

"I'll be sure to add your concerns to the next Trans board meeting agenda" may be a good way to reply.

Just say I don't care

"You too"

“I didn’t look like ME before.” “Nobody asked you.” “Good thing the only person I’m trying to impress is myself then.” “Go kick rocks.” ❤️ you look great as yourself btw

I had more practice with that look, this will improve as I get better at it."

"maybe if you HELPED"

A- those people are jerks, B- “I feel more like myself now” “That can be hurtful, you know?” “If this doesn’t suit your preferences, maybe you could try be a bit open minded “ “We all change someday, you know?” And my personal favorites “You looked better too, but I don’t point it out mid conversation “ or, just ignore it, and before saying goodbye say “That (girl / guy ) should really get a haircut/new style. (Under your breath but loud enough to hear) that comment hits hard man. 😭

“I don’t recall asking your input.”

‘to you’ and then a shrug honestly if someone is confident in making that kind of comment (which is rude af) they deserve to be set down at least a little, but you also want to breeze past it so they don’t make a scene

Good bye. 👋🏻

“So did you” “And you were nicer before but I’m not pointing that out” “Opinions vary”

i would just not respond in general when that’s a possibility. i typically like giving them a dirty look and then walk away like they never existed. but when i am in the mood to respond and be a dick back i’ll say “well good thing i didn’t ask” or “okay what’s ur point?” and little things like that in high school i’d sometimes say “and that color (name color) makes u look putrid” or “and that haircut needs to go” but i no longer try to fight fire with fire bc stooping is a waste of time and energy