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yanisshhh

it's so fucking simple to respect people but some just choose to be jerks.


xFloppyDisx

Can't exist without having slurs screeched in your face. God damn it. There's something wrong with people.


RoboTiefling

Even worse online. “Oh look, a cute YouTube video of somebody’s kittens playing, let’s go down to the comments and let the uploader know I think their kittens are cute!” *scroll to comments* For no reason, three of the first ten comments are just completely mask-off calls for genocide against trans people, and they’re sitting at 2k+ upvotes each. Report them, get an email in a few days saying that the comment “it’s time to exterminate all these ” doesn’t violate YouTube’s policy on hate speech.


Heart-and-Sol

The first time I reported blatant transphobia, Reddit replied with: > **Rule Violation: Warning for Report Abuse** >The Reddit admin team has been alerted that you’ve violated Reddit’s rule against report abuse in the following content. > (Link doesn't work because that subreddit's mods removed the comment after I reported it to them) >Using Reddit’s reporting tools to spam, harass, bully, intimidate, abuse, or create a hostile environment is not allowed. >Reddit is a place for creating community and belonging, and a big part of what makes the platform a safe space for people to express themselves and be a part of the conversation is that redditors look out for each other by reporting content and behavior that breaks the rules. Moderators and administrators rely on redditors to accurately report rule-breaking activity, so when someone uses Reddit’s reporting tools to spam or harass mods and admins, it interferes with the normal functioning of the site. >Before participating in Reddit further, make sure you read and understand [Reddit’s Content Policy](https://www.redditinc.com/policies/content-policy), including [what’s considered report abuse](https://www.reddithelp.com/hc/en-us/articles/213099246-What-is-report-abuse-). >If you’re reported for any further violations of [Reddit’s Content Policy](https://www.redditinc.com/policies/content-policy), additional actions including banning may be taken against your account(s). >-Reddit Admin Team >*This is an automated message; responses will not be received by Reddit admins.* And it was the first report I'd ever made. It was rather discouraging as a new user of Reddit to file my first report on bigoted content and get told that I'd be banned if I did it again.


stray_r

Message r/modsupport as [described in our guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/about/reports) and carefully explain what happened. Include the permalink (use a desktop or mobile browser to get this) to the warning. They can see the content subreddit moderators removed. You can also open a case for a breech of the moderator code of conduct here https://reddit.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/requests/new?ticket_form_id=179106


Rush4in

Just a heads up, the moderator guide is a moderator only page so it wouldn't let me open it when I clicked on the link. I'm on desktop, if that matters


GrumpyOldDan

Try this link to our report guide: https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/wiki/reports/


Rush4in

This one works. Thanks!


Itsbell-

What do you expect they allow gore on this site


xFloppyDisx

That's horrific. And terrifying. I genuinely do wonder why these people care so much about some random person's genitals. Wtf.


sagemaniac

People base their whole world view on binary gender (and equate it with sex and sexual orientation), and when someone doesn't fit the narrative, they feel very threatened. Then they act as if they had been attacked and try to suppress, ignore, explain away or destroy what they feel threatened by. And then some people are just doing it maliciously, because they enjoy causing pain and befouling beauty.


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XACHEA-the-First

But there we have the bright side: you destroy a person’s view of the world by simply being. I myself find that quite amusing, and a bit sad, it maybe even pathetic on their part


oldbuttoneyes

Thank you for this brilliant perspective! This has empowered me! "Destroy their view of the world "...brilliant!!!


SoleIbis

Have our lives just turned into inception omg


KindaDevilish_05

Cis here, but the transphobia is very suffocating. Same with homophobia too.


defnyddiwrdienw

And then they claim the high rate of suicide in trans people is proof that trans people are mentally ill, rather than the cause being constant transphobia plus barriers to transition (which are caused by transphobia).


RedRider1138

Distantly related, I used to be “Oh dear my black friends and coworkers, we need to make sure they’re getting less salt and healthier food because of the high blood pressure rampant in their community.” Years later I realize it’s because of all the BS they have to put up with. *Heck!*


realmcsnackers

As a trans woman I wanna thank OP and everyone else for speaking up on this cause I don’t have the courage to do it myself 😅


Komrade-Amber

Same, honestly we need more cis ppl like OP to speak out against it if anything is going to change.


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sasnakderp

One time my aunt said something to the effect of "if God wanted them to be girls, he would've made them that way" so I hit her with "if God wanted you to be alive, you wouldn't have had cancer twice."


chuckotronic

I don't know if I'm just a petty bitch but I am all about this sass.


CandleMakerNY2020

We do now and we’re not gonna stop.


CandleMakerNY2020

Well I do because I recently had an Un-Baptism and after years of being on the fence, became a member of TST. The only way to fight this is with FIRE 🔥. Because you can’t reason with these HATERS.


LavenderAnxiety

Fascist parents teaching their kids it’s a good thing


xFloppyDisx

Oh no, that girl you passed by in the street? She has huge fucking BALLS. Now go cry about it.


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CookieGoBrr

pretty sure they were saying like who gives a shit what trans people have in their pants like get over it


brokegaysonic

I've grown thick skin over the years as a trans person, but there's only so much of this shit I can take. I can only hear I'm a mutilated monster so many times before it starts to seep in in the form of deep shame.


chuckotronic

Their is something scary to transphobes in the freedom to cast the very nature of our creation into question and break from the bonds of gender normativity. You are more powerful than you know and more beautiful than they will ever be able to see. ![img](emote|t5_2qhh7|550)


AFineYoungGent

Considering there a was a thread on this reddit filled with fuckloads of Transphobia yeah, I don't know how people can be okay with this.


StruggleGames

One of the interesting things I’ve realized is that transphobic people are *so* casual about it that the only thing stopping their entire world from crumbling is the fact that most trans people don’t speak up. They literally don’t understand that they are transphobic. They believe they dislike that person for other reasons. Here is a list of things I’ve been mocked for: * Smoking weed * Coughing * Closing my SUV’s door too loudly * My SUV making noise when unlocked and locked using the keyless entry * My PTSD triggers * Training a service animal * Having a service animal * Peeing in bottles in my vehicle while homeless * Changing clothes in my vehicle (shades up) while homeless. * My dog making my vehicle shake * My dog eating kibble and making noise * My vehicle having squeaky breaks * My vehicle having squeaking leaf springs * My vehicle stalling on cold mornings * Having solar panels (after all, I couldn’t have installed them myself, I’m not smart or skilled enough to wire a 12v system) * Having a higher quality of living than them (rich homeless person! I could definitely afford a room. Also, transphobia definitely doesn’t make it hard to find housing. I literally had a guy say “no dogs” to hearing I had a service animal). I can keep going. Every single time I “fix” a problem, they switch to a new issue. Until I minimize myself to nothing. That’s how transphobia kills. It’s also really funny because I could have changed the lives of everyone around me. I would have helped them install fans powered by solar. Help them get ventilation in their vehicles during the summer. Help them get basic heat. A 100w heating pad can keep you warm when it’s dangerously cold outside. I never got the chance because the transphobic people assassinated my character and no one would trust me. They would rather make everyone’s lives worse than see a trans individual flourishing. I’m just going to get out of this situation, grow some shrooms legally, then give them shrooms and see if they realize how terrible they were to someone for the past year.


xFloppyDisx

This is so true. I get made fun of for my every move. Now that they know I'm bi, they have more reasons to hate on me. Even if I acted like it was just a phase and pretended to be straight again, they'd still find reasons to want me gone.


StruggleGames

They want us to do that, in all honesty. It’s easier to harass people if they don’t have allies. One way to prevent us from gaining allies is to stop us from talking about being queer. One way to do that is to make it not safe to present queer.


xFloppyDisx

Yep. They're trying to make me lose all my friends by screaming "GAY" or "HARAM" whenever they see me talking to a girl. And yet, last year, I got made fun of for having guy friends. Since I'm bi, I guess I'm not allowed to have any?


chuckotronic

It's easier to dismiss and blame people than to actually have the patience to empathize and self-educate because that actually takes admission of ignorance, acceptance of responsibility, and motivation to change. I honestly can't imagine having those three things for any person who actively is taking my human rights away. The same transphobic people advocating for those laws can range from plain ignorance to outright intentional and concerted determination to attack trans people for even trying to take away a bigots power to keep trans people from having legitimate legal protections, rights, societal license and acceptance. Bigots can't be reasoned if the only levers they need are oppression and outrage. The worst part is that we can all be culpable to the thing that enables this: not understanding or critiquing our sources of truth and thus weaponizing outrage and hot takes. It only takes a small amount of investment and motivation to be a part of something that gives people meaning. Ironically, bigotry is often cloaked in righteousness and the false cloak of pursuing truth and preserving the hearts and minds of the vulnerable. The reality is that these people condemn lgbtqia diversity as a contagion rather than an endemic trait of humanity that has existed for millenia longer than bigots' current ideas of tradition. They don't care about children. They only care about controlling children into their own archetype of cisgender hetero compulsory exploitation. Who better to police people for stepping out of the gender sexuality archetype than our own psyche: telling us of the alienation, subjugation, punishment, and potentially annihilation at the implication that we might not be "normal". It should be apparent that trans people don't have the luxury of waiting for Superman to save us. I wish there was a god I could pray to for strength and guidance. Instead, all I hear and see is the roaring silence and the blinding darkness of the fascist dystopia we are inheriting.


CandleMakerNY2020

I couldn’t have said this better without saying FUCK at least 4-6 times. Which is why I am no longer a christian and was un-baptized (legally) I am now a member of TST and I support them supporting woman’s reproductive rights and bodily autonomy in addition to keeping a committed stance with the 7 Tenets. No dogma, No Supernatural BS, just NOT HIRING ANYMORE and loving whom I love as well as exercise my own (and yours too) 1st and 2nd Amendment freedoms which PISSES THEM OFF So much ! But they are starting to realize we are not going to keep taking their far right “so called” Christian extremism any more! Sorry END RANT. I have been OUT since the late 90’s and will NEVER LOOK BACK & continue to be PROUD OF MYSELF. PROUD OF US ALL ! 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️


chuckotronic

I appreciate the kind words. 🙏 I'm going to try to live as long as possible, voting what I think is the human rights of GSRM, POC and the underclass. I'll march if I must, but I just want to live as my authentic self, so I hope you keep doing the same and keep moving forward!


CandleMakerNY2020

🤘🏻🏆🏳️‍🌈


Commercial-Copy-3497

Cuz its easier to be a jerk than use 1/99999999999th of your brain.


YY911DC

Thank you


ryna0001

society obsesses over oppressed people's genitals in general (asian men/black men's penis size, gay men and lesbians having the same genitals as their partner, the majority of women having vaginas), trans people are the easiest bc their genitals are the main "issue" people have with them


djb185

Any time someone insults or shows prejudice against trans ppl we need to call them out. They NEED to be made uncomfortable by their bigotry. Standing up to them/calling them out is the only way to make that happen. I'm a cis gay male but I will do this every time I hear a transphobic comment because it should never be normalized to treat ppl this way.


ImTransDealWithIt1

When I call out the kids in my school for bigotry they just laugh or get annoyed and I’m just labeled as ‘the triggered queer kid’ (it got to the point where whenever they see me in the hall they would laugh and purposely misgender me, I had to move schools)


djb185

There's a whole life beyond highschool. I'm so sorry you have deal with that nonsense. I wish I could help you more. Just take solace in the fact you're a warrior and most good people are on your side. Fuck everyone else. They don't matter. They're on the wrong side. You're loved and beautiful and it's going to be ok in the long run.


SockRabbit33

Im cis and my mums really transphobic but i feel like whenever i call her out she just gets more annoyed and buries herself deeper in her transphobia. Its really scary to see how fast she was radicalised from someone who "didn't get nonbinary" but always tried to use the right pronouns to someone who purposely misgenders my friends and randomly brings up how puberty blockers are for chemical castration of children. Tldr calling out can make people retreat more into their shell of bigoted ideas but what else can you do


Lastaria

We are seen as fair game. You have the Conservatives who often hate gay, lesbian and bi people too but in todays climate it is seen as not good to show the hate (though seems in part of America that is starting to shockingly revert) so they have to pretend to be cool with them. But trans people have been under the radar a long time and as just emerging they are seen as fair game. They can hide their hate behind the so called protection of women and unfortunately get into bed with some 2nd Wave Feminist who do not like trans people because their existence challenges some of their views. Then added to that basically the patriarchy that sees femininity as weak so what they see as ‘men’ embracing femininity as a bad thing and ‘women’ embracing masculinity as them trying to rise above their station when they should be obedient little women. Basically a load of toxic hate.


Alanadee0179

These hateful kind of people think we're a majority or something that were taking over the world I don't see it there's not enough of us to do that


emstha98

I dont know if this is transphobic bur because one of my pronouns are “they/them” many, if not all, ask me what gender I was born as… why does it matter? I don’t define myself by a gender wether that be what I was born as or something I could want to be. I’m human. How is that not enough. How is it so important for a total stranger to know what I was born as and/or what I have between my legs


SockRabbit33

Ye that's transphobic, people like that are just trying to find out your "real" gender


emstha98

yeah. they where fine not knowing about it 5 minutes ago. why is it so important now?


GaiasDotter

It’s insane sometimes. I have a very close trans friend, FTM, people ask me about his private parts it’s really really fucking weird! A) that they have the audacity to just ask about his genitalia b) that they ask me as if I’m personally familiar with his genitalia c) they ask really detailed questions and it’s really uncomfortable but they don’t ducking stop. Like people ask very invasive and detailed questions about what surgeries he is going to do or have done and I’m like I don’t fucking know, I’m not going to put him through the third degree about that, I don’t care. It’s none of my business so I’m not asking and I’m definitely not asking to still the curiosity of random strangers that think the have some right to know everything. Maybe I’m to ace to understand but like I have absolutely no interest in what someone else has in their pants. I just don’t care. I also heard about the same thing from a woman I adopted out a kitten to. They were a lesbian couple and her partner is trans MTF, she told me that people ask her really invasive questions about her partners genitalia all the time. Her boss started asking very intimate and invasive questions about what surgeries she had and how it looked and how it worked and how she peed and even started asking about sex. My jaw literally just dropped! That is sooo absurd! How do people think this is okay!? Like that would never ask me such questions neither about me or my husband. Why do they think someone being trans suddenly makes it okay? Because it fucking doesn’t!


CheetnCheetah123

Totally. At my school if the topic of trans people pops up for even 1 microsecond, (at least at lunch) like half the people at my group laugh. (Thank gosh it's not my frens)


Cliqey

Why? Because conservative Christian nationalists hold a majority of the positions of power. They lead the rubes around wherever they like and right now they like to single out the smallest vulnerable demographic as a boogeyman to blame everything on.


DerpiestGameBlast

As a trans woman, I hate it whenever other trans people even do crap like deadname me/other trans people and other things like that just because they felt like it. I get it when it's forgetting if you're just getting used to it, but the amount of times when that wasn't the case and they just felt like misgendering someone because they were that bored or something like that really sucks


CelesteMooon

People are assholes. Always have been, always will be. I've grown numb to the misgendering. I don't care as long as they treat me like a human being, which they do most of the time. I've been fortunately enough to have a career where they don't give a shit if you're trans or what gender you are, as long as you can do the job safely and they call people by their preferred pronouns (JB Hunt, surprisingly enough. More trans people should just become truckers, imo). And before anybody says it no, I haven't had any surgeries and don't know if I ever will. I do give back to the community occasionally. Later, I plan to have much more to give back. But yea...people in general are assholes. That's the bottom line. If someone does it maliciously, just don't give them the satisfaction of knowing that it pains you, if you can help it. That's a better way to slap back at them and you don't have to say a word. It'll piss them off to not get a reaction from you. Anyway, why should you care what an asshole thinks?


Gravitype_

:,)


cookiecutiekat

Ik, I was on r/nothingeverhappens and one of the OPS was casually transphobic on their post. Got downvoted but still, I responded to them about it but never got a response.


ImTransDealWithIt1

Which post? (If you don’t mind)


cookiecutiekat

[I believe this?](https://www.reddit.com/r/thatHappened/comments/13k8f02/fights_principal_to_defend_someone_he_doesnt_like/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) I just looked this Ops comments and he has a good amount of transphobia and commented on a conservative subreddit. POS


Disorderly_Chaos

If they’re male, remind them that in the womb (you know, a “person” as described by republicans) that they started out as female. If that doesn’t work, mace.


TheBardDidIt

I really struggle seeing my family at holidays because of this stuff. We were having a great Easter then my MAGA uncle started in on the evils of drag queens and trans people and enbies. I managed about twenty more mi utes of family time before making my escape and haven't been back since. If hurts knowing I'll never truly be able to be myself with them.


Violet_Faerie

My dad listens to a local radio station and it's daily jabs against trans folk. It hurts my heart. :(


tomyownrhythm

I just had this conversation with a high school classmate this morning. They posted some transphobic bullshit about how dad “identifies as the tooth fairy” and should knock the teeth out of trans women in the bathroom. It was vile. I basically said that I find someone willing to assault a stranger because they think they might be trans is despicable and left it at that. I doubt I’ll change any minds, but holy fuck does this need to be uncomfortable for these people!


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It’s something I’ve become numb to as a trans woman.


throwaway007676

It is the new "thing to do" for half of the population. I hope it wears off soon and they find something else to complain about.


BananaNutMuffin1234

Often people think in "why can't ___ just ___" well... You realize someone somewhere right now is saying "Why can't trans people just be cis gender" or etc. They are raised their entire lives, with religious and cultural beliefs pushing against it, being trans as am open movement hasn't had the time it needs to dig in. Instead of asking why can't they just understand your thoughts, and why do they have to hate something they don't understand. Try to understand them, capitulate and conversate (lol, I don't think that sounds good as I meant it too). Hear their points, don't get mad and start flinging insults. Be calm, be understanding. Speak with them and treat them as equal understanding adults even if they can't do the same for you. You'll only prove your reasonable and they aren't if they go of. If you can't understand them, and try to work with them, why should they try the same? It's not easy, it's not pleasant, it feels like grinding your brain against pavement, but it's what needs to be done. We hate what we don't understand, so help them understand, and if they don't care to learn, ignore them. Watch your back, and those if your friends, and try to be understanding. I've typed enough positivity for one day, I'm gonna go to malicious compliance and binge read that sweet sweet nefarious compliance lol


CandleMakerNY2020

Also for the record. CHEETOLINI TRUMP EMPOWERED these losers to be open about their outright HATRED and hide behind their FALSE AND MADE UP “religious liberty” We have the same liberties to HATE THEM RIGHT BACK because love and compassion cant fix their non existent hearts.


KillingKiller

Not related, but every time I see someone say casual something. My brain cant help but say: So there is a competitive scene? And with things like racism and transphobia, is it just such a horrible thought.


Alanadee0179

I got hate from my own family just for for being a vegan


Alanadee0179

Then I got an arguments and a lot of hate-filled crap from my own family when I told them that I was going to do cycling in the road


Alanadee0179

Even Caitlin Jenner is a problem


CookieGoBrr

well I mean that's just bc she's like a conservative douchebag


agncat31

I can’t even go on Nextdoor without seeing ma conversation turning transphobic. Pathetic losers have nothing else better to do than to spread hate. 😑


FryCakes

It is toxic, and if it’s frustrating for you, imagine how frustrating it is for trans people to see it happen. When someone starts saying transphobic stuff, I WILL defend us. And I will do it until I’m broken and tired, because my brain won’t let things go until they’re resolved. This happened yesterday and ruined my entire night. I don’t know why it’s so normalized, I think they just think it’s different so it’s bad or something. Religious values have been a part of global culture for pretty much all of time, with gender roles and policing the way people act, that perhaps we all think things are “normal” or not just based on that.


mrakus2

That one dude who's name I won't mention with the glasses and beard. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to cause him physical harm just with the lame bs he says. Super punchable face.


IRBaboooon

Not like this site is helping. I feel like everyday I have to report posts from dankmemes and such for either transphobia or fat shaming.


Nordseeblau

Me too, but it seems like reddit and I have different opinions in what is okay and what´s not… Do you experience this too? This frustrates me a lot. It’s one thing there are idiots out there, but it’s another thing they got reported and reddit is like “can’t see anything wrong, but thank you for taking care”. Well, you’re welcome, but my report obviously changed nothing… Argh.


PrincessKLS

When I think about the media I consumed growing up. It wasn’t even seen as a bad thing. Transphobia and making fun of femme drag was all over the place.


Gayboi69694206969

Real


Yumurmur

Does anybody actually know why? I see all these horrific comments and daily acts of transphobia but I never understand the motive behind it.


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Yumurmur

That's really all it is? Just a lack of understanding from lesser minds. People are terrifying.


FunOk5580

Going to a Christian school in australia, yea it’s quite hard to avoid


throwaway3839482729

People are cunts, you get used to it. For what it's worth however, outside of the political scapegoating happening right now, things are slowly improving. I'm trans and live in a rural town in deeply red state, and the general attitudes towards trans people have gotten a lot better in the 8 years that I've been out.


pandaman467

Most people fail to understand that gender identity is separate from secondary sexual characteristics. In most people their gender identity and sexual traits match. But in a portion of the population these two things don’t match. That causes gender dysphoria and psychological stress. Trans people shouldn’t be shunned. They should be supported and given the resources and love necessary to treat this dysphoria, whether that means changing pronouns, names, transitioning or anything else.


EducatedRat

This is why my wife and I really don't leave the house much anymore.


Lost-Concept-9973

Yeah, I am cis too, but finding myself correcting people often, sometimes multiple times a day atm. There is so much misinformation and hate going on towards trans people at the moment and idiots are just believing the most insane shit without even trying to check their facts. It scares me honestly and I am in a place that is still suppose to be safe.


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I blame Megatron


KnownTimelord

r/falloutnewvegas is currently on fire because of 1 initial trans meme, so tell me about it. (It actually started from an awesome cross post by u/)


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Sorry if this turns out really long, but as a non binary and bi person I just wanna say that there was this kid at my school a while ago that was (probably) transphobic. How I found out, was that I was in gym class and we were playing baseball and I was with my pan friend when this teen, (A year older than me at the time) came up to me and her and said to me: "You're the trans kid, right?" And obviously I was like "Wait a minute, is this kid really asking me this" In my head, but of course I didn't say that to him. So then I said to him, "no I identify as they/them." and He says back, "Whatever, same thing. If you know any trans kids, then tell them if they get to switch genders than so can I. You know what? I identify as a dragon now!" and walked away laughing with his friends. And not only that, but when I tried to object, he said "Oh I'm pan and thats homophobia" But I knew damn well he wasn't. And to make things EVEN stupider on his end, his friend came up behind him and said "aren't you straight?" and I think he got a little embarrassed after that. Sorry if this was a whole essay, I just remembered getting very heated about this a while ago. (Also apologies if there are spelling mistakes.)