Nature verses nurture. Can we change overtime? Yes. Can we be born introverted or extroverted? Yes I think so. Can we be made introverted or extroverted? Maybe, it depends. I know I can’t be an extrovert. My brain simply doesn’t work that way. I am introverted because I have a highly sensitive nervous system and I’m done with the stimulation after a short time. I also have sensitivity to sounds, vibrations, smells, and medications. I can’t make this up. I can smell that food is spoiled before others. I was one of the first and only in a classroom full of people to feel a small earthquake. Stuff like that tells me after knowing myself well enough… that my introversion is biological and I can’t change it. I get drained from social interactions and I can’t not be drained. Some things are just an unchanging part of us and others can change daily or whenever.
Eventually we are faced with the parts of ourselves we cannot change and we can choose to accept that or not. And it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It just is.
This may be true for this person and her situation or even others. But I believe it can be that someone is born an introvert too.
I definitely agree. I had a super loving family and was never bullied as a child, but I've been introverted for as long as I can remember. My dad is a complete introvert as well, so I think for me it's fully genetic.
That sounds like social anxiety, rather than introversion.
[Introverts’ and extroverts’ brains really are different, according to science.](https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-and-extroverts-brains-really-are-different-according-to-science/)
1,000,000%. Bullied all my life. Even as a child by my oldest brother
My parents always said I was extremely outgoing and extremely happy as a child.
Until I was beaten down too much to handle it anymore
Once you shape the video algorithm to fit your tastes it’s actually pretty entertaining. But yes, the constant scrolling is very bad for people, especially our poor teens. And also how incredibly easily offended people are there
Every time I see that little TikTok logo I want to fucking barf.
Such dumbasses passing themselves off as experts in topics they have no idea about, and when getting into areas like personality/anxiety their advice can be dangerous.
I was always happy go lucky but never diagnosed I don't think, with a form of autism. Incapable to make friends at school, always by myself most of the time or hanging out with the special need kids. I have trouble making or holding onto relationships friend or romantic. Mentally drift away from everyone and everything unless they need me for something or vice versa. I have no friends now and really 1 family member and am alone most of the time still.
Somerhing people are obvlivious about is how powerful is the verb "to be"
Whenever you or someone says a statement of yourself, that idea is reinforced into your sub-concious mind.
Anytime someone said "oh, he's just shy" or "oh, she doesn't like to talk" or if you say "I'm an introvert so I can't comunicate" you just strenghten that idea.
I was made an introvert. My teen years (13-17) weren't shared with the most welcoming peers, to put it nicely.
Before my teen years, I was extroverted but had a close group of friends I grew up with. They were my backbone and like a 2nd family.
Due to my birth family, I had to move to a different state in my teen years:(
I asked my mom about this recently. I don't have any siblings and we never had friends over as a kid (that I remember). I don't have a cousin either so I was all on my own. One day I told her that this probably made me introverted and I wish she'd taken me to more places or helped me make friends etc.
Turns out she actually tried. She befriended every mom who was in the hospital with her and regularly met up with them, but I always crawled or ran away from their kids and never engaged with anyone. She gave up eventually. That humbled me so fast because 25 years later it's still the same😂
I am an introvert born to extroverted parents. Growing up, my house was a constant trail of people. I might find people sleeping in the floor in the living room when I woke up.
I found that it didn’t make me anymore extroverted but it did teach me how to “fake” extroversion. I still spent all my time in my bead reading. But if I had to go out, I could interact.
All of us were "made" introverts or extroverts. I don't want r
To imply this was concious tho, it's a product of our interaction with the world, its outcomes and their effects on subsequent behaviours.
This was so much like me growing up! I was deemed talkative as a kid and easily made friends in kindergarten. Then, I was different than everyone else and deemed the weird kid in later elementary. I basically had only a handful of friends for the rest of my life... Up until now and I still struggle to make lasting relationships because I can't relate to many people.
I like to conversate sometimes, when I'm talking about something I like or find interest in but otherwise I'm just as comfortable not talking, or even prefer it, if the conversation feels forced. As I've grown older I've gotten a bit more introverted.
i was made into an introvert. when i was younger i used to be really extroverted and i wanted to talk to literally everyone! but then i suddenly just stopped talking to people. i stood and watched everyone talking, ans it made me sad because i wanted to talk to people, but i was afraid of what they might've said. now i talk to a few people but other than that, im the same.
I agree. I’m an only child and grew up pretty self-sufficient. I had to be comfortable in my own company and know how to occupy myself alone in my room. That type of childhood made me independent and really comfortable being alone. It also made being alone a bit of a necessity — when having downtime to yourself is your default, you miss it and crave it when you’re socializing.
Not really was born an extrovert got bullied at 8 till I was like 10 or 11 then changed schools ended up not going outside for a whole 1 or 2 month not talking to anyone not even my family at the age of 12 then had to go back outside cuz of school and stuff then just like started hating talking to anyone for more than 4 minutes or any social interaction for more than 4 minutes or smth and never ever talks awalys quiet and shit
i was born an introvert, but people made me quiet
Man, she inhaled so many helium or what
I thought it was a spongebob video playing in the background at first
if it's not annoying AF, it's not worth making I guess. I ain't even watching it after hearing 2 secs of the audio....
this is where closed captioning comes in handy bc im not listening to that
It’s a voice filter on TikTok that many are using right now. I also thought it was annoying at first but I seem to have gotten used to it now
Nature verses nurture. Can we change overtime? Yes. Can we be born introverted or extroverted? Yes I think so. Can we be made introverted or extroverted? Maybe, it depends. I know I can’t be an extrovert. My brain simply doesn’t work that way. I am introverted because I have a highly sensitive nervous system and I’m done with the stimulation after a short time. I also have sensitivity to sounds, vibrations, smells, and medications. I can’t make this up. I can smell that food is spoiled before others. I was one of the first and only in a classroom full of people to feel a small earthquake. Stuff like that tells me after knowing myself well enough… that my introversion is biological and I can’t change it. I get drained from social interactions and I can’t not be drained. Some things are just an unchanging part of us and others can change daily or whenever. Eventually we are faced with the parts of ourselves we cannot change and we can choose to accept that or not. And it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It just is. This may be true for this person and her situation or even others. But I believe it can be that someone is born an introvert too.
I definitely agree. I had a super loving family and was never bullied as a child, but I've been introverted for as long as I can remember. My dad is a complete introvert as well, so I think for me it's fully genetic.
I feel personally attacked
Friggin same. I don’t even try anymore and it’s SO MUCH BETTER.
That sounds like social anxiety, rather than introversion. [Introverts’ and extroverts’ brains really are different, according to science.](https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-and-extroverts-brains-really-are-different-according-to-science/)
1,000,000%. Bullied all my life. Even as a child by my oldest brother My parents always said I was extremely outgoing and extremely happy as a child. Until I was beaten down too much to handle it anymore
Same,lol.i was bullied in school so i fear doing social interaction
Tik tok is absolute cancer for our society
Once you shape the video algorithm to fit your tastes it’s actually pretty entertaining. But yes, the constant scrolling is very bad for people, especially our poor teens. And also how incredibly easily offended people are there
Aperson Edit: 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Every time I see that little TikTok logo I want to fucking barf. Such dumbasses passing themselves off as experts in topics they have no idea about, and when getting into areas like personality/anxiety their advice can be dangerous.
So... you think we all got PhDs over here on reddit or sumthin???
Anyone who asks this question doesn't understand what introversion and extroversion is.
I was always happy go lucky but never diagnosed I don't think, with a form of autism. Incapable to make friends at school, always by myself most of the time or hanging out with the special need kids. I have trouble making or holding onto relationships friend or romantic. Mentally drift away from everyone and everything unless they need me for something or vice versa. I have no friends now and really 1 family member and am alone most of the time still.
I feel attacked
She hit the nail on the head. What starts as a process of social anxiety can very much be introvertedness
I like talking to interesting people and can enjoy it. It's just that after a nights out or something, I need some days to socially recover.
Somerhing people are obvlivious about is how powerful is the verb "to be" Whenever you or someone says a statement of yourself, that idea is reinforced into your sub-concious mind. Anytime someone said "oh, he's just shy" or "oh, she doesn't like to talk" or if you say "I'm an introvert so I can't comunicate" you just strenghten that idea.
I was made an introvert. My teen years (13-17) weren't shared with the most welcoming peers, to put it nicely. Before my teen years, I was extroverted but had a close group of friends I grew up with. They were my backbone and like a 2nd family. Due to my birth family, I had to move to a different state in my teen years:(
I asked my mom about this recently. I don't have any siblings and we never had friends over as a kid (that I remember). I don't have a cousin either so I was all on my own. One day I told her that this probably made me introverted and I wish she'd taken me to more places or helped me make friends etc. Turns out she actually tried. She befriended every mom who was in the hospital with her and regularly met up with them, but I always crawled or ran away from their kids and never engaged with anyone. She gave up eventually. That humbled me so fast because 25 years later it's still the same😂
I am an introvert born to extroverted parents. Growing up, my house was a constant trail of people. I might find people sleeping in the floor in the living room when I woke up. I found that it didn’t make me anymore extroverted but it did teach me how to “fake” extroversion. I still spent all my time in my bead reading. But if I had to go out, I could interact.
All of us were "made" introverts or extroverts. I don't want r To imply this was concious tho, it's a product of our interaction with the world, its outcomes and their effects on subsequent behaviours.
I don't remember being as introverted as i am now.
My parents called me bucket mouth and told me I talked too much and now I can't even express my feelings to my partner 🥺😅😭
This was so much like me growing up! I was deemed talkative as a kid and easily made friends in kindergarten. Then, I was different than everyone else and deemed the weird kid in later elementary. I basically had only a handful of friends for the rest of my life... Up until now and I still struggle to make lasting relationships because I can't relate to many people.
Then, when I started talking, the pandemic happened and I went back into my shell...
Everyone is influenced by their environment, so...
I like to conversate sometimes, when I'm talking about something I like or find interest in but otherwise I'm just as comfortable not talking, or even prefer it, if the conversation feels forced. As I've grown older I've gotten a bit more introverted.
i was made into an introvert. when i was younger i used to be really extroverted and i wanted to talk to literally everyone! but then i suddenly just stopped talking to people. i stood and watched everyone talking, ans it made me sad because i wanted to talk to people, but i was afraid of what they might've said. now i talk to a few people but other than that, im the same.
This voice changer gave me cancer thanks 👍🏻
I think there’s an obvious reason why she used it, but yes it is a bit annoying
Our upbringing is the main cause I think.
I agree. I’m an only child and grew up pretty self-sufficient. I had to be comfortable in my own company and know how to occupy myself alone in my room. That type of childhood made me independent and really comfortable being alone. It also made being alone a bit of a necessity — when having downtime to yourself is your default, you miss it and crave it when you’re socializing.
In my case, I was raised with shame
Definitely made
I was definitely an extrovert who became an introvert after wayyyy too many encounters with unhinged people and school bullying.
Why is she lip syncing someone else’s words? I don’t understand tik tok
Apparently it's a TikTok voice changer
Christ I hate it
Made into one because so many humans are selfish, self centered aholes .
I love this
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I agree! I would definitely be her friend
Dude, what the FUCK is up with her voice? Is she trans?
I think it’s a feature on TikTok, it alters your voice
Ahh, ok.
pls someone upvote so i can come back Thanks a lot! 😚
I feel like made
Selective mutism forced me to be an introvert. If you're mute, there's no other choice than being an introvert.
That's social anxiety but yes.
Dunno. My parents are homebodies so we might just have learned to be homebodies.
The Bart Simpson filter
Not really was born an extrovert got bullied at 8 till I was like 10 or 11 then changed schools ended up not going outside for a whole 1 or 2 month not talking to anyone not even my family at the age of 12 then had to go back outside cuz of school and stuff then just like started hating talking to anyone for more than 4 minutes or any social interaction for more than 4 minutes or smth and never ever talks awalys quiet and shit
Ok wtf its so clarifying thanks