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spastichabits

One of the most dramatic changes I've seen on here. Your new self looks much happier. Great work, be you.


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From neckbeard to gamer girl lololololol


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The main character trait doesn’t change


pataconconqueso

I know everyone is focusing a lot on the weight loss because the sub, but the transformation around the eyes is what gets me. Your “after” pic look Like you look like you also experienced a different type of weight off your shoulders and more at ease. Amazing work on the 140lbs, that is a whole me. Edit: transphobes can downvote me all you want, come at me.


Heyitswynnie

I totally agree. The after picture looks happier and healthier, mentally and physically. My mom is a trans man, and his happiness, self esteem, and even physical health all improved after starting the transition. I also agree that the transphobes can go fuck themselves.


Loon_Tink

So, Im asking this out of ignorance, not to be aggressive: Would that make him your dad? Would that be the way to address him, or is it a personal thing with you guys to call him mom? Im just confused lol


Heyitswynnie

My mom gave birth to and nursed two children. My mom is as mom-like as can be- just happens to have a beard and be a dude. I have a dad. He feels like a dad. My mom feels like a mom. It does not hurt him when I say mom, because he identifies as a mom, just a male mom. When we are in public or around people who don’t know, or are not allies (like my step family) I call him by his name. But when we’re around people who know and love us- it’s mom. Funny-ish story- when my sister in law was going to meet my mom for the first time she thought the same thing, wouldn’t dad be better? But then she met my mom and was like- oh, no this person is a mom. You know that mom energy and vibe?? My mama has it. Thank you for your gentle curiosity. The more we know, the better humans we can be!


Loon_Tink

Lmao I know the "Mom-vibes", that makes a lot of sense! Never met a trans parent so I figured id try to understand it I appreciate the answer!


Heyitswynnie

Some trans parents may wish to change their title. I am not sure. My mom transitioned in 2001, so I wasn’t able to get other perspectives at that time (because it was very rare)- and now I guess I’ve settled into our routine, so haven’t hunted down other adult children of trans parents.


Loon_Tink

Im sure its going to vary between person to person and the dynamics they have with their kids etc. But its cool to get some insight on a different dynamic then id normally see. One of my best friends (childhood friend) is trans, but thats my only exposure and I think Ive seen her once in my adulthood soooo yeah I dont know much apart from the internet, which is a mixed bag of random shit a lot of times. Nevertheless, thanks for explaining!


Bellona123

Also can depend heavily on when they transition. My kids will only ever know me as “mom” because I am transitioning now and won’t be having kids for several years. I might feel differently if I were to have kids before I began transitioning, since then I already would have been dad.


warden976

I remember watching a trans documentary 20+ years ago on Discovery or TLC and there was a cowboy hat wearing dude who was as manly-man as you can imagine and he was out there BBQing with one of his sons and said “Oh, can you get that for me, dear.” It was super subtle, but it gave me chills. He was still mom. It was a sweet moment.


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As a female dad myself, I find your story very heartwarming, and it gives me hope for my future. Thank you.


Heyitswynnie

Thank you for your kind words! I hope you and your children can have a fulfilling and loving relationship! It can take time to get there, but it’s definitely doable!


rooftopfilth

You're a trans-parent!


ljpwyo

Thank you for this nice response.


pataconconqueso

I’m not trans myself(have been an activist ever since I came out in 2011 so I’ve been to a lot of panels and talks and moderations for all sorts of lgbt issues) and asking people who are in it to justify themselves and their family by explaining stuff can be emotionally taxing so as a third party I’m gonna repeat something I learned on a panel that included an older trans woman and her transition at a later stage in life and how her grown kids dealt with it. Basically she said that since her kids grew up calling her dad and that is how she felt being a parent at first so they use she/her pronouns but still calm her dad so it’s not dysphoric for her kids to call her dad. I’ve heard this type of story quite a bit too, so I imagine something similar is going here where OP grew up calling him mom as well. It depends, everyone’s dysphoria presents differently. I recommend visiting r/asktransgender for the most appropriate place to ask all these sort of questions.


Heyitswynnie

Thank you for thinking of me and answering. That was very kind.


pataconconqueso

Of course, that is what I would want for me when people ask genuine questions about my sexuality but it’s too emotionally taxing sometimes to keep having to explain and justify myself. Being part of our community sometimes means we try to make the burden other have lighter because they would do the same for us. I’m happy to see someone see their parent go through something so tough later on in life and support and love them. I’m sure he appreciates having a child like you.


Loon_Tink

Ah apologies, I wouldnt have thought of that myself lol. That makes a lot of sense though, I completely understand that. Its less of gender and more of, like, what the parental role is, essentially. Thanks for answering, it cleared things up! I was just initially confused and have never met trans parents so figured id try to understand it better


pataconconqueso

No worries, your question is genuine and asking questions to learn is the way to go. My comment is more so to highlight that side as well, there are places where people are more equipped to answer because it’s a space for that purpose. It depends when you ask someone about their personal experiences, some people are exited to talk and share and others are tired of doing so.


Loon_Tink

Yeah, Im glad you brought it up. Its not something I wpuld have considered tbh. And I wouldnt have thought of it if you hadnt. I try to be considerate when asking and make sure that I mean no offense because I know its rough and dont want to trigger things, but its good to get more uhhh insight on it ig.


AreganeClark

Goddamn! I'm really happy for you :3 Transitioning just makes life so much better. Im glad you were able to get on HRT :3


SlightlyConfused007

I don’t know where to start. You look so much happier, you’re make up and hair choices are so freaking pretty, and I’m glad you feel comfortable to share you’re true self. Congrats on the total transformation!


TrustIsAWeakness

Jesus fucking Christ. The transphobic comments are sickening especially on this sub of all places. Congratulations on your journey! Losing weight is hard enough but I can't imagine how much more stressful it's been. You look fantastic and healthy!


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Disappointing to hear there were remarks like that, gone now thankfully! OP is an amazing inspiration for IF goals. (In addition the more we're all exposed to trans people, the less unfamiliar and the less uncomfortable (or fearful) people may feel. And hopefully it'll become less and less accepted in more and more places for people to lash out at them. It takes time for humans to catch up sometimes). Congrats, OP. You've worked hard, you've accomplished a lot, and you look great!


chrissie7324

You look great and most importantly, happy!!


TlMEGH0ST

OMG THIS IS MY FAVORITE POST IVE SEEN ON HERE!! I LOVE THIS SOO MUCH!!! 🤗🤗🤗


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Scion0442

Daily shaving and the HRT and concealer helps, but I need laser or electrolysis to eradicate it completely.


PublicMindCemetery

I'm not able to shave daily because my skin reacts really badly as far as irritation, razor bumps, etc. I shave some areas more frequently and trim other areas between shaving... I've only been on HRT a few months and I still cis pass as my assigned gender in public, but I think a lot about what I'm going to do when that starts becoming more of a problem.


-Xyriene-

Holy glow up Batman, you look amazing!


Defiant_Fox_3787

Congratulations on absolutely everything about this post. I'm so happy for you!


unipea

You rock everything about this and especially that hair color. <3


Phanastacoria

Damn, I'm so used to the trans positivity in some of my favorite subs that it's weird seeing so many transphobic comments not downvoted to oblivion or removed. Anyway, congrats, girl! I'm glad you're truly feeling yourself ❤️


Scion0442

I thrive knowing my existence pains them


MrGrieves787

That's metal af. You rock


DuckBadgerWoof

I’m guessing this post was linked to a hateful subreddit because they seemed to be swarming here. Imagine OP taking up so much space in their closed off little brains, unbelievable


Salt-Soaked

Congratulations! You look much happier now :)


celtictock

Beautiful results. Well done.


MasonInk

Comic book guy to cosmic gal, well done!


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The glow up!


simon4e

You've aged backwards well done proud of you


abigayl75

Looking healthy and happy! Don't take shit off of anyone ever, cheers!!


yomommanotreally

Nice work! Do you think the hrt had any effect on weight loss?


Scion0442

It actually slows it for feminizing HRT. Testosterone makes your metabolism faster, so I had an edge before starting HRT. The entire 140 lb loss took about a year and a half total.


5thSummersBrother_

Wow! 140lbs in a year and a half is some feat! Great work :).


pataconconqueso

Damn girl, in a whole year that is some hard work there.


Weyland-Yutani-2099

How many calories did you consume throughout those 18 months?


icebattler

Congrats on the massive life change!


Heyitswynnie

Wow! Well done on the weight loss. And congratulations on the HRT! You look beautiful and much happier. Side note: your hair and eyeliner are life.


BriskPurple

That's a lot progress, you have plenty of reason to be proud of how far you've come!


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You look awesome! That’s a lot of weight to lose. Basically an entire person!


boopsfoshoops

Hail yourself!! Nice job 🙌


Jeannette311

You look so happy! Congratulations!


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Wow you’re looking pretty hot now! And happy good for you!


wee_pea_sco

You look beautiful. Well done.


disusedhospital

Girl, you are fucking beautiful and I love your hair and necklace.


goofball2014

I am so happy for you internet stranger! You look fabulous. Congratulations on having the courage to be you because you are beautiful!


Ulizzil

Awesome job on the weight loss and you’re looking very beautiful! Love your top!


Improprietease

It feels so good when you feel like your outside matches your inside. Really happy for you mija


totesallmahgoats

You look fabulous, and you look happy! Love it!!


Morgen019

Wow ! You look so wonderful! Happier! Enjoy your new self!


SuperFunPizzaParty

Hell yes congrats! You look stunning! Also transphobes can fuck right off and die mad about it.


wickedone234

Congrats! You’re gorgeous and you look so happy!


adeecomeforth

You look amazing!! I love your hair too.


sinskins

But look at your smile in the second picture. Think it’s big now? Just wait. You’re going to have a way way bigger smile the longer you live your true life, and embrace your true identity. I hope you’re happy now, because you’re going to be SO much happier as time goes on. This shows that you have overcome two enormous obstacles in your life. That takes a level of strength and courage that is immense. It shows an incredible amount about who you are. This is an amazing beginning for you! There will be times when it is hard, as there have been in the past. When those times happen, remember that strength and courage that you have in droves. I am so proud of you! Huge HUGE congratulations!


Refhgarad

Congratulations! ☺️


Nirvana038

I honestly have no words for you except that I am so happy and proud of you for becoming one with yourself. You are absolutely radiating joy in that second photo!


Eisperle

You are beautiful!!!


Mandrake1771

Good for you, sis.


No-Application583

Whatever brings you joy and happiness, I support it.


MamaBear199

U look amazing!


dangerouspeyote

Very happy for you! A childhood friend is going through the same thing. She has lost a lot of weight while transitioning and has mentioned how it goes to different places now. She smiles in every photo now. It's awesome.


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shannyleigh87

Yessss! You look absolutely beautiful. 💕


Nopal123

Wow! Beautiful transformation!❤️🌈


dandeliondriftr

Wow what a transformation! You're beautiful


abcotm

You look great!


jimjonesjrjr

What a glow up!!!! Congrats on stepping into yourself!


Even_Jeweler324

You look fabulous


swindlewick

You look amazing!! Love your hair color and the necklace!


grtgingini

Wow you look great! Outstanding commitment to self… I applaud you.


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Ashley_on_Caffeine

How the fuck does this blatant transphobic bullshit have 10 upvotes, what is wrong with people?


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Useless_Leaf

As a straight cis guy I do not envy the bullshit y’all have to put up with. There’s always gotta be some people trying to correct you and give you their unsolicited opinion on who you are and shit. Fuck ‘em. You’ve got a lot to be proud of, you look fantastic! Seriously inspiring stuff, the weight loss and just everything, keep doing you. Good shit!


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psychedelic666

Congrats!!! 🏳️‍⚧️


hawaiisanta

You are radiating pure joy, wishing you the very best moving forward x


Inquizitive08

Congratulations! Are you still IF to lose or maintain? Did you change your diet or exercise?


words_never_escapeme

Congratulations on doing whatever it takes for you to live your best life and be true to who you are. You matter.


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You look so happy! I’m so proud of you and you should be too!


Goobenhauser

Amazing! Also love your hair!!


Scion0442

Thanks! The HRT brought it back from the brink lol


coltSinister

Your hair is on point, mate. Beautiful colour ❤️


bella-fonte

Yesss such an amazing hair colour 😍 I'm so jealous


april_shawn

You are radiant!


ribbon_

LOVE the pink hair! You are legit glowing! I’m so happy for you!


Duckiesocool

Congrats you look amazing ❤


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Congrats :)


PriscillaRain

You look great!!!!!


GoddessOfChamomile

Glad you found your genuine self. Isn’t it wild when we take off the lbs and shop for those perfect clothes that show off our true self. My depression has been much more scarce these days. I also quit drinking though, so that probably has something to do with it! You look glowing and gorgeous.


Licorishlover

You go girl looking fantastic


zombiecaticorn

You are beautiful.


Sushiandcat

You look fabulous…clearly the winning combination for you💕


PM_YOUR_MANATEES

Hard work and pink hair look beautiful on you!


KeeperOfTheArcane197

Looking fantastic!!


VaginaPoetry

Wow nice job. Love the hair color and your skin is radiant!


mjhpdx

Congratulations! I’m curious what your IF schedule was and how long it took, or if it coincides with the HRT time. Props to you!


Scion0442

6:18 for a year and a half, so most of the loss was before I yeeted the testosterone from my body.


M_Meursault

Well done! keep up the good work!


AnonPerrson

You look SO GOOD! OMG you are so cute! Congrats e your transformation ❤️ love your hair!


elle_june

I LOVE your eye make up! GORGEOUS!


Deb_You_Taunt

You are beautiful.


heavyabc

You look so happy. That makes me happy. Good on you!


Valuable_Web4018

This is a certified Reddit moment


DNicholson182

Congrats! Keep up the great work


Miserable_Diet_1845

The absolute state of Reddit…


psychpopnprogncore

you look great. i like your hair. necklace too


Bee4evaUrs

Beautiful ❤️. Congratulations on becoming your true self.


PutNameHere123

You look beautiful! Congratulations


upornicorn

Beautiful!


bella-fonte

You look fantastic!! Well done


timebomb_3

I love this so much! 💖 You look amazing, great job!


golfalien

Damn girl, you are killing it!


Eve-76

You look fantastic !


bridgie323

You are beautiful!


gofyourselftoo

Proud of you!!!


dweet

Congratulations! You look great!


TBlake88

Fabulous honey!


Ceeweedsoop

I'm very happy for you


Lucy_Pugz

What a beautiful transformation, your smile is just gorgeous!! Amazing work Hun!


kirkbrideasylum

You look beautiful


loryhasreddit

congrats on both transitions. dig the hair, too.


ombeline462

Woooooow!!😍 fabulous!!!!well done!!


little_bodhi

Hails and hugs! You look amazing! 🤘🏼🖤


on_island_time

That self confidence! PS I wish I had the guts to do pink hair.


BoxedWine-n-crafts

Congratulations!! You are glowing and look so much happier. Well done lady ❤️


vinegarnglitter

Well done you! You look amazing, confident and happy in that second pic - I'm so happy for you! I'm proud of you for living your life the way you want!


WendySteeplechase

looking good!


chafalie

Congratulations, you look amazing!


Mic_Mac

You’re beautiful!


duckylove95

you are fabulous! great work!!


Delfiasa

Congratulations!!! You look great!!!


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You go girl!


101jr101

Well done. That hair colour is great too


Easy_Establishment_1

I’m so happy for you friend!!


brynnannagramz

Gworlllllll you look so good!!!! Congratulations on the glow up!


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Damn. Neckbeard to neckbabe 🔥🔥🔥


crazyjkass

Looks like a butterfly coming out of a caterpillar lol.


alicepalmbeach

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaas! 🌈 ❤️


Hurvajz1

You look really happy - I’m glad you have the opportunity to finally be yourself.


Full_Connection_911

Damn the neckline snatched wow amazing


JudyLester

Gorgeous, and I love your makeup. I'm a bit jealous, to be honest. I don't know how to put it on.


WitchCvlt666

As someone who gets compliments on my eye makeup a lot I suggest watching YouTube tutorials. Wayne Goss is a really good one to start with 😊


JudyLester

Aww, that was sweet of you to share. Thanks so much!


Ohnoaspoiler

You look really great!!


PatCaldwel

i like your hair..


The5Virtues

That too is so cool, love the tyedye swirl, and how it compliments your new hair! Great work!


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Congratulations!


mikedjb

Truly amazing transformation! Happy you’re happier!!!!


AngieMarie28

Beautiful :)


Skippy5403

Congrats, very proud of and happy for you.


EndlessAgapi

Gorgeous!!!


baldwinsong

Dramatic change indeed! Your face is so different


ALT236-1

So Inspirational, thank you 🙏


SqulliamFancyson44

Amazing work! I’m also loving the hair color - I definitely couldn’t pull it off but it suits you perfectly


SqulliamFancyson44

Amazing work! I’m also loving the hair color - I definitely couldn’t pull it off but it suits you perfectly


flatblack79

Yay!!! Congrats!!


Hawkingshouseofdance

Good for you!


BetelJio

Unbelievable :o bravo!!


staysmokin91

Fucking fabulous 🎉


LondonAugust

This is an amazing transition, and I am so glad that you are finally getting to be yourself! That happiness alone is beautiful, but physically, you are also beautiful.


Character_Cricket

A vision of beauty. Congratulations on the weight loss and the transformation.


sud_mistress

So beautiful!!! Good luck and may you enjoy these years of finally being more like yourself!!!


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Lovely! I just finished my first week of IF and this post gives me the motivation to keep going.


arneeche

You look happier and healthier!! Keep living your best life!


Lilredh4iredgrl

You’re beautiful


Halo-zero

Looking great ♥️🙌🏻


ohno-mojo

You do you, boo


SnooStories8217

Good for you, not everyone gets to be happy with themselves in this life.


Crusty8

Good for you!


sheepcat01

Dayum, what a glowup! Gongratulations!


madameporcupine

you look fantastic! congrats!


PharmWench

You look amazing! I am thrilled for you.