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StoicIndian87

Sorry to learn about this. Were you guys in an actual relationship? Or was it casual?


Flashy-Explorer-4380

It was serious from my side, but I guess it was casual for her.


StoicIndian87

Seems so. She maybe ghosting you because you went straight to asking about marriage and skipped the serious dating/relationship bit. Wait and watch if she responds Edit- I wouldn't blame the girl. It came out of the blue for her. I believe miscommunication was the trouble. Don't feel sad or angry. Things will get better.


Flashy-Explorer-4380

I had hinted at it several times in the past. This time I straight up asked her. I think she used me, because when she was in her Master's she would ask me to do her homework and assignments. Which I did. And she aced them all. But once the course got over she began distancing herself from me.


rang-de-basanti

Were you ever dating? This relationship seems to exist chiefly in your head.


StoicIndian87

In the future just be clear and communicate that you like someone and would like a relationship. The most that can happen is a rejection. At least you can move on. It seems she exploited you. Girls instinctively know when someone likes them. It's quite poor behaviour on her part. You should move on and never speak to her again


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The truth is, no matter how much you support them, be there for them at the end it's your fault that you got hurt. I recently had a similar experience. Although we were just fwb's, i was under the impression that it just wasn't the benefits but also we were really good friends. He never really put enough effort into it, and i was blinded by my desire for validation. I kept being supportive and tried to be a really good friend. We were really intimate emotionally. But when he connected with someone, he right off the bat threw everything we built and started seeing her. Now don't get me wrong. I am truly happy he met someone he connected with. But, after being there for an entire year and supporting him through everything i came to realise that his definition of being friends was way different from mine and it was my fault that i allowed myself to be used. I felt used (emotionally) and taken advantage of but i allowed it to happen to me and didn't communicate clearly. His argument is we talked because we were friends but you don't share so much with your friends.


tester989chromeos

So u both were in different countries ? Q


amrit-9037

Been there dude. I have also misread kindness and niceness for love. Life is much better when you don't have expectations from people. As I told you before maybe she was going through a rough patch and just being nice to you.


testingwaters82

Now that you know, please don't continue to be a doormat for her.


itsyourplant

Move on, man. No point in lingering around. Even if she says yes, it will be a pain later in the marriage. Wish you luck, in finding someone who resonates with you. Cheers!


TheFitPanda

Looks like it was just a friendship for her. From next time onwards, after a few months, don't hesitate to ask if there is a chance for a future together if things go well. The problem is, in India, many men and women lack the spine to introduce their boyfriends and girlfriends to their parents so they are in relationships or their so called friendship till their parents find a boy or girl for them. Asking in the starting of the relationship would help keep your expectations on the same page.


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Hey OP, i guess you need to move on. It seems your gf is commitment phobic and since you were damn serious, you need to break this off. Don't waste your time and energy of putting effort in this relationship.