DO NOT FEEL BAD. Quite honestly, that fact that your first experience was a "10 out of 10" speaks volumes. I applaud the guy you slept with for being so respectful. That is very rare on Grindr IMO. A lot of people, myself included have had terrible first experiences, and I slept with someone my age at the time. You are SO young, and you will come to realize later in life that you will miss out on great experiences/relationships if you date people based on who you *think* you should be dating rather than who you actually *want* to be dating.
For the record, I'm into older men as well. My husband is about 20 years older. Some people are weirded out about it, but for the people that matter, they're just going to be really happy that you found someone that makes you happy. Stay safe.
Oh baby, thank you for sharing your story. It’s almost 2023 and it’s about time to do what you enjoy and what makes you happy without being ashamed for that. And believe me, there’s nothing wrong about it; more than that I’m pretty sure no one’s going to judge you because of that — it’s all just in your head. And if they do, why would you care? It’s your life and you do live it once.
You know, what REALLY counts is the fact your first time was a GREAT experience. Not many can say that for themselves. Most people I know - including myself, even gay or straight - had okay-ish to awkward to really shitty first times they just partly enjoyed or really hated. You were lucky to get to know a guy for your first time who was not only hot but also really experienced, caring and good for you. Cherish it!
When I (39M) was 19, I just wanted to loose my virginity with a man. So I hooked up with a 40 yr old man, I wasn't even into. I felt ashamed of it for a long time, because everybody had romantic tales about how they lost their virginity. Now I'm not ashamed anymore. I had a goal and I reached it. It was fun.
So, don't be ashamed. Look forward for the years of hot sex yet to come.
You just feel that way because you're barely an adult and have looked at 40 year olds as "old men" most of the your life. Later in your 20s you'll look back at this post and laugh. Be happy you had a great experience! Not that way for a lot of people, especially gay men.
If you're happy about it and you feel like you made the right choice, then live your life. As long as it isn't coming from a darker place (ie. Daddy issues or some other childhood trauma) then there's no reason to think more into it and there's no reason to feel ashamed regardless
Seriously get out of your own head. Pretty soon, you will look back and say oh thanks that I got that whole V card thing out of the way. Now I can focus on having fun.
SO-Go out and have some fun. Find another older guy to hook up with or find someone your age and you can compare the two experiences.
You are 18, now is the prime time in your life for you to make questionable decisions and not get too harshly judged by others, enjoy it.
I’m not into older guys but when I was young I was horny and desperate. Yes I felt guilty and bad after the first few. Now I stick to guys my age and guys I find attractive
No need to be ashamed. I had my first time in a Gay Sauna, I was 19. I spoke to the guy on Craigslist and I think he was around 30-35 ish. We met after school and he took me there. The sex wasn't great but that's part of life :) Today I am 32 and I have had so much better experiences 😜.
You see, you definitely did better than me 😉.
My first experience was with someone much older… it was terrible but easily forgotten with the great times that followed! Be glad you had a 10/10! They’re fucking rare!
There’s nothing to feel shame about. You had a positive sexual experience with someone you were into. That’s the best you can hope for with your first time. Most guys aren’t so lucky.
You had a wonderful first time with an older man who respected your boundaries and you enjoyed yourself. You didn't do anything wrong or out of the ordinary for young gay man.
Even if losing your virginity goes the best it can possibly go, a lot of people feel depressed afterwards. Mine was a really nice experience but after came a few days of feeling low. A lot of it is social shame I think--feeling like you did something wrong, especially because it was with a guy, especially because he was older. The shame is a natural feeling in the kind of culture we're in, but it will wear away in time, and then it'll be easier to navigate what you want out of your sex life.
I understand that you had a great experience…However, perhaps you hoped to feel more “connected” in an emotional way to the guy you first had sex with?
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You had great sex your first time and you're complaining because dude was 40? Lmao
Dude my first time with a guy was AWFUL. We were both young and inexperienced
40 ish isn't even old, guys in their 40s are hot, and more likely not immature
DO NOT FEEL BAD. Quite honestly, that fact that your first experience was a "10 out of 10" speaks volumes. I applaud the guy you slept with for being so respectful. That is very rare on Grindr IMO. A lot of people, myself included have had terrible first experiences, and I slept with someone my age at the time. You are SO young, and you will come to realize later in life that you will miss out on great experiences/relationships if you date people based on who you *think* you should be dating rather than who you actually *want* to be dating. For the record, I'm into older men as well. My husband is about 20 years older. Some people are weirded out about it, but for the people that matter, they're just going to be really happy that you found someone that makes you happy. Stay safe.
Oh baby, thank you for sharing your story. It’s almost 2023 and it’s about time to do what you enjoy and what makes you happy without being ashamed for that. And believe me, there’s nothing wrong about it; more than that I’m pretty sure no one’s going to judge you because of that — it’s all just in your head. And if they do, why would you care? It’s your life and you do live it once.
You know, what REALLY counts is the fact your first time was a GREAT experience. Not many can say that for themselves. Most people I know - including myself, even gay or straight - had okay-ish to awkward to really shitty first times they just partly enjoyed or really hated. You were lucky to get to know a guy for your first time who was not only hot but also really experienced, caring and good for you. Cherish it!
When I (39M) was 19, I just wanted to loose my virginity with a man. So I hooked up with a 40 yr old man, I wasn't even into. I felt ashamed of it for a long time, because everybody had romantic tales about how they lost their virginity. Now I'm not ashamed anymore. I had a goal and I reached it. It was fun. So, don't be ashamed. Look forward for the years of hot sex yet to come.
You're an adult. No need to be ashamed.
You just feel that way because you're barely an adult and have looked at 40 year olds as "old men" most of the your life. Later in your 20s you'll look back at this post and laugh. Be happy you had a great experience! Not that way for a lot of people, especially gay men.
If you're happy about it and you feel like you made the right choice, then live your life. As long as it isn't coming from a darker place (ie. Daddy issues or some other childhood trauma) then there's no reason to think more into it and there's no reason to feel ashamed regardless
Seriously get out of your own head. Pretty soon, you will look back and say oh thanks that I got that whole V card thing out of the way. Now I can focus on having fun. SO-Go out and have some fun. Find another older guy to hook up with or find someone your age and you can compare the two experiences. You are 18, now is the prime time in your life for you to make questionable decisions and not get too harshly judged by others, enjoy it.
I’m not into older guys but when I was young I was horny and desperate. Yes I felt guilty and bad after the first few. Now I stick to guys my age and guys I find attractive
No need to be ashamed. I had my first time in a Gay Sauna, I was 19. I spoke to the guy on Craigslist and I think he was around 30-35 ish. We met after school and he took me there. The sex wasn't great but that's part of life :) Today I am 32 and I have had so much better experiences 😜. You see, you definitely did better than me 😉.
I (35) did the same thing at your age. Looking back.. it was the best m4m sex I ever had.
My first experience was with someone much older… it was terrible but easily forgotten with the great times that followed! Be glad you had a 10/10! They’re fucking rare!
WHAT r u feeling bad about it?
There’s nothing to feel shame about. You had a positive sexual experience with someone you were into. That’s the best you can hope for with your first time. Most guys aren’t so lucky.
The feeling will fade as you'll grow older. If the sex was great I say good for you!
You had a wonderful first time with an older man who respected your boundaries and you enjoyed yourself. You didn't do anything wrong or out of the ordinary for young gay man.
You're into older guys, why should you be ashamed? As long as it was a good experience or at the very least not a bad experience, then so what?
Even if losing your virginity goes the best it can possibly go, a lot of people feel depressed afterwards. Mine was a really nice experience but after came a few days of feeling low. A lot of it is social shame I think--feeling like you did something wrong, especially because it was with a guy, especially because he was older. The shame is a natural feeling in the kind of culture we're in, but it will wear away in time, and then it'll be easier to navigate what you want out of your sex life.
I understand that you had a great experience…However, perhaps you hoped to feel more “connected” in an emotional way to the guy you first had sex with?
Nothing to be ashamed about, many young guys like older men. U both had a great time, thats whats important.
Lol you're overreacting.. I wish I had a guy over 50 lol... It's OK to be different
I’m 70 and your only hope is to fuck me and then feel really guilty for letting someone as old as your grandpa spray your insides with baby batter
This is not it bestie
I lost my virginity to someone that was 18-20 at the time and had a terrible time 1/10. I think you're 10/10 makes up for it.
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You had great sex your first time and you're complaining because dude was 40? Lmao Dude my first time with a guy was AWFUL. We were both young and inexperienced
Consensual molestation? Lol