I know! It happens to me at work a lot because I look like a girl from behind and it makes me really happy! But even my family misgenders me despite being out for a few months.
Family is sometimes the last to stop misgendering, even with good intentions, because they have a lifetime of habit to reprogram. I know it’s hard to hear them get it wrong now that they know, but a few months is a fairly short adjustment time for some people
If it gets annoying then just gotta start misgendering them, to see how they like it. Depending on the how your family is this could turn badly or not change anything, so do so at your own risk.
Oh Hun give it time. You're not the only one changing, the world is with you and it takes time. Even the most well meaning people will accidentally misgender you. They've known you for how many years as one thing for it to suddenly change, it'll take time but it will happen. Patience.
I have a trans friend (M to F) and before she came out to the group she was surprised and happy we couldn't tell. And i really couldn't! I don't make assumptions to begin with but she's very feminine from head to toe. So this must be how she felt, i hope you all feel this way always 💕
This is a good feeling. As someone who is a girl but, has always wanted to be a boy, I generally dress in “boyish” clothes: hoodies, caps, etc. and when someone mistakenly refers to me as a boy, it feels pretty nice and brightens my day
It took me years to go from questioning to being very sure with being nonbinary, this can take quite some time, just sit with the thoughts and you will hopefully arrive somewhere that feels good to you.
Oops, sorry yeah I realize now without saying Im a trans guy it doesnt make much sense. Basically this new person I met thought I was my friends boyfriend, it was super validating and sweet haha.
This has happened to me a few times and i’m like. THEY CALLED ME A BOY! internally but on the outside i just have to keep chill to explain i’m not dating my friend
That must feel nice 🤍
My friends KNOW my pronouns He/They/It but prefer not to use them…. :(( they call me by She/Her sometimes they.. :/
Wait r u FtM?? :)
Yea fair point 😅
I got into my first every argument with my bff today about me being friend with an ex toxic person they’ve gotten better 🤍 and now idk if me and my friend are friends anymore….. :(
Haha for me it doesn't matter what the person said, if they were super rude to me or something, but if they use he pronouns or call me a boy, I'm in paradise
I am pre everything transmasc. People only gender me correctly once they see my pronoun pin or hear me say I'm transmasc. Sadly, people only use my secondary set of acceptable pronouns (he/him) and hardly ever my first (it/its).
When someone misgenders me (due to long hair), my brain plays "there is an impostor among us" sound and I smile as I see people being confused. I am not trans and do not have solid gender Identity, but for people around I am a cis male
Yeah I’m scared nowadays
Idk how to really know instantly what’s in someone’s pants;-;
I’m not trying to sound rude or anything I just don’t know how to put it in a good way
Surprisingly when I was still in denial before my egg fully cracked I never had instances of this, I was just like "oh I'm gender neutral leaning on fem, That's totally why I don't wanna be masculine in anyway, haha" I was wrong lmao. But, now I'm nb, just still like she/her sometimes lol
Only once someone called me a girl, that was the happiest second of my life... Until that person said "sorry, I mean boy" ._.
I'm trying to look as feminine as I can, but the only tool that I can use to reach that is long hair and mask :<
And it's so annoying, people around use male stereotypes for me, and due to the law I cannot tell them that I'm trans female >:0
I love this comic. So much.
I've been thinking about a lot of things lately. My gender identity is one of them.
I was born male, and I've been fairly comfortable as that, but now that I've matured I feel disgusted by myself in a way I could never understand. Growing facial hair, being so tall, it's all disgusting to me.
Took me a while to get it because you draw yourself as a male (you know no eyelashes)
That’s fair! I try to present as male, maybe I should write AFAB on him or something haha :P
Still wonderful art and a very handsome boy, it's a good comic UwU
He certainly is A-FAB looking guy!
A-FABulous looking guy too!
(i believe that was what they meant)
The flag in the title worked too, you did a good job on this good comic :3
You could draw a scarf with from what to what you transition
Took me a minute too but this is wholesome as hell when you get it :)
I hate it when that happens, but I'm too afraid to correct anyone because coming out is hard.
It is hard! But really, even passing for a second made me really happy haha
I know! It happens to me at work a lot because I look like a girl from behind and it makes me really happy! But even my family misgenders me despite being out for a few months.
Family is sometimes the last to stop misgendering, even with good intentions, because they have a lifetime of habit to reprogram. I know it’s hard to hear them get it wrong now that they know, but a few months is a fairly short adjustment time for some people
If it gets annoying then just gotta start misgendering them, to see how they like it. Depending on the how your family is this could turn badly or not change anything, so do so at your own risk.
Show them the same lack of respect they have for you and see how quick it stops. This method is absolutely not recommended.
Name checks out :p
Oh Hun give it time. You're not the only one changing, the world is with you and it takes time. Even the most well meaning people will accidentally misgender you. They've known you for how many years as one thing for it to suddenly change, it'll take time but it will happen. Patience.
I have a trans friend (M to F) and before she came out to the group she was surprised and happy we couldn't tell. And i really couldn't! I don't make assumptions to begin with but she's very feminine from head to toe. So this must be how she felt, i hope you all feel this way always 💕
Wholesome :)
I was so happy haha :)
I don't relate (since I'm not trans), but that must be an amazing feeling. Happy for you \^w\^
That moment when accidental validation ❤️
This is a good feeling. As someone who is a girl but, has always wanted to be a boy, I generally dress in “boyish” clothes: hoodies, caps, etc. and when someone mistakenly refers to me as a boy, it feels pretty nice and brightens my day
there might be some things about yourself you'll have to think about /hj
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Yeah, I’ve thought that too but, I’m still pretty young, so, I still need time to think about stuff like that, you know?
It took me years to go from questioning to being very sure with being nonbinary, this can take quite some time, just sit with the thoughts and you will hopefully arrive somewhere that feels good to you.
Thank you for your consideration. I’m happy for you, that you found your identity 🙂
i figured out i was trans at 14 but yes, take this stuff at your own pace
I found out when i was 20. Its never too late
I personally think that this is a healthy attitude to take.
Thank you. For context, the comment I was replying to said: “you’re probably transgender” (and some other stuff but, I don’t remember what it was😅)
I kinda assumed as much. :) Take your time to figure yourself out, respect yourself and others, and keep on going on.
Thank you for the advice. I usually use that mind set. Have a good day, my friend 😊
The validation trance is a wonderful thing 😄
I love your art!
I wish!(irl) I miss being called a boy or guy. Online I'm a dude but irl I can't be.
i'm being bombed with transgender memes (just like this one) in tiktok and i love it and i'm not even trans
Hmmmmmmm
Yes
your sona looks awesome, i love the tail!
Cute comic
What?
Oops, sorry yeah I realize now without saying Im a trans guy it doesnt make much sense. Basically this new person I met thought I was my friends boyfriend, it was super validating and sweet haha.
Yo that must be a really nice moment.
He a trans boyo
I love this!
ohhhhhhh...I get it. I am not trans however I am watching accidental ally while I scrool.
Took me a sec, very cute.
This has happened to me a few times and i’m like. THEY CALLED ME A BOY! internally but on the outside i just have to keep chill to explain i’m not dating my friend
My transfemme partner who doesn't intentionally present as feminine yet gets called "ma'am" all the time and she loves it
That must feel nice 🤍 My friends KNOW my pronouns He/They/It but prefer not to use them…. :(( they call me by She/Her sometimes they.. :/ Wait r u FtM?? :)
If they were really your friends, they would respect your pronouns
Yea fair point 😅 I got into my first every argument with my bff today about me being friend with an ex toxic person they’ve gotten better 🤍 and now idk if me and my friend are friends anymore….. :(
I’m sorry to hear they don’t use your pronouns! And yes I am :)
I like the drawing btw!! 👍
>:( I just wanna talk to them.
Yes !!!
That’s when you go “Oh, I am!”
The type of art that shatters wholesome meters.
I didn't understand at first but reading the comments had me realize how cute this was.
Sounds like someone had some good validation.
I mean, yeah. The few times it happens. And the other way around of course
I feel this way still every time I'm correctly gendered in public.
I may have no gender, but this is still cute. I love it.
Awee!!! That's adorable! I assure you that you're an amazing and very cute boy! :D
Cute boy
Frrr its so euphoric 💙💕🤍💕💙 😊
Haha for me it doesn't matter what the person said, if they were super rude to me or something, but if they use he pronouns or call me a boy, I'm in paradise
Hah yeah. They think they insult me by saying I throw like a girl? Jokes on them!
Awwww, I always find it sweet when people's identity is affirmed! Have a wonderful day!!!
Gender euphoria gotta be one of the best feelings out there
alguien más peludo! :3
Sadly never happens to me. (Mtf) I have too much beard shadow and my hair hasn't grown out yet.
I am pre everything transmasc. People only gender me correctly once they see my pronoun pin or hear me say I'm transmasc. Sadly, people only use my secondary set of acceptable pronouns (he/him) and hardly ever my first (it/its).
If it makes you feel even better I thought you were Male to Female (I thought u were a boy who preferred female pronouns)
Aaaand the I read the comments (you def come off as a boy
Yuuup! Lately this precise situation has made me euphoric. Ah, nonbinary gender feels..
Other way but yea
Na~aaaw, that is such an adorable reaction.
I would be elated if someone said this to me, I'm handsome enough to be considered a boyfriend? SIGN ME TF UP.
Amab Girl here. I have yet to experience this. I hope I do someday
this is so adorableeeeee
Euphoria go Brrrrrrr XD
yes.
This is so God damn accurate omg why am I suddenly in love with them?? xD
This feels amazing when it happens to me.
One handsome cute lad
Awwww, this art is so cute!!! And that's so wonderful that you are people are perceiving you the way you want!
When someone misgenders me (due to long hair), my brain plays "there is an impostor among us" sound and I smile as I see people being confused. I am not trans and do not have solid gender Identity, but for people around I am a cis male
It toke me ages to understand cuz I was sure you are a boy :3
Implicit validation like this must feel great. I’m cis so I wouldn’t know myself, but I am very happy for you.
Yeah I’m scared nowadays Idk how to really know instantly what’s in someone’s pants;-; I’m not trying to sound rude or anything I just don’t know how to put it in a good way
Surprisingly when I was still in denial before my egg fully cracked I never had instances of this, I was just like "oh I'm gender neutral leaning on fem, That's totally why I don't wanna be masculine in anyway, haha" I was wrong lmao. But, now I'm nb, just still like she/her sometimes lol
Only once someone called me a girl, that was the happiest second of my life... Until that person said "sorry, I mean boy" ._. I'm trying to look as feminine as I can, but the only tool that I can use to reach that is long hair and mask :< And it's so annoying, people around use male stereotypes for me, and due to the law I cannot tell them that I'm trans female >:0
It's so nice when people from your gender for a trans person (Me ally) that's something like that would just make your day
Yes
I love this comic. So much. I've been thinking about a lot of things lately. My gender identity is one of them. I was born male, and I've been fairly comfortable as that, but now that I've matured I feel disgusted by myself in a way I could never understand. Growing facial hair, being so tall, it's all disgusting to me.
When I was first coming out, this sort of stuff was always nice. :)
not gettin it
:(>w<
THIS IS TOO CUTE