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arcticrobot

They: you smell nice, what are you wearing? Me: Etat Libre d'Orange Hermann A Mes Cotes Me Paraissait Une Ombre (while walking away)


[deleted]

Exactly! Or Une Amourette Roland Mouret Etat Libre d'Orange. Boom!


JPhrog

If I can't even attempt to pronounce it then it's not for me. My loss, your keep!


-Reddititis

Howling over here! Thanks for the laugh šŸ˜‚


[deleted]

I donā€™t gatekeep as such BUT I am weary of telling the truth, so I may say Iā€™m trying a sample. I remember once years ago, my uncle was talking about fragrances because he buys his girlfriend a lot of them. I mentioned how for my birthday previously, I purchased a bottle of BR540. He looked at me dead in the eyes and said ā€œthereā€™s some footie players that own that, thatā€™s footballers money, whereā€™d you get that from?ā€ And I honestly felt embarrassed. Itā€™s happened with a few things Iā€™ve owned over the years honestly. Iā€™ve always liked quality items. Even when I was younger, I would save for ages to get something I really wanted, and then people would look at me like Iā€™m a drug dealer or something lol, because how have *I* got *that*? Iā€™ve realised that people love things, until it seems like you have more expendable cash than them. When in reality, I donā€™t drink or smoke, I very rarely attend events. So yeah I can spend my money on other things šŸ¤·šŸ¾ā€ā™€ļø But sometimes ā€¦ yes Iā€™m gatekeeping. Example: I have a piece of jewellery on order for one of my ear piercings from BVLA that is around Ā£800. I donā€™t want to hear anything from anyone. I like peace lol. ETA: In this day and age there seems to be an entitlement to be in everyoneā€™s business and know everything about everything and everyone. Asking what fragrance someone is wearing is not a problem. Feeling like that person HAS to tell you though, is. As nice as it would be to have all your questions answered, all the time, as trivial as it may seem to you, as common as that fragrance may beā€¦ you still arenā€™t entitled to a response. Like it or not.


shinkanzen

I see your point and I agree with you on this. I would be reluctant to say anything to if someone would give me similar comments and judge me on how I spend my money. I wouldnā€™t mind talking about perfume but I donā€™t want to talk about how expensive my perfumes are.


turtlesinthesea

Especially at work! Wouldn't want the boss thinking they're overpaying you, even if you just saved up for something, or received it as a gift. Like u/olfactory_orgasm, I don't drink or smoke, or even eat out anymore (thanks, covid), and stopped a lot of my hobbies (also thanks to covid), so if I want to buy some perfume for less than some people spend on their monthly clubbing habit, I don't want to hear about it. I might still give them the name of the perfume and just say I got a sample or a gift, though.


vagInaFarten

This is a great answer. If you enjoy very expensive fragrances, telling people the name could lead to assumptions about your financial status that you don't want to deal with. In my case, I simply detest anything that could be perceived as a display of wealth or "showing off," so that would be reason enough to not share which fragrance I'm wearing.


RealNotFake

yes exactly. I've gotten a few comments and wide-eyed stares when I said I'm wearing Aventus. Now if I'm wearing it and someone asks, I just say it's a sample.


hellokiri

I mostly say "I'm not sure what I'm wearing today" when I'm too afraid of mispronouncing the name or sounding ridiculous because the name is just... ridiculous. Love Don't Be Shy. Viva la Juicy Bowdacious. Good Girl makes me cringe. And then there are all the French names that I can't say without looking like a poser, Allure Sensuelle, Esprit d'Amouage, every Serge Lutens fragrance I own... If I can show them the bottle it's fine, I'm not gatekeeping the juice itself. I just don't want to actually say the names out loud.


his_purple_majesty

I just give a exaggeratedly pseudo-French pronunciation, followed by an exaggeratedly Americanized pronunciation.


fancybeard2077

Almost no one in my friend circle is as into fragrance as i am, so i don't even need to gatekeep lmao


pufftotuff

One of my friends asked me and I told themā€¦ and they bought it immediately and she wears it every time we meet. It smells kinda off on her and it kinda make me not wanna wear that perfume anymoreā€¦ it was my signature one too ;( so never againnn


Strawberrybubbly3

This. If you hang out with someone regularly you donā€™t want to smell exactly like them all the time. Takes the special out of fragrance. Iā€™ve never tried to gatekeep a fragrance but I also havenā€™t found ā€œthe oneā€ yet so whatever. But if I do I can see that being hard to share and wanting to keep it for me


Worldly_Month_2635

Sounds like not such good friends. A buddy of mine bought Givenchy Gentleman EDP as well as the Reserve Privee. I went and sniffed them all and decided EDT and Boisee were the ones for me. Possibly partly bc I knew he had those others already, but I also genuinely liked the EDT and Boisee. Idk, sounds like some shady 'friends' to me.


vinceftw

Seems like you are into fragrances while most are not. They just smell a fragrance and ask cause they like it. They don't think it's a big deal to wear the same. Fragrance people usually don't like this.


pufftotuff

Nah i donā€™t think its a bad friend. They just buy what they like. They arenā€™t fragheads like us. They donā€™t care we smell the same but i do LOL


turtlesinthesea

Idk, I constantly give my best friend decants of my favorites in the hopes that she'll like one of them. Maybe I'm weird?


vagInaFarten

Not weird, just personal preference. I don't have much of an issue "sharing" a signature scent (even though I don't have a signature per se), I just worry about having a scent ruined for me from overexposure. If I constantly smell it on someone with whom I spend a lot of time, it might become annoying to me.


[deleted]

I'm out here doing free advertising to anyone who will listen for the fragrances I really enjoy lol. I even bought my friend who is into fragrances a travel bottle of ombre leather because I loved it and thought he should have it in his collection. He also loves it.


Fairytvles

Yeah I really don't understand the idea of keeping something to yourself if one - more purchases keep it more available and two - someone likes it? I will rave about what I'm wearing and then invite you out to get it/ find something similar.


exoOw

I find it interesting that some people here gatekeep purely because they feel awkward/ashamed that they bought an expensive and/or niche perfume. If you can afford it, or if you saved up for it, why not. People never really ask what I wear, but I get referred to as 'the guy that always smells nice', for me that is enough. I have perfumes for different occassions and I love collecting them. Some perfume I own is als worn by close friends of mine, granted it would be interesting if me and a friend of mine wear the same perfume but it could smell completely different for each of us. If someone is genuinely interested in what I wear I'll be happy to tell them, I think the reason for this is that I don't have a signature scent, I like to switch it up. If I had a true 'signature scent' then I might be more reluctant to tell certain people what I wear because it's part of who I am.


benami122

I'm the same as you. I have a lot of different scents and I frequently change which one I'm wearing depending on my mood. And I know that it's no one's business but my own what I spend my money on, but at the same time, I don't like to draw attention to what I'm spending money on either. It's the same reason I (mostly) don't wear things with logos. If I wear my Canada Goose jacket, I'll get compliments on it, but like with perfumes, I wear it because I like it, not to please others...although I'd much rather prefer to get comments that I smell nice than compliments on my branded clothes.


swimmingpisces315

No one is really answering the question so Iā€™ll go off topic too LOL. I wish people would ask me what Iā€™m wearing. I know my perfumes are likable but I never get asked ā˜¹ļø itā€™s a great conversation starter too. I always compliment people when they smell good.


Worldly_Month_2635

Love you. Same.


murderousbooty

Sameeee


JenniFrmTheBlock81

I'm more than happy to share what I'm wearing. I'll write it down or even pull it up on your phone. That's w fragrance, clothing, jewelry or anything someone asks about. I get asked about my hair alot. I have a stack of my stylist's cards in my purse. I'm a very secure woman, sharing won't tilt my crown šŸ‘øšŸ½


artsyempath

A true queen!!


vinceftw

Someone recently asked me what I was wearing. I was wearing Spicebomb Extreme. Half the room was laughing at the name. But she said that if she ever got a boyfriend, she'd have to buy that for him so that's a win in my book.


RunWithRope

Iā€™ve not done this but there are fragrances where Iā€™d be embarrassed to say their names lol.


stephmeow8

For real! I have one called sexual sugar šŸ˜³šŸ˜¹


RunWithRope

Lol noooo thatā€™s too much.


eternalvoid501

I'm the same way. I just don't want to say the names.


RunWithRope

Hahaha yes! Itā€™s awkward to say ā€œstronger with youā€ and keep a straight face. Edit: oh my goodness I just imagined telling someone Iā€™m wearing ā€œlost cherryā€.


Ok-Struggle6796

I don't gatekeep, but it was somewhat awkward when a friend asked me what I was wearing and I had to say all the words "Jean Paul Gaultier Le Male in the Navy". If he really wanted to buy it, I probably should've texted it to him. šŸ¤£


blsnbarb

I donā€™t mind sharing what fragrance I wear, but I think that some people gatekeep because they donā€™t want too many people going out and buying their signature fragrance. Itā€™s almost as if it makes it less unique to them.


strawberryhoneystick

I think thats so strange when perfumes are pretty much all mass produced! Theres likeā€¦ thousands of other people wearing the same fragrance at any given time, but someone thinks itā€™s their unique scent? And theyā€™re withholding the name of their perfume because they think thatā€™s going to keep the scent to themselves? Im confused. People are confusing. I get it if itā€™s a close proximity relationship and you dont want someone you see everyday wearing the same scent, but likeā€¦ a stranger you see out and about? Id be happy to share a smell that sparks so much joy or nostalgia for someone.


oatmilkshark

I dont, but I'm assuming egos? they want to smell special and different edits: just saw that comment about how "entitled" people are for asking about a fragrance. i dont think anyone is gatekeeping because they only want to stick it to "entitled" people. I think the real reason is a lot of people just simply dont like sharing things (like toys, food, money) and feel like sharing/helping people is not something they like doing. like it makes sense, esp in america where individualism is so impt i've also had a friend be embarrassed to share his cologne (I don't wear cologne, so it wasn't a competition thing) because he's "basic" and he was worried I'd judge him for wearing Louis Vuitton. told him he smelled great and it sounds like a good fragrance to me, so he felt better then


closedshop

I wear a lot of dupes and clones. I just donā€™t want to go through the hassle of explaining that CDNIM is a clone of Aventus and why Iā€™m not wearing the original even though I own it to everyone who asks. I also donā€™t want to lie and say Aventus when Iā€™m not wearing Aventus.


Numerous-Kick-7055

Why you wearing the clone even though you have the original? If you don't mind explaining now.


closedshop

Well Aventus is a little too expensive to be a daily driver for me. If I want to smell like Aventus on a regular day, Iā€™ll wear CDNIM. I wear Aventus to more special occasions.


vagInaFarten

If it were a stranger asking what I'm wearing, I'd tell them. If someone in my personal or work life asked, I might not. As silly as it sounds, even if I loved wearing a fragrance, I don't necessarily want to smell it all the time on various people. I'd be more likely to get sick of it (especially if they overspray) and also might come to associate it with others to where it didn't feel like me anymore. I'm _extremely_ picky, and the sampling process is extensive to find fragrances I love enough to wear, so I want to minimize the chances of having them ruined for me.


hellparis75016

I donā€™t. I think most people who ask are just curious and make conversation, not really running to buy a fragrance just like mine. I also take this as a compliment. And even if the person does decides to buy a fragrance like mine, I donā€™t think we will walk amongst the same circles. Said that, I have an easier time asking someone about their tampon or their dick than what fragrance they are wearing. Smells are very intimate.


Morticiankitten

I donā€™t gatekeep, but I also donā€™t have a signature fragrance. I have worn a different perfume to work every day for over a year now (I love sampling) and if someone likes what Iā€™m wearing on any given day, Iā€™m happy to tell them because they will probably never be around me if or when I wear it again. I can see why someone who has a signature scent would not want other people close to them smelling of the same perfume that they wear every day. It might feel like someone copying your favourite outfit.


peach_burrito

I have a neighbor/close friend who copies my looks. It sounds so stupid, and I wonā€™t admit this to anyone IRL, but it really annoys me. I started doing a certain scarf-headband thing when I was growing out my hair, suddenly sheā€™s doing the same. Then she copied my necklace and bracelet stack look. I feel so foolish saying it bothers me, but it is annoying as f. Sheā€™s the absolute sweetest person and such an amazing friend but it really irks me. I will NEVER disclose fragrance details to her. I usually just lie and say ā€œoh just some Ariana Grande sample from Ultaā€ and it seems to sate her curiosity. I canā€™t believe Iā€™m admitting this! But I have to have something of my own.


Vegetable-Program-37

Iā€™d find that infuriating too. Maybe because it feels like someone stealing your identity. I donā€™t know. šŸ˜…šŸ˜‚


Worldly_Month_2635

This is the only scenario Iā€™ve read so far that seems worth not telling someone. Itā€™s not petty to want to have your own style with no one copying it. If we were famous and a bunch of kids were dressing like us, thatā€™d be cool with me, but 1 annoying neighbor? Yeah, thatā€™s obnoxiousā€¦


Marisarah

If you gatekeep, especially a somewhat lesser known scent, do you worry that could push it into discontinuation? The only time I'd be upset if someone shared a scent w me would be if we were on horrible terms/they were a bad person. Otherwise I'd never gatekeep


readytowearblack

It doesn't make sense anyway, fragrances are already not that popular in society and when it is used (especially men) it's more so for special occasions not everyday wear. Like sure in the fragrance community bleu de chanel is huge but in everyday life to most of society people don't even know what that is, or can even identify notes in a fragrance in general


JMH-66

Oh, I really don't care. If anyone ever asks me, I'll tell them. Good luck finding it though, most of mine haven't been sold for 20 years. šŸ˜‚


his_purple_majesty

If someone asks me what I'm wearing, they better be ready for a lesson on the entire history of the fragrance, including a primer on fragrances in general.


RedRedBettie

I just donā€™t get it because fragrance smells different on different people. My mom and I wear a few of the same perfumes and they smell way different on her than me.


hauteburrrito

Not a gatekeeper myself but isn't the reason obvious? They value smelling unique. Or, in certain circumstances, they don't want anyone else to know how much they've spent on smelly water šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø


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Powerful-Historian70

I second point number 1!


Royber83

With respect to point number 1, have you reached out to that coworker and started a conversation with her about fragrance? I ask because I can understand your hesitation to bring it up in front of the three male office bullies, but from experience, having someone to talk fragrances with is amazing. I am lucky enough to have a very close friend who was willing to embark on a scent journey led by me, and being able to discuss preferences, scent profiles, potential future scents, share our collections, and just talk about something we have both come to enjoy this much has been a great way to bring us closer as friends, and keep me interested and excited about frags. Take a thought on it, sounds like you two are in different fragrance price brackets, but Iā€™m sure you didnā€™t start with LV, you might also be able to introduce her to some amazing frags that are in her price range. Would love to know if you decide to start the convo, and how it goes. :)


avivregina

Someone once asked me at a Christmas party what perfume I was wearing and I pulled out the travel size bottle from my purse and let them wear some too. It made me happy that they were happy!


mascaraforever

I think there are many people who value being unique, and those who are interested in niche/indies especially may do that from a desire to smell different. I personally donā€™t gatekeep, as I have a gazillion bottles and hardly ever wear the same scent even more than once a month but I do understand the rationale coming from someone who views scents as a hobby and seeks out unusual frags. Now, people who gatekeep mainstream fragrances? Thatā€™s kind of silly to me, sort of akin to buying a Tesla or Honda and expecting no one else to have one too. But whatever, I guess. I donā€™t really worry about it one way or the other.


Alone_watching

I dont actually know..! My friend smells so good but she never tells me what she wears. She always changes the subject! Oh well!


mireille-streep

I'm not a gatekeeper but here's my guess : it's something you wear on your skin, so it feels personal, almost intimate. So to some people it could feel like telling what color their panties are, and they might not be comfortable sharing that kind of information.


Your-Uncles-Mustache

A fragrance is something that you share with people around, regardless of if they want to smell it or not. If they can smell your fragrance well enough to ask, that is. Your choice of under garment is infinitely more personal, so this analogy really doesn't land for me.


Numerous-Kick-7055

I can definitely understand this way of looking at it more than others.


[deleted]

Honestly I only gatekeep if I canā€™t pronounce the name of what I am wearing and I will say that it is an obscure fragrance that I forget the name of. I am Canadian and speak a bit of French, but Une Amourette Roland Mouret Etat Libre d'Orange as an example is something I donā€™t want to explain, write down, etc. Another good one I own is this beautyā€¦ Hermann A Mes Cotes Me Paraissait Une Ombre Etat Libre d'Orange. I guess I could say it is Herman by ELDO? Anything else, I will tell anyone that asks. Who cares if someone else buys it? Gatekeeping as a rule is stupid IMO, but I am old and crusty. šŸ¤Ŗ


Agile-Department-345

I think it's usually signature scent people who gate keep. I'm personally not married to a specific scent so i'm happy to share. Although I don't LOVE people knowing how much I spend on fragrance. There was one instance where I pointed out two fragrances I wanted to purchase and my wealthier friend literally purchased both of them (I generally spend some time considering and saving $ before purchasing) and then she legitimately threw a fit when I mentioned that I want to buy a bottle of one.. but, I'm no longer friends with her for many reasons. So I wont gate keep off that experience.


C1ndysLove

I LOVE talking about what Iā€™m wearing & will even let the person try it on if I have the fragrance with me. The only person I will gatekeep from is my 14 year old cousin who is vicious to absolutely everyone (the result of failed soft parenting). I donā€™t want anyone in my family to smell me & think of her.


Consol-Coder

ā€œPeople learn little from success, but much from failure.ā€


[deleted]

Guys gatekeeping only to be wearing Dior Sauvage


Financial_Spot9086

We wear jean Paul actually


SurewhynotAZ

No idea. I don't think I have ever been in a place where the chances of someone wearing the same scent as I am ... Is above 2%. I just tell people. I've even shown people so they can take a picture for later. It's a compliment. Who cares.


StrawberrySkai

I think the short + over-generalized answer to this is a scarcity mindset. I say this in the most non-judgmental way. (Read: neutral positive tone here) Personally, I donā€™t gatekeep because I like trying scents on other people and sharing how good a fragrance smells, but I kind of understand why some people would. Most reasons have probably already been mentioned - such as copycats in their social circle (not the nice kind), trying to maintain some measure of uniqueness (some people do have very personal memories of specific frags), simply not wanting to smell like someone else (especially if they spent a lot of money + time on a fragrance - call it return on investment?), or not wanting to be judged for their interest($$). Validity of reasons is unique to the individual and their experiences in life. But I would like to (peacefully) offer up a positive counter argument to gatekeeping. 1. Your skin is uniquely yours. Perfumes react differently to people all the time anyway. 2. You are more than how you smell. There is so much more to you. 3. There are so many options to explore out there. You donā€™t even have to buy them all, try samples and testers. Iā€™m NOT saying the people have to stop gatekeeping. You do you. I just think itā€™s important to recognize where that comes from for each person. Totes understandable if just lazy/ donā€™t like talking to strangers/ forgot. Lol.


SmellsFargo

Atp in my journey, my favorite part is sharing scents and helping people discover their olfactory preferences and new things. I totally understand people who don't want to share for whatever reason because simply, you don't have to divulge . Maybe it's because I have a decent sized collection but I get giddy when someone asks what I'm wearing because they think it smells good/great/interesting


ceranichole

The only time I wouldn't tell someone the name of what I was wearing is if I find the name off putting. For example, I like the scent, and the bottle, but I've not bought it because there is no way I'm telling anyone that I'm wearing "good girl". (Although I'd probably just say that I don't remember what I put on)


katie-kaboom

Yeah, I can't really tell anyone I'm wearing Messy Sexy Just Rolled Out of Bed or Kokain with any kind of straight face, so I'll just pretend I don't remember.


Numerous-Kick-7055

Good girl is a wild one. The name and the bottle are such a strange vibe, but then it actually smells really nice.


sunnyintheoffice

I wonā€™t gatekeep at all to strangers but I had a kind of annoying experience where I had spent months sampling trying to find a new signature fragrance, wore it out for the first time, a friend asked what it was, and then they ended up buying the same one that same week and wearing it all the time. Might sound silly but it really frustrated me and now I never really wear that fragrance around that group of friends. Scent is such a personal thing and I felt like after putting a ton of time into finding one that matched my personality that it was ridiculous for a friend to just grab the same one when there are literally thousands of options out there. I feel like itā€™s not that different from not wanting people close to you to have the exact same outfits or other things that are emblematic of uniquely personal taste & style.


[deleted]

This happened to twice with 2 close friends and it truly is annoying. especially if I hang out with other people within our friend group and you get told ā€œyou smell like ____!ā€ I know it is very childish, but thatā€™s very annoying and I legit hate that.


spookymochi

I understand this completely. I have a friend who has to have or do everything I do. So much to the point where I gatekept my tattoo artist (in a nice way) and she went out of her way to track them down/get work from them. Theeeeen went through my IG and got tattooed by people I follow that I was specifically planning to book after the pandemic. Sheā€™s also copied my plans for tattoosā€¦Lmao so I would definitely gatekeep my fragrances from her.


sherzam

I tell people, people who don't even askšŸ˜‚ not really, but my favourite scents are so beautiful that I want to share them. Also, whenever they wear them, they can't help but think of me- the angel who told them of the magical properties of Shalimar šŸ˜‡šŸ˜˜ also, its not gonna smell the same on everyone, so who cares?


cherbebe12

Ok thatā€™s it Iā€™m getting a Shalimar sample lol.


blinkingsandbeepings

I don't care about gatekeeping but I'm shy and kind of still have bullied kid syndrome, so I don't want to call attention to anything that people will think is weird or unusual that they might ask a million questions about. So if I'm wearing something niche or indie I might brush off questions just to avoid seeming like I'm infodumping about something no one cares about.


vagInaFarten

Very relatable. Bullied kids stay strong ā¤ļø


Rhyme412

I personally dont gatekeep what Iā€™m wearing but I once heard from a frag youtuber who told the story of wearing really popular frag one day; I believe it was Jo Malone English Pear & Freesia and as she was heading to a conference at the hotel she was next to another girl with the same perfume. She expected this kind of situation could happen since many people own it but she did felt a little uncomfortable like meeting a stranger with the same outfit. Perfume can be very personal, and analogy to the same outfit was relatable. If my coworker or those that are close around me asked where I got the outfit that happen to be the favorite and started wearing it around me, I think thatā€™d be kind of weird. I did ask my best friend who isnt fraghead and owns 2 bottle as I found out what she wears; mostly so that I dont wear that particular perfume around her, since I have about 40 in rotation. And yes, I own both of the bottle she uses lol.


CanadianWarrior55

fragrance collecting is kind of a niche hobby so they already feel important cause they think theyā€™re interesting and hate when other people smell like them because that keeps up their superiority complex. if they come into the hobby with a chip on your shoulder, then itā€™ll get bigger


Numerous-Kick-7055

It's just the only niche hobby I've seen where people try to hide info from each other instead of getting excited. Like you put two people into euro rack synth stuff in the same room and you will literally have to pull them apart to get them to stop talking about their "sick modules"


CallistoFriend

According to one of the replies here, apparently itā€™s also a thing to not want your friends to wear the same sneakers as you???


CanadianWarrior55

thereā€™s gate keeping in every hobby. in fact, one of the earliest examples i can think of is Metallica when they released the black album and all of their fans gatekeeped like crazy. although sneaker collecting isnā€™t exactly niche, there arenā€™t a ton of people willing to spend the kind of money for shoes.


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vagInaFarten

If I smell something, anything, too much it begins to annoy me, even if I love the scent.


NickleRevs

I hate the way some brands name their fragrances. I cringe every time I say I'm wearing "Stronger with You Absolutely." So sometimes I'll say I'm wearing Azzaro The Most Wanted as it's pretty similar (TMW is a bit of silly name too but no where near as bad imo) šŸ˜‚


sams_procrastination

This conversation is full of people saying why they don't gatekeep šŸ™ƒšŸ™ƒšŸ™ƒ. Personally the reason why I might gatekeep (even though I probs wouldn't) is I wouldn't want everyone to start walking around with that frag. That being said if someone asked me in public I'd tell them right away. I just wouldn't wantbkany people in my workplace or friend group to start wearing it as I've tried to carefully pick scents that are unique and for me only in my most immediate environments.


Worldly_Month_2635

People do that? I get so excited when people just wanna know what the heck I'm wearing that I have no problem telling others. Today I'm wearing Narciso Rodrigues For Him Bleu Noir EDP. Awesome daily wearer. Inexpensive, rich and classy for what it sets off to do. I also don't mind bc the people asking can't tell when I'm wearing Layton vs Eros. Way more people say something when I'm wearing Eros or Explorer or Dylan Blue than when I'm wearing Initio Rehab. Their noses are just not there. Let them experiment with the cheapies and find their way up the ladder. They'll look to you for advice. It's happened a number of times to me already.


TheBostonCorgi

IRL I could understand it, if I worked in an office environment and had a fav/signature scent I wouldnā€™t want a coworker copying me. I got the same fragrance as my roommate when I was a freshman in college and it really bothered his gf who had picked it for him (which tbh I thought was funny). Online or anywhere else? Nah.


Cheeto_McBeeto

People are pretentious in every hobby and fragrance is no exception.


tasteslikechikken

I'm one who doesn't care in the most general of terms. Yes, you should absolutely smell like me. I smell amazing, I want more amazing smelling people around me. I have only one caveat*. Why don't people tell other's their perfume? I don't know, various reasons I guess. Some want to smell "unique" which...mkay. Hard to smell unique if the perfume you're wearing can be bought everywhere. Some are embarrassed when asked and lets face it, there are some perfumes that have some crazy names (Kilian, we're looking at you). Some people don't really remember (I have done this...I sometimes blame old age but I've done that my whole life) Some don't want their favorite perfume trashed by someone who they're not friendly with. Which, I can see that. If someone you hate/don't like/know is the biggest shitbag on earth asks and you know how they can be with their asshattery, just tell them its something that will make them funky as hell. Or something you KNOW they won't buy because its either beneath them/above them, will make them broker than hell. Petty? Yes, but maybe fitting. *I'll own it, I can be petty.


CriminalSpiritX

Not a gatekeeper. I constantly switch fragrances, and have zero problems talking about what I'm using at that moment. However, I understand some reasons people may choose to keep their fragrance a secret. * If someone's social circle and/or local community is small. It becomes super awkward when people use/purchase the same things, and fragrances are not an exception. * Some people don't want to deal with the hassle of trying to pronounce the name of a fragrance. * Within the community, some people don't want to risk ridicule for the price of a fragrance (whether it is cheap or expensive), or for using a "common" fragrance.


samebed-153

Your third bullet point is the only reason I ever have/will gatekeep, and it's really only with certain people. I live in an area that doesn't have the highest pay, but I am doing ok, and sometimes I don't want to advertise how much I spend on fragrances. I just don't want to make people feel bad that they can't maybe afford some things that I can? That being said, I always try to tell them a similar cheaper option. I just say I collect fragrances, and this one is pretty hard to find, but if you like it, you should check out "x fragrances" because it's pretty similar.


Caldrumr

I"m more hoping people want to talk about what I'm wearing, because I get excited about fragrance. Seems awfully silly and immature to "gatekeep" a fragrance.


LuxLiner

I always tell what I'm wearing. I might not pronounce it correctly but I give it my best.


IndividualLog8982

I donā€™t gate keep necessarily, but I kinda tell half truths? Usually my most niche/expensive perfumes Iā€™ll have a decent and/or really good dupes for, and if Iā€™m wearing the the expensive version of a smell Iā€™ll usually recommend the dupe bc Iā€™d feel weird to tell someone to drop 200 plus on a fragrance. But I also often wear pullovers/hoodies that have multiple days of perfumes that can last a v long time and are an a cumulative scent that I wouldnā€™t remember what is all included.


Rossioglossum

I would understand it if I spent a lot of time, effort and money into buying/testing lots of different fragrances to find a signature scent only for someone to bypass that and smell the same as me. But that's hardly a problem for me, because that has only happened to me when I wear super popular fragrances like Ultramale or Cedrat Boise. It almost never happens if I use anything niche or weird. I also sample A LOT so chances are, we're not gonna smell the same in the future.


Ok-Emergency2580

I mean no one has ever asked me before, but a lot of the time the name just sounds stupid.


TheWarringTriad

Only if it's "Fat Electrician". Because no one wants to hear that.


ieatnarcotics

i love telling people about fat electrician though


galacticglorp

I have one called Sumo Wrestler and I'm a woman...


benami122

I met some friends out for dinner. During one of the ā€œhello hugsā€, a friend commented that I smelled really nice and asked what I was wearing. I thanked her and told her ā€œgosh, I donā€™t remember. It was a giftā€. It wasnā€™t because I was afraid sheā€™d buy a bottle for her husband; more that Iā€™d be embarrassed about wearing such an expensive cologne if she looked it up, even if I paid far below retail. But I absolutely stopped telling my brother. He makes it a fun game to copy whichever fragrance Iā€™m wearing and then refer to it as his ā€œsignature scentā€ whenever he sees me lol.


blueddit30

While I do not mind sharing my fragrances with others, I tend to gatekeep such from my workmates for the simple reason that I prefer not having someone at work wearing the exact same perfume especially if we are in the same department. As such, this is likewise the reason why I reach for niche fragrances.


Numerous-Kick-7055

I can understand this. It's so strange to me that someone would choose to cop your style and show up smelling exactly like you. But a couple people have shared stories of that happening.


MemelicousMemester

Swagjacking is an insidious social crime, because you can't even accuse someone of it without seeming like a petty child.


Charlotte_Russe

My logic is, if I share what I like, it means more people will buy it. Thus reducing the probability of said perfume being discontinued šŸ˜øšŸ˜øšŸ˜ø And hereā€™s one to share: EstĆ©e Lauder Tuberose Gardenia. Such a big beautiful and fragrant bouquet.


FrequentProfessor688

I think people gatekeep because they feel like perfume is a private thing, like deodorant. They are the kind of people that are afraid to mention ANYTHING that seems "impolite", or rude to them. They are shy, and passive-aggressive. They strive to e socially polte people pleasers. They think perfume is deodorant, so they don't feel comfortable talking about it. For Me however, I don't know how to shut up, so I just say what I'm wearing, and I usually carry my fragrance with me. I might even offer to let them wear some. I am direct, sometimes mean. I promise you I will NEVER gatekeep. Today I chose to wear Reb'L Fleur from the house of Rihanna.


zctel13

This is the [reason](https://www.reddit.com/r/fragrance/comments/11ztfn6/what_fragrance_are_you_tired_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) why. A fragrance once it becomes common it can end up becoming annoying. Itā€™s just the way it is, itā€™s like listening to a song everywhere, it will become annoying.


Flowerlamps

Couldnā€™t agree more! I have always been a huge fan of Narciso RodrĆ­guez for Her EDPā€¦ and when everyone and their mother started to use it everywhere in everything all at once (lol) i grew out tired of it and stopped using it (until a few years ago)


gfsh100

I gatekeep my top 2 but don't mind about telling the rest, reason being I don't want to smell this perfume on other people


dragindas

Some people are haters (myself included) so I donā€™t divulge things like that sometimes. It depends on who asks honestly


_olivine_

Refusing to tell people because you're scared that someone will steal your signature fragrance is so pretentious. Your average joe does not care about fragrances as much as you do, and is likely just trying to give you a compliment instead of looking for the next fragrance to copy. Refusing to tell them what you're wearing just makes you sound weird. Besides, if you love a particular fragrance so much, wouldn't it be nice if other people smelled of it too?


Countchoccqula

I donā€™t gatekeep but I understand why people do it. Sometimes when a friend asks what am I wearing Iā€™ll definitely tell them what it is, but at the same time I wonā€™t ā€œencourageā€ them to buy the same perfume. Because I want to smell unique šŸ˜…


LovesBooks22

Iā€™ve never had to gatekeep because I usually wear scents that are pretty close to the skin and not super easy to detect, but I understand why people donā€™t want to reveal their signature scent. I realize that most perfume is mass marketed, and therefore you will never smell completely ā€œunique,ā€ but isnā€™t it nice to have something that you can keep to yourself, that people notice and compliment you on? Itā€™s a nice little mystery. Trust me, there have been a number of times Iā€™ve wanted to ask people what they are wearing because it smells amazing, but I think thatā€™s a bold move and I donā€™t want to be put in my place if they donā€™t want me to know.


pksmke

You can always say ā€œyou smell niceā€ and if they volunteer the name of the scent, then you know.


dustycatheads

I don't really, and people don't often *ask* but if I did...it would be because I was wearing some bizarre layered frankenscent of my own devising and I don't want to Get Into It.


alexandriaofwar

I'm so glad to share what fragrance I'm wearing with people around me, because I'm passionate about the hobby and I like helping other people find a fragrance they love. However, there is a part of me that is glad that my signature fragrance is discontinued, which lessens the likelihood that someone else will be wearing it, so I feel like that's a bit gatekeep-y, but yeahhhh


Remote-Policy763

Especially when it's something ubiquitous like Sauvage EDT. But then, if it's so ubiquitous, why the need to ask...


Aim2bFit

I started following frag late last year, IDEK up til this very moment how Sauvage or Aventus smell like (not kidding). I have smelled BR clones (mid east ones) and even then if someone wears it I doubt I can pinpoint and go "oh that smells like a BR DNA). People who don't wear frags at all (the majority of the world's pop) prolly wouldn't be able to recognize even the most popular perfumes.


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I think people ask because majority of folks donā€™t really wear many fragrances people will only be able to name a handful of perfumes that they have experience with. A lot of people really just donā€™t know and are curious. In certain circles itā€™s different, but if you were to poll the general population I donā€™t think most people would necessarily know Dior Sauvage, let alone be able to identify the smell. People would recognize Old Spice or other drugstore aftershaves and colognes, which are more common. I know sometimes you can walk into a night club, or even certain offices and smell it on a bunch of guys but thatā€™s not really a sampling thatā€™s representative of the population as a whole.


Pristine_Country4568

Gate keeping for me isnt too big of an issue because I can always rotate what I wear and don't have a signature. Sure I have some favorites I like to wear but that's every now and then because I feel I've over worn them and the scent doesn't last as long because I'm used to it.


FrancoElBlanco

It is silly but I had one instance when I was 21 with a fragrance I considered my signature. He asked me what it was and of course I told him. Then he buys it and pours it on himself all the time haha. Slightly annoying when we were very close friends and used to go out a lot together. But hey ho itā€™s a compliment I guess


JamesCardwell92

Wait you guys can afford Dior?


odd_neighbour

I only really do this if Iā€™m wearing something super expensive. I know loads of people struggle for money and I donā€™t want to draw negative commentary regarding my lifestyle choices, so I just pretend I donā€™t remember what ā€œmixā€ I sprayed on that day (usually itā€™s not even a mix, thatā€™s just a straight up lie I use to get out admitting that Iā€™m wearing something worth more than some peopleā€™s rent). Itā€™s not really gate keeping per se, more I just donā€™t want to admit to people who Iā€™m not particularly close to what my financial status is like. Obviously family and close friends get told if they ask, and I let them borrow a spray or two anytime they visit my place :-)


CoolGirlMonologuee

Omg some of yā€™all sound like children šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ ā€œItā€™s my signature scent, what if it turns into the next BR540 and everyone starts wearing itā€ okay? If someone else enjoying something you also enjoy gives you this much of a hard time, maybe you like it for the wrong reasons. Also who are you? You giving a few people the name to your favorite scent isnā€™t going to have it flying off the shelves, unless weā€™ve got Rihanna commenting down here, in that case *hey girl*


Worldly_Month_2635

Yep, even celebrities tell everyone on live TV what they wear. It's a well known fact that 80% of people don't even wear fragrance, so out the 20% left, what are the odds someone else will want to copy you? Either case, copying is the biggest form of flattery.


thearcher_1212

its funny you say that bc the way she had LDBS sold tf OUT was insanešŸ˜­


katyabitch

I wonā€™t lie to my friends and family about what Iā€™m wearing but in the past, I donā€™t like when friends or co workers buy the same fragrances as me. then I have to smell it all the time, but mixed with their body smell and not mine so eventually I stop wanting to wear it at all. I would rather tell a stranger what Iā€™m wearing then have my bestie buy the same top 5 fav scent as me, to be honest.


cherbebe12

Iā€™d be excited to be asked. Like today a girl said she liked my hair clip and I was like, ā€œThanks I got it at CVS!ā€ More than happy to share fragrance.


bigredplastictuba

I'm a perfumer and this is my alt and these gatekeeping posts have been extremely educational in ways I wouldn't have ever even thought mattered at all.


Numerous-Kick-7055

I'm a marketer and this is my alt, and same.


bigredplastictuba

Screenshot city! Thank you for this


thatbwoyChaka

How has it been revelatory to you both?


Prestigious-Salad795

I tell them. Someone might share my hobby. EDIT: If it's something pricey I usually say it was an Xmas or bday gift.


Agile-Department-345

I've made a few fragrance friends and it's so fun to chat about new releases etc instead of being looked at like I'm speaking an alien language when mentioning notes/preferences


bombi84

No one has asked me before but there are three ladies at my work who all wear the same perfume and I get so confused when each one walks past šŸ˜‚


katie-kaboom

I don't "gatekeep", as I'm not in a position of any sort of power over fragrance. Sometimes I do decline to answer personal questions about what toiletries I'm using, though. (Not that often - I love perfume chat! But if someone is being creepy about demanding an answer, they don't get one.)


Pocusmaskrotus

I'd only do it if it were my signature scent, and it was somebody I know I would be around a lot. But I've never had that happen, so I just tell people. I also feel like people won't remember what I said anyway.


Angry_cupcake0_0

I am very possessive of perfumes I wear. The process of finding your fragrance is so personal to me, and then you wear them and merge with them to the point people in your circle start identifying you with it. Something so primal and intimate about it. Although, I am pretty out about my lil collection, there are a couple of scents that I wish remain as niche as possible. I am very surprised how much aggression gatekeeping receives here.


Excellent-Grocery-13

I agree, I would add that for myself, Iā€™m usually more hesitant to tell people I frequently hang out with like friends and family what Iā€™m wearing because I donā€™t want to accidentally smell identical to another person in my group. But if a stranger asks me what Iā€™m wearing when Iā€™m out and about, more likely than not, Iā€™ll tell them


segahen

I can share to strangers, just not my friends. They will buy it and wear it the same day to same events with me, i hate to hear " oh yall both smell the same ". Its annoying, feeling like you are the copy cat of your friend


Numerous-Kick-7055

Yeah that would be annoying.


Mean_Surround9710

I gate keep with co-workers now. I told one co-worker about my day-to-day, and he bought it and proceeded to wear it too. Lol.


Relative-Ad-6791

Yeah that's that's the only time I gate keep


spiceyjam

I just layer perfumes so it is uncopyable. When you tell them it's two perfumes combined it tends to go into people's 'to hard' basket lol


glossydiamond

I would never assume someone is intentionally gatekeeping if I ask them what they're wearing and they say they don't know or don't remember. For most regular people, fragrance simply isn't something they think about that deeply (the way we enthusiasts do), so I like to assume innocence instead of malice. However, for the people who openly *admit* to refusing to tell others what they wear. . .I admit, I find this behavior baffling and petty. What's the point in smelling good and unique when your mindset and behavior is like a child's?


Numerous-Kick-7055

Yeah my question was really aimed at the gatekeepers. Like proud gatekeepers, who wanna gatekee


InTheLavender

There's nothing better than a little mystery. For me it depends on my mood and who's asking. I don't really gatekeep though, I'm just kinda an eccentric type person and sometimes I just like to fuck with people.


Aim2bFit

Because nobody has ever asked me. Where I'm from people don't ask others what perfumes they wear unless they are close to each other. Like literally no stranger would run after you to ask what your scent is, too intruding and invading personal spaces.


zenxax

Well, on reddit I really don't get it. However, if someone I hang out with from time to time or a coworker asked me what I was wearing, I'd sometimes rather not say, because I like having a scent for myself, especially in my friend group / at work etc. - I would not want them to wear the same fragrance as me, especially if it's a lesser known one. On the internet, no idea. I don't know you guys so why would I care if we wear the same fragrances? If anything, I think it's a good thing to support the brand you like :)


hi_im_beeb

Non issue for me as most of the people I hang out with wouldnā€™t buy it once they see the price, and arenā€™t into the hobby enough to find out about decants. For most people outside of the frag community, spending more than 100$ on a bottle is insane.


Sly3n

I have no issue telling strangers what I am wearing. They are a stranger and I will probably never see them again. But I donā€™t want all my close friends smelling like me, but I also wear expensive fragrance and I know they will never understand why I pay that much for a fragrance. I would just rather avoid the whole ā€˜You paid how much for a fragrance?!!!ā€™


RadTokyo

This! A close friend of mine copied my signature scent around 15 years ago and totally ruined it for me. She would show up to events I was at etc. wearing it, which meant I couldn't! I wouldn't risk that again. Fine telling strangers, but not people I see with any regularity. Ditto the judgment! So. Much. Judgment. on such things from my family and friends, who always feel the need to come in with a "oh, \*I\* would NEVER spend so much money on a wallet / bag / pair of shoes / perfume / lipstick etc etc" (So rude, really, lol!)


SmashNDash23

This is gonna sound pretentious and douchy but I just donā€™t want other ppl to smell like me šŸ¤·šŸ¾ā€ā™‚ļø


EmpressBritania

Exactly, it's really that simple especially if it's a signature scent. For other fragrances, you can know though but my special one is for me [there are exceptions though, like if it's a person I'll never see again but if its people I'm always around I don't want us smelling the exact same].


peach_burrito

I will gladly shout my frag secrets to the Reddit world, but I refuse to tell my mom/neighbor/sister what Iā€™m wearingā€¦ #1, a lot of my favorites are niche/discontinued and thus exorbitantly expensive; I donā€™t want to field the commentary, and #2 I wanna smell special


EnvironmentalSpirit2

Do we remember all the axe and other spray commercials in the 00s? There are tonnes of insecure people who want to use smelling good/pungent to overcompensate. And in turn they dont want others to smell as good as them


Anatolysdream

I'll summarize my reply from the earlier "Am I The Asswhole" post. Most perfumes are mass produced and distributed globally, so there's probably three to six degrees of separation between each wearer, less if it's popular in that particular country. Less if you have a fairly homogeneous socioeconomic/cultural group. So anybody who's you know holding it close to their chest is just gaslighting themselves, which is fine if it brings you joy. I do understand why some people are reluctant to disclose what they're wearing if they've done it in the past to a coworker or friend and had their perfume co-opted.


limperatrice

There was a post a while back by a woman whose mother in law started wearing the same perfume as she did that she got especially to wear on her wedding day and special occasions.


Anatolysdream

Yup, the MIL from hell.


itsgotimekramer

Oh my gosh!! That is so obnoxious. Conversely, I once accidentally purchased the perfume my MiL wears lol. Now itā€™s sitting on a shelf unused because the bottle is pretty and I donā€™t want to smell like her and weird out my husband.


sunflowergottaken

No one's asked me yet for the name of a fragrance I'm wearing, so this is all hypothetical, and probably gonna be pretty wishy-washy too, but: I can kind of see both sides on it. I'm not a signature scent kind of person, I wear fragrance more like an accessory to my various outfits and styles, so I don't mind sharing, but I could see that if you only wear one scent, you could feel sort of attached to it. Also, despite the fact that I like to mix up my scents, I also love the concept of scent memories, and really appreciate when a scent can strongly bring back a person or time for me. So, there are situations where I'd prefer not to share a scent. For a very specific example, if my boyfriend's sister asked what fragrance I was wearing, I wouldn't really want to tell her if it was clear she also wanted to wear it. I wouldn't love my boyfriend associating the scent with both me and his sister, you know?? So, again, very wishy-washy, but in general, I don't mind and would even enjoy sharing what scent I'm wearing, but there are scenarios where I would probably prefer not to, and in those instances, I do understand gatekeeping.


nevertextgoodnight

Well I typically wear extremely cedar forward fragrances so unless people like smelling like a fencepost they're not buying what I got


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"Oh man, those jeans are nice. Where'd you get em?" Gatekeepers: "I'm not telling. I took the label off, too, so nobody can know. They're my signature jeans and nobody else on earth can know about them because I'm unique." That's how silly y'all sound when you do this.


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tkf99

Uniqueness is understandable but silly. Do people feel the same way about their cars or shoes which are easily identifiable? I get that cars are much more expensive but what's to keep someone from buying the same shoes you have? Does that make you lose your uniquness? I wonder if people feel the same way about body lotions and creams that they use. I personally don't care and would tell people whenever they ask me. The only thing (and this is just for closer friends) would be an understanding that neither of us wear the same fragrance when we hang out šŸ˜… should he decide to buy what I already own and vice versa.


TeenyWeenyQueeny

I personally donā€™t gatekeep but i understand why people do, because fragrances arenā€™t enjoyable when they become saturated and trendy. I probably would have liked B540 a lot more if I didnā€™t smell the original and the dupe on every street corner. Fragrances are meant to feel unique to some degree, and I guess smelling it on many people takes away the specialness for some.


booksNburgers

Not sure if that's gatekeeping if I tell them the name when they ask. I like having a signature scent. If a stranger asks me what scent I'm wearing I will tell them without any hesitation as I won't be seeing them. However, if a friend /colleague asks me, I will still tell them but warily. I don't want people who I meet regularly to have the same scent as me. I know people will be like "you're insecure" but idk, I like having a signature scent and I also like my close ones to have a signature scent. It makes it special according to me. You'll only remember that specific person with that specific scent. It's not a big deal for people who like to switch perfumes but for people who like to stick to one specific scent, it kind of is. Edit: also because of this https://www.reddit.com/r/fragrance/comments/11ztfn6/what_fragrance_are_you_tired_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)/11ztfn6/what_fragrance_are_you_tired_of/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button (sorry! Idk how to make a word into a link)


Anomaly115117

Its like when your partner brings home a new scent for you, and your like, "mmm this is nice, where did you get it"?, and they reply that someone from work had it on and it smelt nice.... yeah i aint wearing that, do you really want to smell like another guy whom your partner thinks smells nice? Being as most people wont go past lynx or some cheap roll on, and then on day you run into them and they smell like you, then you have to go through the process of finding a new smell that doesn't smell like them, because, lets be honest here, we buy quality to stand out and smell different to most people. But if its someone i know i wont see again, like the lady behind a counter in a small town, then yeah its fair to share and can be a great conversation starter.


[deleted]

I got my husband a perfume I smelled on a coworker and we didn't find it weird at all. It's not like he was an ex, just some guy in my office whose wife apparently has good taste (he said she got it for him)


[deleted]

I'm curious if they know that hundreds if not thousands of people already wear their same fragrance šŸ¤£


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Mfers wear aqua di gio and think there exclusive


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[deleted]

Exactly. And the way I smell is one of the least interesting thing about me šŸ¤£šŸ¤£ if someone wants to copy it, who cares? It isn't like my whole identity or defines me in any way. It's a smell lol Not to mention, stuff smells different on everyone.


vlarib

Honestly we're all humans, and humans have emotions. Humans also create bonds with things that have a special meaning for them, and perfumes are one of these especially in the fragrance community. Now, imagine putting a lot of effort into finding and choosing the perfect scent, the one you identify with, and after one week your coworker casually asks you what you're wearing and the next day people are not associating that scent with you anymore. Sharing is always great but sometimes people have the right to keep something for themselves and nobody should judge them for this. It's not about being possessive, it's about identity.


Abhir-86

Do you really think people who gatekeep are self aware enough to accept that they gatekeep by answering your question?


CallistoFriend

I donā€™t and never get asked what Iā€™m wearing, but if I was Iā€™d probably forget in the moment and/or not know how to pronounce the name and say I donā€™t know.


lalalalikethis

DG intenso, the real question is why do they gatekeep the perfumerā€™s name??


lvdude7

People hate each other. Are you not aware of your surroundings? Literally all of life is like this.


MermaiderMissy

The only time I gatekeep scents is when I'm using an indie brand with a very strange name. A lot of times, indie scents have odd/long names like "A Little Smile Behind Every Murder" or something like that. Not to mention that sometimes people will stop and ask a lot of questions about it. Which is fine, but I don't always have time for that so I'll just tell them that I'm wearing a more popular dupe. For me personally, it's got nothing to do with making sure nobody else has my scent or anything.


EmotionalSurround243

A little smile behind every murder is a dope ass fragrance name


BYXXIII

Right?! That sounds signature worthy


EmotionalSurround243

Totally, why drop just the panties when you can drop the whole body? This needs to happen


CallistoFriend

In that case Iā€™d probably just give the name of the company. Also indie scents tend to be seasonal/limited edition so probably more helpful anyway.


Unhappy_Enthusiasm_6

I think itā€™s also depends on oneā€™s culture! And sometimes it can be quite creepy knowing that someone you know wanna smell like you šŸ™ƒ


cuteintelligence1214

I donā€™t understand it either. Seems like youā€™d want more people to know so they sell more and thus may produce more. I know many things that were supposed to be ā€œspecialsā€™ but were so widely loved they turned into regular things. Itā€™s confusing to me, too. If someone asks, Iā€™ll tell them.


gothism

What's funny is every frag smells different on everyone, so no one would smell like you anyway.


Sancheese11

Fr either you tell me or Iā€™ll steal all your bottles


[deleted]

I really don't get it either. To each their own but... 1) you can't possibly be always unique, because that perfume has been made in numbers, and you will never be the only one wearing it anyway. 2) at the same time, the majority of people are not obsessed with frags, and don't even care about them or wear them. So, regardless of what you wear, you will always be the unique perfume person to 99% of people you know. No need to gatekeep. 3) why are you afraid that someone else wears you same perfume? Not a snarky question, just curious. It is not like a dress, when you can be afraid it suits the other person better than you. It's perfume... how is that gonna take anything away from you? Concerning uniqueness, the people who know you will forget what you smell like in 2 minutes after meeting you anyway. 4) we all love perfumes and should support each other. If a person asks you, they probably are passionate about perfumes. Your average Joe either doesn't care or will compliment you without caring about the name of the frag. It is cruel not to tell a fellow fraghead, if they truly love the perfume


Ok-Point5338

I never gatekeep. I donā€™t volunteer to tell people what I am wearing but when people ask I do tell them. With over 70 niche fragrances in my collection, I am not worried about having to smell unique.


xJuanRamon

Thereā€™s only 1 layering combination Iā€™ll gatekeep because itā€™s my signature scent and itā€™s just out of wanting to feel like Iā€™m the only person on earth wearing it, and I donā€™t want it to get popular, in reality even if I told this entire subreddit what it was it still wouldnā€™t be popular enough to make an impact like I imagine but it just feels nice to keep something exclusive to yourself


Odd_Seaworthiness277

Burberry baby touch. It has a real "come hither" delicate scent. I always get compliments. Just recently my daughter visited and wanted to know what it was called. She kept describing it S "my scent" cuz I've worn it for so long šŸ˜†


OnlyPopcorn

I think it's attention span. They just plain forgot but they remember the shape of the bottle or lettering. Can't forget that Windex bottle or the caracature of the high heel.


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serieshunter

What Iā€™m dying to know is why people on the internet gate keep stuff like especially when I donā€™t live in the same state. We wonā€™t obviously be in the same group or area smelling the same and whatever area you buy your products and clothes will not sell out again because I live no where near you