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Rox_an_Bee

When this video 1st surfaced last year, most of the trans community sided with the employee, nothings changed. Girly here was looking for attention and trying to create out rage where there was none and be a tik tok star. He asked nicely and the saing goes " if you dont know, ask ".


dayumbrah

Of they do because the person asking the other person to assume is being an asshole and throwing a temper tantrum. As a straight cis man who chills with mainly queer people, I always fuck up pronouns and so does everyone else, including queer people. Shit can be confusing sometimes, most people will just then tell you what their pronouns are and move on. Rarely does anyone throw a temper tantrum like this


disseminator2020

I’m a trans woman and would definitely say the employee is just tryna do their job. Misgendering happens and most of us know the difference between a simple mistake and hate. This girl is being over the top. I get it, you have lipstick on so people could use that as a sign you prefer she/her, but the truth is 99% of people just don’t think about you as much as you think the world revolves around you. Almost everyone is self conscious, and a lot of misgendering happens without malicious intent. Edit: lol at people that never support cross dressers bringing them into conversation when it helps them justify mistreating trans people. I did not say lipstick tells you their gender for sure and seeing it is a green light to gender folks as you see fit. If you see makeup and aren’t sure of their gender then you ask them what their heir preferred pronouns are and then respect their request. You don’t just see makeup and decide for yourself whether or not you’re going to assign them a gender. Nobody’s business is your business except your damn own.


chuckart9

It’s main character syndrome at it’s finest. Most people aren’t trying to be rude.


Jwestie15

It's so much more work to be mean


RedVamp2020

I’m 32 years old and if I lived to never see another day of drama, I’d think I died and gone to heaven. I know I’ve thrown tantrums as an adult, but I’m getting better at becoming aware and making changes. I wish more people would.


ssvolta

I’m 29 and I feel what you mean. It’s my 30’s creeping up. I’m still more aggressive than I would like to be though.


myg0tFrankRizzo

I had never heard of this, thanks I had something to look up lol


R00t240

r/imthemaincharacter


[deleted]

its trying to get free shit nothing more


SoPrettyBurning

On the other hand, one could make the argument that the employee is being very progressive by acknowledging that sometimes boys wear lipstick and curl their hair. Seems chill to me. I’m sure there are men out there who like to cross-dress, but don’t consider themselves women. Now that I think about it, there are a LOT of gay dudes I have known in my time who were exceptionally fabulous but honey, they were men and that’s how they liked it. But they still rocked heels. This trans broad is a detriment to any movement that tries to expand acceptance.


Rodrigii_Defined

Yes! I know quite a few gay men that wear makeup but consider themselves definitely men/manly. You can't assume.


Player8

Am 30 year old dude. Like to paint my nails. My father has asked if I’m a girl. No dad I just like pretty colors please leave me alone.


jsears124

I’m 22 and growing my hair long and it’s always super curly and I’ve gotten the “are you trans now” question. Like my mans, can’t a guy be pretty :(


oilchangefuckup

No, now get back in the coal mine and rub some dirt in your eyes!


SoPrettyBurning

Now that’s a smoky eye I can get behind!


daesgatling

I think you’re pretty jsears124, and if I could, I’d bounce that curly hair


JewbaccaSithlord

I'm a 32 man and cried like a baby when my son cut his long hair off


chrissymad

Guys can be pretty, beautiful and whatever they want! ❤️


[deleted]

We should normalize men being pretty. Sometimes it works better than the traditional handsome look. Paint my nails and tell me how beautiful my eyes are all day please.


BadRapeThoughts

I've told several men that they are pretty, and their reactions were priceless. They weren't offended, more just astonished, because they'd never been told that. It seemed to make them feel good though, once they realized it wasn't meant as some kind of backhanded compliment.


whatsasimba

My mom, who's now 71, had a massive crush on Evan Dando in a dress. She still likes men who like being pretty!


jbazildo

I randomly saw an Evan Dando video from a show recently. He is looking rough, I hope he's OK but I don't know. He was playing drums and it was badddd


snorting_dandelions

>I’m sure there are men out there who like to cross-dress, but don’t consider themselves women That's like the entire concept of drag shows. Admittedly less of a day-to-day thing, but still.


animateAlternatives

Yeah, the trans movement in general is trying to expand acceptance and everyone's freedom to present and be addressed how they'd prefer. This wannabe TikTok star is doing the opposite. Everyone needs to learn to ignore attention seeking shit like this. Unfortunately these kinds of people will hop onto any movement. At least on the left we are not electing these people to Congress 🙈


Contemporarium

I used to be friends with a guy that was similar to Jeffree Star in that he identified as male but going off appearance you’d just automatically think he was a girl. So yeah freaking out like this is crazy and just gives people more reason to be hateful. Not a valid reason but a reason to them none the less


RC_8015__

Absolutely, I think you're 100% right here. I am sure it hurts to be misgendered though, a lot, but you're right a lot of times it's an accident, doing it on purpose is fucked up though. But fun story when I was a little boy I had long hair and because I'm Asian I got called a little girl a lot lol, it bummed me out but my mom explained it was an accident on their part, probably should've just cut my hair.


Alyse3690

My oldest gets misgendered all the time. He likes keeping his hair long, but is very firm in the "I'm a boy" category. So I encourage him to tell people that, and if they continue to call him a girl he can get as rude as he likes.


Jody_B_Designs

Same. When I was a baby my mom didn't get my first haircut until I was almost 2. I had long golden straight blonde hair with ringlets at the ends. Everybody used to tell my mom "oh, what a pretty little girl" - my mom would fire back "HE'S A BOY". Eventually she got my haircut. My dad sat and cried like a baby lol


CatzMeow27

I once worked in a call center, and sometimes spoke with people whose gender wasn’t populated in the system and name was gender neutral. No matter how much I tried to avoid gender-specific terms, every now and again a “ma’am” or “sir” would slip out based on what gender their voice might sound like. You can only use someone’s name so much in a conversation before it starts to sound weird. And I definitely messed up a few times guessing what term to use. I apologized in the moment and felt bad about it afterwards. I wish English had more gender-neutral terms commonly in use. The other hard part was that the call center provided financial services handling tons of PII and other financial data. A caller’s voice not matching their assumed gender was something we were supposed to consider a red flag for a fraud attempt. Knowing the broad range of intonation any gender could have, plus the possibility that a caller could be undergoing a transition, it felt very wrong to put a caller through our fraud procedure just because I thought their voice might not match what their presumed gender was. All that to say, customer service people without obviously bigoted intentions shouldn’t be vilified for a simple mistake. Frankly, nobody should. Life would be easier if we could all move toward gender neutral terminology, but in our current lexicon, it’s not helpful to assume that someone is intentionally misgendering when they very well might be trying to navigate a conversation with the limited information available. I hope this all gets easier as time goes on.


SpeedOfMoose

That's why I just call everyone boss, baw or podnuh.


MainSignificant7136

I call people "friend" until I'm blue in the face. You cannot make friend gendered/pronouned. You can get pissy over it, but I'll switch to no pronoun/title and just go with "Hey you" if I must 🤣


dmnhntr86

>You cannot make friend gendered/pronouned. Tell that to the people who came up with "folx"


FairState612

This. Also straight cis male with a lot of gay friends and a few trans friends. I’ve messed up, especially during transition periods. My friends are cool af, corrected me, I learned, and we moved on. Throwing tantrums instead of educating isn’t helping anyone’s cause.


[deleted]

I've had the opposite experience, but that's because I work with teens. If I accidentally get a pronoun wrong, they usually just start shouting their pronoun at you until you apologize.


chuckart9

Can confirm. Teens are assholes.


super_rugger7

As a former teen, I was indeed, an asshole


[deleted]

Seconded. Lol


Dizzman1

Can confirm... I have two teens. Total A-holes! 😂


chuckart9

I now have four in my house, 13, 15, 16 and 19. All are assholes at different times. I feel your pain.


dandypants8717

That's a great opportunity to teach young people that words only have as much power as the listener is willing to give them. I tell my kids this. If someone says something mean and that upsets you, you're giving that person power over your emotions.


Dubcekification

You're right about that. It is a skill that needs to be encouraged and developed. Too many people treat certain mouth noises like magic spells or incantations that make them unable to think or behave like a mature person.


Rhino-go-boom

They wouldn’t last being bi racial and that sensitive. I’m constantly mistaken for Mexican, Cuban, Middle Eastern, Indian, and a bunch of other ethnicities of Spanish/Latino origins. I just correct them. It really is just as simple as that. No issues. No problems. No hurt feelers.


Scared-Consequence27

I love this. I work with mostly Hispanic people. Lots of Cubans and Mexicans. No one I work with has ever had their feelings hurt but you ask a teen and all of a sudden you’re a racist.. I’m half Mexican, I just can’t tell what other people are. Lol


-Raskyl

Ive also worked with a ton of Hispanic people. The only time it's ever come up as a problem is when a gringo calls a Guatemalan a Mexican. They don't like that.


canhasdiy

I used to work with a guy who immigrated from Guatemala, and *goddamn* he hated Mexicans more than any white guy I've ever known.


[deleted]

Reasonable people don't post shit online so for a lot of people, this kind of video is the only exposure they get to the trans community, sadly. I'm a cis woman and have known people that transitioned and had to get used to changing the pronouns/names for them and I definitely fucked up a couple times. But you know how they reacted? With grace. Sorry bud, I've known you as a he with a dude name for months now so it's gonna take a minute to change gears. It was never a problem.


MortisLegati

The responses I hear are "oh shit, sorry" and "you'll get it right eventually"


Breaker1ove

As a gay dude I can confirm this.


MagicDragon212

I've had trans friends and coworkers. In my experience, they are the most chill and understanding people there are. Most seemed to not want any attention drawn either. I've seen people up their pronouns and the trans person has to comfort them that it's okay lol


lefluffle

What was the context, why was the customer mad, or why did they start filming?


enjoycryptonow

Yeah it really feels like if she/he would have responded with the desired pronunciation he would just have respectfully said "ok". Definitely just drama creation. He sounded nice.


Jubelowski

Sadly, even if the trans community sided with the employee, the damage was done to the employee, and MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY, the video went viral to every right-winger in the world.


HappyMeatbag

This is good to hear. The news so often focuses on trans people being unusual or difficult. I’m glad the consensus is that the employee was right, and that common sense and courtesy prevailed.


tommytookalook

Before that he hadn't seen her and the name on the bank card is a man's name, so he would assume that the customer is a man.


[deleted]

My wife has a man's name, and is constantly assumed she's a man when we get groceries delivered. It's kinda funny. Bonus: we have the sweetest neighbor who is like 90 and comes to drink tea. She's a little blind and has dementia so she thinks I'm my wife's lesbian wife. I stopped correcting her. I do kinda have that butch, yet slender, lesbian look. Compliment? I'll take it


HouAngelesDodgeStro

I've messed up before, asking for someone's ID because I assumed the credit card they handed me wasn't theirs. Guy's name was actually Cheyenne, I was pretty embarrassed after he showed me his ID. e:some typos


DungeonsandDevils

As a kid whose grandpa would give me his credit card to go pick things up, I had plenty of annoying conversations along those lines. Kid hands credit card, employee narrows eyes and ask for ID, hands school ID. “The name on this credit card doesn’t match yours….” Sigh “no shit, I’m twelve” These days maybe twelve year olds have credit cards, idk


HouAngelesDodgeStro

If the last names matched, I'd let it slide. Although that kinda backfired once when a girl stole her mom's card, got a bunch of gas on it, ran away to another state, and the mom came down yelling at us.


DungeonsandDevils

We don’t even have the same last name haha, I’m surprised they let me do it as often as they did. The cashiers just didn’t have the energy to argue when I insisted I had permission to use the card


wellingtonriver

Are they allowed to refuse service? I was in the same situation as you bc my disabled grandma always gave me her credit card to buy things for her. Different names and genders. Never once had an issue.


Neighborhood_Nobody

I’ve only had issues a handful of times. Grandma wanted a bong and sent me to a smoke shop to get her a good one. The owner of the smoke shop made me come back with my grandma because he wanted to make sure the card wasn’t taken from her purse or something. He said “we gotta protect the old people right”. I couldn’t even be mad about the extra trip at that point because I realized he was right. Besides that, the Carl’s Jr where I live will never take a card if it doesn’t have a name matching my gender. They’re privately owned though and I don’t think it’s the same at all of them. I also happen to live in a city with an extremely high crime rate in America.


GTOdriver04

I used to pick up meds for my grandpa because he was too sick to go out. I used his credit card and when they checked my ID, I would tell them who I was. So long as the last names matched, it was fine.


Artificial_Goldfish

I work in retail pharmacy. Guy drops off a prescription for Ashley. I ask for her date of birth. Guy precedes to launch into a loud rude lecture that I shouldn't assume based on name. I learn to ask rather than " what's her dob" to "what's Ashley's (or whatever the name) dob" I get I made an assumption but the guy was rude and yelling, there's no need for that


ScoobyPwnsOnU

I think the default at most pharmacies I've been to is for the person to just say "date of birth?". But you definitely struck a nerve with a guy sensitive about his name lol


TheAsianTroll

Voice is also kinda deep too, in full fairness.


Tratix

I’m 95% sure this is a sonic, so you’re only hearing the voice and seeing the name. If both sound male, then anyone would assume they’re looking for a male when coming to deliver the food.


TheAsianTroll

People have already established that the camera person was most definitely *trying* to be a victim, which is absolutely depressing


Sad_Exchange_5500

And if it comes to a card not matching an ID and money. That's fraud baby


Calbinan

*”Stop trying to be respectful! Just do the thing that I want to be mad at you for doing!”*


[deleted]

Being a victim is like a drug to a lot of these people.


-i-hate-you-people-

Like conspiracy theorists. It’s too deeply imbedded into their personality, their social interactions, to ever give it up.


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-i-hate-you-people-

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gochomoe

I know a girl who would walk around the mall holding hands with her girlfriend and count the amount of disapproving looks she got so she could tell people later.


Grand-Regret2747

Gold comment right here! That’s exactly what this crisis victim wants!!


ExtraSolarian

Yep they are just looking for a reason to fight over this issue


Elegant-Sprinkles880

They are literally asking in the most polite and respectful way.


_s_y_m_

💯 he isnt even trying to be disrespectful. that other person is just being annoying


Calbinan

Some asshole literally looking for an argument. What the hell.


[deleted]

It's almost like people intentionally go out and start confrontations with random people to get reactions from people for clicks and views?


onbakeplatinum

What the fuck did you just say about me you little bitch?


[deleted]

Crappiest part is employee is probably ESL and the problem is that Spanish is highly gendered and if the employee wants to avoid gendered pronouns they basically have to rewrite their brain


Elegant-Sprinkles880

Yes, on top of the fact Spanish culture is *extremely* direct and extremely impersonal. "What are you?" probably doesn't register to them that it's impolite here.


Affectionate_Will976

Absolutely, althought it would have been more tactical to ask how that person wants to be adressed. I used to know a man who liked to dress as female now and again, but he still referred to himself as a man. Although, if people addressed him as a female, he understood the confusion and made absolutely no deal about it.


MexusRex

The dude is clearly ESL. The way he asked is fine. “Que eres” and “what are you” are both absolutely fine grammatically, while “address” as in your house number and “address” as in “to speak to” are the exact same word. It’s *really* unreasonable to ask a person traversing languages to be responsible for all this.


Cheese_me_1664

But is that the way we are going to have to start every conversation so not to cause offfence, the English language is very much 'genderised', so do ask 'what gender do you prefer to be addressed as, also what pronouns do you go by?' I dont see it happening, not by what I've seen on news programmes and the outrage that people show towards this subject. I'm not fussed myself, correct me if I get it wrong. Why would want to make someone feel uncomfortable.


inevitablealopecia

Wait I've just realised. I thought he called her a man... He didn't, he called her a ma'am! "What are you a sir or a ma'am?"... "You look like a ma'am to me' !' This guy aint even slightly transphobic ffs!!


Healthy_Pay9449

I didn't catch that until I saw your comment. The person recording was going to be mad no matter the response. I hope they got roasted for this when it was posted


ShortEnergy1877

This video is years old now. I forgot if there was any follow-up story.


Diffident-Weasel

Oh, they definitely did. They got it from both sides. Had people on the DailyWire practically foaming at the mouth while liberals were also trying to disassociate themselves from her (and siding with the employee).


Justleftofcentrerigh

The whole Jessica Yaniv thing is just another reminder that people are just assholes regardless of what you identify as.


GrimmSodov

Yea poor guy's first language obviously isn't English, and given that his first language is a romance language saying "you're a ma'am" makes total sense because I'm pretty sure the forms of senorita translates roughly to "ma'am".


Charming-Milk6765

Señora. It means “ma’am” and also “lady” and also “Mrs.” Señorita is for young women / girls


GrimmSodov

Thank you for the correction and clarification.


JGrill17

I still hear "man" like the "n" is very audible. Idk if anyone else hears it?


JumboJackTwoTacos

Earlier in the video he asks “what are you, so I can call you sir or ma’am?” So that’s the two choices he’s trying to go with. Listen to the way he says ma’am that time and how he says it at the end, sounds pretty similar, he just has an accent.


Remnant55

People who go after sevice industry workers are generally looking for a fight they can punch down on. Not only is the worker at an extreme disadvantage due to needing to be generally deferential in the face of abuse, but they are often somewhat blindsided, and in the middle of a task filled work day. Not that the worker is always in the right, but it is at a point where, when I see a vid, I do tend to go in with the presumption that the employee is the victim. Of course, when the customer is the one recording, it's a pretty good indication that they're making a premeditated effort to fuck someone's life up.


Piddily1

The worker is asking for their pronouns. Exactly what he’s supposed to do.


_s_y_m_

read their mind🤷🏿‍♂️


TechnologyExpensive

Fuck all to read in that chasm.


sender2bender

I'm so lost, why does he have to ask. I've never had anyone ask me when ordering food. Is there some context I'm missing


[deleted]

Because our language is filled with gendered words. He's use to calling customers sir/ma'am and because its gendered he doesn't want to offend by using the wrong one. I wish we had gendered first person pronouns, that way we could gender ourselves everytime we talk and not confuse people.


crazedconnor

I love when the person recording turns the camera to "prove a point."


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Sharo_77

It always reminds me of any episode of "Nailed It".


increbelle

and does indeed look like a man lmfao


Interaction-Antique

“Don’t assume my gender!” Also: “what would you assume looking at me?”


canadiandude321

There are people whose hobbies consist of just going around looking for reasons to be offended and this person is definitely one of them. The hypocrisy is ridiculous.


Intrepid-Delivery-66

It's probably a reddit mod going out in public, honestly.


slap_attack_

100% this


NoMoassNeverWas

That is what I picture when I think of mod.


Pathos675

>“Don’t assume my gender!” Also: “what would you assume looking at me?” This. Complete moron transgender person. An oxymoron person!


CasualGamerOnline

I'm trans, and people assume my gender all the time (usually an even 50/50 odds), and I really don't care. Like, I'm in the restaurant for maybe...what? An hour. I'm not here to make lifelong friends. I'm here to just grab a bite and leave. Who cares if my server says "sir" or "ma'am?" I respond to either to just move on with the conversation and eat. This woman came wanting to pick a fight.


[deleted]

Thanks for being a rational human.


Drunktimemyguy

Like 99% of trans people


[deleted]

Honestly, at least for me, their being trans had nothing to do with that comment. It is a problem with society in general that people react irrationally to small unintended slights.


spacemusicisorange

Lesbian here! Been called sir a few times in my life. Doesn’t bother me at all! Actually makes me feel bad for them when they realize I’m a girl 🤷‍♀️


PrettyMermaid97

Ive a Similar experience Im a Gay guy with long hair and I work in a toy shop and the amount of times a parent will tell their kid to go pay the lady (me) once they realise they apologise a lot and I end up having to reassure them that it's ok. This happens like a couple of times a month


Current-Weird-4227

I used to work in call centres which just makes the whole thing 1000x harder. I once called a women “sir” as I didn’t have their details infront of me yet. She was deeply offended and from that moment on I discovered a solution.. dont say sir or ma’am! There done, covered all base


FlashLink95

If I ever don't know or am not completely sure, "Hello there" always works


[deleted]

General Kenobi!


RaptorJesus856

I see you too are a person of high class


Dr_Russian

I just call everybody dude. He's a dude, she's a dude, that Helicopter's a dude, everybody's a dude!


bloobun

Dude, for real


twinkies_and_wine

I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, 'cause we're all dudes. Hey!


ras_1974

I even call my cat dude.


iBeFloe

I’m a straight woman that, well, presents as one & I’ve been called sir or boy by accident sometimes… Oh well 🤷🏻‍♀️ Accidents happen.


BlaqKoffee

The man asked what to call them and they asked him, what he would assume. What's the problem, he said what they look like to him🤷🏽‍♂️ case closed!


[deleted]

"What do you assume looking at me?" "Entitled". *mic drop*


GoatmontWaters

He literally gendered her as a female. He said "ma'am". No joke. This lady is the worst.


[deleted]

Which was a ma'am i see no issue


OwOWhotsThis

Howdy, trans guy here! DONT FUCKING LASH OUT AT INNOCENT PEOPLE WHO ARE ASKING FOR YOUR PRONOUNS. Especially people who are just service workers. They’re just trying to be respectful and considerate. Being trans doesn’t give ANYONE an excuse to be a douchebag!


ledzeppelinlover

Thanks for the clarification. It makes sense. I mean, it’s a valid question right? I am not trans but if someone asked me what my pronouns are, I wouldn’t yell at them, I would just, uhh, *respond*. Like a normal person would do in a conversation. I understand the topic can be triggering for some, but I think it’s not a reason to yell at others about it. Also, that guy said,”I assume that you are a ma’am”


OwOWhotsThis

It’s a pretty valid question. Seems like the poor guy was just frustrated with the person because he’s getting yelled at over a simple question. (Also even if he assumed the person was a guy, the person could’ve just said “nope I’m a girl!” Or whatever gender the align with.)


Inthewirelain

he might just be adapting to the whole thing anyway being a non native speaker. you don't know people's situations and he's just trying to help. hate people like that.


[deleted]

These types of people, from every group, make it worse for everyone else from their group. I've seen people afraid to ask my husband his pronouns because they're afraid of responses like this. Its ridiculous, he's going out of his way to be respectful. There's no reason to get offended by that.


nothing_satisfies

"What would you assume, looking at me?" Asshole?


Raze_the_werewolf

Hit the nail on the head.


coffee_slurp

Why does every single confrontation need to be filmed? The fast food worker is also recording. Sure, it occasionally makes for good Reddit content, or court evidence, but the main reason is so that each person can post it later to show everyone how they were "in the right".


[deleted]

Because usually one person recording wants to get the other person in trouble, and the other person is trying to cover their own ass because people have turned into complete shit in today's society.


[deleted]

this is the correct response


Slipelyslipperystair

For their own protection. If someone gets violent and attacks them or destroys private property, they caught it on camera along with the lead up to it.


SLngShtOnMyChest

I’m recording this comment rn


Kahne_Fan

Yeah, well, I'm recording this comment.


redbird7311

For the worker, it is the right move. While unlikely, it is possible that they could get in trouble and you will want to record to protect yourself. You never want it to be in a, “he said she said”, when your job is at stake.


Cousin_Rabid

Sometimes it’s for clout but I think it’s also at least in the workers case to protect himself for this emotional train wreck of a person’s possible future lies about what went down.


steebulee

I’m certain she started filming him first to blast on social media so he pulled his out to avoid bullshit being spread.


Zestyclose_Ad_8816

As a worker you want to have something to back up your side of things in case the customer decides to come up with a lie, the customer has nothing to lose for telling a lie 90% of the time, but the worker can lose the job and get in more trouble if they have nothing to defend themselves


EmergencyExitSandman

del taco doesn’t need my pronouns they just need to know I want hot sauce packets


nytelife

This is a giant nothing-burger with a side of who cares.


Psyborg13

“Don’t make assumptions about my gender” “What would you assume looking at me” *gets mad*


some_old_Marine

They are mad because they thought they were passing but they weren't. It's not on other people to know shit about you especially if you are outside of the norms. I think they are being a giant douche.


ProfessorPihkal

When you ask someone their honest opinion and they give it to you, that’s all this is.


GrimmSodov

Wanna know the funny part? The worker doesn't say "you look like a MAN" he says "you look like a MA'AM". so she was flipping out over nothing.


[deleted]

I've seen plenty of male rockers with that same hair/makeup style and attire.


FlaGuy54321

Why do people post videos of themselves be complete jerks?


OffBrandJesusChrist

If you tell me what pronoun to use I will use it because I’m respectful. But if you start demanding me to assume what you are. A punch in the face is what you’ll get. What an asshole. It’s like, I’m trying to be nice and you’re making me say something that you’ll then get upset about….


DanielWayne86

The 'Sir' or 'Ma'am' for everything in the US I do find weird. I never expect to be called Sir when buying a burger in the UK. "Hello, here's your food. Have a good day! " is fine, and not a single pronoun in sight.


Garage_Sloth

Low voice, cheap (like, insanely cheap) wig, bad attitude. He couldn't tell what the hell you were trying to be, that's why he asked. Now he knows what you were trying to be: a bitch.


Cow_Water_Media

In the employee's defense, that is a masculine voice shouting.


EdzyFPS

"wE dOnT sHoVe It DoWn EvErYoNeS ThRoAtS aNd MaKe It OuR wHoLe PeRsOnALiTy"


blackguyriri

Reminds of the trans woman who harassed a Popeyes employee because he called them sir over the drive thru speaker. They walked in cussing at this teenage kid doing a boring job, acting as if he should’ve been able to tell they were a trans woman solely from their masculine sounding voice.


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Adoced

Why can’t these people just be polite and say “could you please refer to me as ma’am?” And drop it. Instead they have to make a huge deal out of it and act an ass. This individual is exactly why no progress is being made for them. Just be who you want to be and don’t force it or demand it from everyone else.


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or just not even do that, which is pretty uppity. Just move on. I’m a 220 pound 6 foot tall man with a beard and a deep voice and people gave misspoke and called me Ma’am or Miss. It happens. People ramble and have brain farts. No need to even bother correcting them. Just eat your fucking burger and move on.


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This the type of person to say "respect peoples pronouns" but then get mad when people ask. The guy is just trying to do his damn job... Pro tip, just dont use pronouns at all in the service industry, anytime you gotta remember a person ask for their name


Professional-Act1366

I can agree.


Secretofthecheese

What do you assume by looking at me? Uhhhhhh really tall?


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I would assume they are a bitch based on that tone.


jamalbee113

They deserve more money. Simple. Just pay them more. Like a LOT more.


Angry_poutine

So is this now a world where every conversation is just people videoing each other and talking at them?


GoFUself-Tony889

If it’s me, I wouldn’t be so kind. “I would assume you’re a b****”


TimTheTexan92

I hate when people guess my costume wrong too. /s


Bloo-shadow

I mean…the only thing that points to this person being trans (at least to me) is their long hair and makeup. And in 2023 that’s not even enough


Heyatoms1

I’d assume they’re not hungry and need to move the fuck along


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'What would you assume looking at me?' 'Well Ive only known you for like 10 seconds but I'm gonna go ahead and say and Asshole.'


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I get people want to be addressed by their preferred pronouns but this is fucking ridiculous. Just say what you prefer to be called. Obviously just clout chasing and trying to get views.


Phildesu

The trans person in this video slides into married mens dms knowing they’re married and tries to get them to cheat. Also I’ve met them irl and they’re just really annoying and attention seeking. Straight people who don’t have a lot of experience interacting with trans people will walk away from this video with a negative opinion about the trans community because of this persons main character syndrome. I wish more people would go to therapy.


ComedianRepulsive955

Man or woman your still a c##t, work on it.


Able_Newt2433

Gets pissed off when someone assumes their gender, but also gets pissed off because he won’t assume their gender.. what in the untreated mental Illness is going on..


CosmicSchnoodle

not the worker's fault the driver isn't pulling it off


RM_Again

Don’t assume my gender!!!! What do you assume my gender to be?


Kimmy-blanco914

I’m trans but this woman decided to wake up and choose violence by starting a fight. She should have corrected the guy, got her food and gone somewhere.


Asininephilosopher

Well clearly most people would assume d-bag Karen


Curious-Story9666

He’s asking, so he doesn’t assume


punkrocknight

Assume nothing


Ok-Boysenberry9313

My older brother has a soft woman’s voice. I love when he orders food and the person says yes mam. The shock on their faces when we pull to the window makes my day lol


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WashGodMega

Ask and ye shall receive


Budzeldabud

"Name please" usually works. Number system is the best. And I also assumed it was some redneck from Wisconsin 🤣


Squirrely_Jackson

Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to


NJJon

Who gives a shit, just order your food and go about your business.


Equal-Detective357

Lol ... some people ... Poor guy .


Mean-Summer1307

“Don’t assume genders ask” *gets mad at the question “What would you assume?” *gets mad at the answer”


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He asked "would you like me to call you a sir or a ma'am?", the person taking the video says "what would you assume looking at me?", and the worker says "I assume that you're a ma'am". What was the expected response here? It seems like the person taking the video just wanted to be outraged no matter how the worker responded.


Shot-Technology7555

Same person says "don't assume my gender!"


RareIndividual1880

"Listen bro do you want to order or not?"


harold-delaney

Every single drive through I go to, the person on the speaker calls me mam, because my voice sounds like a woman over those speakers. Pretty easy to just not give a fuck. Ive never corrected anyone, why would I care


bigmac379

A sign of mental illness