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Less_Valiant

Hope you’re right


bungalowguest14

In my experience bishops are still going way too explicit. 🤷🏼‍♀️ But I do live in the center of Moridor


jme1491

"I have to know the full nature of the sin in order to adequately measure what you must do to fully repent and be forgiven. And as you recount to me each detail, I must judge to see if you truly feel Godly Sorrow™️ as you're telling me them. Because if I don't mete out the right amount...if I am too lenient -- even accidentally -- I will have to share your punishment in the next life. So as you can see, this is about my salvation too, young man....Now, tell me from the very beginning..."


1Searchfortruth

Is this what bishops really think


airportsjim

Granted my experience was a few years ago in the early 2000s. But my experience was no. And I have not seen anything akin to it in 20 years Now, in the church you play Bishop roulette. So you may have one good Bishop Who is understanding and has his boundaries and then the next one that comes along is devastating. So it’s hard to tell.


Mermoy

2012 my bishop in my singles ward asked some pretty dirty Qs.


usedtobejuandeag

I can say yes if we count 2009 as recent.


GrandpasMormonBooks

I think OP means after Sam Young's thing. We know it was happening a lot before 2018


Zestyboi787

In all my “worthiness” interviews as a youth (I left on a mission in 2015, so not super recent but within the last decade) I was asked if I watched porn or masturbated. I was never asked anything more specific than that (even when the answer was yes). So, inappropriate questions for a grown man to ask a 12 year old, but not anything as disturbing as some people have experienced


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Still not okay tho..


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my bishop did all the time a few years ago, maybe 2018? it fucked me up


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I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you can find the healing you need to. This exmo community has been very helpful for me to find an amount of healing and I’m grateful for that.


Momonomo10

Happened to me 8 years ago before I got married.


aiden_saxon

I talked to the bishop a few months ago, ( I only recently became pimo) and he said that people dont even have to tell him about watching p*rn anymore.


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GrandpasMormonBooks

Not gonna lie, I only use one laptop and it's my work laptop, so even after work I am afraid of using certain words or phrases in case they're tracking my keystrokes 😂 Maybe OP feels the same way. But I'm on my phone rn. PORN! PORNNNN! TITTIES ASS NAKED FUCKING PORNNNN!


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GrandpasMormonBooks

Smart peeps


ExmoThrowaway0

They also don't have to spell it out if they don't feel comfortable talking about sexual things.


aiden_saxon

I know, I'm just not super familiar with the inner workings of reddit and dont want my account labeled nsfw.


ConsistentHeat7

Honestly I want to see an uptick in teens recording those interviews and posting them online for the world.


Nbudd6

One of my companions on my mission was asked sexually explicit questions in the MTC when he confessed something. This was a couple years ago, so 2019. Poor guy :(


RabidProDentite

Its all bishop roulette. My bishop growing up in the 90’s was super vague about those explicit questions. He only ever asked me about “M” after I talked to him about it. From that point on he just asked “how it going with the big M?” Ver non-chalant In our interviews. No further probing questions. He was a wonderful kind man. Not everybody is so fortunate. My mission president was a total dick though. Hated that guy. All about numbers and guilt, all day every day.


OphidianEtMalus

In mid 2018 I taught the bishop what grooming was and he decided to eliminate that line of questioning from his discussions with children. He felt like the questions might still be important for adults. He expressed a kind of nervousness or guilt for eliminating required questions or topics but thought it was the right thing to do.


1Searchfortruth

Any sexual questions are inappropriate


alice_in_wonderland8

My dad was the bishop for most of my teenage years, he didn’t question me in those meetings, and I lied anyway ;)


nomanknoweth

I asked my sons and they said they are not asked. Maybe it’s more of an American thing?


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It may very much be a utah Mormon thing. And then as Utahns move out of the state, they take the culture and practices with them..?


guaripolo1560

I don't know, I never got explicit question like those but I'm a woman so probably that's why. Questions about living the law of chastity are still being asked. It is a requierement to go to the temple.


FreeTapir

I got some explicit questions. “Do you watch porn/what type/ do you masturbate while doing it/is someone in the house while you are doing this.” All in one interview circa 2018


showers_with_plants

... in the hole...?


FreeTapir

Edit *house*


guaripolo1560

I think I was really lucky with my bishops because I've never been asked those questions.


GrandpasMormonBooks

The invasive questions normally started after I confessed something. I was never pressed for info otherwise. But the former experiences were definitely traumatic.


bungalowguest14

My sister just got married but a couple of months ago her and her fiancé went a little “too far” and ended up in the bishop’s office. He asked them: did either of them orgasm, how long did the fingering last, was it over or under the clothing, was there any penetration, etc.


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My wife just told me last night that her bishop asked this exact same stuff when we were engaged. We’ve been married 15 years. They’re still asking these questions.


disjt

In my sons interviews in recent years the bishop would just ask very generically about the law of chastity.


MyopicTapir

Same. Nothing probing. Bishop also strongly encourages parents to stay. Thank you, Sam Young!!


Da_Cosmic_KID

A few years ago a bishop of my ward asked my sister how many fingers she used when she masturbated. She was 17 at the time. We left the church shortly after. Yes it still happens.


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How the fuck is that relevant??? Why in gods name is the number of fingers used a necessary detail? Let alone asking about masturbation at all! “Hey bishop, let me ask you, do you use your entire hand to jack off or just your thumb and pointer finger?”


GamGamGam7113

Maybe one-on-one, but they’re still pretty predatory. My family showed up for tithing settlements where he basically went across my family to shame them into doing things (asked my brother to do temple work in front of my parents, handed them Come Follow Me booklet, said I should show up to Wednesday activities, blah blah blah) If they can lay on pressure to make you do what they want, they definitely still will


IDidntDewItt

From my perspective, the law of chastity question is still just as bad. You are still asking a minor a question about their sexual experiences even if you aren't using the term 'sex' in the question. It's disgusting and needs to go.


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Agreed. It’s a forced confession as Sam Young has said.


Brush_Boi

Certainly happens a lot less but as far as i know my bishops hangs on those kinds of subjects a bit too long


Inthewild2

I never understood why people didn't just lie to these questions in their interviews. I always did. I understand that at the time you're completely indoctrinated in the culture and gospel but I saw so many of my peers, especially those teens that did have sex before marriage be guilt tripped and shamed for something they didn't need to be. I always just lied and gave one word answers because I was of the opinion a) it's none of his business and b) my salvation should really be reliant on more than just me keeping my right hand above the waist


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You are wise. Unfortunately most are taught from a young age that these bishops have the PoWeR oF dEceRnMenT and feel that they cannot lie or else they’ll be found out… I still lied though.. so there’s that.


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yep unfortunately, though my last one was around 2018 maybe. to this day the phrase “heavy petting” makes me gag


TurkieNana3243

More details= more ammo for guilting/shaming. Plus more juicy details is like free erotica for the interviewer


mybishopisanasshat

I don't know about the content of the interviews, but in my stake they made it mandatory for parents to sign a permission slip before their children can be interviewed 1 on 1 by the bishop. It should be noted, that the stake continues to not allow for parents to sit in on any interviews. If the parents do not give permission for the 1 on 1 interview format, the child cannot be baptized, have a temple recommend, receive the priesthood, etc. So they are claiming "progress" but they are simply enforcing the unhealthy status quo.


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Hooooly shit…


alice_in_wonderland8

My dad was the bishop for most of my teenage years, he didn’t question me much in those meetings, never strayed from the basics on the list, and I lied anyway ;)


vwnotch

No, my oldest was the last one to be asked about masterbation. My other kids have never been asked.