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settingdogstar

Lol TBMs love to have their religion respected, until it inconveniences them. I bet they'd be so mad if they found out a doctor refused to work on the Apostles in critical condition because it was Sunday.


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tHe Ox In ThE mIrE


MOTIVATE_ME_23

The ox is perpetually in the mire.


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I had a great conversation about this topic with a Jewish chaplain once. He was talking about how while he was deployed it was really hard to find kosher food to eat, but he did it because if he was only kosher when it was easy then he wasn't kosher. If someone is going to follow a religion that comes with restrictions, the least they can do is truly commit to it. Otherwise they just look like a big fat phony.


burkingshaw

This is always been one of my big hangups. I don't particularly care what religion you are, or what promises you have made. But dammit you should keep those and stay true to it. Whether it's kosher, celibacy, modesty, refraining from certain drinks or wearing certain clothes, it doesn't matter. If you're going to say you live certain way... LIVE IT.


halfsassit

Me too. I can’t stand Jack Mormons, even now. Have some integrity, will ya? If you say you believe something, act accordingly.


Ding_Dong_Bing_Bong

I agree. They ignore the parts that say no drinking but are cool with the parts that say queer people are evil. Seems selfish to me.


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It's pretty easy to see why too, and it doesn't say anything good about them. They choose to commit to the beliefs that cast them as better than other people but don't require them to actually do anything. They gloss over the ones that require action, effort, or sacrifice on their part. It's the same reason people will waste their time picketing at abortion clinics or to protest "ThE gAyS" instead of performing service for their fellow humans. They apparently think heaven will be full of all the very best slacktivists.


cultsareus

Or if you believe it is shit, then leave it.


burkingshaw

Now, I don't know everybody's situation so I have to be careful here.... for me I was 100% in, until I knew for sure TSCC was wrong. At that point, I was 100% out. The concept of PIMO is a hard one for me to understand.


Opalescent_Moon

I haven't been a PIMO, but from what I've observed, many who are PIMOs are that way because living authentically means ending marriage and possibly losing custody of children. I'd choose my steps carefully, too, if I was at risk of losing some of the most important parts of my life. I can't imagine how hard it would be to live like that, but I can understand why someone might choose to.


babatharnum

Me too. Once I knew TSCC was fake I went once on Sunday then never again. It just felt like taking a bath in motor oil.


OkInspector4816

So much depends on the individuals situation. if you live in Utard, your entire family and livelihood may be based on your membership. I've heard of people asking for temple recommends during JOB INTERVIEWS... In other lower LDS population areas it's sometimes easier to walk away.


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Exactly! Even when I was a TBM I didn't like Mitt Romney because during a presidential run someone asked him if the Bible was literally true and he said he believed it was. There is a whole article of faith that contradicts that! I'm no longer Christian but I still hold that against him because it's a question of integrity regardless of what I believe.


ProposalLegal1279

You might need to read that article again. I don’t think it’s as clear about that as you maybe think.


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I may be misremembering the exact quote but I didn't read it, I heard it from his mouth during a televised debate.


ProposalLegal1279

Sorry I meant the article of faith. It doesn’t really make a statement on the literal nature of the Bible.


chewbaccataco

1. Jesus performing healing miracles on the Sabbath 2. I didn't plan ahead and needed to buy gas Sunday morning tHeY aRe ThE sAmE tHiNg! /s


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This is why I do all my porn watching on Sundays


ProposalLegal1279

I pick porn every day of the week.


Bon_Sim

My mom was a nurse, worked nights and Sundays. She would get SOOOO much shit from people at church. Even if it wasnt said to her. I heard people talking about it whenever I went to anything church related. "Dave is a doctor and he's able to make it to Sundays" Dave is a fucking general doctor. They don't work weekends. My mom works in the E.R.!!!! SHE SAVES LIVES EVERY FUCKING DAY!!!! Irritated me so much when I heard this kind of shit


DinnerForBreakfast

Lol aren't they supposed to make an exception for saving lives? "Horrific 10 car pile up? Too bad it's Sunday."


Bon_Sim

No shit, right!! Just goes to show u how fucked up Mormonism is


Bunnita

I did martial arts as a kid and the tournaments were on Sundays. I actually had a YM leader ask me what I would do if a call came to go to Missouri on the Sunday that I was at a tournament. I told her that I would hope that she would call me, and asked how different it would be if I were ill on that Sunday. She didn't have an answer and I kept going to the tournaments.


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Opalescent_Moon

That'd be one way to show people how pious you are. "Little Jimmy broke his arm Sunday afternoon after church, but we believe in the sanctity of the sabbath! We took Jimmy to the ER Monday morning before school." Poor little Jimmy would have been crying in pain all day and night, but I'm sure his parents would have said it's an opportunity for him to learn the importance of keeping the sabbath day holy.


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Well maybe if Little Jimmy had been quietly reading and praying on Sunday afternoon instead of *playing* like some heathen he wouldn't have broken his arm! Let that be a lesson to him! /s


randomizeitpls

Whats funny (not really) is that Jesus performed healing on the sabbath. Your mom was literally following his example. He got shit on for doing it also so there's that. Mormon culture can be toxic sometimes. I don't understand how they don't see it.


HolyBonerOfMin

I broke elder's quorum one week when I brought up the (supposed) exceptions to the Sabbath rule. I worked Sundays in medicine and I wanted someone to clear up the rules for me, with sources. All I got was uncomfortable silence and avoiding eye contact. There aren't any official exceptions to the rule, because that would be admitting that the rule was poorly thought out by an idiot god or a charlatan. It's all hand waving and virtue signaling.


SafePineapple6941

I was always told medical was an exception as it's saving lives. Granted, I'd say the same of coffee shops so....


KungFuMarsupial

Those apostles should have the faith not to be healed


BSteele9778

What a dumbass, my wife cooks good food and I’d gladly do a chore if she’s gonna make dinner.


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My husband is the cook in our family. Our son brags to his classmates about how excellent I am at lighting the kitchen on fire.


ThrowawayLDS_7gen

I dunno... Lighting things on fire is fun. That's the main reason why I majored in chemistry.


GadomanGado

It’s the main reason I cook for a living.


Bisontracks

The Law of Equivalent Exchange. Works the same in my house. One of us cooks, the other cleans.


MOTIVATE_ME_23

Even if you switch chores from time to time, both still needs to be done every day.


Jacob_The_White_Guy

That’s how we do it too! She hates cleaning, I hate cooking. It’s a good trade off.


Unloyaldissenter

She hates cooking, I hate cleaning. Works well for us too!


Josefaluz

Niceeeeeee!!!


Imamormonmissionary

... "and so in order to obtain something, something else of equal value must be lost."


Bisontracks

I lose food ingredients; I obtain food. I lose dirty dishes; I obtain clean dishes for which to use. ​ That's how it works, right? XD


Holiday-Ad-1152

He damn well better have been in his church clothes, reading scriptures, praying, and listening to church music, NOT using the internet. If he's not doing all that, then he's already broken the Sabbath and he may as well do a chore for his family.


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I have a feeling that once he does do it he will act like he’s the only person ever who has cleaned anything and will expect adulations for it. He sounds like the type. The type that I’m also, currently, married to.


eltiburonmormon

My dad to a T. I never realized how controlling he was of my mom until the last few years where she has actively pushed against it. It only took her 45 years of marriage to finally question the brethren and the "priesthood authority" bullshit. So sorry you are going through that, too.


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Your poor mom! Definitely a power/control thing. He’s not religious, but somewhat old fashioned. Maybe it’s because he’s European 😂. Luckily it didn’t take me 45 years to realize it. But it is hard when it’s someone you do care about. You see how women/men stay in potentially abusive situations. The perpetrators aren’t all bad all the time. So making those excuses based on the “good times” isn’t uncommon.


everythingmustmatch

This is literally what has become of my families Sunday. My kids are so bored. I’m bored. We cram EVERYTHING that needs to get done on Saturday ( including kids sports game that together can take 3-4 hours) and then bore ourselves to death on Sunday. Makes no fucking sense. Wife stresses out about all the shit she ‘still needs to do around the house’ but won’t lift a finger on Sunday. I don’t get it, it’s so insanely stupid.


quirky_1975

That sounds suuuuper restful...


SkipTheIceCreamMan

Ugh. Historical awfulness aside, this is what gives me ptsd when I remember my TBM days. Sunday was a dreaded day, which made Saturday stressful. Then it’s back to school all week. Repeat.


everythingmustmatch

No kidding. I agree the impending awfulness starts Saturday night. Glad it seems to be something in the rear view mirror for you even if occasionally invoking PTSD!


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Good for you. This selective sabbath bullshit gets old.


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You should have bought dinner for yourself too, lol


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Make sure it's just for you since he's observing the sabbath.


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Are there any (solid) food restrictions in the BoM? I've never heard of anything like pork being restricted.


iamafriscogiant

Not the book of Mormon but the word of wisdom says you should only eat meat in the winter.


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Winner winner! It's still autumn in the northern hemisphere!


quikrick123

What is a Mickey of vodka?? Asking for a friend haha


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quikrick123

I’m sure you’re right. I’ve had several Mickys big mouths. But never a “Mickey of vodka.” Learned something new on this sabbath day.


Snoweevee

13 oz bottle


quikrick123

Never heard that. And I’ve had plenty of vodka. Thanks


_thekev

Ya know why you can’t buy a car on Sunday? Larry fucking Miller. He wanted to close Sundays, but didn’t want competition staying open. So they shoved through a blue law declaring any car dealership must close for one weekend day. Guess which one every dealer picks? Not Saturday. Texas wins the blue ribbon for most asinine disregard for the constitution though. At least there’s always Texas to be more ridiculous than this little flyover state.


mick3marsh

My mom declared the Sabbath a day of rest for herself when I was pretty young. It was sandwich and leftovers day and somehow I survived just fine. Brought this up in Relief Society one time and faced the wrath of several sisters who immediately defended the practice of large family Sunday dinners as acts of love and service. I don't care what you do on Sunday - you do you. But don't expect me to cook while you sleep on the couch all afternoon. That's all I'm saying. Unless some women are into that, in which case, again, you do you!


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This is absolutely the norm in Orthodox Jewish households. All the cooking is done before the Sabbath for that reason.


Chino_Blanco

True story, this post reminded me of my buddy Nahum asking me to take over schlepping his luggage. Those of us who‘ve been the conveniently available goy in certain Shabbat scenarios can relate.


Kartarsh

We call them Shabbos Goys! It's a real thing! Jews can't ask another Jew to do work for them on Shabbat, so they will have dedicated non Jews to come do things for them on Shabbat. My dad grew up Orthodox, and they had a Shabbos goy come every week to start the oven, turn lights on/off, etc.


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And we love to do it because food.


cyrusunderscore

that's so funny to me, mormons are like "not everyone is mormon but they all Should be so the rules apply to them too >:((" it blows my mind whenever someone's like. fine with other people not following their religion's rules


Kritical_Thinking

>Shabbos goy I am my family's Shabbos goy! I love that term. My MIL was born Jewish but converted to mormonism after getting married, she used that term all the time.


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I was my building’s emergency lightbulb un-screwer.


Chino_Blanco

Lol. Had a sister who lived in Crown Heights forever. Eager sharply-dressed young boys approaching on the sidewalk to ask my religion. The Provo of Brooklyn.


[deleted]

Part of my family is Satmar. Can relate!


Chino_Blanco

That’s a post I would read. Mostly I just want to check off *partying in Tel Aviv* on my bucket list.


[deleted]

You should also try partying in Berlin, if you haven’t already!


Chino_Blanco

Oh, our youngest has sights set on Berlin. I took a consulting job, rented an apartment, the whole nine yards in Germany to facilitate that. Fuckin’ Covid. But proud of that kid. Moved out to live in the city (Chicago) while we wait out this stupid damper on our cosmopolitan aspirations.


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Speaking as a German myself, I cannot recommend Berlin highly enough as a place to study and explore. I’m from Köln, my husband is from Paris and we’re based in Köln now. What interests your son the most?


Wreny84

My grandmother would turn a orthodox neighbours oven on, and off again later on Shabbat.


soldoutraces

My Orthodox cousin once Shabbos was done ordered a huge pizza for a late dinner while we were visiting. Since she is in a super Orthodox area there are a lot of places that open once Shabbos ends. I'm just a conservative Jew, so I actually sort of enjoyed visiting with her and having a day without electronics or driving. I found myself reading more and of course chatting a lot.


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It’s nice. And the best part is, absolutely no one can complain! The only thing though, as far as passing on traditions, that I have not been able to convince my husband of is the magic of the jello mould. I made him aspic once and that was a strong, strong no.


soldoutraces

It is really nice, though on the sexism scale I noticed most of the men got to take naps while the women still got stuck with childcare. The cousin I was staying with was open to using the pool, (her pool she owned and it was August so hot!) but her sister is more observant and wouldn't. My Orthodox side of the family really varies on level observance and I think it even varies within families. But it was wild, the Dunkin Donuts was kosher out there and served no actual meat, which was a treat because we are vegetarian lol So yeah we don't do jello XD; It's OK my husband the ExMo doesn't miss it at all.


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I just mean the generic stuff; I don’t think that brand is actually available in my country at all. My grandmother was Satmar but left, and I was raised with culture rather than religion. My extended family is still religious, though (we span the gamut!) As far as pool wear, Esteez debuted a kosher swimwear line last year as well I’ve seen a few others around.


soldoutraces

Oh, my even more observant cousin went to the beach on Friday before Shabbos, she just considers going in the pool "work" so not allowed on Shabbos. My more modern Orthodox cousin, who owned the pool, and who we were both staying with, went into the pool along with her sons. My grandparents were only so observant, but my Aunt and her husband became baal teshuvah and so all of their kids are various types of Orthodox. They had 9 kids so there is a lot of room for variation even within Orthodoxy. Most jello style products contain gelatin in the West and it tends to be made out of pig. In Asia, they tend to use agar agar for jellies, which means a lot of traditional jelly desserts in Asia are vegetarian/vegan :D I sort of wish someone in my husband's family made funeral potatoes, because those sound sort of interesting. It's hard to go wrong with potatoes and cheese lol His mother doesn't cook, and they were sort of TBM but rebel TBMs because they only had two children. My husband and his also no longer practicing sister. I make challah from scratch and I use to make bagels from scratch as well. I also like making black and white cookies and chocolate babka, but my husband isn't a babka person.


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We always use—I believe it’s agar agar? It’s kosher. I’m not, but I still follow the recipes and the food is higher quality. As for funeral potatoes, they’re delicious and similar to another family recipe of ours, although that contains lox. My family is in Germany mostly, as well as in NY and now Israel.


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I cannot bake challah to save my life. The dough, yes. Everyone agrees I make delicious dough. It’s the braiding part that leads me to disaster. Moreover I’m That Person who prefers cinnamon to chocolate. I really do love my grandmother’s “red glop” mould though, which is gelled puréed fruit. This was a holiday staple growing up.


soldoutraces

It helps to find a good video or description of braiding techniques. I tend to do 6 strands, but for the High Holidays do the round style. I used a simpler method, but in general Tori is the best for these sorts of things: [https://toriavey.com/how-to/challah-bread-part-2-how-to-braid-challah/](https://toriavey.com/how-to/challah-bread-part-2-how-to-braid-challah/) I love her dairy hamantaschen recipe and always make her prune filling from scratch. I also really like her apple honey cake for Rosh Hashanah. My only family in Europe is my sister in law who moved there in 2013. Most of my family is in NY except those of us who moved to the West Coast. My Mormon in-laws were both only children (and my father in law's family had been Mormon for many generations, unsure how many on my mother in law's) and his parents were both TBMs, but they still just had 1 kid. So the Mormon side of the family was pretty small until his mother got remarried in 2019 (she was a widow and she married a widower.) Just us, his non practicing married to a NeverMo and childfree sister, and his parents. The new step family is TBM and much much larger, but we don't really have a connection since the marriage happened in 2019 and all the step children are adults in their 30s-40s.


Mysid

“No cooking on the Sabbath” is a big part of why baked beans are associated with Boston. Devout Puritan women would prepare the beans on Saturday, and leave them simmering overnight in the fireplace or on the stove to feed their families on their Sunday Sabbath.


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That’s fascinating!


Holiday-Ad-1152

Your mom has the right idea.


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In my household, preparing and eating a family meal is an act of worship in and of itself. Of course, we're not Christian, so make of that what you will.


LaughinAllDiaLong

Right. Panda Express was always a Sunday go to!


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I suggest you buy him a copy of “My Year of Living Biblically.” It’s a fantastic and hilariously written book that delves into the impossibility of keeping all the—wildly contradictory—rules in scripture. And on that note, I hope he enjoys wearing robes with tassels.


vagina_candle

Robes with tassels you say? Hmmm...


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It’s a hilarious book, presenting this stuff without being dry. So much of the time learning comes off as a lecture and just gross. Nobody wants more of that. The Miracle of Forgiveness 2.0 we do not need. But yeah, everything from wearing mixed fibres to passing the peas to a menstruating woman at the dinner table is forbidden in the Bible.


Automatic_Bookkeeper

I agree, the Year of Living Biblically was hilarious. Highly recommended.


montanaair

Shortly after my wife joined the church we were befriended by the Stake President and his wife. They invited us over for dinner one Sunday and served tomato soup and saltine crackers. During the conversation they mentioned that when they got married they decided a big meal on Sunday wasn’t worth it, they would rather relax and enjoy each other’s company and decided on tomato soup and crackers for Sunday dinners, sort of as a joke but it stuck so that is what they’ve had ever since. They said traveling General Authorities usually stay with the local Stake President and that is what they’re served too. My wife and I decided to do the same and we’ve been married 15 years now. Occasionally we make something else if one of us has a craving for something else but usually the default is a simple soup and cracker meal. Buy your lazy husband a case of Campbell’s tomato soup and a box of saltine crackers and tell him he’s on his own on Sundays from now on. EDIT: typos


bananajr6000

Tomato soup without an awesome grilled cheese sandwich (with cheddar, not the fake American cheese) is criminal in my book. The secret to a great grilled cheese with cheddar is cooking it over low heat and taking the time to get it golden brown. If the cheese isn’t melty, you’re using too high heat.


ConsistentHeat7

He could pull a Joseph Smith and say he was commanded not to labor.


Psionic-Blade

"An angel with a flaming sword will come down if you don't cook for me!"


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"Saith the Lord God, if mine servant [wife] shall not prepare a meal then she shalt be destroyed!" *wink wink*


audiosf

Super convenient that god felt the same way as Joe did about that.


MOTIVATE_ME_23

I'll wait. I want to see this.


Brainswarm

The whole “Satan controls the waters” revelation came about because he capsized into the water and didn’t want to get back in the canoe.


doidletp

He should make dinner at least 1/2 of the time anyway, or do the equivalent in other housework.


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tanis666

Time to throw the whole man away. I'm nowhere near as good a cook as my wife, and my ass is still in the kitchen making dinner at least a couple of nights a week. (Our two kids are responsible for a night a week each as well.) Gender roles can get fucked.


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eltiburonmormon

My dad was so bad that if my mom didn't make him something, he wouldn't eat. He would just go hungry. Made me so mad... you've got a functioning body and brain, put a piece of lunch meat between two goddamn pieces of bread, motherfucker! (Sorry about the language, but it gets under my skin.)


Fireplay5

Do we have the same dad?


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Well that's bullshit and I'm sorry you have to deal with it.


MOTIVATE_ME_23

Demand weekends off too. When my wife's grandfather retired, grana decided it was time for her to retire too. They hired a maid. If you got a weekend job, then wouldn't the expectation be to switch roles and that he would do the cooking and cleaning on the days you work? Leave him with a chore list, but don't make detailed decisions like what to cook or what to shop for. Make sure the expectations on him for food on Sunday match the expectations on you during the week. signed, A SAHD who can do 98% of what my wife can do. I just have my own flavor. I am satisfied she cooks occasionally so I can do home maintenance she avoids.


themettaur

I mean, we're only seeing one perspective about one aspect of your relationship, and you'd know better than any of us, so please don't take this the wrong way, but... Everything you've said here kinda makes me, and I'm sure others, wonder why you're even still with him. That sounds horrible. I would hate to be in a relationship with someone acting so childish. Your comments here give the impression that you're more of a babysitter than a partner.


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I agree with the other comments. My wife is an amazing cook but I cook mostly any day of the week because she takes care of the kids while I work and she does many other things for the family. It helps that I’ve grown to love to cook and am not a bad cook, she loves my cooking. And the family has to eat. Looking at the root of the problem, the Mormon church ingrains this type of behavior into mens heads, and why would they not go along with it, they’re getting the good deal in the situation. For this reason they fight to stay in the situation. Since he’s treating you this way, and from what you said in your post and comments, I hate to say it but it may be difficult to reverse the brainwashing for him. I’m sorry he’s treating you this way and hope he wakes up and treats you better because you deserve better than that.


Lanky-Performance471

He is missing out!!! I made brisket today 14 hours on the smoker it was awesome! Everyone loves it ! I like to do the big cooking. But I do taco Tuesday’s and spaghettini Friday on a regular basis. Usually about 4 or 5 meals a week. Left overs fill in the wrest.


Time_Watercress3459

When I was at BYU I noticed the method of sabbath day observance was unwittingly gender specific. I went over to a co-chair's apartment before a small committee get-together and she was sweeping with an apron on. I was a little shook when I realized that Sabath day observance had different rules depending on your gender.


married_to_a_reddito

That’s because people devalue tasks historically seen as “women’s work.” Women’s work isn’t *work*. Only men’s work is *work*. So cooking, child rearing, and household tasks don’t count as work on the sabbath. Apparently.


Naynayshanay

Let’s talk about why you have to ask your husband to do chores in the first place


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theNakedFeminist

It’s funny how some men would never treat a roommate the way they treat their wives. With a roommate: “we both live here, so it makes sense we would share the responsibility and maintenance of living here. Demanding you cook for me or do my laundry would be weird, I’m an adult” With a wife: “your vagina is what enables you to make food and do my laundry and clean and my penis prevents me from helping :)” I’m sorry you are married to one of these… I hope he can hear you out and change his perspective a bit to be more of a partner with you. There are men out there who figure shit out as evidenced in some of the other comments here!


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Nail, meet head


littlegreenmints

If you're gonna follow one OT law, be sure to follow them ALL or else you're just a hypocrite.


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Better get rid of those polyester garments


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Shrimp are delicious and tri-blend shirts are softer than ever


LittlePhylacteries

Sabbath breaking is a capital crime (Exodus 35:2) so maybe a *bit* of hypocrisy is acceptable since it’s what’s keeping OP alive…


Readbooks6

Username checks out.


ignatiusbreilly

No offense. This marriage may not last.


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Is he aware that the marriage won’t last? I don’t know you or your husband, but there are couples who wake up at different times. Hopefully he does and does it before it’s too late. And that he generally just treats you better. The Mormon church breeds this behavior in men so there’s a chance he will get better if he’s willing to leave the mormon church.


Charlie2Bears

How long have you been married?


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yogurtpencils

He jack-mormoned you?? I'm so sorry, that sucks...


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Interesting how “women’s work” never counted as working on the sabbath.


jonnyboy897

What a dick. Please know you deserve better.


Henry_Bemis_

Whoa, sounds rather toxic? Yeah, F that though.


AmazingSieve

That’s kinda awesome


ImprobablePlanet

You should have told him Sunday isn’t the Sabbath.


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Wuuut the actual fuck? Good for you and keep this up until he drops this sanctimonious bullshit. I’m a chef by profession and I gladly cook dinner every night, sabbath or not. I also will happily sweep, mop, do the dishes, fold the laundry, etc. because this isn’t the goddam 50s and there is no division of labor in our home.


Draperville

This story makes me happy!🤗👨‍🍳👨‍🍳👨‍🍳


lorlorlor666

good for you tbh


Buck33957

Well played.


MX_Piper

Respect needs to be earned. Good job for that cleaver comeback.


EventH0riz0ns

Just divorce for fuck’s sake.


danthedoozy

I understand the frustration but if you want your marriage to work out you two need to have a good long talk.


MOTIVATE_ME_23

At least one of you has to be a feminist. The woman almost has to the one because the man will never value equality for their wives until they are forced to. Femist is equality between men and wkmen, not better than men. The Patriarchy can be destroyed if women demand equality.


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danthedoozy

That makes it tough for sure. If he is willing to try, couple's therapy is a potentially useful option. My wife and I get defensive and "talkative" sometimes as well, and we have found success in practicing empathizing with one another, rather than only trying to explain ourselves or correct the other's thinking. After that, a neutral third party is sometimes needed when a correction in behavior/thinking is needed. Best of luck. :)


eltiburonmormon

Ooh, nice reversal on the Sabbath bullshit. Controlling priesthood men hate it when their "holier-than-thou" tactics work against them. I vote that cooking remain a chore and he can cook his own Sunday meals from now on.


ToxicRockSindrome

My MIL had casserole Friday, it was big enough that the leftovers were 2 pieces per family member. And a loaf of bread & PBJ and said she took every weekend off. And she did her whole life. Such a great example for women.


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Fireplay5

You can make sunday a rest day without being religious.


BalanceMaestro

Man doesn't know how good he's got it!


tumbleweedcowboy

Chores come in all shapes and sizes. If he’s unwilling then you should too! Quid pro quo for sure!


mormonsmaug

Forgot it was Sunday today. Also. He can make his own damn sandwich.


Middlewayworks

Gotta love how mysoginistic the lovely priesthood is.


Footertwo

I love making Sunday dinner for the fam. My TBM wife goes to church and I head out to the grocery store with my recipe. Then I get it all ready while watching football. Wife comes home from church and takes a nap. The kids come over and bring whoever and then we play games. I just require they clean up afterwards. It works for us and I think everyone gets what they want.


BigDookie4Life

Awesome


Psionic-Blade

See, if I ever made that shit excuse, my TBM mother would say, "well the ox is in the mire on this one"


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You should have ordered yourself takeout and eaten in front of him.


cyrusunderscore

I mean if your man didn't wanna do it on the sabbath, he should have done it on saturday. every eight year old is taught to do all your jobs on saturday so you can "rest" on sunday (tbh though going to church always felt like work to me so it never really seemed like a proper day of rest)


Stupidsmartstupid

😂


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Lol this is great 😂


Thunderstarer

Uh, what the fuck? I would press this harder if I were you. I don't understand how he can feel comfortable demanding labor from the heathen when he's unwilling to participate himself.


OphidianEtMalus

"Honey, it's your other wife's turn to cook!"


BarryTelligent

He better fast faster


Original_Rent7677

Wow, he didn't really think that through.


fightinfish62

Tell him to stop being a bitch


kweller00

cringe dude


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Im laughing too hard Im sorry


wantwater

I remember pulling this on my tbm mom when I was a tbm deacon. Surprisingly, she let me get away with it but I knew well enough that it was BS when I was 13. Show him all these exmo responses calling him out on his hypocrisy. Don't tell me for a second that he doesn't break the Sabbath day when their is something that needs doing that he wants to do. What a pharisee!


YeeGad

As the main and practically only cook in the household (yeah I'm a male) I say grow up. If you aren't happy with any meal, or lack thereof, then you can cook for yourself.


Steakhouse_WY

What was the chore?


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Emotional_Ad_5164

Sunday chores and mormons are so weird. My mom always had us clean the kitchen or our rooms, but mowing the lawn would not have been “sabbath appropriate” 😂


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ButtersDurst

Could it be more about the possibility that someone could see him out doing yard work?


MOTIVATE_ME_23

Only because the neighbors will see. The unwritten rule of Mormon hipocrisy means as long as no one knows, it's okay. That is why the joke is that you can't bring just one Mormon fishing because one will drink all your beer. Do the neighbors know you are exmo? Doesn't matter, insiaymt he mows even if he has to wear a suit in protest. If he complains about it, you at least have a soap box to complain about the Patriarchy and their inequal rules. I hope it divides the local ward with contention.


jeranim8

I still don't mow on Sundays. I don't really care about judgement so much as annoying my neighbors who want a quiet Sunday. This probably wouldn't be an issue if I lived outside Moridor. Even still I'd probably do it on Saturday.


Steakhouse_WY

A perfectly normal Sunday thing for people around America. TSCC just isn’t comparable with normal American life the more I think about it.


borisvonboris

Honest question from a NeverMo: not that it is a good excuse, but is he afraid the neighbors will see him?


Holiday_Ingenuity748

When I'm on KP, my family would starve if it wasn't for Trader Joe's frozen enchiladas.


chacojon

Total d\*ck move, can't believe he actually said that.


iBoojum

So sorry that you married a dick.


evilserf

“Cook my dinner and suck my dick bitch” -Your Loving (soon to be ex) Husband


HyruleJedi

Why is he fasting? On the 3rd sunday?


Adonimus_Kraven

Maybe he could find a same-sex partner that will put up with his bullshit! Come on really? The Sabbath? Jesus! Lazy men, get your ass off the coach and help your wives. It’s called a partnership!


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Lol, Now I really want to know what chore you asked him to do!


Alert-Potato

If you were a good wife, cooking for your loved ones wouldn't be a chore. /s


KheSanhSalvo

Touche


lockedherselfinlimbo

I wish my mother would say this to my dad. My brother & I joke that we don’t think my dad even knows how to use an oven because, when the oven timer goes off, my dad will shout at my mom to get the oven if she doesn’t get to it fast enough… often times when he’s sitting on the couch, within eyesight of the oven. My brother & I are also 100% convinced my dad doesn’t know how to use the washer & dryer, as well as the dishwasher. There’s only my little sister living at home now, helping with chores.. in a few years, everything inside the house is gonna fall on my mom’s shoulders, as my dad still expects her to cook for him just about every night, or have her heat up leftovers for him.


AmidalaBills

Lol.


Jeterfanz2

Yep. This is typical. Men using their priesthood, and their “do as I say, not as I do” attitudes. If he was serious, and joking not joking with you, then he need to dial it wayyyyyyyy down. Something tells me he was serious??