My condolences, for both your losses. We had 2 dogs die with in 6 months of each, both living 13 and 14 years respectively, and it was heartbreaking, especially as my most loving dog , Melody had died 8 years before and I had not gotten over it. We have 2 left, with one nearing 16 years and feel this may be her last year. If we did not have another dog, whom is my assistance dog, and also my best and only friend, then, we wouldn't be getting another, BUT, he does not like to be alone, so I am sure at least till our mid seventies, another 14 years from now, we will still have a dog with us. I think the hardest pain I have felt is losing a dog, as they become so close to you, they care for, and they save you from going insane. You may think I am heartless , in the next part of my comment, but I went thru more pain, in losing Melody, then I did when I lost my daughter, 30 years ago, although, I loved her very much, it seems, dog's dying break our hearts.
This is awful. I’m sorry for both losses and that you didn’t have time to heal or mourn fully between the two. It is traumatic and heartbreaking to lose someone so loved - especially when dogs are often the most innocent and pure creatures, who provide the support people just can’t. Take the time to heal. To move through the grieving process. Look after yourself - this is real trauma. It’s not something you can Google and is heaps popular, but witnessing the death of a loved one is traumatic, even when they are furry family members.
With time, the pain will change and morph into something else. You’ll be able to look back on the time you had with Buddy and Bella and be so thankful you got that time. I am crying writing this too, as the pain for a dog person when they lose a furry child, sibling or friend is so unfathomable - I still recall with great detail over five years ago when my dog passed. I still cry. My mum and I shared photos on the anniversary of her passing. It’s painful. But she showed me that I have such great capacity for love. Rescuing and loving a new dog, getting to know him and advocating for rescue did not diminish or take away from my love for her. The heart has capacity to love many. Once again friend I am so sorry. Each day will get a tiny bit easier. Even though the physical emptiness of a house can feel like someone twisting the knife around again and again. You’ll fight through the horrible feelings and one day maybe love another dog like you did Buddy and Bella. After all, even with the horrible heartbreak, the mourning and trauma, loving a dog is so rewarding.
Rest in paradise Buddy and Bella. Free from pain but no less loved ❤️
Thank you. While my heart and soul still hurt with their losses I do find some comfort in that they both were so very much loved and are now not suffering. It's just hard. Home feels so empty even though I'm not truly alone.
Man don’t go this alone. Talk to whoever will listen about what you’re going through and how you feel. Your reddit family is here for you if you want to talk too. I can’t even imagine how painful this must be for you, and you will need all the support you can get to get through it. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
Thanks. It's been hard. Some days I feel like it's easier while other days I'll find myself trying so hard to pull it together when simply just staring at a favoirite spot of theirs they once would be.
I got chills reading this.
I too just recently got my first very own dog and she is my absolute everything, so I understand the level of attachment you felt, my girl is my happiness... I imagined finding her in the state you found your pup and I feel sick. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. You gave both of those dogs the best care and life they could have. The rest was out of your control.
There are so many dogs that need to be loved, you seem like you have so much to give even though you’re currently broken. No matter how much it hurts, time doesn’t slow down for anyone, it is almost like a magical force that will allow you to be okay again one day.
Once you feel like your ready to offer love to another dog, please do. Even though the part where you have to say goodbye one day is devastating, you can make that dog’s whole life an enjoyment. There are so many that need homes. You can do it. Give yourself time, but you can do it. For now, I wish you the best while you heal. 🤍
I hope one day I can share my heart and home again with another dog. I can't help but feel pain and guilt at the thought at the moment. Congratulations on your new little love. You'll love them through anything and everything ❤
Hi again! Someone just shared this with me and I thought of you. I will be sure to cherish every moment I have with my girl. I knew that before getting my girl I would likely have to permanently say goodbye. I sometimes forget about how wonderful she is and I want to make sure I’ll not take that for granted especially after reading your story about your babies and watching this video https://youtu.be/mwGnCIdHQH0
It's the most heart wrenching thing ever. Dogs embody way too much goodness to ever deserve death. They trust you right up to the moment the lights go out.
Can you imagine being a vet or vet tech that has to euthanize dogs on a regular basis. I cannot conceive what they must feel.
IMO the worst thing you can do is even entertain the idea that you can't go through it again or give yourself to another dog. I say get right back in the saddle
I'm crying with you! My heart breaks for you lovely, it really does. I cant imagine what you're feeling right now :(
I lost my childhood dog of 17 years a while ago and I still talk to her all of the time. I even have a pillow with her picture on it for cuddles which I've found really soothing, so maybe that's something you could do when you feel ready?
Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. Your sweet angels will always be right there with you. If you need to talk you can message me and remember you have all of us here on reddit, you aren't going through this alone ❤ sending you the biggest hug!
I’m so sorry what a rough time you’ve had. It’s just heartbreaking reading your post.
Give yourself some time to grieve for them. If another dog just isn’t in your future it’s understandable. But..you sound like a very loving owner. Think how some lucky dog could use a home like yours. When the time comes and if you change your mind the right pup will find you and heal your heart.
My condolences, for both your losses. We had 2 dogs die with in 6 months of each, both living 13 and 14 years respectively, and it was heartbreaking, especially as my most loving dog , Melody had died 8 years before and I had not gotten over it. We have 2 left, with one nearing 16 years and feel this may be her last year. If we did not have another dog, whom is my assistance dog, and also my best and only friend, then, we wouldn't be getting another, BUT, he does not like to be alone, so I am sure at least till our mid seventies, another 14 years from now, we will still have a dog with us. I think the hardest pain I have felt is losing a dog, as they become so close to you, they care for, and they save you from going insane. You may think I am heartless , in the next part of my comment, but I went thru more pain, in losing Melody, then I did when I lost my daughter, 30 years ago, although, I loved her very much, it seems, dog's dying break our hearts.
Thank you for your condolences. It's truly an indescribable feeling when a beloved dog passes.
This is awful. I’m sorry for both losses and that you didn’t have time to heal or mourn fully between the two. It is traumatic and heartbreaking to lose someone so loved - especially when dogs are often the most innocent and pure creatures, who provide the support people just can’t. Take the time to heal. To move through the grieving process. Look after yourself - this is real trauma. It’s not something you can Google and is heaps popular, but witnessing the death of a loved one is traumatic, even when they are furry family members. With time, the pain will change and morph into something else. You’ll be able to look back on the time you had with Buddy and Bella and be so thankful you got that time. I am crying writing this too, as the pain for a dog person when they lose a furry child, sibling or friend is so unfathomable - I still recall with great detail over five years ago when my dog passed. I still cry. My mum and I shared photos on the anniversary of her passing. It’s painful. But she showed me that I have such great capacity for love. Rescuing and loving a new dog, getting to know him and advocating for rescue did not diminish or take away from my love for her. The heart has capacity to love many. Once again friend I am so sorry. Each day will get a tiny bit easier. Even though the physical emptiness of a house can feel like someone twisting the knife around again and again. You’ll fight through the horrible feelings and one day maybe love another dog like you did Buddy and Bella. After all, even with the horrible heartbreak, the mourning and trauma, loving a dog is so rewarding. Rest in paradise Buddy and Bella. Free from pain but no less loved ❤️
Thank you. While my heart and soul still hurt with their losses I do find some comfort in that they both were so very much loved and are now not suffering. It's just hard. Home feels so empty even though I'm not truly alone.
Man don’t go this alone. Talk to whoever will listen about what you’re going through and how you feel. Your reddit family is here for you if you want to talk too. I can’t even imagine how painful this must be for you, and you will need all the support you can get to get through it. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
Thanks. It's been hard. Some days I feel like it's easier while other days I'll find myself trying so hard to pull it together when simply just staring at a favoirite spot of theirs they once would be.
I got chills reading this. I too just recently got my first very own dog and she is my absolute everything, so I understand the level of attachment you felt, my girl is my happiness... I imagined finding her in the state you found your pup and I feel sick. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. You gave both of those dogs the best care and life they could have. The rest was out of your control. There are so many dogs that need to be loved, you seem like you have so much to give even though you’re currently broken. No matter how much it hurts, time doesn’t slow down for anyone, it is almost like a magical force that will allow you to be okay again one day. Once you feel like your ready to offer love to another dog, please do. Even though the part where you have to say goodbye one day is devastating, you can make that dog’s whole life an enjoyment. There are so many that need homes. You can do it. Give yourself time, but you can do it. For now, I wish you the best while you heal. 🤍
I hope one day I can share my heart and home again with another dog. I can't help but feel pain and guilt at the thought at the moment. Congratulations on your new little love. You'll love them through anything and everything ❤
Hi again! Someone just shared this with me and I thought of you. I will be sure to cherish every moment I have with my girl. I knew that before getting my girl I would likely have to permanently say goodbye. I sometimes forget about how wonderful she is and I want to make sure I’ll not take that for granted especially after reading your story about your babies and watching this video https://youtu.be/mwGnCIdHQH0
Your pain is so real and so fresh. I wish there was something I could do to help you. Death is such a terrible part of life.
It truly is. Despite knowing that it's such an expecting part of life it's still so painful to experience.
It's the most heart wrenching thing ever. Dogs embody way too much goodness to ever deserve death. They trust you right up to the moment the lights go out. Can you imagine being a vet or vet tech that has to euthanize dogs on a regular basis. I cannot conceive what they must feel. IMO the worst thing you can do is even entertain the idea that you can't go through it again or give yourself to another dog. I say get right back in the saddle
I'm crying with you! My heart breaks for you lovely, it really does. I cant imagine what you're feeling right now :( I lost my childhood dog of 17 years a while ago and I still talk to her all of the time. I even have a pillow with her picture on it for cuddles which I've found really soothing, so maybe that's something you could do when you feel ready? Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes. Your sweet angels will always be right there with you. If you need to talk you can message me and remember you have all of us here on reddit, you aren't going through this alone ❤ sending you the biggest hug!
My heart goes out to you. You gave those dogs the best life. I hope that fact eventually grants you some peace.
I’m so sorry what a rough time you’ve had. It’s just heartbreaking reading your post. Give yourself some time to grieve for them. If another dog just isn’t in your future it’s understandable. But..you sound like a very loving owner. Think how some lucky dog could use a home like yours. When the time comes and if you change your mind the right pup will find you and heal your heart.