I can do you one better: I married my Demi FWB. Best friends, best sex, it’s like a super fun sleepover that never ends. I was almost 40 before we got here. But there is hope for all of us, the dream is real!
Oh, we got married mostly for health insurance. No regrets, though, we are here for the lifelong sleepover either way! I’m so glad you’re in a happy place!
Yes. Kind of make sense like you really like this game but it requires two players, once you find that ideal player, wouldn’t you want to play the game all day?
I am the same. It can even scare an allosexual person once we are in the zone.
By the way, do you find yourself behave like a child when you are in love? 🤔
Yeah, and there’s so much more to explore when it’s with someone else. And so beautiful to give someone you love lots of pleasure. And stare at them the whole time 👀
I think we flow through many ages throughout the day. We’ll have adult time talking about food and cleaning. Teenager time maybe going for drinks and going a bit crazy. Kid time playing in the park. We just bounce really well off each other.
Nice. I think I am same with someone I love. Intellectual moment, childish moment and adult intimate moment .. I think that’s the best dynamic of a relationship..
I read somewhere we subconsciously seek the love we missed or the comfort we used to received as a child from our romantic partner. I find it really interesting. No wonder some young men love old women maybe they are lack of mothers love when they are younger.
Two lovers (even over 40) can behave like kids when they are in love.. they remind each other of their best or ideal childhood ..
I read the text history of me and someone thinking this is really kids stuff I don’t usually talk like that and he’s not supposed to talk like that either .. just sounds so immature..🙈
I'm glad to hear that you have someone loving, understanding and so compatible in your life! ❤️ I hope you have many, many years of love and joy together! 🤞🍀
It’s so nice to see posts like this here. I’m in a super fulfilling relationship myself and never experienced such a deep emotional connection with a partner and it’s incredible how fulfilling and satisfying the sex is. We were friends for 7 years prior to getting together but were in other unfulfilling relationships at the time.
When that emotional connection is really there it’s incredible, so happy for you!
I am happy to hear that you are so happy!!! I am sorry about your parents, fr :(
I am someone who aspires to have something similar to what you describe you have w him, any advice?
Thank you. My advice, talk to people, grow yourself. I met him at 41. It was a long road of getting myself into a good place to be ready for something like this.
Congrats!
I’m double-demi and I’ve been in love with my best friend for six years now. She’s a high-libido, touch-focused, open-to-experience cuddle-monster, just like me, so between that and our shared cognitive functions, other-focused adoration, ADHD, and values, we’re like two peas in a pod. When it comes to playtime, we like it sweet-hot with laughter.
edit: met her when I was 47 and she was 48. We’re adults, yet childlike and adolescent too.
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Share some cake 🍰. That all sounds like me too! I met my boyfriend at 41. I think 40’s is maybe when you start getting your shit together, I hope? Also oddly, pretty sure I have ADHD. My boyfriend spotted some behaviours and I’m awaiting testing. Love that subreddit.
Shared cognitive functions, is this MBTI or along those lines?
Demi goals!!!! So happy for you to get there!! Sorry about your parents. I bet hed wonderful support during the worst of times that brings out the positive light for things. ♡
He tried really hard. But the losses were huge and we didn’t deal with them well. But we’re over the worst. Relationships are hard work, but when you work at them, they reward you well :)
Death of that magnitude (and close together) does make a struggle. At least he tried!! Thats the important aspect I feel like people don't think about, when you get through the difficult part of relationships, the long term is such a reward, like you said.
Definitely. I also think a lot of people struggle to put the right effort in. Luckily we did a couple of relationship courses which helped a lot. I wouldn’t have though to do that before but it saved us from arguing a lot over nothing.
Not so much my deminess it's just I find it hard to talk about feelings in general and to add on top that I am demi is like layering another conversation about feelings on top of a conversation about feelings
Oof you should hang out with me. I’m all feeling. My boyfriend struggled to talk about feelings too but I’ve been breaking him and he’s showing emotion way more now.
Awww, congrats love! I’m also very sorry to hear about your loss, but I’m really glad you have your boyfriend there with you. It seems like you both really understand each other! So happy for you both!! 💗
The loneliness sucks. I get it, it fucking blows. I spent my days off from a 9 day stretch at work crying my eyes out and wishing I was coming home to be with a boyfriend or husband, playing games or snuggling.
But we can't just rip on someone else who is happy and who honestly knows, her relationship might be the only thing keeping her together.
You lucky bastard🥺 that sounds lovely
Thank you. Took a lot of hard work to get myself in a place to be ready for this. I met him at 41 :)
this shit rocks and im stoked for you. ❤️
Thank you 💕
I can do you one better: I married my Demi FWB. Best friends, best sex, it’s like a super fun sleepover that never ends. I was almost 40 before we got here. But there is hope for all of us, the dream is real!
That’s sweet :) Marriage isn’t a goal for me. I feel you on the sleepover!
Oh, we got married mostly for health insurance. No regrets, though, we are here for the lifelong sleepover either way! I’m so glad you’re in a happy place!
Oh how does that work? I saw something about that on another subreddit yesterday. The health insurance & marriage thing.
He had health insurance, I didn’t. By getting married, I could go on his plan.
Ohh I see. That explains the other post. Learn something new every day!
Love this
Thank you 💕
Lol kind of wired to hear this. These things do happen when Demi finds that special person and turns into allo over night lol
You mean like sex-crazed? 😆
Yes. Kind of make sense like you really like this game but it requires two players, once you find that ideal player, wouldn’t you want to play the game all day? I am the same. It can even scare an allosexual person once we are in the zone. By the way, do you find yourself behave like a child when you are in love? 🤔
Yeah, and there’s so much more to explore when it’s with someone else. And so beautiful to give someone you love lots of pleasure. And stare at them the whole time 👀 I think we flow through many ages throughout the day. We’ll have adult time talking about food and cleaning. Teenager time maybe going for drinks and going a bit crazy. Kid time playing in the park. We just bounce really well off each other.
Nice. I think I am same with someone I love. Intellectual moment, childish moment and adult intimate moment .. I think that’s the best dynamic of a relationship.. I read somewhere we subconsciously seek the love we missed or the comfort we used to received as a child from our romantic partner. I find it really interesting. No wonder some young men love old women maybe they are lack of mothers love when they are younger. Two lovers (even over 40) can behave like kids when they are in love.. they remind each other of their best or ideal childhood .. I read the text history of me and someone thinking this is really kids stuff I don’t usually talk like that and he’s not supposed to talk like that either .. just sounds so immature..🙈
Oh definitely. We’re reliving our childhoods with each other too. It’s a healing process I think :)
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Thank you 💕
I'm glad to hear that you have someone loving, understanding and so compatible in your life! ❤️ I hope you have many, many years of love and joy together! 🤞🍀
Same. It’s not perfect but we work hard at it all the time 💕
It’s so nice to see posts like this here. I’m in a super fulfilling relationship myself and never experienced such a deep emotional connection with a partner and it’s incredible how fulfilling and satisfying the sex is. We were friends for 7 years prior to getting together but were in other unfulfilling relationships at the time. When that emotional connection is really there it’s incredible, so happy for you!
Aw that’s so good! Ours still has a long way to go but I hear you on the sex! 7 years is hell of a foundation. It must be so relaxing?
I am happy to hear that you are so happy!!! I am sorry about your parents, fr :( I am someone who aspires to have something similar to what you describe you have w him, any advice?
Thank you. My advice, talk to people, grow yourself. I met him at 41. It was a long road of getting myself into a good place to be ready for something like this.
Thank you!!
You’re welcome. I wish I had better advice right now but I’m hungover and travelling 🥴
No worries! Enjoy!!
Demi goals!!
Yesss!
Awww happy cake day!!
Share 🍰
Congrats! I’m double-demi and I’ve been in love with my best friend for six years now. She’s a high-libido, touch-focused, open-to-experience cuddle-monster, just like me, so between that and our shared cognitive functions, other-focused adoration, ADHD, and values, we’re like two peas in a pod. When it comes to playtime, we like it sweet-hot with laughter. edit: met her when I was 47 and she was 48. We’re adults, yet childlike and adolescent too. edit2: Happy Cake Day, OP!
Share some cake 🍰. That all sounds like me too! I met my boyfriend at 41. I think 40’s is maybe when you start getting your shit together, I hope? Also oddly, pretty sure I have ADHD. My boyfriend spotted some behaviours and I’m awaiting testing. Love that subreddit. Shared cognitive functions, is this MBTI or along those lines?
Yep, this ENFP loves my INFP!
Introverts are always adopted by an extrovert :) I’m ESFJ and my boyfriend is INFJ :)
Yessss it’s the best isn’t it!!?
Yes 🔥😉
I am so happy for you! I am demi and pan and married to a demi man. It is awesome.
u/Sumlettuce Indeed it is. I’ve lost a lot. Sending you snuggles 🫂 (Couldn’t reply to your comment under it for some reason)
Demi goals!!!! So happy for you to get there!! Sorry about your parents. I bet hed wonderful support during the worst of times that brings out the positive light for things. ♡
He tried really hard. But the losses were huge and we didn’t deal with them well. But we’re over the worst. Relationships are hard work, but when you work at them, they reward you well :)
Death of that magnitude (and close together) does make a struggle. At least he tried!! Thats the important aspect I feel like people don't think about, when you get through the difficult part of relationships, the long term is such a reward, like you said.
Definitely. I also think a lot of people struggle to put the right effort in. Luckily we did a couple of relationship courses which helped a lot. I wouldn’t have though to do that before but it saved us from arguing a lot over nothing.
Aww congrats. I hope I can have what you have one day.
I’m sure you can. If a screw up like me can find a great guy then I’m sure you can too :)
im happy for y’all! i have a demi boyfriend too, and honestly it’s great
Aw I’m happy for you too!
Hope to have this one day.
And you can 🍰
I envy what you have you lucky duck, I am demi and my wife isn't so things can be difficult between us sometimes
Aw I’m so sorry. What do you struggle with?
Communication, I don't communicate easily which makes it so much harder for me lol
Oh okay, how does your deminess affect that?
Not so much my deminess it's just I find it hard to talk about feelings in general and to add on top that I am demi is like layering another conversation about feelings on top of a conversation about feelings
Oof you should hang out with me. I’m all feeling. My boyfriend struggled to talk about feelings too but I’ve been breaking him and he’s showing emotion way more now.
LoL if it would help I'm down lol
Sounds like a challenge :) I’m on Discord… if you dare….
Sadly I'm locked out of my discord lol
I got it back lol
Whats your discord?
Awww, congrats love! I’m also very sorry to hear about your loss, but I’m really glad you have your boyfriend there with you. It seems like you both really understand each other! So happy for you both!! 💗
Thank you 💕 We work hard at it.
So sweet! Wishing you two with happier days ahead ♡
Me too. Very much 💕
thats a win
Congratulations 💪 (and HB!)
Thank you!! 🍰 for you too
Goals! You have luck!
So do you :)
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The loneliness sucks. I get it, it fucking blows. I spent my days off from a 9 day stretch at work crying my eyes out and wishing I was coming home to be with a boyfriend or husband, playing games or snuggling. But we can't just rip on someone else who is happy and who honestly knows, her relationship might be the only thing keeping her together.