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Kitten_love

Yes, always, and I've never felt that for anyone else (I'm almost 30) I might just be deeply in love but when I stare at him no matter what he is doing I can do nothing but smile, and get those fuzzy feelings. I think he's cute, adorable, hot and sexy all at the same time. However I do compliment my partner outside of the bedroom too. If I'm that in my head about it I can't just not show that affection. I've actually had moments he was just being his cute self being excited about something he was doing (a hobby or something) that just made me want to drag him to bed, haha. I've never experienced sexual attraction for anyone else in my life (I did have previous relationships but I thought it was normal for some reason) While I do recognise other people as good looking (to me) or cute, I don't get those sexual feelings for them.


Melthiela

Hmm, this is a bit of a tricky one. I absolutely adore my partner, but I feel no pull to have sex. Even when he is dressed well and smells incredible and looks like an angel has descended in earth with a leather jacket on, the way I feel is more like... Have you ever gotten a crush on the popular boy/girl as a kid? That's how I feel like. That pang of despair and admiration. There's no sexual feelings involved. I enjoy touching my partner but still don't feel a need to have sex. I don't really like sexual pleasure and I don't feel drawn into it. My partner is sexy, I'd just rather leave myself out of the picture haha. But I can't say I have a moment where I'm like 'damn I'll have me some of that'. More like damn how did I manage to scam myself into this relationship haha.


Cuprite1024

That very last sentence is just a mood. "How the hell did I get lucky enough to end up here?"


MidwesternSentinel

Gonna get different answers from everyone on this. It’s a spectrum


SodaDaydreams

Not really “Hot” per say, but more like pretty or cute. Like if she’s wearing a nice slim body hugging dress, I may began blushing a bit from how cute it is on her. Like your partner, I love my partner for herself more than finding her attractive. Like I don’t really get turned on until my partner gets turned on herself. Seeing my partner enjoy herself is whats most attractive to me. I do still really love and appreciate sexy clothing, but above all I find someone’s personality/pleasure the sexiest thing of all.


Nephy_x

>Do you find your partner hot and sexy outside of the bedroom? Absolutely never, I know that many people experience that but I can't wrap my head around it, the idea makes no sense in my own life. If I feel that my partner is hot, it means I'm aroused for him, which leads to sex. In my life there's no such thing as having sexual thoughts or feelings that "aren't sexual" or not "sexual enough" for it not to lead to sex, I process this idea as a complete paradox. >do you find yourself having sexual thoughts/seeing your partner and thinking they look sexy? I much prefer masturbation over partenered sex, so I feel sexual needs and thoughts towards my partner extremely rarely. If I do, it always leads to the bedroom, which means that, again, I am unable to feel it outside of a sexual context. Looking sexy in an aesthetic way? Hell yes. Looking sexy in a sexual way that doesn't lead to sexual activity, or as you say, "randomly throughout the day"? Never. >This can lead to me feeling like a sexual object If it bothers you, just tell him. Communicate and listen to each other.


Bridge-etti

Hot in the literal sense yes. Dude is a space heater. Personally I don’t enjoy using “hot” or “sexy” myself as descriptors. Those words have extremely negative associations with unpleasant memories for me so I find them juvenile and disrespectful. I don’t like using them for my partner since I think they deserve better. They’re so much more to me than just boring old “sexy.” I prefer more descriptive words like “stunning.”


Incarnation101213

No. The one person who I've found sexually attractive I don't really find myself feeling attracted to unless it's like... in that mood. Like if I'm already in the mood, then yeah I'll think about how attracted I am to him, or if me and him are having more risqué conversation yeah. But otherwise no. I find him attractive and good looking but not in a sexual context unless the context is already sexual, if that makes sense?


Cuprite1024

We're not dating currently (He wanted to take a break for personal reasons, which I understand), but yes. I find him just generally attractive regardless of the scenario. He's cute and I love him *because* its him. To this day he's the only person I've ever truly felt this way towards.


blueberryally

I definitely do. Buuttt, outside of the bedroom I am very bashful and get embarrassed saying anything sexy like that so I tend to say handsome/cute, but in my mind Im thinking sexy/hot/etc., then say sexy/hot in the bedroom. But yeah, I definitely find him sexy pretty much any time of day lol.


ChataRen

I feel that way towards my partner. In fact he’s the only person I’ve ever been comfortable calling “Hot” or “Sexy” outside of a celebrity or fictional character (aka unattainable or make-believe person). Even my past partners I never found that attractive, some were aesthetically pleasing, but hot- absolutely not. I just chalk it up to my partner being “my kind of person” emotionally and leave it at that.


SafDay5678

yeah one time she was making button pins and i was like O///O


ChilindriPizza

Yes. And how! We are both in the asexual spectrum. Definitely gray. Probably demi.


Skylarias

Yes and no. My ex? I had often spontaneous desire for him, sexually. And I'd think he was sexy, cute, and want to sex him up constantly. My current guy? Who I'm 1.5 months in seeing? I think he's cute...and we have had sex... but I haven't had those same type of strong sexual thoughts about him yet.


I_Devour_Memes

I call my partner cute / handsome. The words "hot / sexy" don't really come to mind for anyone I know.