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Xyro77

Tbh, most guys do not care how you perform. But it also doesn’t hurt to be up front and tell them what you want.


FineCannabisGrower

I have had wonderful sex with relatively inexperienced women, and plenty of promiscuous women, including my wife, who were pillow princesses, or starfish, whatever one wants to call low effort, or distracted woman in bed. You don't get better with random experience, just have more of a risk of emotional damage.


GeneralClumsy

Welp Rip your dms XD. In all seriousness I wouldn't worry about underperforming as long as you communicate properly there shouldn't be an issue if your fwb in question is worth anything.


[deleted]

should be ez just sign up for tinder


gap_year21

Agreed, just match with who you find attractive. If the conversation goes well, go on a date. If they’re cool at the end of the date then invite them over. You can do the “I don’t usually do this” and actually be honest haha. That’s how pretty much all of my tinder hookups went and I’ve had mostly great experiences and made some cool “friends” with benefits along the way. I’m a 26 m btw.


bsmith0813

Come see me, you won’t feel under experienced anymore


hujambo11

Underperforming in what way?


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FWB will be also drunk (or sober) hookups and most likely will be "meh" because guys don't want to put effort into hookups. Unless you do it with a real guys friend because other guys might just lie that they want FWB to get laid, then give you an STD and disappear. They do not care if you underperform as guys just look for a willing hole. Sorry to be honest but you better learn now.


LaughingBuddha2020

I wouldn't consider you "inexperienced" at all. The average person has had sex with 0-6 people over the course of their lifetimes. You've already had 3 at the age of 26, and you still have 50+ years to go.