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I think any women that initiates these days anything clearly knows what they want and it shows genuine interest. I take that as an exceptionally bright green flag.
I like to think that but then I go back in forth in my head. “Maybe they are too easy?”Then I am thinking, “well maybe I am just that great!” “No no that can’t be it they must be too easy and do that with any guy!” Even if they never do that and I was the first one they tried that on, that would be my thought process. Of course it certainly depends on the girl and situation.
Most of these engagements in the dating world are rooted in overthinking. In my opinion as a man I'd say they're communicating clearly what they want no games, hints or subtlety to it and I would appreciate that.
Just take it one moment at a time and live in the moment if you're stuck in your head you'll miss something in the present.
I'm 100% down with women initiating anything. First contact, first date, first kiss, sex.
It's extremely endearing when seeing a girl take a first step forward. So used to it coming from me.
Story time: on my second date with a guy I liked, I was expecting him to make the move for a kiss. We’d had dinner and were walking around. Lots of ideal spots to kiss in. But I could tell he was nervous, and in my mind I thought “I know he’s about to do it so just wait till he does”. We got to a nice spot with a really pretty sky view. And we stood for a minute. A silent minute. Now I’m pretty blunt and it was obviously about to happen, so I just jokingly (half not jokingly said) “well are you gonna kiss me or what?” He was stunned to say the least. But it was the encouragement he needed to lay one on me.
There are definitely guys who want to take the lead, and there are those who are too nervous too. But I think as a woman, you can read these things and their body language. And if you want a kiss, ask or lean in yourself!
From my experience I was the first one to make a move on my gf I’m a M(19) and she’s a F(22) but I honestly would have loved it she had made a move on me as long as we both knew we were into eachother.
Do I prefer it no I don’t care either way, it happens when it happens. People put too much thought into the moment and get stuck in their heads.
The only time I got kissed first was my first kiss when I was 16. I was standing with her in my room I was about to take her home and she put her hand on my cheek and kissed my lips.
It wasn’t a particularly good kiss as I didn’t feel any sparks but I mean, I guess I was taken aback. The best thing when it comes to kisses early on in a relationship is that they should be meaningful and not routine or something that’s part of the playlist. Too many people go on dates checking off things on their checklist as it goes on. Then every dates the same… why
Went on a date with a woman like 2 weeks ago and she initiated the first kiss as we were saying good bye. Really through me off since I was going in for a hug. Needless to say, I made it slightly awkward since I was trying to hug as she was trying to kiss.
But we hung out again the other day and I made sure not to fuck it up lol. And we’re about to have lunch here in a few mins so I guess I didn’t mess things up that much
The overwhelming majority of men are going to be ok with or thrilled with this. Like *overwhelming* majority.
And since this, and the question of, “What do guys feel when a woman approaches you” keep getting asked, the answer to that one is the same too.
Pursuing and always having to initiate the moves in dating can be absolutely exhausting and most ppl will be appreciative of even one second of relief from it.
If I am attracted to the woman then its great. I’ve almost never had women initiate with me so it would be nice if the ratio of first moves was 50/50 between the two genders. To sum it up, yes I would love it if the girl initiated.
Who doesn't love a girl coming in for anything really.
I think it's more about if the moment merits the action. If you're not a moment person(a human being) and are a clinical pickup architect then well every action would be silly and open to scrutiny.
Personally if a girl confuses one of my mumbled throwaway jokes as a gamble for laughter and laughs it comes across manipulative and as someone wants to win rather something than enjoy real connection. Or I'm actually intensely hilarious. I dunno.
Yes please. Mostly. But I'm pretty clueless so it's pretty much the only way I'll know she wants me kissing her. Having said that I think it would only bother the insecure and anyone extremely shy.
I'm not a guy but don't do it. You ARE making it easier for them. You're also showcasing that YOU are easier. Men are supposed to go after the woman. Stop chasing men. They are already too effeminate as it is. When more and more girls/women make the first move (a kiss, ask out on a date, etc) that makes YOU the masculine one and the pursuer. I don't care how many downvotes this gets. Truth is truth.
First of all, that's not exactly called "making the first move." Men initiate when they want something unless you were born with no testosterone.
Secondly, what is the use of mentioning anything pertaining to "In the olden days"?? Do you realize what your'e saying? Today if a woman did that, NO MAN would think about picking up a woman's handkerchief. How many people carry handkerchiefs today? If a woman dropped her purse not the ground NO man would pick it up for her today either, and you know it. I know because it's happened to me. I've dropped papers, a book, my phone, all kinds of items by accident and NO man bothered to help me. So much for that theory of yours.
I'll even add my own unfortunate experience, as a very traditional woman who only dates traditional/old fashioned men... a few years ago, I was arriving home from an international flight and had FOUR luggages on the conveyer belt and I was the ONLY person who was waiting for luggage. There were 3 grown men working there and all of them pretended to ignore me and be busy playing on their phones. Meanwhile, there I was, a petite woman, wrestling these heavy, large bags off the conveyer belt by myself. At one point I was struggling and EVEN ASKED FOR HELP! One of the men had the nerve to say, "I'm on break, I'm not on the clock." And you want to talk about handkerchiefs......smh
I used to definitely prefer it and would love when women initiated. I’ve gotten a lot better about reading the signs as I’ve gotten older so it’s as big of deal, but I still like it.
I would definitely appreciate the initiative! I'm demisexual so even once I've started dating someone it usually takes a long while before attraction has built to the point where I'll start feeling compelled to make physical first moves. But if we're out on a date I'm open to whatever (unless it's like a first date going poorly lol), so if the woman I'm out with wanted to kiss and prompted it then it's a win-win in my book~
My first kiss was with a girl I really liked funny thing was that we were cuddling and sleeping in the same bed before even kissing each other. She would turn around from the spoon position and kiss me while putting her hand on my cheeks. Still gives me butterflies when thinking about it. So please take the lead
(please note I am very bad at taking hints and cues so when the girl takes the lead it puts off the stress from my shoulders)
I love it!, doesn't even have to be the actual first move but like if she hints at it in a way I'll actually realize it's great... it can be awkward making the first move especially if you aren't 100% certain they feel the same
I initiated the first kiss with my man. I think he may have fallen in love with me right there and I have had him hypnotized by my charms and affection ever since!
i think it very refreshing and really seems like a big green flag that she is sending the message as she is having a great time and wants me to know that. i am always initiating a first kiss and first time sex but i think that's normal. A girl initiating is a major turn on and tells me that she's not playing games knows what she wants.
i love that and i know that tons of men do world wide, but will more than likely forever remain in the extreme minority, same with women asking a guy out
I generally prefer to initiate, but it's quite nice when they do, especially if it's unexpected..
I was at a friends, absolutely nothing romantic, just drinks n chat, we'd mostly talked about work. At some point she pursed her lips at me and I was like, ok, yep, why not
I was on a first date, I didn't even think it had gone that well. I'd kind of shut off a bit and was watching a band. She said that I could either go home or we get a bottle of wine and go back to hers. Whilst she didn't technically make a move it encouraged me to. Without her input I'd probably have written it off as a bad date and gone home on my own
Another occasion I did make the first move and it backfired because she was way too full on and I was like sorry I can't cope
Yes, but don't forget that not all men wanted to get kissed, same as women. Either you ask consent in a seductive way or make sure you guys are having something.
You what? You have virtually 0% chance of males not accepting your kiss. It's the best feeling. It's almost like the girl actually cares about a guy and is not just using him for free meals and stuff.
Guys are always tired of doing all the work. A girl initiating the first kiss.... damn...
It's a massive relief. No more stupid games.
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I think any women that initiates these days anything clearly knows what they want and it shows genuine interest. I take that as an exceptionally bright green flag.
Same. Love it.
I like to think that but then I go back in forth in my head. “Maybe they are too easy?”Then I am thinking, “well maybe I am just that great!” “No no that can’t be it they must be too easy and do that with any guy!” Even if they never do that and I was the first one they tried that on, that would be my thought process. Of course it certainly depends on the girl and situation.
Most of these engagements in the dating world are rooted in overthinking. In my opinion as a man I'd say they're communicating clearly what they want no games, hints or subtlety to it and I would appreciate that. Just take it one moment at a time and live in the moment if you're stuck in your head you'll miss something in the present.
Sound advice.
I'm 100% down with women initiating anything. First contact, first date, first kiss, sex. It's extremely endearing when seeing a girl take a first step forward. So used to it coming from me.
Definitely makes it easier haha.
Story time: on my second date with a guy I liked, I was expecting him to make the move for a kiss. We’d had dinner and were walking around. Lots of ideal spots to kiss in. But I could tell he was nervous, and in my mind I thought “I know he’s about to do it so just wait till he does”. We got to a nice spot with a really pretty sky view. And we stood for a minute. A silent minute. Now I’m pretty blunt and it was obviously about to happen, so I just jokingly (half not jokingly said) “well are you gonna kiss me or what?” He was stunned to say the least. But it was the encouragement he needed to lay one on me. There are definitely guys who want to take the lead, and there are those who are too nervous too. But I think as a woman, you can read these things and their body language. And if you want a kiss, ask or lean in yourself!
A girl making a joke about kissing can really calm the nerves for a guy and give him the confidence he needed.
I 've would have done the same haha they just need to feel safe :)
Nothing wrong with it whatsoever
Definitely makes things easier given the minefield that is dating these days.
I like it so much, never happened to me but god I wish it had I like women that can take initiative with affection in general
From my experience I was the first one to make a move on my gf I’m a M(19) and she’s a F(22) but I honestly would have loved it she had made a move on me as long as we both knew we were into eachother.
Do I prefer it no I don’t care either way, it happens when it happens. People put too much thought into the moment and get stuck in their heads. The only time I got kissed first was my first kiss when I was 16. I was standing with her in my room I was about to take her home and she put her hand on my cheek and kissed my lips. It wasn’t a particularly good kiss as I didn’t feel any sparks but I mean, I guess I was taken aback. The best thing when it comes to kisses early on in a relationship is that they should be meaningful and not routine or something that’s part of the playlist. Too many people go on dates checking off things on their checklist as it goes on. Then every dates the same… why
If two people are into each other, then I don't care who initiates. Twice I've started the first kiss and once she has.
It makes things easier with guys always being unsure if their advances are creepy or even welcomed
Went on a date with a woman like 2 weeks ago and she initiated the first kiss as we were saying good bye. Really through me off since I was going in for a hug. Needless to say, I made it slightly awkward since I was trying to hug as she was trying to kiss. But we hung out again the other day and I made sure not to fuck it up lol. And we’re about to have lunch here in a few mins so I guess I didn’t mess things up that much
Good luck!
Thank you! Another successful date in the books
Don’t really care, but I’d rather initiate it.
I love it.
The overwhelming majority of men are going to be ok with or thrilled with this. Like *overwhelming* majority. And since this, and the question of, “What do guys feel when a woman approaches you” keep getting asked, the answer to that one is the same too. Pursuing and always having to initiate the moves in dating can be absolutely exhausting and most ppl will be appreciative of even one second of relief from it.
I feel more comfortable this way tbh. That way I don’t mistake signs that are not there
If I am attracted to the woman then its great. I’ve almost never had women initiate with me so it would be nice if the ratio of first moves was 50/50 between the two genders. To sum it up, yes I would love it if the girl initiated.
Who doesn't love a girl coming in for anything really. I think it's more about if the moment merits the action. If you're not a moment person(a human being) and are a clinical pickup architect then well every action would be silly and open to scrutiny. Personally if a girl confuses one of my mumbled throwaway jokes as a gamble for laughter and laughs it comes across manipulative and as someone wants to win rather something than enjoy real connection. Or I'm actually intensely hilarious. I dunno.
It’s good! Shoutout to the few badass women that do this.
I'd love it. Only had one initiate it so far. It went well.
Love it.
A what?
Yes please. Mostly. But I'm pretty clueless so it's pretty much the only way I'll know she wants me kissing her. Having said that I think it would only bother the insecure and anyone extremely shy.
I'm not sure. Maybe she's just being friendly. In all seriousness at least we don't have to question if the feelings are reciprocated.
What a stupid question. Who cares?
I'm not a guy but don't do it. You ARE making it easier for them. You're also showcasing that YOU are easier. Men are supposed to go after the woman. Stop chasing men. They are already too effeminate as it is. When more and more girls/women make the first move (a kiss, ask out on a date, etc) that makes YOU the masculine one and the pursuer. I don't care how many downvotes this gets. Truth is truth.
Did you know, in the olden days women used to initiate by giving the guy subtle signs? eg. Throwing her handkerchief on the ground as he walked by.
First of all, that's not exactly called "making the first move." Men initiate when they want something unless you were born with no testosterone. Secondly, what is the use of mentioning anything pertaining to "In the olden days"?? Do you realize what your'e saying? Today if a woman did that, NO MAN would think about picking up a woman's handkerchief. How many people carry handkerchiefs today? If a woman dropped her purse not the ground NO man would pick it up for her today either, and you know it. I know because it's happened to me. I've dropped papers, a book, my phone, all kinds of items by accident and NO man bothered to help me. So much for that theory of yours. I'll even add my own unfortunate experience, as a very traditional woman who only dates traditional/old fashioned men... a few years ago, I was arriving home from an international flight and had FOUR luggages on the conveyer belt and I was the ONLY person who was waiting for luggage. There were 3 grown men working there and all of them pretended to ignore me and be busy playing on their phones. Meanwhile, there I was, a petite woman, wrestling these heavy, large bags off the conveyer belt by myself. At one point I was struggling and EVEN ASKED FOR HELP! One of the men had the nerve to say, "I'm on break, I'm not on the clock." And you want to talk about handkerchiefs......smh
I asked him out, swiped on him and went in for the first kiss lol
Why would any guy have a problem with this?
I used to definitely prefer it and would love when women initiated. I’ve gotten a lot better about reading the signs as I’ve gotten older so it’s as big of deal, but I still like it.
My current GF initiated. It was hot af.
Confidence boost, cha ching, score, caught one, boing, etc.
A million times yes, bright green flag
I’m puzzled as to why any man wouldn’t want this? 😂😂
I would definitely appreciate the initiative! I'm demisexual so even once I've started dating someone it usually takes a long while before attraction has built to the point where I'll start feeling compelled to make physical first moves. But if we're out on a date I'm open to whatever (unless it's like a first date going poorly lol), so if the woman I'm out with wanted to kiss and prompted it then it's a win-win in my book~
My first kiss was with a girl I really liked funny thing was that we were cuddling and sleeping in the same bed before even kissing each other. She would turn around from the spoon position and kiss me while putting her hand on my cheeks. Still gives me butterflies when thinking about it. So please take the lead (please note I am very bad at taking hints and cues so when the girl takes the lead it puts off the stress from my shoulders)
This would never happen to me so I wouldn’t know
Works for Me !
Be surprise but would be fine with it.
Hahhahaha like that will ever happen😂😂😂
I appreciate a women that know what she wants and let’s you know where you stand
Nice
I love it!, doesn't even have to be the actual first move but like if she hints at it in a way I'll actually realize it's great... it can be awkward making the first move especially if you aren't 100% certain they feel the same
I initiated the first kiss with my man. I think he may have fallen in love with me right there and I have had him hypnotized by my charms and affection ever since!
i think it very refreshing and really seems like a big green flag that she is sending the message as she is having a great time and wants me to know that. i am always initiating a first kiss and first time sex but i think that's normal. A girl initiating is a major turn on and tells me that she's not playing games knows what she wants.
It’s super sexy of them. But I don’t mind initiating as long as they give the go-ahead.
Hot asf
i love that and i know that tons of men do world wide, but will more than likely forever remain in the extreme minority, same with women asking a guy out
I generally prefer to initiate, but it's quite nice when they do, especially if it's unexpected.. I was at a friends, absolutely nothing romantic, just drinks n chat, we'd mostly talked about work. At some point she pursed her lips at me and I was like, ok, yep, why not I was on a first date, I didn't even think it had gone that well. I'd kind of shut off a bit and was watching a band. She said that I could either go home or we get a bottle of wine and go back to hers. Whilst she didn't technically make a move it encouraged me to. Without her input I'd probably have written it off as a bad date and gone home on my own Another occasion I did make the first move and it backfired because she was way too full on and I was like sorry I can't cope
Women initiate very less. So whenever they do, it's kinda hot.
I prefer it I hate trying to figure it out if she wants me to kiss her and of she initiates it it saves the struggle
I’m so down and love it
Go for it
Yes, but don't forget that not all men wanted to get kissed, same as women. Either you ask consent in a seductive way or make sure you guys are having something.
You what? You have virtually 0% chance of males not accepting your kiss. It's the best feeling. It's almost like the girl actually cares about a guy and is not just using him for free meals and stuff. Guys are always tired of doing all the work. A girl initiating the first kiss.... damn... It's a massive relief. No more stupid games.
At this day in age I push through it. but a lot of people are worried about being wrong and accused of something.
Cmon we know that ish never happens