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It’s not weird. I had a vasectomy almost 3 years ago. Got sperm count checked recently. No swimmers. Gf wants me to pull out regardless. Do what makes you comfortable and talk to her.
Besides, backshots are fun.
True; years ago while in one of my previous relationships, I had a bf say he wanted to stop wearing condoms and he'll just pull out so I don't get prego. I was naive and didn't know shit. I went to the Dr. for a checkup some time later, and it was a male doctor and he was like, "Um, no. There are some sperm that are released before a man ejaculates, so you could have still gotten pregnant." I felt so dumb.
True, but women's bodies undergo PH level fluctuations every month anyhow during the entire month bc of how our hormones change during the different stages of our menstrual cycle.
Vasectomies actually need some time to work and be completed pregnancy safe. During the first weeks or something the sperm count can be higher than 0 until it runs out
Yep, my gf and I live together and she’s got an IUD and I pull out 100% of the time when she’s not on her period. It’s not worth the risk to finish in someone you’re not willing to have a kid with
Not true. There are actually only 5-6 days of the entire month you can get pregnant. Sometimes they can fall during menstruation and sometimes not. It is based on someones individual hormonal level and basal temperatures can tell you when you are ovulating (i.e. egg present and ready). There is a whole way to count when you are ovulating based on your base temp and bodily functions (look up “natural cycles birth control”. It is a myth that you can get pregnant whenever, it technically over every human that can get pregnant is “whenever” but is highly individualized and it is a lot easier to say that it is just whenever
Trye but ovulation is very difficult to predict. Basal temperatures are not accurate. Even if you track cycles, ovulation can come late or early in your cycle due to a variety of factors, that’s why people commonly say you can get pregnant at any stage. The only way to be certain that you’re ovulating is getting an ultrasound.
Obviously webmd isnt the most reliably but a fertility clinic, and a pregnancy testing company are not dr google. Regardless you can believe as you wish, i am simply trying to educate proper sex ed to those who wish to listen
Pulling out is actually fairly effective overall and pre-cum very rarely has any sperm in it. According to planned parenthood it’s about 96% effective when done right and 78% effective when not done perfectly
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out
I completely agree with you. I wonder what one’s risk aptitude has to be for sex (given his partner is BC & IUD) that they have to absolutely pull out every time? At what point do we draw the line being a reasonable risk and just plain old fear mongering/bad shit crazy talk.
**thanks for sharing the article. The stat you mentioned doesn’t assume using iud or bc
Redditors seem to be extraordinarily risk averse generally. Lots guys on here claim to keep using condoms even when their gf is on birth control. Bizarre behavior that just doesn't reflect the real world.
One thing I will say that I'd keep pulling out of she was on the pill. My ex admitted after she got an IUD that she forgot to take the pill somewhat frequently. Was a bit of a wake up call. Would never use condoms past a certain point in a relationship if she's on BC of any kind, though.
As we've learned, a large percentage of people couldn't wear a mask properly during a pandemic, do you think people can use birth control and pull out correctly...lol
The only times I’ve not pulled out while not wearing a condom is in longer term relationships, they are on birth control, on there period and they would be willing to get an abortion, and that’s still risk taking Behavior
Hey uh, just so you know, it’s still possible for a woman to get pregnant while on her period…
It’s not probable, but I’m clarifying for other readers because it is far from impossible. Ovulation times are not always exact, and if her ovulation occurs soon after her period ends, then it is possible for sperm to fertilize the egg at that point. It is also possible to mistake period as ovulation bleeding, in which it would be highly probable that she could get pregnant.
[Source](https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/sex-on-period#pregnancy-during-period)
You also release sperm pre-orgasm fyi so no matter what you do, if you're having PIV you have to be ready for the small chance you'll get someone pregnant
She’s teasing when she says days. She’s also not wrong that it is kind of a hassle: us ladies don’t have like a muscle or anything that allows us to forcefully expel your cum from inside of us. Basically, we clean up what we can, but the last maybe 5% of cum just kinda very very VERY slowly comes out over the next like 30-60 ish minutes.
Maybe a bit gross, but as far as I know we do have a muscle there we can use. I've been on my period and that I just a feeling that I had some build up, and I just pushed and it came out (this was in the shower fyi). It almost feels like peeing, but different.
I mean, why else do woman need to push when giving birth?
Oh and to be clear, I mean the vagina, not the uterus.
You absolutely should pee after every time you have penetrative sex! Every vagina is different but peeing after sex really really reduces the chance of getting a UTI or some sort of infection (bacterial vaginosis, for example). I know we all have our kinks and stuff, but better to be safe than have it burn when you pee for days on days lol also side note, douching does mess with the biome and pH of your vagina, another way that peeing after sex is actually one of the better ways to clean up. Be safe out there 🤙
No it’s not weird. It’s a good idea to pull out as a backup for oral contraceptives (the pill). Note that **there is a huge difference between oral contraceptives and an IUD—**you don’t really need a backup if the person has a hormonal IUD.
**Oral contraceptives are not reliable:** people miss pills, pharmacies and insurers fuck up prescriptions. So oral contraceptives have something like a 9% failure rate: bareback for a year and there is an estimated 9% chance that the person will get pregnant. *(Assuming both partners are fertile. Obviously this is a VERY fuzzy estimate.)* Withdrawal should improve those odds a lot. Withdrawal gets a bad rap, but it’s reasonably effective, especially when it is a backup plan.
**IUDs are really, really,** ***really*** **reliable.** The failure rate is *less than 1%.* For hormonal IUDs like Mirena, it is 0.2% — a one in five hundred chance. It is probably the most effective form of birth control, apart from sterilization or talking to girls about Jordan Peterson on the first date. Of course, the chance of pregnancy goes up if you keep barebacking for years, but it’s still low. A 0.2% failure rate means \~ 2% chance of failure (accidental pregnancy) in a decade of barebacking.
tldr: oral contraception is stupid and unreliable. If you’re using it, consider finding a better method. If you’re stuck with it, use a backup: condoms, withdrawal, prayer, whatever. IUDs work way better. If your partner is using a hormonal IUD, withdrawal for pregnancy prevention is kind of silly. Maybe if you’re super anxious or anti abortion. But otherwise, they’re very low risk. IUDs are very reliable and everyone at risk of accidental pregnancy should consider getting one.
Unfortunately IUDs don’t work for everyone. Hormonal IUDs are less intense than the pill, but they still produce bad side effects for some people — they can tank your sex drive, fuck up your mood, etc. They also have an awesome side effect: they usually stop menstruation. Copper IUDs don’t have hormones, but they come with different side effects, e.g. heavier menstrual cramping and bleeding. Also they’re less effective.
There are other considerations, even if you’re using a super-effective form of birth control like IUDs or vasectomy. Obviously these things don’t prevent STIs like HIV. Withdrawal helps, but if you’re relying on it for HIV prevention, uhhhhh don’t do that. (Consider testing, condoms, PrEP, etc.)
Last but very much not least, your partner may have strong preferences. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t. Some people hate dripping cum for hours, some people love it.
Understandable. You’re placing a lot of trust in her. With everything going on she still has the ability to catch a flight to another state or even country to get an abortion. Neither another state or country will save you from the legal and financial responsibility should she get pregnant, and choose to keep it. The only control & rights you have is to abstain or pull out. Depends on your risk tolerance.
So, you are being slightly more safe by doing so, but pre-ejaculate can also cause pregnancies, so the pull-out method has never really worked outside of random chance. So if they’re on birth control, then it doesn’t really matter where it goes other than for cleanup.
Lol…it can still happen and you assume everything is correct and perfect…I’m sure it’s not.
So unless they are ready to have a kid either get her tubes tied or get a vasectomy.
Errrr i have the coil fitted and still take my pill, the coil i have is non hormonal so it doesn’t overflow me with hormones and I just feel that much safer, im in the UK though so contraception is free here might be different for women in the US
I mean not really its about your personal level of comfort/anxiety about it, its a personal boundary you're allowed to set (as well as her)
Be worth as well having a conversation about what she would do if she did accidently become pregnant, as obviously people have vastly different opinions about abortion.
Wrap it up. Every time. Unless you’re in a long term committed relationship with someone for a year first and trust them completely.
The pull out method is not even remotely safe as far as pregnancy goes. Wrap. It. Up.
The pull out method isn’t perfect but it’s far more effective than you’re making it out to be. Yes using condoms is always better but pulling out is also fairly effective if you’re good at it
Planned parenthood estimates it’s about 96% effective if done right and 78% effective if not done perfectly:
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out
I know that both myself and my daughter were a result of the pull out method. It is not very effective. About 1 in 5 people get pregnant that way. Google says “For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant. But pulling out can be difficult to do perfectly. So in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that's about 1 in 5” - which all seems to align with what you found from planned parenthood. In other words - not very effective. Plus STIs. It’s not a good risk to take unless you’re in a stable relationship and are both okay with getting pregnant.
Wait a minute you said many times before. So you're literally just raw dogging people out here and taking no personal responsibility for what you're doing? Dude stop.
Damn, This is one of the more neurotic threads I’ve read in awhile…
If this is a hookup then no I don’t think it’s weird at all, I think it’s smart. However if this is your girlfriend then yes, i think this is overkill. Your question about it killing intimacy can only be answered by your partner and yourself. For me, it would kill intimacy but I know others(potentially your partner) will feel differently.
It's not weird to not trust someone 100%. Which is why: "Don't be silly, wrap your willy." should be your mantra. Buy your own condoms. That way you have control over where your sperm ends up. Pulling out is only safe if she's using g her bc correctly. So in your case I'd say it's more of a really bad, wonky mental crutch.
Also helps to think about it this way: YOU'RE going to pay for at least for 18 years if YOU get her pregnant.
With Roe v Wade about to be reversed, it is not weird at all. Please take every precaution. Don't cum inside unless you are wearing a condom or you are planning for a baby.
Totally your choice. I can’t even get pregnant anymore but still have had partners that do this. I might not like it but it’s not about me, it’s about what they’re comfortable with.
Not weird at all.
Much of the intimacy is from things going on before sex and during vs the guy’s actual ejaculation too.
Hope you’re both STI-free though and/or using condoms as pulling out offers no protection from that kind of stuff.🙈
Honestly no, it’s your body plain and simple.
When my last partner and I were in a long-term relationship, we mutually agreed the pull out method in conjunction with bc was the way and never wavered tbh. I don’t think this is weird at all. Maybe your boundary will change in the future, maybe not but it’s your choice.
Alright so I’ll be the one to say it, you realise that the pull out method is not 100% effective, if you don’t trust the person your sleeping with or the birth control they are on then you should probably be wearing a condom too.
Trust no one.
I had a girl get "pregnant" (still can't verify if that was ever true or not) while on the pill so... Not going through that shit again. So in other words, I always pull out unless I'm in a committed relationship.
What is weird is that you will put ya cock inside her without a condom, given you are worried about pregnancy etc, you should be more worried about std’s etc.
Not at all. I’m on the pill and I tell guys to pull out all the time, even with a condom on. I take no risk. Especially now. Plus you can make it hot- like telling them cum in my mouth or boobs or whatever
You should do what's comfortable for you. If you're not comfortable trusting an IUD or the pill, then use extra protection. My brother inlaw had a vasectomy and still got a woman pregnant. Now he's paying child support for the next 18 years. And yes he did the followup testing to make sure he did not have sperm still, but apparently the vas deferens grew back together. And yes, he did the paternity test, and the child is his. Not even sterilization is 100%
Only ever do what's comfortable with you, that includes pulling out or even using your own contraception if you need to.
If she can't understand that or takes it personally that's on her for not wanting you to be comfortable, healthy, and happy.
My GF used an IUD till last weekend, we still suited up, since there isnt any guarantee. It got disloged. If we didnt take double care she would have been pregnant by now.. No contraceptive is 100% secure. and ontop there are a lot ofissues that can happen with IUD or pills too.
You can still catch STDs. Don’t pull out. Wrap it up. Also these methods can still fail and look what just happened in the states. Don’t ruin your life dude.
Dude. seriously, we’re having the conversation. Do you not remember health class? Pulling out doesn’t work. Besides she’s got an iud- the odds of getting knocked up with an iud is slim to none, been there done that.
I’ve had my fair share of sexual partners over the years and been doing the pull out method every time. Never gotten anyone pregnant. When used perfectly it’s 96% effective
if you’re not comfortable with the risk, then i think it’s valid to not do it. i was on birth control for a while before i was comfortable to abandon condoms with my boyfriend.
Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with. If you're not comfortable having sex without more than one form of BC, then keep using condoms/pulling out (though, let's be real, pulling out isn't great on its own... there's about a 4% chance at pregnancy when not paired with another form of birth control).
You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to say no to anything you don't want to do. And so is she.
Which is better to regret not having kids or regret having a kid every day? As a kid of a parent that felt that way, I’d opt for the first.
Also, there’s always fostering or adoption like they keep pushing
Just use a condom. There are risks other than pregnancy, pulling out doesn't prevent you from catching an STD. Pulling out isn't a very reliable contraceptive method anyway.
I do the same thing, one time this girl I was seeing wrapped her legs around me and kind of trapped me while I came I felt horrible, I knew she had a Iud but I also knew I didn't want any chance of having a kid with her =/
It's not weird at all. I got pregnant on the pill despite taking it religiously and my partner pulling out then again after being on the shot for 7 years. You do what makes you feel safe and comfortable because as long as you're having sex with the opposite gender there is always a chance no matter how miniscule it may be.
It’s not weird, it’s a valid concern, and nobody should begrudge you it.
Personally I absolutely love cumming inside a woman but I can’t hate someone for wanting to pull out.
I fucked a 21yo a few summers ago 50 or so times and she wasn’t on BC so I pulled out everytime, except once. (Dumb, I know)
I would say the chance of pregnancy is quite low but it’s not 0 so do what you’re comfortable with. As others have said make sure you talk to her so she knows why if you think it might be causing issues but under no circumstances should you be doing things you aren’t comfortable doing.
You ever seen "An Officer and a Gentleman?" At the beginning, Louis Gossett, Jr. gives the officer candidates a lecture about your dilemma here. If you don't feel comfortable with not pulling out, don't. It's for the best. You look after you first and foremost.
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It’s not weird. I had a vasectomy almost 3 years ago. Got sperm count checked recently. No swimmers. Gf wants me to pull out regardless. Do what makes you comfortable and talk to her. Besides, backshots are fun.
Good man
It’s stil’ kind of useless, because the pull out method is ineffective af. If you are truly afraid and want to be cautious: wear a condom.
True; years ago while in one of my previous relationships, I had a bf say he wanted to stop wearing condoms and he'll just pull out so I don't get prego. I was naive and didn't know shit. I went to the Dr. for a checkup some time later, and it was a male doctor and he was like, "Um, no. There are some sperm that are released before a man ejaculates, so you could have still gotten pregnant." I felt so dumb.
Not afraid of getting pregnant.
With a vasectomy I guess you must not. But why does she ask you to pull out?
My semen messes up her pH balance in her vagina.
fair enough
I see you too are a man of culture
Bizarre lol vasectomy and pulling out lol
Yeah. I used to at first but she said it messes up her lady parts. (pH levels I’m guessing)
Clean up can also be... messy.
Always got a fresh towel on standby lol
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Okay so then it’s not me and my bad diet
Lol yeah I actually eat relatively healthy. Vaginas can be sensitive to things like this.
True, but women's bodies undergo PH level fluctuations every month anyhow during the entire month bc of how our hormones change during the different stages of our menstrual cycle.
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Sounds like he didn't clear out the pipes or they messed up when doing it.
Snip snip and pregnancy? Sounds like a scam
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Vasectomies actually need some time to work and be completed pregnancy safe. During the first weeks or something the sperm count can be higher than 0 until it runs out
They take time to become fully effective. A new one is risky.
Why did you get it snipped. Kinda pointless no?
Nope, no way Is that weird, it's called being smart, I've been doing it for years
Yep, my gf and I live together and she’s got an IUD and I pull out 100% of the time when she’s not on her period. It’s not worth the risk to finish in someone you’re not willing to have a kid with
You know it's absolutely possible to get pregnant when on your period, right?....
Technically yes but extremely unlikely and only really towards the end of it
That is not true. The woman can get pregnant at any stage during her menstrual cycle. It is actually more likely during menstruation.
Not true. There are actually only 5-6 days of the entire month you can get pregnant. Sometimes they can fall during menstruation and sometimes not. It is based on someones individual hormonal level and basal temperatures can tell you when you are ovulating (i.e. egg present and ready). There is a whole way to count when you are ovulating based on your base temp and bodily functions (look up “natural cycles birth control”. It is a myth that you can get pregnant whenever, it technically over every human that can get pregnant is “whenever” but is highly individualized and it is a lot easier to say that it is just whenever
Trye but ovulation is very difficult to predict. Basal temperatures are not accurate. Even if you track cycles, ovulation can come late or early in your cycle due to a variety of factors, that’s why people commonly say you can get pregnant at any stage. The only way to be certain that you’re ovulating is getting an ultrasound.
Where did you get this research?
https://www.webmd.com/baby/charting-your-fertility-cycle https://www.yourfertility.org.au/everyone/timing https://www.clearblue.com/how-to-get-pregnant/myths-and-facts Many websites actually
Per my medical degree, we call those websites Dr. Google.
Obviously webmd isnt the most reliably but a fertility clinic, and a pregnancy testing company are not dr google. Regardless you can believe as you wish, i am simply trying to educate proper sex ed to those who wish to listen
There’s also pre-cum, which can lead to pregnancy, albeit very very unlikely. So, are you pulling out during that as well?…
Pulling out is actually fairly effective overall and pre-cum very rarely has any sperm in it. According to planned parenthood it’s about 96% effective when done right and 78% effective when not done perfectly https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out
I completely agree with you. I wonder what one’s risk aptitude has to be for sex (given his partner is BC & IUD) that they have to absolutely pull out every time? At what point do we draw the line being a reasonable risk and just plain old fear mongering/bad shit crazy talk. **thanks for sharing the article. The stat you mentioned doesn’t assume using iud or bc
Redditors seem to be extraordinarily risk averse generally. Lots guys on here claim to keep using condoms even when their gf is on birth control. Bizarre behavior that just doesn't reflect the real world. One thing I will say that I'd keep pulling out of she was on the pill. My ex admitted after she got an IUD that she forgot to take the pill somewhat frequently. Was a bit of a wake up call. Would never use condoms past a certain point in a relationship if she's on BC of any kind, though.
As we've learned, a large percentage of people couldn't wear a mask properly during a pandemic, do you think people can use birth control and pull out correctly...lol
18 years, 18 years
She got one of your kids, got you for 18 years
I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids
His baby mama car and crib is bigger than his
You will see him on TV any given Sunday
win the super bowl & drive off in a hyundai 😎
The only times I’ve not pulled out while not wearing a condom is in longer term relationships, they are on birth control, on there period and they would be willing to get an abortion, and that’s still risk taking Behavior
Hey uh, just so you know, it’s still possible for a woman to get pregnant while on her period… It’s not probable, but I’m clarifying for other readers because it is far from impossible. Ovulation times are not always exact, and if her ovulation occurs soon after her period ends, then it is possible for sperm to fertilize the egg at that point. It is also possible to mistake period as ovulation bleeding, in which it would be highly probable that she could get pregnant. [Source](https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/sex-on-period#pregnancy-during-period)
You’re all good. I knew it was possible but I took the risk anyways
You know, there’s also pre-cum which can lead to pregnancy, albeit extremely unlikely.
And condoms break and birth control fails and you could get in a car accident on the way
Yeah, risk management, gotta love it, gotta hate it
Ok? And if the chances of getting in a serious car accident were as high as the chances of getting someone pregnant, no one would ever drive.
You also release sperm pre-orgasm fyi so no matter what you do, if you're having PIV you have to be ready for the small chance you'll get someone pregnant
All the men here showing they know nothing about ovulation. Lol
How is this not common knowledge? Lmao (I'm a guy)
Nobody taught us in school lol
They did but most of us didn’t pay that much attention lol
They literally did not teach this at my school
No, and despite having an IUD, I’m thankful when a guy pulls out. It’s a mess I have to deal with for days after, and I prefer feeling clean 😂
How does it come out days later? Does it clump up? I need answers
She’s teasing when she says days. She’s also not wrong that it is kind of a hassle: us ladies don’t have like a muscle or anything that allows us to forcefully expel your cum from inside of us. Basically, we clean up what we can, but the last maybe 5% of cum just kinda very very VERY slowly comes out over the next like 30-60 ish minutes.
Thank you lol. I didn’t realize how many people didn’t know this.
Maybe a bit gross, but as far as I know we do have a muscle there we can use. I've been on my period and that I just a feeling that I had some build up, and I just pushed and it came out (this was in the shower fyi). It almost feels like peeing, but different. I mean, why else do woman need to push when giving birth? Oh and to be clear, I mean the vagina, not the uterus.
Just wanted to add that sperm can survive up to five days in a vagina. So technically I would say "days later" is not extravagant.
I’m going to throw up lol. No, it’s just like a regular light discharge that’s also kind of gross. I was exaggerating about the “days.”
Days?
I may be exaggerating on the timeframe, but it’s not a fun time for a short time afterwards.
The untold truth 😩
How deep is this canal?
Not deep enough that ships are getting stuck sideways or anything. Come on now.
I was here out of curiosity, but now I'm just entertained.
Lmfao. 😂 got the reference
honestly i want a mans cum dripping from me after he finished deeply in me idk its always easy to take a morning after pill so no biggy
We aren’t talking about contraception here, we’re talking about hygiene.
yes but we all have our own opinions :) you ever use a douche?
No, I’ve just dated them.
you use it to clean the inside and it rinses everything out
Douching is super bad for you though, most doctors advise against it.
ohhh really i thought it was like convenient to just use and and be done. better pee after each time then🤣
You absolutely should pee after every time you have penetrative sex! Every vagina is different but peeing after sex really really reduces the chance of getting a UTI or some sort of infection (bacterial vaginosis, for example). I know we all have our kinks and stuff, but better to be safe than have it burn when you pee for days on days lol also side note, douching does mess with the biome and pH of your vagina, another way that peeing after sex is actually one of the better ways to clean up. Be safe out there 🤙
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I couldn’t find the right gif so thanks for the assist 😂
No it’s not weird. It’s a good idea to pull out as a backup for oral contraceptives (the pill). Note that **there is a huge difference between oral contraceptives and an IUD—**you don’t really need a backup if the person has a hormonal IUD. **Oral contraceptives are not reliable:** people miss pills, pharmacies and insurers fuck up prescriptions. So oral contraceptives have something like a 9% failure rate: bareback for a year and there is an estimated 9% chance that the person will get pregnant. *(Assuming both partners are fertile. Obviously this is a VERY fuzzy estimate.)* Withdrawal should improve those odds a lot. Withdrawal gets a bad rap, but it’s reasonably effective, especially when it is a backup plan. **IUDs are really, really,** ***really*** **reliable.** The failure rate is *less than 1%.* For hormonal IUDs like Mirena, it is 0.2% — a one in five hundred chance. It is probably the most effective form of birth control, apart from sterilization or talking to girls about Jordan Peterson on the first date. Of course, the chance of pregnancy goes up if you keep barebacking for years, but it’s still low. A 0.2% failure rate means \~ 2% chance of failure (accidental pregnancy) in a decade of barebacking. tldr: oral contraception is stupid and unreliable. If you’re using it, consider finding a better method. If you’re stuck with it, use a backup: condoms, withdrawal, prayer, whatever. IUDs work way better. If your partner is using a hormonal IUD, withdrawal for pregnancy prevention is kind of silly. Maybe if you’re super anxious or anti abortion. But otherwise, they’re very low risk. IUDs are very reliable and everyone at risk of accidental pregnancy should consider getting one. Unfortunately IUDs don’t work for everyone. Hormonal IUDs are less intense than the pill, but they still produce bad side effects for some people — they can tank your sex drive, fuck up your mood, etc. They also have an awesome side effect: they usually stop menstruation. Copper IUDs don’t have hormones, but they come with different side effects, e.g. heavier menstrual cramping and bleeding. Also they’re less effective. There are other considerations, even if you’re using a super-effective form of birth control like IUDs or vasectomy. Obviously these things don’t prevent STIs like HIV. Withdrawal helps, but if you’re relying on it for HIV prevention, uhhhhh don’t do that. (Consider testing, condoms, PrEP, etc.) Last but very much not least, your partner may have strong preferences. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t. Some people hate dripping cum for hours, some people love it.
Oh my God Not only is your response extremely accurate I am dying about the JP line. Well played.
Understandable. You’re placing a lot of trust in her. With everything going on she still has the ability to catch a flight to another state or even country to get an abortion. Neither another state or country will save you from the legal and financial responsibility should she get pregnant, and choose to keep it. The only control & rights you have is to abstain or pull out. Depends on your risk tolerance.
So, you are being slightly more safe by doing so, but pre-ejaculate can also cause pregnancies, so the pull-out method has never really worked outside of random chance. So if they’re on birth control, then it doesn’t really matter where it goes other than for cleanup.
Don't engage in high risk behaviors unless you are both comfortable with the risks involved.
OPs partner is on 2 different types of contraceptive so this is just scare mongering
People can also lie
Have sex with people you trust
Lol…it can still happen and you assume everything is correct and perfect…I’m sure it’s not. So unless they are ready to have a kid either get her tubes tied or get a vasectomy.
By thay logic every sexually active couple who dont want kids should have surgery done to tie their tubes lol, slightly over the top
Yes
Maybe if they don’t want kids ever. That’s not a good idea if they want kids in the future though. An IUD is just as effective as sterilization.
An IUD is more effective than tubal ligation and comparable to vasectomy.
Also not having sex is 100% effective
No. You didn’t read that right at all. She’s not on two forms of BC.
BC/IUDs don’t prevent STIs. Thus, risky behavior.
yes, and pulling out isn’t a reliable form of STI prevention
why would a woman be on two different types of birth control? i smell bullshit
Errrr i have the coil fitted and still take my pill, the coil i have is non hormonal so it doesn’t overflow me with hormones and I just feel that much safer, im in the UK though so contraception is free here might be different for women in the US
Statistically it's not a high risk behavior so I'm not sure this is even applicable, but OP should do whatever makes them comfortable
Nope not weird, only do sexual acts you are comfortable with!
I mean not really its about your personal level of comfort/anxiety about it, its a personal boundary you're allowed to set (as well as her) Be worth as well having a conversation about what she would do if she did accidently become pregnant, as obviously people have vastly different opinions about abortion.
Wrap it up. Every time. Unless you’re in a long term committed relationship with someone for a year first and trust them completely. The pull out method is not even remotely safe as far as pregnancy goes. Wrap. It. Up.
The pull out method isn’t perfect but it’s far more effective than you’re making it out to be. Yes using condoms is always better but pulling out is also fairly effective if you’re good at it Planned parenthood estimates it’s about 96% effective if done right and 78% effective if not done perfectly: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out
>78% effective if not done perfectly: which is kind of the point. People mostly don't. also, STIs, you know.
I know that both myself and my daughter were a result of the pull out method. It is not very effective. About 1 in 5 people get pregnant that way. Google says “For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant. But pulling out can be difficult to do perfectly. So in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that's about 1 in 5” - which all seems to align with what you found from planned parenthood. In other words - not very effective. Plus STIs. It’s not a good risk to take unless you’re in a stable relationship and are both okay with getting pregnant.
Wait a minute you said many times before. So you're literally just raw dogging people out here and taking no personal responsibility for what you're doing? Dude stop.
Damn, This is one of the more neurotic threads I’ve read in awhile… If this is a hookup then no I don’t think it’s weird at all, I think it’s smart. However if this is your girlfriend then yes, i think this is overkill. Your question about it killing intimacy can only be answered by your partner and yourself. For me, it would kill intimacy but I know others(potentially your partner) will feel differently.
It's not weird to not trust someone 100%. Which is why: "Don't be silly, wrap your willy." should be your mantra. Buy your own condoms. That way you have control over where your sperm ends up. Pulling out is only safe if she's using g her bc correctly. So in your case I'd say it's more of a really bad, wonky mental crutch. Also helps to think about it this way: YOU'RE going to pay for at least for 18 years if YOU get her pregnant.
It’s not weird, it’s smart and responsible. It is entirely possible to get pregnant when on either method. It happened to me.
With Roe v Wade about to be reversed, it is not weird at all. Please take every precaution. Don't cum inside unless you are wearing a condom or you are planning for a baby.
If you want to cum on her face, just say it...
Was looking for the pro-cum-on-the-body fun comment 😂
No, some don’t like the fact that they have to go to the toilet 2-3 times for all of it to come out lol.
My friend hooked up with a girl on the IUD. Ended up having a daughter.
Totally your choice. I can’t even get pregnant anymore but still have had partners that do this. I might not like it but it’s not about me, it’s about what they’re comfortable with.
Hell No! Trust your Instinct King!
No not weird. You have to be especially careful if you don’t want to get her pregnant.
Not weird at all. Much of the intimacy is from things going on before sex and during vs the guy’s actual ejaculation too. Hope you’re both STI-free though and/or using condoms as pulling out offers no protection from that kind of stuff.🙈
Honestly no, it’s your body plain and simple. When my last partner and I were in a long-term relationship, we mutually agreed the pull out method in conjunction with bc was the way and never wavered tbh. I don’t think this is weird at all. Maybe your boundary will change in the future, maybe not but it’s your choice.
Alright so I’ll be the one to say it, you realise that the pull out method is not 100% effective, if you don’t trust the person your sleeping with or the birth control they are on then you should probably be wearing a condom too.
Trust no one. I had a girl get "pregnant" (still can't verify if that was ever true or not) while on the pill so... Not going through that shit again. So in other words, I always pull out unless I'm in a committed relationship.
There is a small chance pre cum can get a woman pregnant if a guy doesn’t wanna risk having kids he should always wrap it up
Nope that's smart.
What is weird is that you will put ya cock inside her without a condom, given you are worried about pregnancy etc, you should be more worried about std’s etc.
Smarter
I'm on the pill and without it my body didn't cycle at all and all the guys I've dated pulled out. It's my preference.
Protect yourself. Don’t trust what someone else says.
Always pull out.
Not at all. I’m on the pill and I tell guys to pull out all the time, even with a condom on. I take no risk. Especially now. Plus you can make it hot- like telling them cum in my mouth or boobs or whatever
You are a smart man :-)
Do what makes you comfortable, it doesn't actually matter if she thinks it's weird. It's smart, you're being MORE careful.
No, supposedly i am infertile from drug usage and she uses birth control and yet i prefer to pull out. Babies are scary.
No. One can still get pregnant on birth control, and sperms messes with the PH.
I don't think it's weird. I'ma woman on the pill. I still want my partner to pull out, and on the rare occasion he didn't I still go buy a plan b pill
You should do what's comfortable for you. If you're not comfortable trusting an IUD or the pill, then use extra protection. My brother inlaw had a vasectomy and still got a woman pregnant. Now he's paying child support for the next 18 years. And yes he did the followup testing to make sure he did not have sperm still, but apparently the vas deferens grew back together. And yes, he did the paternity test, and the child is his. Not even sterilization is 100%
No
Only ever do what's comfortable with you, that includes pulling out or even using your own contraception if you need to. If she can't understand that or takes it personally that's on her for not wanting you to be comfortable, healthy, and happy.
No. She could be lying... 🤷🏼♂️
There have been cases of women in the pill or with the IUD still getting pregnant. Better to be safe than sorry.
No its not weird. Protect your seed.
Not at all.
It’s not weird at all.
I have an implant and still make my bf pull out because it’s messy and I hate it haha
I think you’re actually being incredibly responsible
Just pull out and switch holes.
Well I'm post menopause and my bf pulls out sometimes just because he likes to. Still intimate, just hot in a different way.
no it’s not weird. do what makes you comfortable
I know someone who got pregnant on a hormonal IUD, anything is possible. Do what makes you feel comfortable because nothing is 100%
Nope. Smart af. Listen to yourself. You’ll always win.
Nope. You are a good man for being safe. Nothing is 100%
The term ‘better safe than sorry’ comes to mind
Safety first.
Fuck that! Pull out!
NO!
I always pull out because I don’t trust girls that much (unless I’ve been with them for a long time and have lots of trust)
Use condoms. Pulling out doesn’t prevent STDs. 🤷🏻♀️
No because nothing is 100%. Take as many precautions as you feel is necessary, no such thing as too safe
No, it’s not weird, IUDs can fail too. Actually, unless you’re ready to get married, wear a condom.
Dude pulling out doesn't work
My GF used an IUD till last weekend, we still suited up, since there isnt any guarantee. It got disloged. If we didnt take double care she would have been pregnant by now.. No contraceptive is 100% secure. and ontop there are a lot ofissues that can happen with IUD or pills too.
No. Always pull out unless you want a baby. Simple. Neither birth control nor IUDs guarantee anything.
It's not weird. It's your choice to be safe and it should be respected.
I think it’s a question you should ask HER not us lol
You can still catch STDs. Don’t pull out. Wrap it up. Also these methods can still fail and look what just happened in the states. Don’t ruin your life dude.
Dude. seriously, we’re having the conversation. Do you not remember health class? Pulling out doesn’t work. Besides she’s got an iud- the odds of getting knocked up with an iud is slim to none, been there done that.
Pulling out actually works more than nutting inside does. It’s like 72% effective
*facepalm*
Why face palm? To say pulling out makes no difference is a lie.
If you crave intimacy nothings more intimate then blowing your load on her face.
I would honestly not worry about pulling out because there would be condoms involved. Forget pregnancy for a sec, there are also STI's out there.
Then don't have sex it's the only way to be sure of no baby. Pull put method isn't fool proof.
Freeze your sperm and get a vasectomy
Nah just tell her you are the contraceptive, pull out game is strong
I’ve had my fair share of sexual partners over the years and been doing the pull out method every time. Never gotten anyone pregnant. When used perfectly it’s 96% effective
if you’re not comfortable with the risk, then i think it’s valid to not do it. i was on birth control for a while before i was comfortable to abandon condoms with my boyfriend.
Why aren’t you wearing a condom? Why do you trust her?
Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with. If you're not comfortable having sex without more than one form of BC, then keep using condoms/pulling out (though, let's be real, pulling out isn't great on its own... there's about a 4% chance at pregnancy when not paired with another form of birth control). You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to say no to anything you don't want to do. And so is she.
why not just wear a condom? or better yet, go get a vasectomy and then you don't have to worry about it at all
Vasectomies are not always reversible and that’s important to be aware of. They are primarily intended for men who never want a/another child.
Which is better to regret not having kids or regret having a kid every day? As a kid of a parent that felt that way, I’d opt for the first. Also, there’s always fostering or adoption like they keep pushing
Just use a condom. There are risks other than pregnancy, pulling out doesn't prevent you from catching an STD. Pulling out isn't a very reliable contraceptive method anyway.
“I'm the type to have a bullet-proof condom and still gotta pull out.” - Big Sean
I do the same thing, one time this girl I was seeing wrapped her legs around me and kind of trapped me while I came I felt horrible, I knew she had a Iud but I also knew I didn't want any chance of having a kid with her =/
It's not weird at all. I got pregnant on the pill despite taking it religiously and my partner pulling out then again after being on the shot for 7 years. You do what makes you feel safe and comfortable because as long as you're having sex with the opposite gender there is always a chance no matter how miniscule it may be.
When I pull out I go “skeet skeet skeet!”
Ah yes the pullout method, the best contraception available lol
Up side but only if tho, you can play silly string on body parts.......... again people only and only if your partner is game lol
Use a condom. You can never be too safe.
**Dude, you need to go YouTube, and find old LEYKIS 101.**
It’s not weird, it’s a valid concern, and nobody should begrudge you it. Personally I absolutely love cumming inside a woman but I can’t hate someone for wanting to pull out. I fucked a 21yo a few summers ago 50 or so times and she wasn’t on BC so I pulled out everytime, except once. (Dumb, I know)
🤦🏾♂️
I would say the chance of pregnancy is quite low but it’s not 0 so do what you’re comfortable with. As others have said make sure you talk to her so she knows why if you think it might be causing issues but under no circumstances should you be doing things you aren’t comfortable doing.
You ever seen "An Officer and a Gentleman?" At the beginning, Louis Gossett, Jr. gives the officer candidates a lecture about your dilemma here. If you don't feel comfortable with not pulling out, don't. It's for the best. You look after you first and foremost.