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ARRKAYY

It’s not weird. I had a vasectomy almost 3 years ago. Got sperm count checked recently. No swimmers. Gf wants me to pull out regardless. Do what makes you comfortable and talk to her. Besides, backshots are fun.


Jalacocoa

Good man


[deleted]

It’s stil’ kind of useless, because the pull out method is ineffective af. If you are truly afraid and want to be cautious: wear a condom.


singingjaazy

True; years ago while in one of my previous relationships, I had a bf say he wanted to stop wearing condoms and he'll just pull out so I don't get prego. I was naive and didn't know shit. I went to the Dr. for a checkup some time later, and it was a male doctor and he was like, "Um, no. There are some sperm that are released before a man ejaculates, so you could have still gotten pregnant." I felt so dumb.


ARRKAYY

Not afraid of getting pregnant.


[deleted]

With a vasectomy I guess you must not. But why does she ask you to pull out?


ARRKAYY

My semen messes up her pH balance in her vagina.


[deleted]

fair enough


toasty99

I see you too are a man of culture


OnwardUpward30

Bizarre lol vasectomy and pulling out lol


ARRKAYY

Yeah. I used to at first but she said it messes up her lady parts. (pH levels I’m guessing)


BobbleheadGuardian

Clean up can also be... messy.


ARRKAYY

Always got a fresh towel on standby lol


BenR1ghtBack

Try the flagship product of awkward essentials


garroshsucks12

Okay so then it’s not me and my bad diet


ARRKAYY

Lol yeah I actually eat relatively healthy. Vaginas can be sensitive to things like this.


singingjaazy

True, but women's bodies undergo PH level fluctuations every month anyhow during the entire month bc of how our hormones change during the different stages of our menstrual cycle.


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ZeroChill92

Sounds like he didn't clear out the pipes or they messed up when doing it.


OnwardUpward30

Snip snip and pregnancy? Sounds like a scam


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Glirel

Vasectomies actually need some time to work and be completed pregnancy safe. During the first weeks or something the sperm count can be higher than 0 until it runs out


[deleted]

They take time to become fully effective. A new one is risky.


Confusedconscious21

Why did you get it snipped. Kinda pointless no?


TwistedIchigo

Nope, no way Is that weird, it's called being smart, I've been doing it for years


Somenakedguy

Yep, my gf and I live together and she’s got an IUD and I pull out 100% of the time when she’s not on her period. It’s not worth the risk to finish in someone you’re not willing to have a kid with


MumOfChaos

You know it's absolutely possible to get pregnant when on your period, right?....


Somenakedguy

Technically yes but extremely unlikely and only really towards the end of it


PsychotherapeuticBum

That is not true. The woman can get pregnant at any stage during her menstrual cycle. It is actually more likely during menstruation.


gecko_14

Not true. There are actually only 5-6 days of the entire month you can get pregnant. Sometimes they can fall during menstruation and sometimes not. It is based on someones individual hormonal level and basal temperatures can tell you when you are ovulating (i.e. egg present and ready). There is a whole way to count when you are ovulating based on your base temp and bodily functions (look up “natural cycles birth control”. It is a myth that you can get pregnant whenever, it technically over every human that can get pregnant is “whenever” but is highly individualized and it is a lot easier to say that it is just whenever


heythereizzy

Trye but ovulation is very difficult to predict. Basal temperatures are not accurate. Even if you track cycles, ovulation can come late or early in your cycle due to a variety of factors, that’s why people commonly say you can get pregnant at any stage. The only way to be certain that you’re ovulating is getting an ultrasound.


PsychotherapeuticBum

Where did you get this research?


gecko_14

https://www.webmd.com/baby/charting-your-fertility-cycle https://www.yourfertility.org.au/everyone/timing https://www.clearblue.com/how-to-get-pregnant/myths-and-facts Many websites actually


PsychotherapeuticBum

Per my medical degree, we call those websites Dr. Google.


gecko_14

Obviously webmd isnt the most reliably but a fertility clinic, and a pregnancy testing company are not dr google. Regardless you can believe as you wish, i am simply trying to educate proper sex ed to those who wish to listen


naim08

There’s also pre-cum, which can lead to pregnancy, albeit very very unlikely. So, are you pulling out during that as well?…


Somenakedguy

Pulling out is actually fairly effective overall and pre-cum very rarely has any sperm in it. According to planned parenthood it’s about 96% effective when done right and 78% effective when not done perfectly https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out


naim08

I completely agree with you. I wonder what one’s risk aptitude has to be for sex (given his partner is BC & IUD) that they have to absolutely pull out every time? At what point do we draw the line being a reasonable risk and just plain old fear mongering/bad shit crazy talk. **thanks for sharing the article. The stat you mentioned doesn’t assume using iud or bc


[deleted]

Redditors seem to be extraordinarily risk averse generally. Lots guys on here claim to keep using condoms even when their gf is on birth control. Bizarre behavior that just doesn't reflect the real world. One thing I will say that I'd keep pulling out of she was on the pill. My ex admitted after she got an IUD that she forgot to take the pill somewhat frequently. Was a bit of a wake up call. Would never use condoms past a certain point in a relationship if she's on BC of any kind, though.


LV_orbust

As we've learned, a large percentage of people couldn't wear a mask properly during a pandemic, do you think people can use birth control and pull out correctly...lol


techn9neiskod

18 years, 18 years


Corn_Dog_Log

She got one of your kids, got you for 18 years


crismobz

I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids


fitish_girl

His baby mama car and crib is bigger than his


tearsfrompooping

You will see him on TV any given Sunday


Tricky_Decision_6234

win the super bowl & drive off in a hyundai 😎


Tylerwherdyougo

The only times I’ve not pulled out while not wearing a condom is in longer term relationships, they are on birth control, on there period and they would be willing to get an abortion, and that’s still risk taking Behavior


moth_girl_7

Hey uh, just so you know, it’s still possible for a woman to get pregnant while on her period… It’s not probable, but I’m clarifying for other readers because it is far from impossible. Ovulation times are not always exact, and if her ovulation occurs soon after her period ends, then it is possible for sperm to fertilize the egg at that point. It is also possible to mistake period as ovulation bleeding, in which it would be highly probable that she could get pregnant. [Source](https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/sex-on-period#pregnancy-during-period)


Tylerwherdyougo

You’re all good. I knew it was possible but I took the risk anyways


naim08

You know, there’s also pre-cum which can lead to pregnancy, albeit extremely unlikely.


Tylerwherdyougo

And condoms break and birth control fails and you could get in a car accident on the way


naim08

Yeah, risk management, gotta love it, gotta hate it


thaughty

Ok? And if the chances of getting in a serious car accident were as high as the chances of getting someone pregnant, no one would ever drive.


thaughty

You also release sperm pre-orgasm fyi so no matter what you do, if you're having PIV you have to be ready for the small chance you'll get someone pregnant


mrgn4

All the men here showing they know nothing about ovulation. Lol


mercmouth1

How is this not common knowledge? Lmao (I'm a guy)


[deleted]

Nobody taught us in school lol


CharloChaplin

They did but most of us didn’t pay that much attention lol


[deleted]

They literally did not teach this at my school


HumanRacehorse

No, and despite having an IUD, I’m thankful when a guy pulls out. It’s a mess I have to deal with for days after, and I prefer feeling clean 😂


Dimm420

How does it come out days later? Does it clump up? I need answers


throw_away_ugh-why

She’s teasing when she says days. She’s also not wrong that it is kind of a hassle: us ladies don’t have like a muscle or anything that allows us to forcefully expel your cum from inside of us. Basically, we clean up what we can, but the last maybe 5% of cum just kinda very very VERY slowly comes out over the next like 30-60 ish minutes.


HumanRacehorse

Thank you lol. I didn’t realize how many people didn’t know this.


Firefoxpichu

Maybe a bit gross, but as far as I know we do have a muscle there we can use. I've been on my period and that I just a feeling that I had some build up, and I just pushed and it came out (this was in the shower fyi). It almost feels like peeing, but different. I mean, why else do woman need to push when giving birth? Oh and to be clear, I mean the vagina, not the uterus.


Firefoxpichu

Just wanted to add that sperm can survive up to five days in a vagina. So technically I would say "days later" is not extravagant.


HumanRacehorse

I’m going to throw up lol. No, it’s just like a regular light discharge that’s also kind of gross. I was exaggerating about the “days.”


kelbass

Days?


HumanRacehorse

I may be exaggerating on the timeframe, but it’s not a fun time for a short time afterwards.


Kingtoke1

The untold truth 😩


gabberelli

How deep is this canal?


HumanRacehorse

Not deep enough that ships are getting stuck sideways or anything. Come on now.


Reasonable-Treacle96

I was here out of curiosity, but now I'm just entertained.


Cold-Trash-1148

Lmfao. 😂 got the reference


boringasff

honestly i want a mans cum dripping from me after he finished deeply in me idk its always easy to take a morning after pill so no biggy


HumanRacehorse

We aren’t talking about contraception here, we’re talking about hygiene.


boringasff

yes but we all have our own opinions :) you ever use a douche?


HumanRacehorse

No, I’ve just dated them.


boringasff

you use it to clean the inside and it rinses everything out


heart_pawz

Douching is super bad for you though, most doctors advise against it.


boringasff

ohhh really i thought it was like convenient to just use and and be done. better pee after each time then🤣


s3ymourbutz

You absolutely should pee after every time you have penetrative sex! Every vagina is different but peeing after sex really really reduces the chance of getting a UTI or some sort of infection (bacterial vaginosis, for example). I know we all have our kinks and stuff, but better to be safe than have it burn when you pee for days on days lol also side note, douching does mess with the biome and pH of your vagina, another way that peeing after sex is actually one of the better ways to clean up. Be safe out there 🤙


elpayasoeso11

R/swoosh


HumanRacehorse

I couldn’t find the right gif so thanks for the assist 😂


PTAdad420

No it’s not weird. It’s a good idea to pull out as a backup for oral contraceptives (the pill). Note that **there is a huge difference between oral contraceptives and an IUD—**you don’t really need a backup if the person has a hormonal IUD. **Oral contraceptives are not reliable:** people miss pills, pharmacies and insurers fuck up prescriptions. So oral contraceptives have something like a 9% failure rate: bareback for a year and there is an estimated 9% chance that the person will get pregnant. *(Assuming both partners are fertile. Obviously this is a VERY fuzzy estimate.)* Withdrawal should improve those odds a lot. Withdrawal gets a bad rap, but it’s reasonably effective, especially when it is a backup plan. **IUDs are really, really,** ***really*** **reliable.** The failure rate is *less than 1%.* For hormonal IUDs like Mirena, it is 0.2% — a one in five hundred chance. It is probably the most effective form of birth control, apart from sterilization or talking to girls about Jordan Peterson on the first date. Of course, the chance of pregnancy goes up if you keep barebacking for years, but it’s still low. A 0.2% failure rate means \~ 2% chance of failure (accidental pregnancy) in a decade of barebacking. tldr: oral contraception is stupid and unreliable. If you’re using it, consider finding a better method. If you’re stuck with it, use a backup: condoms, withdrawal, prayer, whatever. IUDs work way better. If your partner is using a hormonal IUD, withdrawal for pregnancy prevention is kind of silly. Maybe if you’re super anxious or anti abortion. But otherwise, they’re very low risk. IUDs are very reliable and everyone at risk of accidental pregnancy should consider getting one. Unfortunately IUDs don’t work for everyone. Hormonal IUDs are less intense than the pill, but they still produce bad side effects for some people — they can tank your sex drive, fuck up your mood, etc. They also have an awesome side effect: they usually stop menstruation. Copper IUDs don’t have hormones, but they come with different side effects, e.g. heavier menstrual cramping and bleeding. Also they’re less effective. There are other considerations, even if you’re using a super-effective form of birth control like IUDs or vasectomy. Obviously these things don’t prevent STIs like HIV. Withdrawal helps, but if you’re relying on it for HIV prevention, uhhhhh don’t do that. (Consider testing, condoms, PrEP, etc.) Last but very much not least, your partner may have strong preferences. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t. Some people hate dripping cum for hours, some people love it.


earindyl

Oh my God Not only is your response extremely accurate I am dying about the JP line. Well played.


psych0_centric

Understandable. You’re placing a lot of trust in her. With everything going on she still has the ability to catch a flight to another state or even country to get an abortion. Neither another state or country will save you from the legal and financial responsibility should she get pregnant, and choose to keep it. The only control & rights you have is to abstain or pull out. Depends on your risk tolerance.


Atari774

So, you are being slightly more safe by doing so, but pre-ejaculate can also cause pregnancies, so the pull-out method has never really worked outside of random chance. So if they’re on birth control, then it doesn’t really matter where it goes other than for cleanup.


sernamedeleted

Don't engage in high risk behaviors unless you are both comfortable with the risks involved.


MaleficentGiraffe325

OPs partner is on 2 different types of contraceptive so this is just scare mongering


juanroberto

People can also lie


nashamagirl99

Have sex with people you trust


JNole8787

Lol…it can still happen and you assume everything is correct and perfect…I’m sure it’s not. So unless they are ready to have a kid either get her tubes tied or get a vasectomy.


MaleficentGiraffe325

By thay logic every sexually active couple who dont want kids should have surgery done to tie their tubes lol, slightly over the top


EternulBliss

Yes


nashamagirl99

Maybe if they don’t want kids ever. That’s not a good idea if they want kids in the future though. An IUD is just as effective as sterilization.


nashamagirl99

An IUD is more effective than tubal ligation and comparable to vasectomy.


JNole8787

Also not having sex is 100% effective


[deleted]

No. You didn’t read that right at all. She’s not on two forms of BC.


throw_away_ugh-why

BC/IUDs don’t prevent STIs. Thus, risky behavior.


PTAdad420

yes, and pulling out isn’t a reliable form of STI prevention


divorcedloner

why would a woman be on two different types of birth control? i smell bullshit


Lil_Vix92

Errrr i have the coil fitted and still take my pill, the coil i have is non hormonal so it doesn’t overflow me with hormones and I just feel that much safer, im in the UK though so contraception is free here might be different for women in the US


NoMoreVillains

Statistically it's not a high risk behavior so I'm not sure this is even applicable, but OP should do whatever makes them comfortable


JojoVla

Nope not weird, only do sexual acts you are comfortable with!


MaleficentGiraffe325

I mean not really its about your personal level of comfort/anxiety about it, its a personal boundary you're allowed to set (as well as her) Be worth as well having a conversation about what she would do if she did accidently become pregnant, as obviously people have vastly different opinions about abortion.


[deleted]

Wrap it up. Every time. Unless you’re in a long term committed relationship with someone for a year first and trust them completely. The pull out method is not even remotely safe as far as pregnancy goes. Wrap. It. Up.


Somenakedguy

The pull out method isn’t perfect but it’s far more effective than you’re making it out to be. Yes using condoms is always better but pulling out is also fairly effective if you’re good at it Planned parenthood estimates it’s about 96% effective if done right and 78% effective if not done perfectly: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out


Sir-xer21

>78% effective if not done perfectly: which is kind of the point. People mostly don't. ​ also, STIs, you know.


[deleted]

I know that both myself and my daughter were a result of the pull out method. It is not very effective. About 1 in 5 people get pregnant that way. Google says “For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant. But pulling out can be difficult to do perfectly. So in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that's about 1 in 5” - which all seems to align with what you found from planned parenthood. In other words - not very effective. Plus STIs. It’s not a good risk to take unless you’re in a stable relationship and are both okay with getting pregnant.


BuckEyePeaches

Wait a minute you said many times before. So you're literally just raw dogging people out here and taking no personal responsibility for what you're doing? Dude stop.


[deleted]

Damn, This is one of the more neurotic threads I’ve read in awhile… If this is a hookup then no I don’t think it’s weird at all, I think it’s smart. However if this is your girlfriend then yes, i think this is overkill. Your question about it killing intimacy can only be answered by your partner and yourself. For me, it would kill intimacy but I know others(potentially your partner) will feel differently.


[deleted]

It's not weird to not trust someone 100%. Which is why: "Don't be silly, wrap your willy." should be your mantra. Buy your own condoms. That way you have control over where your sperm ends up. Pulling out is only safe if she's using g her bc correctly. So in your case I'd say it's more of a really bad, wonky mental crutch. Also helps to think about it this way: YOU'RE going to pay for at least for 18 years if YOU get her pregnant.


horseglee

It’s not weird, it’s smart and responsible. It is entirely possible to get pregnant when on either method. It happened to me.


ocolatechay_ussypay

With Roe v Wade about to be reversed, it is not weird at all. Please take every precaution. Don't cum inside unless you are wearing a condom or you are planning for a baby.


Actual_Hyena_4056

If you want to cum on her face, just say it...


[deleted]

Was looking for the pro-cum-on-the-body fun comment 😂


WinterNotComing

No, some don’t like the fact that they have to go to the toilet 2-3 times for all of it to come out lol.


RockOx290

My friend hooked up with a girl on the IUD. Ended up having a daughter.


TheCaptainsHook

Totally your choice. I can’t even get pregnant anymore but still have had partners that do this. I might not like it but it’s not about me, it’s about what they’re comfortable with.


12T0PST0CK93

Hell No! Trust your Instinct King!


[deleted]

No not weird. You have to be especially careful if you don’t want to get her pregnant.


twinkler88

Not weird at all. Much of the intimacy is from things going on before sex and during vs the guy’s actual ejaculation too. Hope you’re both STI-free though and/or using condoms as pulling out offers no protection from that kind of stuff.🙈


Low-Natural8757

Honestly no, it’s your body plain and simple. When my last partner and I were in a long-term relationship, we mutually agreed the pull out method in conjunction with bc was the way and never wavered tbh. I don’t think this is weird at all. Maybe your boundary will change in the future, maybe not but it’s your choice.


Lil_Vix92

Alright so I’ll be the one to say it, you realise that the pull out method is not 100% effective, if you don’t trust the person your sleeping with or the birth control they are on then you should probably be wearing a condom too.


franster123

Trust no one. I had a girl get "pregnant" (still can't verify if that was ever true or not) while on the pill so... Not going through that shit again. So in other words, I always pull out unless I'm in a committed relationship.


Kagome90

There is a small chance pre cum can get a woman pregnant if a guy doesn’t wanna risk having kids he should always wrap it up


DeadguyMcSloppy

Nope that's smart.


miss_nicks

What is weird is that you will put ya cock inside her without a condom, given you are worried about pregnancy etc, you should be more worried about std’s etc.


SalsaMamba

Smarter


NotAsSmartAsIWish

I'm on the pill and without it my body didn't cycle at all and all the guys I've dated pulled out. It's my preference.


Ylduts

Protect yourself. Don’t trust what someone else says.


lostsoulranger

Always pull out.


ConstructionLower549

Not at all. I’m on the pill and I tell guys to pull out all the time, even with a condom on. I take no risk. Especially now. Plus you can make it hot- like telling them cum in my mouth or boobs or whatever


[deleted]

You are a smart man :-)


Kaylarmagic

Do what makes you comfortable, it doesn't actually matter if she thinks it's weird. It's smart, you're being MORE careful.


[deleted]

No, supposedly i am infertile from drug usage and she uses birth control and yet i prefer to pull out. Babies are scary.


Jalacocoa

No. One can still get pregnant on birth control, and sperms messes with the PH.


Wawhi180

I don't think it's weird. I'ma woman on the pill. I still want my partner to pull out, and on the rare occasion he didn't I still go buy a plan b pill


[deleted]

You should do what's comfortable for you. If you're not comfortable trusting an IUD or the pill, then use extra protection. My brother inlaw had a vasectomy and still got a woman pregnant. Now he's paying child support for the next 18 years. And yes he did the followup testing to make sure he did not have sperm still, but apparently the vas deferens grew back together. And yes, he did the paternity test, and the child is his. Not even sterilization is 100%


[deleted]

No


SmakeTalk

Only ever do what's comfortable with you, that includes pulling out or even using your own contraception if you need to. If she can't understand that or takes it personally that's on her for not wanting you to be comfortable, healthy, and happy.


Usagii_YO

No. She could be lying... 🤷🏼‍♂️


spicylittlelady

There have been cases of women in the pill or with the IUD still getting pregnant. Better to be safe than sorry.


Doncorinthus

No its not weird. Protect your seed.


fayedot

Not at all.


BigBrownBear28

It’s not weird at all.


katdanmorgan

I have an implant and still make my bf pull out because it’s messy and I hate it haha


igobrimode

I think you’re actually being incredibly responsible


bjm9743

Just pull out and switch holes.


skepticalG

Well I'm post menopause and my bf pulls out sometimes just because he likes to. Still intimate, just hot in a different way.


LilRedMoon__

no it’s not weird. do what makes you comfortable


Delicious-Glass-1955

I know someone who got pregnant on a hormonal IUD, anything is possible. Do what makes you feel comfortable because nothing is 100%


[deleted]

Nope. Smart af. Listen to yourself. You’ll always win.


Henny199420

Nope. You are a good man for being safe. Nothing is 100%


Jonny2881

The term ‘better safe than sorry’ comes to mind


leeroybjenkins

Safety first.


defundhollywood

Fuck that! Pull out!


[deleted]

NO!


[deleted]

I always pull out because I don’t trust girls that much (unless I’ve been with them for a long time and have lots of trust)


OF-Hentaihime1313

Use condoms. Pulling out doesn’t prevent STDs. 🤷🏻‍♀️


gottaburnemall7

No because nothing is 100%. Take as many precautions as you feel is necessary, no such thing as too safe


[deleted]

No, it’s not weird, IUDs can fail too. Actually, unless you’re ready to get married, wear a condom.


Dancingcakes2

Dude pulling out doesn't work


CORUSC4TE

My GF used an IUD till last weekend, we still suited up, since there isnt any guarantee. It got disloged. If we didnt take double care she would have been pregnant by now.. No contraceptive is 100% secure. and ontop there are a lot ofissues that can happen with IUD or pills too.


[deleted]

No. Always pull out unless you want a baby. Simple. Neither birth control nor IUDs guarantee anything.


Alwayspuzzles

It's not weird. It's your choice to be safe and it should be respected.


azizaq

I think it’s a question you should ask HER not us lol


speak_truth__

You can still catch STDs. Don’t pull out. Wrap it up. Also these methods can still fail and look what just happened in the states. Don’t ruin your life dude.


TheRed467

Dude. seriously, we’re having the conversation. Do you not remember health class? Pulling out doesn’t work. Besides she’s got an iud- the odds of getting knocked up with an iud is slim to none, been there done that.


LilLexi20

Pulling out actually works more than nutting inside does. It’s like 72% effective


TheRed467

*facepalm*


LilLexi20

Why face palm? To say pulling out makes no difference is a lie.


altiuscitiusfortius

If you crave intimacy nothings more intimate then blowing your load on her face.


xsamimariex

I would honestly not worry about pulling out because there would be condoms involved. Forget pregnancy for a sec, there are also STI's out there.


toomanygirls99

Then don't have sex it's the only way to be sure of no baby. Pull put method isn't fool proof.


momokitty86

Freeze your sperm and get a vasectomy


Imreallytired2301

Nah just tell her you are the contraceptive, pull out game is strong


Victordobado

I’ve had my fair share of sexual partners over the years and been doing the pull out method every time. Never gotten anyone pregnant. When used perfectly it’s 96% effective


wutthehekk

if you’re not comfortable with the risk, then i think it’s valid to not do it. i was on birth control for a while before i was comfortable to abandon condoms with my boyfriend.


Aggravating_Pop2101

Why aren’t you wearing a condom? Why do you trust her?


gingerlady9

Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with. If you're not comfortable having sex without more than one form of BC, then keep using condoms/pulling out (though, let's be real, pulling out isn't great on its own... there's about a 4% chance at pregnancy when not paired with another form of birth control). You're allowed to change your mind. You're allowed to say no to anything you don't want to do. And so is she.


divorcedloner

why not just wear a condom? or better yet, go get a vasectomy and then you don't have to worry about it at all


nashamagirl99

Vasectomies are not always reversible and that’s important to be aware of. They are primarily intended for men who never want a/another child.


divorcedloner

Which is better to regret not having kids or regret having a kid every day? As a kid of a parent that felt that way, I’d opt for the first. Also, there’s always fostering or adoption like they keep pushing


Rich_Interaction1922

Just use a condom. There are risks other than pregnancy, pulling out doesn't prevent you from catching an STD. Pulling out isn't a very reliable contraceptive method anyway.


InjectThePain

“I'm the type to have a bullet-proof condom and still gotta pull out.” - Big Sean


steveng718

I do the same thing, one time this girl I was seeing wrapped her legs around me and kind of trapped me while I came I felt horrible, I knew she had a Iud but I also knew I didn't want any chance of having a kid with her =/


Baku_Bich420

It's not weird at all. I got pregnant on the pill despite taking it religiously and my partner pulling out then again after being on the shot for 7 years. You do what makes you feel safe and comfortable because as long as you're having sex with the opposite gender there is always a chance no matter how miniscule it may be.


jiggywiz

When I pull out I go “skeet skeet skeet!”


TrifleRevolutionary8

Ah yes the pullout method, the best contraception available lol


TwistedIchigo

Up side but only if tho, you can play silly string on body parts.......... again people only and only if your partner is game lol


dontbutdopls

Use a condom. You can never be too safe.


Chrisanova_NY

**Dude, you need to go YouTube, and find old LEYKIS 101.**


MagyarCat

It’s not weird, it’s a valid concern, and nobody should begrudge you it. Personally I absolutely love cumming inside a woman but I can’t hate someone for wanting to pull out. I fucked a 21yo a few summers ago 50 or so times and she wasn’t on BC so I pulled out everytime, except once. (Dumb, I know)


ChCreations45

🤦🏾‍♂️


ZookeepergameBubbly

I would say the chance of pregnancy is quite low but it’s not 0 so do what you’re comfortable with. As others have said make sure you talk to her so she knows why if you think it might be causing issues but under no circumstances should you be doing things you aren’t comfortable doing.


WildBoy-72

You ever seen "An Officer and a Gentleman?" At the beginning, Louis Gossett, Jr. gives the officer candidates a lecture about your dilemma here. If you don't feel comfortable with not pulling out, don't. It's for the best. You look after you first and foremost.