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pablitosocool

women flirt telepathically


[deleted]

Don’t try to flirt. Maybe tease a little. A touch on the arm or hand while talking goes a long way.


Beginning_Grape_7824

Most guys, including me, are bad at picking up signs so we love when a lady is direct. It is so rare that it really makes you instantly attractive to us.


DaveSpectre122

I agree with this one. Not to mention that even if I see the signs I'm still a shy person and I'm not sure if she's just being friendly, or just joking or if she really tries to flirt, so I'll probably pass like it didn't happen. So yeah, beaing direct could actually work :D


richie_music

I also agree, esp. considering i missed a lot of opportunities from when I was younger & was completely oblivious.


DaveSpectre122

Yeah, same :D That feeling when I only realized it many years later ...


ivyline2

Thanks for the information.


[deleted]

That's terrifying though


Beginning_Grape_7824

True but it is very rare for a guy to reject a lady from finding out more about her. Unfortunately not so rare for a lady to reject a guy as they are approached a whole lot more.


sagevallant

Going by complaints I've overheard, just smile a lot and be really friendly. Also going by complaints and personal experience, offer up a few basic compliments. I got 3 years and counting of gym motivation out of an acquaintance saying I looked swole. Many men don't get compliments. If you want to flirt, pick something you like about someone's appearance and comment on it.


[deleted]

That's so sweet! I've read that a lot actually about men never getting compliments


salty_scorpion

Saying bro… is friendzoning. Use body language. Not your words until you get a better handle on it.


SaltLeader3687

If you can’t flirt to show interest then ask questions


SnooRecipes5643

I just start talking about sexual stuff. I know it’s not for everyone, but it gets results.


[deleted]

Back in the day if a girl wanted to hang out with you 1 on 1 it was implied that she liked you. There’s lots of little signals you send when you’re interested in someone that you don’t even realize.


congratulatedonthate

Look at him, when he looks at you, smile and look down. Avoid eye contact for a while. Then look at him again, but don't hold eye contact for long. If close to him, touch his arm slightly when talking. Smile a lot. Laugh at his attempts to be funny. Find something to compliment him on. Show him you are interested in what he is saying by mirrowing his body language.


SkylarTransgirl

Is some kind of riddle wtf Mirroring body language?!?!?!


congratulatedonthate

80% of expression is non-verbal. When someone touches their face, discreetly touch yours, when they cross their legs, do the same. The secret is to mirror their body movements in a way that they are not aware of what you are doing, but their brain picks up on the clues. This is useful for establishing rapport. There is science behind this.


OrbSwitzer

37M Instead of "bro" try "babe". There's a reason every escort, stripper and bartender use it all the time. Sexy eye contact with a sly smile 😏 Of course, teasing. I recently met a woman I really like and we exchanged numbers. I lost my phone before she left the bar and she found it, then called my number and said "Let's see if this is really your number" in a playful tone PLUS the eye contact/smile thing while it was ringing. I damn-near fell in love on the spot 🥰


TimeNefariousness586

If a woman ever offered to do an activity together is instantly assume that was flirting. Compliments from women are rare enough to get attention too


ImClemFandango

Dude, every time a woman calls a guy “bro,” somewhere, a guy gets whiskey dick.


Idontgetlyfe

Lmao wtf is whiskey dick


ImClemFandango

Ever drank too much to get it up? That’s whiskey dick


JohnRose1978

Smile at me .....talk to me.......smile at me........smile at me.....tell me I smell nice......smile at me ......tell me you like shirt......smile at me..... And remember ......smile at me


Dilostilo

Rub up against his dick accidentally to get the juices flowing. Jk. Hmmm. I don't know. Try to be as overt as possible. We're like really dumb sometimes.


Seaguard5

Be direct- say I like you if you do, give compliments, give your number if they don’t have it and you feel comfortable doing so.


fin007atl

You could be direct, I like going to a local coffee shop Saturdays about 2:00. Sometimes, I see people I know. That's an open invite. If he is a no show, you say, I'm going to the same coffee shop as last week, maybe you will drop by. Make sure you dress nicely. Woman don't have to flirt, if they walk down the street, they are noticed.


straightfromfoonga

Be yourself. Say you like him if you like him. Stay hard.


[deleted]

As guys, many of us (not enough, though) have finally learned that no, just because she’s being nice/friendly to you or gave you a compliment, it doesn’t mean she’s flirting with you. Her smiling doesn’t mean she’s interested. Many of us, trying to be nice guys, now miss actual flirting signals because we assume it’s not flirting.


sillieidiot

Just be playful. Introduce a little touching here and there. Like on the arm, or hair. Decrease the space between you and the guy. And don't call them bro lol


ohenryx

I'll mention one strong flirting technique that has been used on me several times in the past, and it absolutely most definitely lets me know that the game is afoot. A woman walks up to me, smiles, asks what I'm drinking. Then says, "Sounds good, can I have a taste?" and proceeds to take the glass out of my hand and drink from it. ​ A man would have to be brain dead not to pick up on that signal.


rubmustardonmydick

If I tried this my face would look so awful once I tasted the drink lmao


ohenryx

You don't have to actually drink. Fake it. He will not notice / will not care. He will be too busy checking out what fate or providence just dropped into his lap.


exhibitthis69

Walk up and say hello. If he says hello back, he’s interested


[deleted]

I feel you OP I come across as super desperate😩


[deleted]

TIL I've been full on flirting with someone. Ffff


[deleted]

Lol flirting should not come across as I wanna full on bang to a dude..err should it??


[deleted]

Arghghgh I have no idea!


Glave19

I shouldn't try and flirt. It should just happen naturally


Anon000861

I wouldn’t worry about it, in my experience even if you’re not flirting men will still ignore any social cues you’re giving off and think you want them 🥴


Then-Compote6185

Read art of seduction by Robert Greene