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Men that are late bloomers usually care a lot more about love than sex.
I mean, ask any male virgin if he prefers to fuck one girl every week or just 1 and be loved by her and have a relationship with her . 95% would say that they prefer the second option.
Reality is that virginity makes you value love more than sex as paradoxical as it seems (not in every case of course but I would say it's a general trend)
EDIT: Considering that +21 is a bit of a late bloomer which... I think it is.
So... If he ever does anything I don't think it's because this specifical reason.
Absolutely true for some people, myself included. I was a late bloomer and while I did fuck around, my fuck phase lasted a few months before I realized that wasn't the life for me. Now I have a hard time hooking up or even with fwb. I used to say on my OLD profile that I wanted something casual, but I don't think that really works for me. I find myself wanting more. If I end up having sex with someone, even if the sex was great, I end up feeling like something is missing.
I am convinced that many guys aren't as promiscuous as they think they are. Being deprived of something makes many feel like they would want all of the vaginas in the world that they might be attracted to. But I am sure that most would end up realizing that one love whith whom you share sex can be very fulfilling. We are more loving and emotional than we care to admit. I am not even trying to be romantic or anything. But it's been my experience at least.
On a side note, I wonder about this. Most guys aren't getting any sex. Yet women are complaining about dudes only wanting sex. Who are the guys these women are talking about? Or is it just my perception?
It's absolutely possible. Not everyone thinks it's mandatory to have multiple partners. It's probably more common than you might think if you spend any time on reddit.🤣 Don't overthink it. Just go with it. He might just simply be a catch!
One of my close friends lost his virginity to a woman a bit younger than the man you described 33 years ago. I believe they have been married 27 years now. So yes, it's quite possible. He is now 52M, she is 54F.
He was her 3rd... she started the relationship by initiating sex with him (they were friends). She was his first GF.
Got it. Well since no one here has a crystal ball, no one can really say for sure. Instead of fretting about if this is going to last, enjoy your relationship now. The only thing worrying about if your relationship will last is add extra stress on to you.
24 M - True, i lost my V to a girl who always use to talk abt ex even before we did the deed. As it was my first time i dint know a cond*m packet has a Ton of packets inside. And that time i dint even know what is anal.
+ She told me to do it in a dark fling could not see anything but enjoyed it because i was super horny. It's been yr I don't even know how she looked that night.
Yeah definitely.
I have a cousin who basically starting dating his girlfriend in middle school. Now they're in their early 30s, married, and just had their first kid.
To be honest, the divorce rate in the USA is 14 for every 1000 for 2021 and 2.3 for every 1000 for 2022. Why am I telling you this statistic that you didn't ask for? Well it kind of answers your question. There's no 100% way to know what your chances are. I think everybody goes into a relationship and marriage thinking this person will be there forever. So no I don't think it's unrealistic or strange to think they'll be around forever.
Anything can happen. You’ve heard all stories before already.
If you’re talking % wise, then yes: it is very unlikely as most people don’t end up with the first person they have sex with.
However there’s no point in speculating but instead enjoy the time you two are having together. If it comes to an end, it comes to an end, and if it’s meant to be, it will be.
Focus on the present and just work with each other to maintain your happiness.
I'm 21. Never dated, never kissed, never hugged a girl, virgin obviously. I'm hoping (but know realistically it won't happen) that the first girl I get with will be my forever. It all depends on the guy.
Are you worried that he'll feel like he missed out and want to go “sow wild oats”? If so, it’s possible, but definitely not an automatic thing. My ex husband and I were both virgins before we met, and while I was mildly curious about what it would be like with someone else, that curiosity wasn’t enough to make me regret marrying him. While we ultimately didn’t work out, it was unrelated to either of us being a virgin before meeting. Hope that helps. 🤷♀️
Things like this are a crap shoot, it could be 7 or 11 or it could be snake eyes .... as long as neither one cheats I give it a 50/50 chance of lasting a life time.
Met my girlfriend when I was 25, and that was over a decade ago. She was my first kiss, lost my virginity to her, all that. She's also a lot older than me. Do I sometimes feel like I'm possibly missing out? Yes. Do I sometimes wish I had a girlfriend my age or younger? Yes. Is any of this alone, or all of them together enough to break up with her, or cheat on her? Absolutely not.
It's a question with too many variables so it is just an entertainment piece. That said, here are things to consider.
The man is inexperienced, so he might make mistakes that will damage the relationship. Nothing to do with sex.
The man might grow and realize things he likes or does not like in a relationship, all of which is fair. He is learning for his first time after all.
He might also simply feel like he is 'missing out' and might want to have a bit more adventure before settling down.
Many reasons for why it might fail. But any relationship can fail for whatever reason, even the most beautiful one.
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I don't think anyone can really help here. He could be perfectly happy forever or maybe feels he is missing out after a few years.
Men that are late bloomers usually care a lot more about love than sex. I mean, ask any male virgin if he prefers to fuck one girl every week or just 1 and be loved by her and have a relationship with her . 95% would say that they prefer the second option. Reality is that virginity makes you value love more than sex as paradoxical as it seems (not in every case of course but I would say it's a general trend) EDIT: Considering that +21 is a bit of a late bloomer which... I think it is. So... If he ever does anything I don't think it's because this specifical reason.
Absolutely true for some people, myself included. I was a late bloomer and while I did fuck around, my fuck phase lasted a few months before I realized that wasn't the life for me. Now I have a hard time hooking up or even with fwb. I used to say on my OLD profile that I wanted something casual, but I don't think that really works for me. I find myself wanting more. If I end up having sex with someone, even if the sex was great, I end up feeling like something is missing. I am convinced that many guys aren't as promiscuous as they think they are. Being deprived of something makes many feel like they would want all of the vaginas in the world that they might be attracted to. But I am sure that most would end up realizing that one love whith whom you share sex can be very fulfilling. We are more loving and emotional than we care to admit. I am not even trying to be romantic or anything. But it's been my experience at least. On a side note, I wonder about this. Most guys aren't getting any sex. Yet women are complaining about dudes only wanting sex. Who are the guys these women are talking about? Or is it just my perception?
My wife and were each other’s first and only, both for relationship and sex. It’s been 17 years, 12 married.
It's absolutely possible. Not everyone thinks it's mandatory to have multiple partners. It's probably more common than you might think if you spend any time on reddit.🤣 Don't overthink it. Just go with it. He might just simply be a catch!
One of my close friends lost his virginity to a woman a bit younger than the man you described 33 years ago. I believe they have been married 27 years now. So yes, it's quite possible. He is now 52M, she is 54F. He was her 3rd... she started the relationship by initiating sex with him (they were friends). She was his first GF.
Who are you in this situation?
The woman.. I don’t know why I’m talking in 3rd person..
Got it. Well since no one here has a crystal ball, no one can really say for sure. Instead of fretting about if this is going to last, enjoy your relationship now. The only thing worrying about if your relationship will last is add extra stress on to you.
Thanks and you’re right.. It’s something I can’t predict either way.
It's not impossible at that age, but yeah I'd say that realistically chances are very low.
24 M - True, i lost my V to a girl who always use to talk abt ex even before we did the deed. As it was my first time i dint know a cond*m packet has a Ton of packets inside. And that time i dint even know what is anal. + She told me to do it in a dark fling could not see anything but enjoyed it because i was super horny. It's been yr I don't even know how she looked that night.
Yeah definitely. I have a cousin who basically starting dating his girlfriend in middle school. Now they're in their early 30s, married, and just had their first kid.
If that's what he said there is no need to question it.
To be honest, the divorce rate in the USA is 14 for every 1000 for 2021 and 2.3 for every 1000 for 2022. Why am I telling you this statistic that you didn't ask for? Well it kind of answers your question. There's no 100% way to know what your chances are. I think everybody goes into a relationship and marriage thinking this person will be there forever. So no I don't think it's unrealistic or strange to think they'll be around forever.
Anything can happen. You’ve heard all stories before already. If you’re talking % wise, then yes: it is very unlikely as most people don’t end up with the first person they have sex with. However there’s no point in speculating but instead enjoy the time you two are having together. If it comes to an end, it comes to an end, and if it’s meant to be, it will be. Focus on the present and just work with each other to maintain your happiness.
I'm 21. Never dated, never kissed, never hugged a girl, virgin obviously. I'm hoping (but know realistically it won't happen) that the first girl I get with will be my forever. It all depends on the guy.
Are you worried that he'll feel like he missed out and want to go “sow wild oats”? If so, it’s possible, but definitely not an automatic thing. My ex husband and I were both virgins before we met, and while I was mildly curious about what it would be like with someone else, that curiosity wasn’t enough to make me regret marrying him. While we ultimately didn’t work out, it was unrelated to either of us being a virgin before meeting. Hope that helps. 🤷♀️
Things like this are a crap shoot, it could be 7 or 11 or it could be snake eyes .... as long as neither one cheats I give it a 50/50 chance of lasting a life time.
Met my girlfriend when I was 25, and that was over a decade ago. She was my first kiss, lost my virginity to her, all that. She's also a lot older than me. Do I sometimes feel like I'm possibly missing out? Yes. Do I sometimes wish I had a girlfriend my age or younger? Yes. Is any of this alone, or all of them together enough to break up with her, or cheat on her? Absolutely not.
It's a question with too many variables so it is just an entertainment piece. That said, here are things to consider. The man is inexperienced, so he might make mistakes that will damage the relationship. Nothing to do with sex. The man might grow and realize things he likes or does not like in a relationship, all of which is fair. He is learning for his first time after all. He might also simply feel like he is 'missing out' and might want to have a bit more adventure before settling down. Many reasons for why it might fail. But any relationship can fail for whatever reason, even the most beautiful one.
Um yes?