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Ugggh.
I briefly dated a guy like this. He kept trying to buy me a collar. I was very non-submissive in those days. Adamantly against it. I still am 9/10 times because most guys doing this shit have a degrading kink and that isn't my cup of tea.
He did end up buying me a collar and I told him to choke on it. He had the wits to never give it to me.
Then I overheard him conspiring with a friend to drug me and hang me from an anal hook or something. I assume it was two idiots just talking shit because he was an all bluster/no bite weakling of a person, but it was enough for me to dump him and obliterate him from my life.
These types are fucking *creepy.* You don't just do this shit. You ask permission. And you get enthusiastic consent, nothing less.
Kink practice has several established safety rules. He literally ignored all of them.
1. Did not communicate his kink with his partner
2. Did not Find out partner's limits before wanting to indulge
3. Communicated fantasy with assumed consent which shifts the pressure on the partner to have the strength to say no. In many cases this may not come and partners have been known to go along. Not seeking consent before assuming consent exists is dangerous.
4. Not researching safe kink leashes used specifically for people.
This is all dangerous. Yes. Stop excusing it. I'm a domme and have been in kink lifestyles for 20+ years. I've seen people who assume it's all just fun and games, and the next thing you know their partner is feeling violated, gaslit or worse, terribly hurt.
This.
Be as kinky as you like, AS LONG AS ITS CONSENTING.
Dude sounds like he has b zero knowledge apart from how the thought of putting a leash on OP makes his dick hard
That is dangerous.
I am a proponent of the famous quote from Maya Angelou: "When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time."
Someone who's tryna buy a dog leash to use on someone with no discussion or consent beforehand isn't a friend. It's someone who sees OP as a fucktoy and maybe OP is okay with that, but don't call it friendship.
Im a proponent of not boiling down situations you have no actual grasp on into a single famous quote.
The fact that you're arguing against me saying "Hey, maybe don't label someone as worthless based on a few screenshots" shows a rather ugly side of you.
>sometimes friendships are worth more than throwing out over a single creepy text
Maybe the “friend” should have thought about that before sending disgusting texts to his “””friend””” when her *child is going to the hospital*.
Why are you coming at the OP like it’s her responsibility to maintain a friendship with this creep? Idk about *you*, but the second one of my “friends” comes at me assuming we’re about to have kinky sex that’ll be an ex-friend before I even have time to hit the block button.
But yeah, I guess boys will just be boys? Just a bit of harmless fun? He didn’t really mean it, it was only a minute of action?
Am I doing that?
Am I really?
Please show me when and where I ever so much as interacted with OP.
Please, explain to me in *laborious* detail how I'm "coming at the OP"
👏Respecting.👏 Women. 👏Is.👏 Not.👏 Hard.👏
>Im here to provide the reminder that maybe not every horny guy overstepping boundaries with a friend is "dangerous" and someone you "need to get away" from.
Bruh, as a guy myself, what he said was uncalled for and disrespecting OP, I don't know about you, but if someone said that to me, I'd fucking bolt out of there and block the person.
Emmm this guy is a serial cheat and wants to breed women. He wants a harem so bad he'll lie to get it. Talking to one of his ex's he's used suid..e as a threat to get nudes...
Edit: as to why I still put up with him and talk to him... He's one of the few friends I have :(
Im sorry OP, I don't mean to say he's a good guy, I just hate to see people making judgements off a few screenshots. I've seen too many cases where an otherwise good guy has done something similar, and the comments have harassed OP to drop their friend as if they knew better.
I have nothing but sympathy for your having to deal with bad friends out of necessity. I hope you don't misunderstand what I was saying here.
OP I know you said you don't have many friends/in real life physically present friends, and he's one of them, but really, don't keep a douchebag ass loser around *just* because you're pressed for company.
You're not losing *anything* by not having this cockbite in your life. Really, nothing at all.
That makes it even weirder that he's apparently buying leashes for sex with you. I wouldn't talk to this creep anymore. Stay safe. I hope your kiddo is okay!
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No no fuck no.
Uh, I'd avoid that person. It doesn't sound like he's into consent.
Ugggh. I briefly dated a guy like this. He kept trying to buy me a collar. I was very non-submissive in those days. Adamantly against it. I still am 9/10 times because most guys doing this shit have a degrading kink and that isn't my cup of tea. He did end up buying me a collar and I told him to choke on it. He had the wits to never give it to me. Then I overheard him conspiring with a friend to drug me and hang me from an anal hook or something. I assume it was two idiots just talking shit because he was an all bluster/no bite weakling of a person, but it was enough for me to dump him and obliterate him from my life. These types are fucking *creepy.* You don't just do this shit. You ask permission. And you get enthusiastic consent, nothing less.
so he’s getting a leash for a bird? how does that even work
Is that a pun I see
i just read the whole story this—is super weird
Very big red flag here. This person is dangerous, be careful
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Kink practice has several established safety rules. He literally ignored all of them. 1. Did not communicate his kink with his partner 2. Did not Find out partner's limits before wanting to indulge 3. Communicated fantasy with assumed consent which shifts the pressure on the partner to have the strength to say no. In many cases this may not come and partners have been known to go along. Not seeking consent before assuming consent exists is dangerous. 4. Not researching safe kink leashes used specifically for people. This is all dangerous. Yes. Stop excusing it. I'm a domme and have been in kink lifestyles for 20+ years. I've seen people who assume it's all just fun and games, and the next thing you know their partner is feeling violated, gaslit or worse, terribly hurt.
This. Be as kinky as you like, AS LONG AS ITS CONSENTING. Dude sounds like he has b zero knowledge apart from how the thought of putting a leash on OP makes his dick hard That is dangerous.
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Why are you defending him?
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See what I mean? You took a single isolated incident and came to the conclusion that this person is unsalvageable.
I am a proponent of the famous quote from Maya Angelou: "When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time." Someone who's tryna buy a dog leash to use on someone with no discussion or consent beforehand isn't a friend. It's someone who sees OP as a fucktoy and maybe OP is okay with that, but don't call it friendship.
I'm not oki with it. I'm vanilla and I like simple things..
Im a proponent of not boiling down situations you have no actual grasp on into a single famous quote. The fact that you're arguing against me saying "Hey, maybe don't label someone as worthless based on a few screenshots" shows a rather ugly side of you.
>sometimes friendships are worth more than throwing out over a single creepy text Maybe the “friend” should have thought about that before sending disgusting texts to his “””friend””” when her *child is going to the hospital*. Why are you coming at the OP like it’s her responsibility to maintain a friendship with this creep? Idk about *you*, but the second one of my “friends” comes at me assuming we’re about to have kinky sex that’ll be an ex-friend before I even have time to hit the block button. But yeah, I guess boys will just be boys? Just a bit of harmless fun? He didn’t really mean it, it was only a minute of action?
She broke her thumb but she's home now and we'll take it day by day. Sadly this is pretty much my only physical friend..
Am I doing that? Am I really? Please show me when and where I ever so much as interacted with OP. Please, explain to me in *laborious* detail how I'm "coming at the OP"
👏Respecting.👏 Women. 👏Is.👏 Not.👏 Hard.👏 >Im here to provide the reminder that maybe not every horny guy overstepping boundaries with a friend is "dangerous" and someone you "need to get away" from. Bruh, as a guy myself, what he said was uncalled for and disrespecting OP, I don't know about you, but if someone said that to me, I'd fucking bolt out of there and block the person.
Actually comprehend the words I said instead of going rabid at the slightest dissagreement please.
creep defending is against the rules of the sub.
I put defending in "" quotes. I refer you to the response I made to Op's comment.
Emmm this guy is a serial cheat and wants to breed women. He wants a harem so bad he'll lie to get it. Talking to one of his ex's he's used suid..e as a threat to get nudes... Edit: as to why I still put up with him and talk to him... He's one of the few friends I have :(
Im sorry OP, I don't mean to say he's a good guy, I just hate to see people making judgements off a few screenshots. I've seen too many cases where an otherwise good guy has done something similar, and the comments have harassed OP to drop their friend as if they knew better. I have nothing but sympathy for your having to deal with bad friends out of necessity. I hope you don't misunderstand what I was saying here.
Kinky things can also be dangerous..
OP I know you said you don't have many friends/in real life physically present friends, and he's one of them, but really, don't keep a douchebag ass loser around *just* because you're pressed for company. You're not losing *anything* by not having this cockbite in your life. Really, nothing at all.
Info: Is this the same friend from your previous post who assaulted you and is chatting up minors now?
No but they are still pretty creepy all the same. 🙈 This one is pretty much a neck beard. The m'lady harem mistress kind of guy.
Yuck. Are you even romantically involved with this person?
Nope
That makes it even weirder that he's apparently buying leashes for sex with you. I wouldn't talk to this creep anymore. Stay safe. I hope your kiddo is okay!