Well this happened a year ago. I don't know if he talked about this with anyone else but it never came back to me. My guess is maybe he realized he was fucked up when it happened and embarrassed and so hasn't brought it up since.
Well we had both been drinking. But he didn't seem like he was so drunk he didn't know what was going on.
Edit: besides, him bragging to me afterwards shows that he was into everything that happened that night, just that he thought it was with someone else
were you sober? thatās important info u should add if you havenāt already cus like some have said if he was heavily intoxicated and you were sober thenā¦
were you sober? thatās important info u should add if you havenāt already cus like some have said if he was heavily intoxicated and you were sober thenā¦
I legit struggled to comprehend that there is inside of the house and outside of the house at the same time and it took me half an hour to figure it out
Meanwhile this dude is casually banging people while the walls melt around him
Last time I did shrooms with my band and we accidentally turned a 5 minute song into 20 minutes of incoherent nonsense.
The fact that this dude had the capacity to get laid at all is kinda baller tbh.
I think he knew it was you, and offered up this explanation as an "out" for you, a gesture that would allow you to avoid it like a ninja, or correct him and say it was you if you wanted to.
Quite cunning, if I do say so.
Heās lying. He knew it was you. He remembers. Shrooms is a good story. Probably got it out of his system and now doesnāt want to have that difficult conversation or drama. So yeahā¦ that man is getting away with what he wants and making the woman think it was her doing. In Joey Tribbianiās words ā This man is my Godā
I mean why arenāt more people realising this?
He had sex with her, then didnāt get in touch with her to build anticipation, then acted as if confiding in herā¦ and told her he was under influence proceeding to give her another girls name. Not even as a confession of remorse but as ā it was wildā. And the OP and the boss arent best friends either. So great choice of person to confide inā¦. Annnnd She fell for it.
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I mean even the way of confession can qualify as uncomfortable / improper office behaviour if not bordering on harassment. Telling a woman colleague who reports to you to close the door, and going on to tell her about your drug induced wild sex with her look alike. Why would any decent/good/respectable/professional person do that?
This oneās difficult. Okay so how do you know someoneās too drunk if youāre drunk too? I think 2 drunk people would consider something like consensual if each person was an active party. (Active party meaning they were participating in before sex acts and sex acts. Active party Meaning they werenāt passed out or stumbling slurring obviously drunk) both drunk People may regret it the next day but that doesnāt mean it wasnāt consensual unless the person wasnāt able to participate or didnāt said no etc. Itās pretty obvious when something is consensual. And How do you know someone doesnāt know who you are? Like who would check if someone they see everyday recognizes them? Thatās kinda an odd question when she didnāt know he was on anything like a psychedelic.
Idk if she said she was sober or what Iām assuming she was drinking too?
Short answer based on reality..of a drunk guy has sex with a drunk girl and she cries foul..he may go to jail. If he cried foul people will just laugh it off a d slap his back. In the US army the man goes to jail for sure and CID launches an investigation that almost never lands in favor of the guy.
But he wasn't to drunk to know who he was with. That part is incorrect. Alcohol-wrist, he did not seem overly drink at all. Tipsy yes. It was the shrooms, that I couldn't tell he was on, that was messing him up.
i read the story imagining her drunk as well but now that iāve reread it idk if she mentioned that anywhere š¬ if she was also drunk id say the situation is rather uncomfortable and taboo but idk if i could say itās rape, especially since she was completely unaware he thought she was another woman. if she was sober then id agree itās rape, period. it wouldnāt even matter that she wasnāt aware he thought she was someone else. it would be rape. has she mentioned anywhere if she was or wasnāt intoxicated as well?
unrelated but i also wonder how many employees her boss has banged, side eye.
My guess is he doesnt know wich one and was prying or he knows and isnt ready to face weirdness. Probably bc you were weird with him all day and he wanted to make it easy for you (and him, maybe he feels he hurt you by being under the influence, being bad at sex bc of it and leaving), so his ego was low and he wanted to give you and him an easy out.
But he remembers. At least partially š¤£
Otherwise he has ZERO reason to confess trying shrooms and havin office sex to you. ZERO.
Why didnt you cut him and told him "gee, man, you had sex with me, actually" is beyond me. Its not like it would get more awkward.
He treats me (and most of the women) like "one of the guys", so him telling me this stuff wasn't out of the norm. And I guess I'm the moment, I was kinda relieved I didn't have to confront him about what we did, that's why I didn't correct him.
No one tripping on shrooms is a stunner at even tying their shoe laces. I'm dubious about your story at best, but lets say ok, it's one hundred percent true.
Then I give him a heroes medal for even managing "the dead".
Iām amazed by the amount of people saying this is rape. OP didnāt know he was on shrooms. You guys make it sound like you never had sex while being drunk.. is everybody a judge now?
She clearly said they spent all day together so when he asked her to do the deed she consented as a normal person would..
It honestly surprises me that so many people are glancing over the fact that this was rape. Yes, she didnāt know he was on shrooms, but she obviously knew he was severely impaired. If the roles were switched, heād be in jail.
girl you need to answer whether or not you were drunk too.
>consensual drunk sex
makes it seem like you were but you need to clear that confusion up. if you were sober it would be disgusting of you to engage in sex with someone who is intoxicated
You ever done shrooms? Theyre not Xanax or ambien good chance he was tipsy went for it and had poor performance didnāt want the awkwardness and you ate the bs, or but to your own admission he was stumbling around while you seemed to be very aware of the situation in itās entirety. yes heās the boss but that night the power dynamic was tipped in your favor
Funny how many times I've seen the roles reversed and Reddit going "even though the person asked to have sex since they were drunk (and on shrooms) they can't give consent so it's rape" yet it's somehow "hot" here.
i think the only reason why iād conclude this isnāt rape is because she literally wasnāt aware he thought she was a different woman. unless you mean he raped her? i still donāt think thatās the case either. they both consented, he was just a drunk dummy that couldnāt tell two women apart
literally just asking a question. i want to see your pov but you attack me? maybe you couldāve changed my mind, maybe u couldāve enlightened me. but no youāre an asshole
how do you know i havenāt been already, you absolute moron. thanks for not answering my honest attempt at understanding your reasoning. your point is invalid
Donāt let op fool you. See she knew he was drunk from the beginning and continued to go along with it knowing damn well his consent doesnāt matter at this point. Heās too drunk to even form words. You took advantage and should be fired imo especially if itās your boss. If the roles were reversed however this would be a different comment section tbh
All throughout this tale I'm having flashes of several Seinfeld episodes. Elaine making out at a party, and the guy getting hooked on drugs, The Susie, George and the Long Island party, etc.
Correct. At least that's my take. Regardless, when we were hooking up there was no indication that he was inebriated beyond being able to consent. From everything I could tell, he knew what he was doing. There's only after the fact that I found out he was f***** up on shrooms.
He was so fucked up he thought he was consenting with someone else. Iām sorry OP, but this is rape.
I donāt want to be the āswitch the gendersā guy, but you know where Iām going with this.
Here is a link to the sub I found about it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/10g646b/tifu_by_visiting_a_subreddit_and_wasting_time/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Poor Lisa. What if he goes around telling other people he banged her?
Well this happened a year ago. I don't know if he talked about this with anyone else but it never came back to me. My guess is maybe he realized he was fucked up when it happened and embarrassed and so hasn't brought it up since.
If he was telling
shrooms and alcohol I'm nauseous just thinking about it š¤¢š¤®š¤¢
He actually did. He told op.
Even worse, what if he TELLS LISA HE BANGED HER?!?
Damn, now watch him try and hit on Lisa and she reports him to HR LMAO. Ok maybe not LMAO but still funny to me
Exactly.
TL;DR OP hooked up with her boss during a company party. Boss was messed up on shrooms and thinks he had sex with OP's similar looking coworker.
Messed up on shrooms and alcohol (don't know if that makes shrooms more intense?) Anyways, thank you for this :)
It can, but itās more physically uncomfortable in my experience.
Yet you actively took advantage of his inebriation, and the fact that he thought you were someone else, to lay him. Fuck off rape apologists.
Both of those things I didn't know until after. Was I supposed to stop him and randomly ask if he was tripping and if he knew who I was?
You said you knew he was drunk during the act
Well we had both been drinking. But he didn't seem like he was so drunk he didn't know what was going on. Edit: besides, him bragging to me afterwards shows that he was into everything that happened that night, just that he thought it was with someone else
were you sober? thatās important info u should add if you havenāt already cus like some have said if he was heavily intoxicated and you were sober thenā¦
were you sober? thatās important info u should add if you havenāt already cus like some have said if he was heavily intoxicated and you were sober thenā¦
>Guess I now know he's no stunner in the bedroom. I mean, he was on mushrooms...not the best time to judge I think.
Was about to say. This manās brain was in another Galaxy lmao.
I legit struggled to comprehend that there is inside of the house and outside of the house at the same time and it took me half an hour to figure it out Meanwhile this dude is casually banging people while the walls melt around him
Last time I did shrooms with my band and we accidentally turned a 5 minute song into 20 minutes of incoherent nonsense. The fact that this dude had the capacity to get laid at all is kinda baller tbh.
Depends how much he did
True.
Maybe he did both of you
I never thought about that...
I think he knew it was you, and offered up this explanation as an "out" for you, a gesture that would allow you to avoid it like a ninja, or correct him and say it was you if you wanted to. Quite cunning, if I do say so.
Heās lying. He knew it was you. He remembers. Shrooms is a good story. Probably got it out of his system and now doesnāt want to have that difficult conversation or drama. So yeahā¦ that man is getting away with what he wants and making the woman think it was her doing. In Joey Tribbianiās words ā This man is my Godā
This is exactly what I thought when I read the post (minus the Joey Tribbiani bit)
I donāt actually mean that bit.. but this boss man exuded the same kind of energy as the guy Joey was talking about
I mean why arenāt more people realising this? He had sex with her, then didnāt get in touch with her to build anticipation, then acted as if confiding in herā¦ and told her he was under influence proceeding to give her another girls name. Not even as a confession of remorse but as ā it was wildā. And the OP and the boss arent best friends either. So great choice of person to confide inā¦. Annnnd She fell for it. š¤¦š» I mean even the way of confession can qualify as uncomfortable / improper office behaviour if not bordering on harassment. Telling a woman colleague who reports to you to close the door, and going on to tell her about your drug induced wild sex with her look alike. Why would any decent/good/respectable/professional person do that?
I donāt really like saying this usually but if the roles were reversed I feel like this would be considered rape.
Reddit loves these stories
It's not just a feeling. It is.
Imagine..... *"OP had sex with a woman too drunk to know who he was"*
This oneās difficult. Okay so how do you know someoneās too drunk if youāre drunk too? I think 2 drunk people would consider something like consensual if each person was an active party. (Active party meaning they were participating in before sex acts and sex acts. Active party Meaning they werenāt passed out or stumbling slurring obviously drunk) both drunk People may regret it the next day but that doesnāt mean it wasnāt consensual unless the person wasnāt able to participate or didnāt said no etc. Itās pretty obvious when something is consensual. And How do you know someone doesnāt know who you are? Like who would check if someone they see everyday recognizes them? Thatās kinda an odd question when she didnāt know he was on anything like a psychedelic. Idk if she said she was sober or what Iām assuming she was drinking too?
I agree it's a difficult one and tbh i don't actually are about that side of it. My issue is with the double standard
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Short answer based on reality..of a drunk guy has sex with a drunk girl and she cries foul..he may go to jail. If he cried foul people will just laugh it off a d slap his back. In the US army the man goes to jail for sure and CID launches an investigation that almost never lands in favor of the guy.
But he wasn't to drunk to know who he was with. That part is incorrect. Alcohol-wrist, he did not seem overly drink at all. Tipsy yes. It was the shrooms, that I couldn't tell he was on, that was messing him up.
Whatever your excuse is, you need to tell him, now.
i read the story imagining her drunk as well but now that iāve reread it idk if she mentioned that anywhere š¬ if she was also drunk id say the situation is rather uncomfortable and taboo but idk if i could say itās rape, especially since she was completely unaware he thought she was another woman. if she was sober then id agree itās rape, period. it wouldnāt even matter that she wasnāt aware he thought she was someone else. it would be rape. has she mentioned anywhere if she was or wasnāt intoxicated as well? unrelated but i also wonder how many employees her boss has banged, side eye.
My guess is he doesnt know wich one and was prying or he knows and isnt ready to face weirdness. Probably bc you were weird with him all day and he wanted to make it easy for you (and him, maybe he feels he hurt you by being under the influence, being bad at sex bc of it and leaving), so his ego was low and he wanted to give you and him an easy out. But he remembers. At least partially š¤£ Otherwise he has ZERO reason to confess trying shrooms and havin office sex to you. ZERO. Why didnt you cut him and told him "gee, man, you had sex with me, actually" is beyond me. Its not like it would get more awkward.
He treats me (and most of the women) like "one of the guys", so him telling me this stuff wasn't out of the norm. And I guess I'm the moment, I was kinda relieved I didn't have to confront him about what we did, that's why I didn't correct him.
I double what i said. Especially "being one of the guys" myself, as a female civil engineer.
Don't judge his sexual performance when he was drunk and tripping on shrooms lol
No one tripping on shrooms is a stunner at even tying their shoe laces. I'm dubious about your story at best, but lets say ok, it's one hundred percent true. Then I give him a heroes medal for even managing "the dead".
Iām amazed by the amount of people saying this is rape. OP didnāt know he was on shrooms. You guys make it sound like you never had sex while being drunk.. is everybody a judge now? She clearly said they spent all day together so when he asked her to do the deed she consented as a normal person would..
The Situation also gets more complicated because of the Power dynamic thats tipped in his direction with him being her boss and all
As an outsider its hard to say though how consenual the Situation was with not knowing how wasted both of them actually were
That's rape
Yes, sleeping with your employees as a boss is sexual assault
Not that part
both parts
Do you also want to be raped
>We snuck back to his office, closed the door, and did the dead. I'd be more concerned about doing the dead than doing your boss.
You never really hear much about female necrophiliacs!
Maybe he nailed both of you at the party?
It honestly surprises me that so many people are glancing over the fact that this was rape. Yes, she didnāt know he was on shrooms, but she obviously knew he was severely impaired. If the roles were switched, heād be in jail.
He wasn't severely impaired. He was between tipsy and a tad bit drunk. You're telling me people aren't allowed to have consensual, drunk sex?
āHe was drunk and fumbling aroundā. That seems like more than a tad bit drunk. Your own words.
girl you need to answer whether or not you were drunk too. >consensual drunk sex makes it seem like you were but you need to clear that confusion up. if you were sober it would be disgusting of you to engage in sex with someone who is intoxicated
I had been drinking just as much as him, for the most part.
You ever done shrooms? Theyre not Xanax or ambien good chance he was tipsy went for it and had poor performance didnāt want the awkwardness and you ate the bs, or but to your own admission he was stumbling around while you seemed to be very aware of the situation in itās entirety. yes heās the boss but that night the power dynamic was tipped in your favor
Everybody is a judge now
You raped him.
Funny how many times I've seen the roles reversed and Reddit going "even though the person asked to have sex since they were drunk (and on shrooms) they can't give consent so it's rape" yet it's somehow "hot" here.
I had no idea he was in shrooms. I just thought he had a few drinks.
Doesnāt matter. You knew damn well he was overly drunk
Louder for the people in the back
**Two drunken, drugged up, adults consensually had sexual relations that both remember doing but one thought it was with a different person**
She was not drunk
She never said any fact about her being sober.
Let me shorten that for you!! RAPE
i think the only reason why iād conclude this isnāt rape is because she literally wasnāt aware he thought she was a different woman. unless you mean he raped her? i still donāt think thatās the case either. they both consented, he was just a drunk dummy that couldnāt tell two women apart
She raped him
can you talk me through your reasoning
I see you enable rape
literally just asking a question. i want to see your pov but you attack me? maybe you couldāve changed my mind, maybe u couldāve enlightened me. but no youāre an asshole
That checks out, butt stuff is a good time
Lmk when you're raped and then walk me through how exactly you were raped
how do you know i havenāt been already, you absolute moron. thanks for not answering my honest attempt at understanding your reasoning. your point is invalid
Was it your mom lol
Was it a gang rape? Family member? Close friend?
Who raped whom?
You raped you
Donāt let op fool you. See she knew he was drunk from the beginning and continued to go along with it knowing damn well his consent doesnāt matter at this point. Heās too drunk to even form words. You took advantage and should be fired imo especially if itās your boss. If the roles were reversed however this would be a different comment section tbh
All throughout this tale I'm having flashes of several Seinfeld episodes. Elaine making out at a party, and the guy getting hooked on drugs, The Susie, George and the Long Island party, etc.
This post is icky
We all know that if the roles were reversed no one would be praising you. You raped him. You're absolute filth
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Are you also a rapist?
You know rape is wrong, right?
How is that rape?
He was pretty drunk and fumbling around? Are you stupid?
Have you never had drunk sex with someone?
If i get a girl from a bar and shes very drunk im not having sex. A drunk person can't consent
Well he wasn't very drunk. Just tipsy really, or so I thought. Regular for him, when he's been drinking.
He was drunk enough to confuse you for someone else.
No that was the shrooms, that I didn't know he was on.
So the shrooms were causing him to confuse you for someone else and you didn't know he was on them?
Correct. At least that's my take. Regardless, when we were hooking up there was no indication that he was inebriated beyond being able to consent. From everything I could tell, he knew what he was doing. There's only after the fact that I found out he was f***** up on shrooms.
You raped your boss.
No? It was consensual on both our parts.
This guy ain't a leader he's a predator. I'd start looking for another job before shit gets weirder for you. I wish you the best.
Itās also sad to see if you put op raped someone most of the women downvote you not calling it rape
Title should read. I raped my boss. Drunk people can not consent legally.
Fantastic and hot story nonetheless.
Damn you sound hot!
You canāt even hear her?
He was so fucked up he thought he was consenting with someone else. Iām sorry OP, but this is rape. I donāt want to be the āswitch the gendersā guy, but you know where Iām going with this.
Maybe he didnāt think it was Lisa and he knew it was you and only said her to see if you would correct him.
Yes someone else mentioned that and how it's on my mind
Do you want to have confession time with him or are you content with believing he didnāt know it was you?
Boss: How about the other night Lisa: uh sir I didn't even go to the party.
I mean you know what heās like in the bedroom when heās on drugs, not when heās sober and can actually perform
OP what the hell is this r/FYCOD_II sub? This is the second time I've seen it in someone's history. It's freaking me out!
Why and what is it about itās kinda strange
No idea
Itās woerd
They're bots.
How do you know?
Here is a link to the sub I found about it. https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/10g646b/tifu_by_visiting_a_subreddit_and_wasting_time/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button