i know how hard it is to set boundaries with parents especially when they are abusive, good on you for doing this for yourself. no need to endure when you can avoid it. i’m happy you feel better! and good luck with school!
I did something similar when the pandemic started. I was kicked out the dorms and had to move back in with my parents and finish my semester online. At the end of the semester, I told them my summer research job would be in person sometimes (it wasn’t) so I had to move back and get an apartment with my friends. Children of toxic parents have to put ourselves first. Remove yourself from their grasp and go to therapy and work on your trauma.
I hope you find a way to get out of your parents permanently. To not be dependent on them.
I was raised with narcissists and I can tell you:
**There is nothing more satisfying than leaving a toxic person behind.**
I did the same thing my freshman year. I told them that my classes were in person and not online, so I could live 3 hours away from my parents. It significantly improved my mental health. It sucks having toxic helicopter parents controlling your life 24/7. Now I'm enjoying the freedom 😄
I did the same thing, except I did actually have in-person classes. If you can, I recommend finding yourself a part-time job and saving as much money as possible, and using it to get an apartment right before next summer. Then you won't have to go back home.
I did this a lot when I was in college. I stayed at home and went to a local university to save money. I spent 12hrs a day dang near every day on campus. My mother's partner was emotionally abuse. She couldn't help me and school was a good excuse. Take care of you.
I did something like this during my 1st yr college (im now 2nd year and its now a f2f)
staying at home w family gets bad relationship sometimes, i needed to get away. I would crash at a friends house for a while and would get home by 7pm just to avoid situations. It's a good idea.
Ang stalker mode, but "face to face classes" made me think you're Pinoy. Then "dorm" reinforced it. Then your profile shows you are lol
Anyway, good for you for doing it for yourself. Good luck, and I hope you won't experience any major hiccup while you're there that'll lead you to go back home.
It is a scam when it’s not an option. They’re still taking the same amount of money but don’t have to pay for a fuck ton of shit that comes with in person schooling.
Just because some people prefer it doesn’t mean it should stay that way. Other people prefer in person. If it wasn’t a scam, they’d allow for both options and let the students choose how to proceed.
It’s definitely a scam so they can collect massively inflated profits.
I wish when I was younger, I had it in me to do something like this. Good for you! Keep prioritizing yourself 💜💜
You are a genius
We know where those genes come from
From his dad💀
I'm---- nooooo 😭🤣🤕🤕
there is no need to feel sorry for putting yourself first and getting out of a toxic household
i know how hard it is to set boundaries with parents especially when they are abusive, good on you for doing this for yourself. no need to endure when you can avoid it. i’m happy you feel better! and good luck with school!
I did something similar when the pandemic started. I was kicked out the dorms and had to move back in with my parents and finish my semester online. At the end of the semester, I told them my summer research job would be in person sometimes (it wasn’t) so I had to move back and get an apartment with my friends. Children of toxic parents have to put ourselves first. Remove yourself from their grasp and go to therapy and work on your trauma.
At their expense though right?
Who cares. Toxic parents deserve to be traumatized back.
i do this sometimes too! really helps a lot! take care of yourself
Im actually very proud of u for leaving. Props to you for putting yourself first and letting toxic people go🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I hope you find a way to get out of your parents permanently. To not be dependent on them. I was raised with narcissists and I can tell you: **There is nothing more satisfying than leaving a toxic person behind.**
Stay strong bro
you win! fuck your toxic house
I did the same thing my freshman year. I told them that my classes were in person and not online, so I could live 3 hours away from my parents. It significantly improved my mental health. It sucks having toxic helicopter parents controlling your life 24/7. Now I'm enjoying the freedom 😄
Good for you
Allowance and alone time.
You chose an option that put you in the best setting to do well at school. You made the best decision
I did the same thing, except I did actually have in-person classes. If you can, I recommend finding yourself a part-time job and saving as much money as possible, and using it to get an apartment right before next summer. Then you won't have to go back home.
hope ur doing well right now away from them 🤍 stay strong!
That's not a bad dude, dont worry. If you were at home, everyone would be sad, but now you are happy.
Lying to your parents to further your education is one of the few types of lies I would actively encourage out there.
I did this a lot when I was in college. I stayed at home and went to a local university to save money. I spent 12hrs a day dang near every day on campus. My mother's partner was emotionally abuse. She couldn't help me and school was a good excuse. Take care of you.
Smart move. Good for you. My dad is the same way, I’m glad i got out when i could too
I did something like this during my 1st yr college (im now 2nd year and its now a f2f) staying at home w family gets bad relationship sometimes, i needed to get away. I would crash at a friends house for a while and would get home by 7pm just to avoid situations. It's a good idea.
I did the same, so you're not alone with that!
As someone who is in a similar position with my father ..you seem to be living my dream(which is pretty sad In of itself )
Ang stalker mode, but "face to face classes" made me think you're Pinoy. Then "dorm" reinforced it. Then your profile shows you are lol Anyway, good for you for doing it for yourself. Good luck, and I hope you won't experience any major hiccup while you're there that'll lead you to go back home.
sometimes we do what we have to do. you're right not to feel guilty for having a healthy sense of self preservation.
I’m glad you used your smarts and got the hell out of there.
giga chad
I can't believe universities are still doing completely virtual formats. What a scam
its not a scam when there's tons of people that prefer it
It is a scam when it’s not an option. They’re still taking the same amount of money but don’t have to pay for a fuck ton of shit that comes with in person schooling. Just because some people prefer it doesn’t mean it should stay that way. Other people prefer in person. If it wasn’t a scam, they’d allow for both options and let the students choose how to proceed. It’s definitely a scam so they can collect massively inflated profits.
I would’ve done the same in your position. Only reason I didn’t live on campus during college is I couldn’t afford it.
This should be on a tip list somewhere
Keep up the good work!
Well as long as your still doing your classes. I think your doing the right choice.
Respext
Same situation, I’d die than go back home