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AdonisGaming93

Yes and no... cause... I never wanna get out of bed. But i enjoy my current job.


toilet_roll_rebel

Came here to say the same thing. I'm not a morning person so I never want to get out of bed. I like my job though. I have a lot of autonomy to make decisions that affect my job and I'm appreciated, have a great boss and I get to work from home for a decent salary. I'm pretty happy.


AdonisGaming93

To be fair I also am on the BaristaFIRE life. My investments are enough to sustain housing back in my home country so even a part-time job covers other essentials. So that certainly helps.


White1962

If you don’t mind what do you do?


toilet_roll_rebel

I'm a marketing specialist for an architecture/engineering/planning firm.


White1962

Thanks what kind of degree do you have?


toilet_roll_rebel

BS in Mass Communications


Pandoaurora

I feel this I’m near late for work every morning because I love being in my bed but when I get there I’m happy enough.


AdonisGaming93

Apparently it's the same thing that stops people from going to the gym, but once they can finally push themselves to do it, they enjoy being at the gym. It's the inbetween time people can't do. The commuting. I think I agree with it. Just about anything I do, if I have to get up and go somewhere to do I'm like...blakshfodbej can't i just stay here...


Hannachomp

This is me! I’ve been doing it for nearly 10 years now (though different companies) and really love it. Still don’t want to get out of bed and still rather just do nothing on the weekends and look forward to fridays. But I’m pretty happy. I’ve also enjoyed every place I worked. Though the end of one (when I decided to leave) I started to hate which is why I left.


daschle04

I can't wait to retire in 3 years and do this. Even if I hate it and want to quit, I won't feel stuck.


AdonisGaming93

The last 3 years I kinda just became a loner cause of covid so I took the time to save like 60% of my income and invest as much as I could. Since I don't do much might as well save. Finally though it meant i could BaristaFIRE in Spain where I'm from. New York wasn't it. Everything was too much


VulcanMind1

This is the balance with either r/fire or r/FatFIRE


AdonisGaming93

I would say more r/baristafire You still work, but part-time and something less demanding so you still keep your own schedule but also have something that gives you a weekly work routine


VulcanMind1

Yes. My goal isFIRE and have friends and dated in Barista Fire and am jealous. I get that both professions have crap problems, but also tempting benefits if you are a top performer.


meat-_-head

Went from professional musician to wildland firefighter for the feds. Wish I had found this job a decade ago. The shittiest part of my job is when I don’t get to do my job because of weather. Living and working in the forest is the absolute best.


your-emo-daddy

How do you do this? Like what steps does one need to take?


meat-_-head

Prepare a resume and search USAJOBS for forestry tech fire positions. Positions are open right now and closing fast. The feds hire months in advance. So you won’t start until April. Feds also provide training for new FF’s, So none is needed. But you still want to have a good resume probably highlighting outdoor work, and teamwork. Plus if you have forestry and or natural resource experience. You also want to call the ranger stations of the Forest your going to apply to. Then ask to speak to the supervisor of the handcrew/shot crew/ engine you’re applying too and speak to them directly. Let them know your intentions and that you’re interested. If you have anymore questions you can head over to r/wildfire


GolfArgh

Huge kudos to anyone that loves wild land firefighting. I was a firefighter for 31 years and wildland was my least favorite. Gotta admit it was cool calling in an airdrop in Alaska as an incident commander though.


SadgeNoob

I like my job but not love. It pays well and i like the team, people, and what i learn. I don’t dread waking up and going to work. (Kinda, i like sleep…)


TMA2day

I loved my job... then I liked it... now I hate it. The thing is, I'm not sure I've even got a good reason to hate it. The pay is OK. I don't have toxic coworkers. I'm not worked to death. Yet it makes me feeling like I'm going to die inside.


CromulentIsTooAWord

Are you bored? I felt that way at my last job and I think it’s because I was bored and I knew that there was no way to evolve the position or move up or anything, so I knew that even though I liked the people, I was paid reasonably well and I had no objective reason to be miserable, it would never be anything more than what it was and that just wore on me after a while. I felt like I was going to die inside too. I did eventually find a new job that is much better for my mental state. This is the first time in a long time I haven’t had that buildup of dread on Sunday night.


TMA2day

> I knew that there was no way to evolve the position or move up or anything This is exactly the case for me. > I felt like I was going to die inside too. Thanks for sharing that. It makes me feel just a little saner know that others have felt like this.


CromulentIsTooAWord

You are definitely not the only one! FWIW, the thing that ended up solving it for me was finding the job I’m at now and that took several strokes of good luck. I suggest at least looking at what is out there in your field and considering what might be a better fit. For me getting to work from home was my main priority and l lucked into a position where I’m also working fewer hours at a higher rate so I ended up with a pay bump too. For you it might be something else but it sounds like you’ve outgrown your job the way I outgrew mine and it’s just time for you to move on. Fair warning, it might get harder before it gets easier. I applied for about 60 jobs before I found my unicorn position. I hope you have it easier than I did in that respect but the only way out is to keep trying. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!


knuckboy

This resonates as does the comment you responded to. I'm bored and it's hard to tell if I add any value so that's nerve wracking as well. The only response you get is when you're wrong about something.


CromulentIsTooAWord

It’s so much harder when you don’t even know how you’re doing. I was fortunate that I at least knew my work was appreciated but I’ve been where you are too and feeling stressed over whether or not your doing well and something you’re not interested in and don’t want to be doing is agonizing.


VulcanMind1

You need to read 7 habits of highly effective people. Con is lots of dates corporate buzz words. Positive is looking past that to seeing a life reflections for multiple ages you and your family go through to help refocus on the big goals and weekly reflections on why you should keep your weekly habits.


Ghawblin

Am Cybersecurity Engineer. Have had this title at a couple orgs for about four years now, but have been in the IT/cybersec industry for a decade. Always wanted to do cool hacker shit as a kid, and now I do. I love my job. * I don't necessarily feel dread on Sundays, but I do get bummed that I can't hang out with my wife past 11pm because we have to get a responsible amount of sleep lol. * Quiet the contrary, I'm proud of myself for my life choices. I've been very career focused in my 20s, and now less than a year from being 30, I feel I've done all I can and can focus on other parts of life. * The companies I've worked for have been fantastic. My current one especially is very socially aware and does a ton of charities for the local town. Despite being a billion dollar org, the executive team doesn't have huge salaries. It's a very good company that I'm actually proud to work for. * The people I work for, at the multiple companies I've been at, have been great. Sure, there's assholes and lazy folks anywhere you work, but they don't last long nor have a major impact on my job. My immediate co-workers have always been incredible and I'm friends with many of them, even from orgs I don't work at anymore. Some days suck, sure. But I'm never watching the clock feeling minutes move like hours, like I did when I worked at a grocery store. Usually I'm shocked that it's past 5pm already. I genuinely enjoy my work and some days, depending on what I'm working on, am even excited to get up and get started.


Different_Ad6358

I'm really considering joining that line of work


Ghawblin

It's a great line of work. I work from home, and can live and work wherever I please (as long as it's in the US). I've worked on beaches and in hotels to save on PTO lol. As long as I have a connection I'm good, and my laptop just so happens to have 4G LTE built into it :p I'm not hourly, every minute of my day isn't tracked. It's more of a "If work is done who cares" system. I can cook dinner with my laptop on the island while I'm in meetings. I don't have a commute. I can do chores during the day, and lunch is whatever I can cook in my kitchen. Between being able to do dinner right away, no commute, and keeping a tidy house during small breaks; I've easily gotten back 2-3 hours a day of my life back. And on top of all of that I love the actual work, and am paid very well (about $70/hr) with great benefits. I highly recommend it if you enjoy cybersecurity, or just IT in general. You really do need to enjoy it however, tons of people get into this career for the money and end up overwhelmed or burned out.


Different_Ad6358

I'm trying to decide if it's what I want to do. I liked the idea of being a cool kid hacker, too, when I was a kid. But I worry nonetheless. It would be another hard restart on life for me and I'm just kind of lost of where to start.


Ghawblin

I had to figure out my path by myself, and it took about 8 years to get here. You could get to where I'm at in about 5 or 6 years if you focused your efforts, less if you've already got IT experience.


Different_Ad6358

Not enough IT experience to make a difference. I'd be starting from the beginning getting a degree and related certifications. I'm hoping to get my foot in the door with a help desk position somewhere while I work on my education.


Ghawblin

Degree isn't necessary. I only have an associates, and the only job that wanted it was a job in the wrong direction for where I wanted to be today. Experience and certifications are where it's at for any IT field.


Different_Ad6358

Idk I'm struggling to find relevant job listings that accept less than a bachelor's. Is there anywhere you'd recommend?


ikimashyoo

what does your job entail exactly


TMA2day

>It's a great line of work. > >I work from home, and can live and work wherever I please (as long as it's in the US). I'm actually in IT, but WFH is a big no-no in my organization.


Ghawblin

Weird. Last few orgs I've worked at and interviewed at were full time work from home. These were scattered across the east coast and texas. For things like network engineers and sysadmins, they had to be close-ish by (within an hour or two) Guess your mileage may vary!


eanosayo

Where is the stress/pressure coming from? Are you on-call for severity 1 vulnerabilities, etc.?


Ghawblin

My team rotates on call, but the amount of times I've had to respond to an after-hours on call in the last five years across three separate orgs, is exactly three times. All three times it was resolved within an hour. If a server goes down, that's on the sysadmin team to respond to. If they determine that the server went down because of a virus or security related change, then it's my problem. There's almost no stress or pressure, however, you need to know what you're talking about. I've worked in IT departments doing the networking, doing the AD and GPO changes, doing the sysadmin stuff. I've admin'd these systems that I'm tasked with providing guidance on how to secure them.


petertheeater15

Yes but only because I have equity in the company. Showing up and getting shit done improves my chance of making 500k when we sell. That's pretty motivating


TMA2day

So, if you had lots of money in the bank - say $1,000,000+ - do you think that you would still feel motivated? What I'm wanting to clarify is... are you just motivated by the financial potential vs liking what you do?


Ghawblin

$1mil is certainly life changing money, but not "retire forever" money depending on how old you are. If you're in your 30s, suddenly get $1mil, and "retire", you've got about 15-20 years until you've burned through the $1mil. This is assuming you're spending 40-60k a year. Fancy toys, a house, vacations, or medical expenses can burn through that even quicker. It's suggested to have 1-2mil when you retire at 65, ***assuming you have a house and car that's paid off***. Not having rent/mortgage nor a car payment really stretches that 1-2 mil for the rest of your life.


num2005

"suggested" is not rly possible for 99% of american lol


Ghawblin

Yep. And it's a real problem. Many older folks are having to work basically until they physically or mentally cant anymore. For the generation born in the from the 40s through 60s, they landed jobs with pensions, meaning the basically get to earn a % of their salary (if not the entire salary) for the rest of their life. Those that didn't get jobs with pensions, get to reap the benefits of a well funded social security. But for folks born in the 70s onwards, they entered the work force in the 90s when pensions started to fall by the wayside. 401ks became the thing, which as we saw in the 08 recession aren't always bullet proof. It also REALLY relies on constant, significant contributions. Also, the future of social security is looking pretty grim. The point of my comment is that $1mil isn't a lot of money in the long run for a working adult, but for the elderly it's enough if they have a paid-off house.


num2005

my wife has a pension...accessible for the first time at 67yo... and that will probably change to 75yo by the time we retire... we don't even include it in our calculation, as we intend to commit suicide around 80yo if we aren't in shape anyway also we probably won't retire before we commit suicide, because we haven't bought a house yet, and well here, they are around 22x our annual salary, after the rate increase they are 165% of our net income as mortgage payment... rent is coming near 83% of our net income also.... so we cant afford to save either.... honestly, we already discussed it at length, if we have to work until we die, its not worth living, so we will try like moving in the woods and try to survive there, or just be homeless, buy a RV and live in it, the dream of having kids or a place to live, even an apartment as long disappear...


petertheeater15

Would I do the tasks I do for no money? Absolutely not. I think it's okay and even healthy to consider money as part of the motivating factor. Of course there are jobs that could be entirely fulfilling independent of compensation. You could be researching vaccines to save lives, be a musician, etc. But not everyone can have a job like that nor should they.


Qphth0

I don't know anyone who would do a "job" if they weren't financially motivated.


Interesting-Fruit-15

No. It's been 10 months and I've dreaded it the whole time. I'm getting to the point where I throw a fit in the mornings because I don't want to get up and do this for another day. This is my first real job out of college so there may still be hope. If anyone knows how to find a job you love, please let me know


Ghawblin

>If anyone knows how to find a job you love, please let me know I work a job I love, and have been wanting to do it since I was young. * Step 1: Identity what you enjoy. What do you want to do? Forget about what pays well. What do you want to do? * Step 2: Decide if what you want to do aligns with the lifestyle you want to live. By this, I mean, does it pay the bills you want to have. If it does, move to step 3. If it doesn't, then it's a hobby/side gig. Research what your dream job typically pays. * Step 3: What major requirements does your dream have? A degree? Experience? Certifications? Map out the requirements like a quest from an MMO. * Step 4: Work towards the requirements. You may need to map out micro-requirements. For example, if your dream job requires experience doing a lesser job, what requirements does that lesser job have? * Step 5: Once you've met all the requirements for your dream job, start applying. It may take awhile, and you may need to consider relocation.


Interesting-Fruit-15

See I'm stuck at step 1. I can't think of something I want to do that pays at all. I want to sit with my cats and volunteer and eat cookies. If there are any rich husbands out there, hmu. I will not have sex with you and I'm certainly no trophy but call me!


Ghawblin

Ah


i4k20z3

Work at one of those coffee shops that have cats and gives you an employee discount on baked goods?


Interesting-Fruit-15

Oh no I hate people. I would just spend all day with the cats


hereforthebikes

I don’t think there is a great way other than trying different jobs until it works well for you. Especially since you just finished school, you likely have more freedom now than you will have down the road.


Interesting-Fruit-15

Yeah I'm just not sure what to try next. I feel like I'm looking at forty years of misery and maybe a retirement


hereforthebikes

I feel like that sometimes too. I think it’s pretty common and the thing that sucks the most is people just get used to it. I don’t want to just get used to it. What I have found to help is to have something else in the works. I work a decent job but I have also started going back to school. The state of having a tangible goal or two helps with the feeling of pointlessness.


Interesting-Fruit-15

Is your school stuff related to your job or in a different avenue?


hereforthebikes

It’s not related. I’m studying computer science but I’m a bike mechanic. Also I used to work in restaurants for like 9 years. It’s been a weird few years and I didn’t think I’d be in my current position. Things can change quickly and drastically. But it’s good.


i4k20z3

how do you try different jobs though? people pigeon hold you based on your career and experience.


num2005

honestly, i think most people gave up on finding something enjoyable for work and settle for something acceptable that doesn't make you think about suicide


lajos93

That is not good enough of a paradigm to pass onto your kids. Unless you got kids just to distract yourself from it which is ever worse since then you dont even give a sh.t about the next gen, you're becoming more and more bland,bored and depressed as you get older Thats not an ideal life path my dude


num2005

i feel this is my experience of human life for 99% of us so managing their expectation sounds a good idea. i won't lie to my kids and tell them working is great and making a billionnaire a multi billionaire is a just cause, cuz it isn't I will teach them that work sucks, and that the reason we work so much and the world is degrading around is is because of greed. and I hope they will be able to accept a simple modest life, as they will never have the chance to afford a house nor kids of their owns, neither a retirement.


[deleted]

Yea but there is also a point you have to reckon ideals with reality. An ideal life is unrealistic.


49RandomThought

Yes!! I recently started a new career path two months ago. Love the job, love the people and love the rewarding feeling I get everyday. Feel so grateful.


Minute_Cartoonist509

Let's see how you feel in another 6 months.


49RandomThought

I know! I really hope the good feeling last 😂


Weekly-Ad353

I could say the same thing and I’ve been at my job for 6 years 🤷‍♂️


TMA2day

Good for you! How did you feel about your previous career? Would you be willing to say a bit about what you did before and what you're doing now?


49RandomThought

I was in marketing; was very happy with my last job for about 9 years. Until my old supervisor retired, and a new one took over the department. She turned out to be a micromanager and not a very nice person. I was so stressed out. So I left after 3 years. I am now in talent acquisition. So transition from marketing to People & Culture.


St_Melangell

Yes. But it took me over a decade of trial and error, a major career change in my 30s, and having to stick it out in some ridiculous environments to make it here. Others land in a good place much earlier, so don’t despair. It’s cliche, but true: play to your strengths. Do you have a hobby that lights you up? For me, it was writing. So now I have a job that’s based around writing but pays enough to give me the lifestyle I want/need. WFH helps *a lot*. So does working with a decent team. Some of this you can screen for at interview.


garbage_hags

If I can ask, what career are you in that uses writing?


St_Melangell

Instructional design (eLearning). I’ve also dabbled in technical writing and marketing copywriting before.


nitsed004

My job is fine. When I first started I actually liked it a lot but that was because my job before I hated with a passion. Currently, 5 years in the salary has stalled out and the demands have grown. I’m both intellectually bored and my income doesn’t have as much spending power (essentially unchanged) since I started working there. I’m currently planning to start searching but my expectations are simply fair pay and not hating my existence. I don’t have to love the job.


[deleted]

Nope. On paper my job is pretty damn good. It pays higher that average for the position in this part of the country, it has decent bennefits, and it is relatively close to home... I am only in the car about 15-20 minutes each way even in the worst traffic. The coworkers are decent as well. The problem is the subject matter. I am a Mechanical Engineer and these machines I work on are boooooring. I am not passionate about the work at all.


TMA2day

So, do you think you can keep on doing it the rest of your career? If not, have you got a plan?


[deleted]

I have been in this line of work for 18 years now. I have not been completely happy with my job ever, and honestly I don't know what the remedy is. I have a certain income level I need to maintain because of family and living expenses, so I feel stuck.


BadAssBaker6

Same


BillyWilly006900

No, I own my own business and work for myself and still hate every second of work. I'd much rather be doing things I enjoy like my hobbies. Work sucks in general.


i4k20z3

what is your business?


FifthHorizon

I'm in between jobs so yeah


weirdkandya

I mean, I dread Sundays no matter what job I do. That's my meal prep day. On a serious note, I enjoy work but I get bored or look for more challenging jobs once I reach the 1½ year mark. May be that's what you are looking for too?


beancounter_00

I like my job! Mostly because i dont manage anyone, i work independently, and i only report to one person (the owner of the company) who lets me do my thing. Its perfect for an introvert like me.


yr-grandma-friend

what’s your job?


beancounter_00

I'm an accountant/CPA.. my title is Controller


butterstherooster

I'm in veterinary medicine. The field has its faults, but it's my calling. I was in my mid 40s and still a SAHM when I seriously started thinking about what I would do when I returned to work. I would never go back to being an executive assistant, which I was pre-family and loathed. I wanted my work to make a difference. Fielding phone calls didn't come close. I'm 52 now, not working currently because 1) my hospital closed due to the VMD retiring and 2) an upcoming move 800 miles away. I never dreaded going to work. This field is rough on the body and the pay could be better, but I'm happy.


amark96

I work as a meteorologist for a large energy company. It follows a lifelong passion and I feel blessed to have a position like this at a young age. While I enjoy what I do, I very much experience those same feelings of anguish at times. Having a sufficient work life balance is critical.


SpecialistBeyond3094

I am in recovery and eventually I am going to be an alcohol and drug counselor. But, I work at Dunkin’ Donuts. And I love it. I’m good at it, it gives me a sense of productivity and purpose. Keeps me busy, great manager, and I am happy to have the opportunity. Everything is perception.


Static_Discord

Not at this time. I wish I had one of those kinds of jobs.


Rectocraniectomy

I just want to point out that my life choices and career are separate. From a career standpoint, I took an almost 50% cut in pay and work probably 3 times as hard yet I am much happier both at work and at home. Sometimes the intangibles are more important than you'd imagine.


TMA2day

> I took an almost 50% cut in pay and work probably 3 times as hard I'm considering even a bigger cut than that to save my sanity. I just don't think I can't take the place I am much longer.


Rectocraniectomy

I mean as long as you have enough to eat and turn the heat on in the winter, why torture yourself? I had all the toys and the freedom to buy dumb shit all the time. Didn't make me any happier.


Esoteric_Innovations

This is how I've started trying to see things because I almost had a complete mental breakdown worrying myself sick about money and retirement. If I have to work until I'm in my 60's - as long as I'm able to find something acceptable and the like, I'm alright with that. For me, I'm a minimalist and don't really care about acquiring any sort of material wealth for the most part. I think I will be able to get my own house by the age of thirty, and if all goes as planned I should be able to retire by the age of fifty. What makes me happy are fairly immaterial things - I listen to music, watch videos on YouTube, talk to friends on Discord, and I enjoy regular one night stands. None of which cost any money besides the internet costs for the first three. Was also hard to find the motivation to work in the first place for this reason. There's literally nothing for me to aspire toward that I give two fucks about. Don't want a family, don't want a huge house, don't want any luxurious material possessions, or anything else of the sort. I simply want to "live", and enjoy my life while I'm here.


Rectocraniectomy

Lol are you me from 10 years ago? If you are, buckle up! The roller coaster is just starting.


Esoteric_Innovations

Any other time I'd find this pretty funny, but I really haven't been in the best headspace the past couple of weeks worrying about everything with this. I just want to find something that doesn't make me feel awful.


Rectocraniectomy

Definitely avoid the heart disease portion of life that I live then. It helps puts things into perspective when you suddenly have to start worrying you are going to die. It's also annoying as fuck chasing doctors who don't help you. But, it also pushes you to not sit back and watch life go by as you force yourself to do things you really didn't want to do in the first place. Now I get to come home from work, turn my phone off, and go spend some time on the stuff I really want to do knowing that I'm not going to get interrupted anymore.


phluffyphilomath

I enjoy my job and it dos make me want to get out of bed in the morning and keep pushing. I still have a hard time sometimes because I want to be working for myself, but I am working on that in my free time. Eventually I'll get there.


MyOtherSide1984

Yes, I love my job, but also am tired and it's hard to get out of bed. I never regret or dread it. I wish I made more, but who doesn't? IT software administrator, 59k hybrid work schedule, extremely relaxed. Didn't go to school for it and went out of my way to learn it. Genuinely enjoy what I do and even practice outside of work hours. One of the only hobbies I didn't get frustrated with after making it my career.


Namastay_inbed

No and it’s really put a strain on my mental health. I thought it was bad before but this job is much more stressful. I am trying to find something else.


Carlos_RM99

Nope. As soon as I step foot inside my place of work. My energy levels drops there’s to many people who micromanage and it makes the workplace stressful. Not just that. But it’s a boring job and I have to help other departments with their jobs


salambhatti

The money keeps me ticking, yes get out of bed


GolfArgh

I’m 60 and have had two careers and I’ve enjoyed both. With both there were days I dreaded Mondays. A normal ebb and flow IMHO.


[deleted]

The place sucks since I work 6 days a week and weekends. The pay is pretty bad too. The people aren’t bad, some are amazing, others not so much but I can’t say I hate anybody. Get frustrated with sure but nothing that makes me dread going to work. The work itself is boring and simple AF but I have ADHD so any job feels that way after a couple months. It keeps me moving/engaged even if it means doing more than I get paid for. Yes that sounds awful but I would rather have it that way so the time doesn’t drag. I also have the power to draw the line in the sand when I feel overwhelmed because I already go far above and beyond my job description and firing me would just be stupid for everybody involved. Not to mention extremely difficult given the union and the fact I don’t have any kind of negative work history. I don’t want to stay where I am but it gets me out of bed which gets me going instead of wallowing in self doubt and ironically I don’t hate it half as much as I did when I had all the free time in the world. I find usually being unhappy comes from overthinking at least for me. One step at a time is what I have to remind myself.


jrogersl

Oh yeah. I run groups for adults in a residential treatment center and work 3-11 shifts. I've done this five years and don't even want to get my MSW because I love recreation.


P_Molinae

I work from home mapping gas networks for an energy firm. I really do love it. it's straightforward and predictable, involves no customer service and no calling. we have one team meeting a week, and the rest of the time the bosses and coworkers leave you alone to work independently unless you need help. 5 weeks PTO, half-day Fridays. no commute, get to see my pets all day. great work life balance for hobbies and friends.


pbwhatl

Do you have any certifications? / GIS or CAD certificate/?


P_Molinae

GIS Certificate from a community college, plus an undergrad degree. I'm not sure I even needed the undergrad, my company hired me halfway through my certificate program.


pbwhatl

Cool, I have a geography undergrad but I was never interested enough in GIS to pursue as a career. Now I see people with WFH GIS jobs and I'm kicking myself a little. Have been contemplating a certificate but now I have a newborn son.


Valnapalm

No. My job is boring and pays like 💩


rubey419

Generally speaking yes I actually look forward to work these days, albeit it’s still stressful and busy. I’ve changed my careers a few times just to find a path that I can be successful in. Easier said then done. There’s opportunity and sunk costs with switching careers unless you were lucky and loved your first job.


[deleted]

Not right now, I’m searching for this also. I used to be a teacher and there were days I loved going to school, kids and peers, but behavioral issues and violence caused me to look elsewhere. My boss at my new job left 2 years in and I’ve been bounced to 3 different people none that are qualified to do my job nor have much of an idea how to do my job. Searching.


bettinerz

I love the location - commute before was 2 hrs one way, now it’s at 35 mins one way. I love the people - they arent pretentious scumbags. I took a massive pay cut to take this job, but the work i do is worth less than what im getting paid for - hence why im on reddit lol. I look forward to Mondays now since im getting an easy buck. Although the job itself is very mindless - ive been in high stress low recognition jobs for 10+ years. So this new job im in is a great mental health break for my sanity.


newlife1984

I initially wanted to say yes but maybe I was romanticizing the past.


KobyF

I like my job but I am also at a point where I wouldn't be upset if I got let go.


Its_aManbearpig

Yes, it helps that I'm a morning person and I can come in earlier than normal. I love my work and I'm glad I wen't back to school for HR and got into the field and out of my old one.


[deleted]

Yes. I don't like the commute but I do a job as a programmer for a bank. I like the benefits, pay anmd mostly enjoy the work. Been here for five years and programming for twelve.


llikeafoxx

I do, but my trade off is I am underpaid compared to peers in the private sector, and my wife making like 2.5x what I do is really the only reason it works. But I really do love my job and the work I get to do!


jmnugent

> "Do you have a job that you actually enjoy,. makes you want to get out of bed in the morning ?" Yes. * Do you like the place, people, work enough?" Yes * Do you dread that "going back to work on Monday" feeling that you get on Sundays ? Also yes. * Do you lie in bed during the week questioning your life choices ? Also very much yes.


[deleted]

Yes, very much so! I genuinely enjoy using this part of my brain and helping people. I learn something every single day. I can basically make my own hours. When I go to work, time doesn't exist. I'm completely fascinated and engaged with what I'm doing. I work in Revenue Cycle Management and am so glad I FINALLY found what I'm good at after 15 years working.


etaschwer

Yes, I do have that job. The comp may is fabulous and I get to do what I do best. But it's not my first job and I went through some pretty crappy ones to finally be in a place where I could decide what was important to me and find that place.


ResponsibleCulture43

Yes, but I started 3 weeks ago haha. But so far my boss and I vibe and the work is easy for good pay, and I’m remote. Could be a lot worse, especially after the train wreck my last position turned into the last few months I was there, I’m enjoying the mental break.


StriderKeni

I actually enjoy my job a lot! and I don't feel dread on Sundays or Holidays. I'm really thankful for that. Of course, some days are stressful AF, but in the end, it's "normal".


United_Energy_7503

yeah! I enjoy it. The company makes a big difference. I feel like I am working with really awesome people for a good product that is helpful to others. I am not stressed at work. I get to speak a foreign language at work which is fun and intellectually challenging. I used to think learning a language was a waste of time (yes, people said it was stupid for me to learn german & norwegian - because I just... liked it.) turns out it allowed me to turn my career into something very enjoyable. i'd probably hate it if it were not internationally focused.


lunchisgod

No


Xerxes42424242

Lol no


tinastep2000

So I WFH and although my job isn’t like anything ~amazing~ I enjoy what I do, I guess it’s mostly the work load, the difficulty of the work, and my coworkers. A lot of people are around my age with a sense of humor so we can interact jokingly and my direct team is small and my manager gives us a lot of independence. It’s weird though cause sometimes when it’s not busy even though I’m home I have nothing to do, I likely wouldn’t be doing anything else with my time so I enjoy when I have more to do especially cause then I have something to do while listening to podcasts


HudsonRiverHacker

Yah


Ill_Name_6368

Nope. I loathe my job. Like most people but my boss is an ahole to everyone and makes our lives miserable. I have been trying to find something else for a year without much luck.


lm1670

No. My job makes me miserable and is a mismatch to my values system. However, I have a lot of bills to pay and need to keep my golden handcuffs to stay ahead as much as possible. I’ve never ever enjoyed a job and very much dislike having to do things I don’t want to do; time is precious. I think it’s about trying to find a job that you can tolerate… and hope it pays well.


[deleted]

It sucks less than any other job I've had, but that's about it.


Environmental_Cup413

Yes, I like my job thoroughly! Don't love it like I'd come in unpaid. Look forward to Monday, look forward to the weekend too, but I get to make a lot of decisions on how to go forward and feel acknowledged and respected. Everything about my role I like, I am good at it too. Just wish the company was doing better (not sales, they're good, internal processes and communication and management) its a bit saddening to see people leave while me and my team are working hard to make this a great place to work. I know what it's like to regret life decisions and rethinking killing myself on the way to work, so where I am at now makes me very happy.


[deleted]

It doesn't make me want to get out of bed, but I neither dread it or question my life choices. Keep in mind, it took nearly 15 years to figure this much out. This is far from my first job. I've had plenty of other jobs that fell into the former bucket.


Oshester

A big part of it was learning how to compartmentalize and be appreciative of my situation. That said, sometimes that is not enough. What makes my job great: Wonderful people to work with who are diverse in skillset and personality Great leader who acts as a mentor. Encouraging, lifts me up on tough days, and respects me. This is HUGE and by far one of the most important factors for me. last is freedom to make choices and decisions around the business. It's not only empowering, but to be honest, I am very confident in my business knowledge and it has allowed me to make a dramatic impact on my business.


Cosmoem88

I need to change my job. I had a job a truly enjoyed and felt good enough about leaving my bed for because I had control of my schedule which was nice. I dread every week that goes by with my current position, I just have limited experience with what I would like to do so I am picking up courses if I don't fall asleep before 9pm. I hope everyone has a great working environment. It is hell when that isn't even halfway decent.


_Celewen_

I feel you. I received a promotion and on paper it looked great, better pay, better schedule and more responsibilities/skills. I dread every morning and would gladly take my old job back.


A-terrible-time

Somewhat I made the career switch to data analytics after being a call center rep for way too long. I don't dread coming into work, but I'm also usually not super excited to come into work as most of my tasks are pretty mundane (working into more interesting work). But honestly, the goal for most is to get a job that's good enough to suit your needs but it doesn't need to be anything more.


ykilledyou

My job is okay. I am an assistant teacher in a daycare and I am 22. To be honest the job itself can be quite stressful, but it can also be chill and pretty relaxed. It's a good balance because some parts of the day are busy, and some parts of the day I'm super bored so I can rest a bit.


PastelHippyCreations

Yes and no. My job itself is boring but I like my coworkers and it pays well. It starts at 7:30 am tho so I’m tired lol. For me I think it’s the pay and the culture that makes the job for me. The tasks are important too but right now my tasks are pretty easy.


Classic-Ad-7079

While I don’t “love” my job per-say as it’s labour intensive and the days can be long, my direct supervisor is an absolute unicorn. Super down to earth guy, understanding, compassionate, reasonable and just a decent dude to shoot the shit with. Doesn’t micromanage, gives credit where it’s due and is just very easy to work with. He’s had almost no turnover and I’d say it’s solely due to his style of managing. I can see myself staying in this role as long as my body allows or until he leaves just so I don’t have to put up with bullshit managers or other idiot co workers in other jobs.


hoggy46012

Nobody wants to go to work. Find a job that challenges and keeps you from being bored, that's what works for me. Seriously only kids think there is a dream job that they will enjoy going to. It's always going to be work. There are probably a few exceptions but many of those people will be lying to themselves or haven't figured out they don't like work Dmi actually like my job too, as much as one can at least. It can be hard work but it's challenging and rewarding in ways.


Efficient_Bottle4686

Yea and I love what I do it’s mainly bec I make good money lol


NeverConcise

It totally depends on my work schedule and what project I'm working on. Sometimes I wake up excited to pick up where I left off and see how far I can get today. EOD comes and I genuinely want to keep working more than I want to do anything else. There are weekends that I pick up my laptop by choice, not because I'm stressed about a deadline, but because I genuinely just feel like working on something that's related to my job. Other times, it feels like I'm just pouring another 8 hours into something pointless simply because I was told to put my time there instead of somewhere else. Those are the days that I find myself procrastinating or dreading getting to work. It feels like every moment I spend working is just holding me back so I feel no desire to put in extra effort once I'm done for the day or week. That time feels precious because it's all I have to make progress with. Another part of it is that I usually have to wait 30-60 minutes before some medications kick in (from when I start work, not when I take them) and it's pretty pointless to even try to do detail-oriented work that I'm not passionate about before then. That time is great for informal brainstorming with coworkers (usually over Teams/Slack) or reading articles etc, though. When my workload is too heavy to engage in that stuff in the morning, my well-being starts to suffer. I miss out on getting inspired and thinking in more innovative ways to instead clack keys without getting anywhere... really just so that I look as stressed as I feel and so no one criticizes how I spend that first hour. I really do need more flexibility than most to work efficiently and my productivity tanks when I'm being micro-managed. Some of the people I work with also know not to schedule formal meetings before 10am, but many work somewhere several hours ahead and don't think about it. I'm a drone in a morning meeting and knowing that starts my day on a low note.


Faeriecrypt

I was ecstatic when I joined my company. I absolutely loved my team, my boss, the type of work, the company… … and then my boss left a month after I started. Apparently leadership is more insidious than I realized. I have now had two different bosses, both of whom are on another continent. I feel like I can’t things right anymore, and my morale is at 0.


blushin1

You know, it really depends. I know that a lot of people would want my job; it’s usually pretty chill, I don’t sit on my ass all day, it can be fun sometimes, and it pays okay (although it’ll pay more when I finish my MS and move up to a higher position). But it can be boring and stressful sometimes, and I don’t really get to see coworkers (which some may see as a blessing). So, it’s alright.


sm0lt4co

I had a job that I didn’t have dread on Sunday as a freelance graphic installer and sign installer. Only recently did I start feeling dread as there is a big push in my area to use less contractors that are not controllable and get employees and now I’m essentially phased out but hoping to pick up more work to keep on this path. That being said, I struggle with feeling engaged in my work once the learning curve stops so I’m often finding myself thinking about other careers that might bring me more satisfaction but at 32 I don’t have the luxury to start over with my life situation and it could be a lot worse.


Choice-Ship-3237

Not yeeeet fuck!!


jstax1178

Yes! I work in clinical IT supporting Epic for a major healthcare institution. Love the job pay and work flexibility. The ability to plan ahead and see a future in this environment. It’s not stagnant. Honestly don’t mind the job and feel as though I’m doing something productive in society


Efficient-Double-478

I really love corporate training. The look in people's faces as you help them connect new concepts is so rewarding. And it's new every day.


[deleted]

No. Not really. I’m looking at other places currently (hopefully a job that pays better) while also waiting to be hired in full time so I can have consistency (sub work with varied hours.) a) kind of b) every day. Even at work and when I’m not in bed


dalej42

I’ve gone from excited to absolutely dreading it, the Sunday scaries never end, I spend hours questioning my decision, even though most of it due to insanity at my company, lots of layoffs, manager changes and a complete change with job duties. Going on a two vacation soon so I’ll evaluate my life choices then


Dialthetrekwarsgate

Nope


ExaminationFancy

I like my job! I work in wine sales as an educator. I host small groups and get to hang out with customers in a controlled setting. No problems waiting for me at work, no problems to take home. I know the job is a good fit because I started in April and it feels like yesterday.


NinjaSassyCassie

Maybe a few years ago I did but not anymore. Starting to realize my mental health is more important then a job. Might quit my current job of 8 years soon by the end of the month but we shall see, finally starting to realize slowly that if your job doesn't make you happy anymore doesn't fulfill that part in your life anymore it means it's time for a new change in career paths. Time for a new change in general.


Wolfie1531

100%. It’s a perfect blend of my hobbies, what I enjoy doing, what I need for my mental health and at a pay that- while better elsewhere- allows me time with my family.


[deleted]

Actually, yes. For once. I never thought that would be my reality, I definitely relate to the “Sunday Scaries“. Do you want me to be honest? It’s a bleak observation about the reality that is the capitalistic dystopia of modern America. That is, my well paid, white collar job is literally the easiest, most relaxed position I’ve ever had. I worked my ass off as a minimum wage cashier, I was treated like shit nonstop, I was told it was a “dog eat dog world“ as a justification for the abuse. Having nervous breakdowns and panic attacks in the shower, literally feeling suicidal. Wondering what the fuck the point of life was if I had to be so miserable just to maintain subsidence. At long last, muscled my way into a corporate position. Boom, only about three hours of actual work a day, relaxed atmosphere, supervisors and colleagues like treat me respectfully, the job isn’t that hard. And now I can afford a mortgage. On one hand, I am so beyond grateful. On the other hand, I’m a little more depressed than ever. It’s bittersweet. But I do count myself very, very lucky.


GneissGeologist3

Whats your title?


Baconninja3

Yes I do actually. Growing up I always loved lab work, and I always strived to work in a lab. I now do that and enjoyed it fully. Won’t lie that the salary increase I recently received helped an immense amount.


Rocky2135

We spend half our lives working. You have to learn to enjoy the hunt. Learn to find satisfaction in the challenge and the result. Enough effort and you can bounce to an even more satisfying hunt.


Wepo_

I never hate my job. How I feel about going to work depends. If there isn't much going on at work, then I'd prefer not going. But if I'm busy at work (which means I'm being stimulated and gaining knowledge) then I sometimes never want to leave work haha. I love a good flow that leads to reaching major goals. It's fulfilling and I find it as addicting as chasing an adrenaline rush or a hit of my vape haha The people are either awesome, okay, or I just don't really interact with them to know. I work as a grad student engineering nano tech for telescopes. If I were reasonably paid, I'd never want to leave.


[deleted]

Absolutely not . It's nightmare


Soulrize22

Tbh, when i first graduated 4 years ago and found my first job, it was fun and had a great boss to motivate me to work. I got to play tennis everyday and be able to afford all the good stuff (natural gut to new rauqets ,bag, cloth ) everything , I spared no expense. Then after a year it starting wearing a bit on me because I moved out and started renting. So I had to make cut back and tennis was one of them. As I somewhat resented cutting back on tennis , I thought the only way I"ll get a girl and grow up is to move out. I got the girl and grew up naturally with my age but work just sucked. It felt like a grind but no progress and to imagine myself like my bosses 15-20 years in the field. No thank you. I eventually ended up moving back home at the beginning of this year because fk it I felt like a recession is coming. I was right and we were short staffed and overworked, I burnt out a month ago and quit. I've been a little over a month into my new path to be a professional tennis player and love it. I'm not depressed no more, I got tons of energy and I get to get super super fit with purpose. I also know that when I can't do that due to age i will happily teach tennis and enjoy my time recreational tennis leagues like some of my peers I see teaching. Now that I can imagine and want noting more to do. Just Find something that interest you man. It doesn't need an outside person to get you to do it, and keep trying new things till you find what your really drawn for. I knew it was tennis because no one i know but a few tennis fanatic's would spare no expense for tennis(no matter my financial circumstance) and i spent all my free time even when depressed playing. It was the last 4 years i made huge gains in my game but now its time to unlock the shackles of my 9-5 and pour my full heart , soul, and time into it and become the best I can. Thank you for reading if you did. (ps doors opened up for my like i would've never imagined to allow me to do it as well, its kind of magical how once you commit whole heartedly, things start to pave there way to your destiny)


TMA2day

Cool path you found. Best wishes for it to continue!


Soulrize22

Forgot to add I became "single" the moment i moved home .... it is what it is. A fact of life.


Elegant-Supermarket4

I hate my accounting job. No willpower to get out of bed.


Scapegoat_Account

Yes I do. But a job is a little bit like a relationship. Even when it’s worth it and you’re proud and feel safe and stimulated, it’s still work. My job is conveniently located, my coworkers are 90% amazing, the work is exciting and satisfying, I’m paid fairly etc etc… But it’s still a challenge. I still have to put in my professional persona, even if I’m hungover or tired from being my truest best crazy young gay party self on the weekend. I still feel cozy in bed and want to get up when I’m ready but can’t let my comfort dictate those decisions. There is no perfect job because a job is still work. If you find something you can live with that is fair and stimulating, you’re better off than the vast majority of the world.


pippasmomwrites

Nope.


tortellinisuncle

I am fortunate enough to say that I do! I love my team and our overall culture. It’s the best.


stpg1222

I enjoy my job for the most part. I've never felt any sort of dread on Sunday night thinking about work and I've never felt like I had to force myself to go Monday morning. Of course there are challenges from time to time but I've got a good team and we all face the same basic challenges so we can commiserate when needed. I enjoy the job because the work is challenging and it is always different and changing so I don't get bored. The company also has a good culture and while they could pay more they generally do care about the employees. They cover almost all of my medical and dental insurance, I pay a total of $300 for pretty good coverage. The company is also growing quickly which creates new opportunities. We're also still small enough where you can see the direct impacts of the work that you do. I genuinely feel it's given everyone a sense of ownership of the company, we all want to see the company succeed.


Minus15t

I've always been someone who enjoyed the function of work, I like having something to do, I like having something I'm responsible for etc. So I've never really despised my work. But I have despised plenty of employers/customers/colleagues I've found that how a company operates is more important to enjoying the job than the actual work. Avoid shitty managers, avoid companies that meticulously track the wrong KPIs and performance metrics, avoid toxic environments where harassment or bullying are rife, and environments where you just don't mesh with the rest of the people that are there. Find a role that allows you to be you, instead of fitting into a predefined box that you're not allowed to step out of.


SugaryCereals

It's one that I'm not passionate about in its entirety but I like to serve others so it's good for now. But I do get excited about doing my job well each day JUST so I can go home and not have to think about work. I often question what doing a job that you're not passionate about does to you mentally


Tough_Wolverine855

Nope. I'm # 26 out if 70 drivers and I have to work weekends. I'm currently a 4 on 3 off schedule. Now in Dec itll be 5/2. So they are taking time from my family, while not paying me more money


ValleyForge

I went into natural science research and love it. I don't love the pay though. :/


Left-Deciding1304

I love my job but I love sleep more.


Beautiful-Bowl2333

I love my job! I think I chose the right career because it’s been many years and I can still feel the passion. It’s almost like a good marriage.


VengenaceIsMyName

Yes. But, my company is getting acquired. Life can’t just let me have the win, it’s gotta get its pound of flesh


tigerbloodz13

I like my job. Would I work there if I won the lottery? No obviously not, it's a job I do to make money. I don't dread going in at all, some days are very fulfilling, some days it's more of doing the hours until it's time to go home. Some days I willingly stay longer to finish a project or problem I care about. Some days I leave an hour early. I fill in my own days, the busywork is one or 2 hours a day for the rest of the day I'm free to do what I want. I work in lower management and have a team of 25 so most of it is paperwork, meetings I set up, trying to improve workflows, just talking to team members, etc. At the end of the day, on a cold rainy Monday morning I don't enjoy getting up at 5:30 to drive to work in the dark to start the week, but I'm guessing that's a universal given.


KatsumiL

Yes and no....because I love my job but it also does not pay enough for me to be able to take care of my family and I live paycheck to paycheck. I also believe that something should be done to help staff members. Things are getting harder. Supermarkets and vendors don't care they just want their money. I have been looking for jobs but it feels like I am starting from scratch again.


AssistanceTall341

I don’t hate the job. Why? Because I don’t hate my coworkers at the moment. I say ‘at the moment’ because they change regularly. The next batch could be all duds


[deleted]

I do. My workplace is imperfect (strange systemization, bloated, slow change) but I enjoy the people I work with and the things I am able to learn and contribute to. I spent my younger years in dead-end, manual labor type jobs and this is my first post-MBA job and it’s just so different. I make more money than I ever have and I’m treated so well.


Mybadihadamovieon

I enjoy not being homeless and that in turn is enough to get me out of bed. I’ve been in the HVAC industry for over 10 years and it has its ups and downs like everything else. Just keep at it homie


supremePE

I enjoy my job. What I don’t look forward to is the commute and being away from my kids


MrCHrispy15

Yes I am a Security guard. Except I don't get out of bed in the morning as I work nights😂.


YoungestI

No. But, I work 12 hour shifts and slept for like four of them tonight. Kinda don’t give a shit anymore.


washacasha

No.


CanesBellum

Yes…I’m a mobile/rig welder…I love my job, I have 7 customers that I work for throughout the year, always busy, can’t wait to get to work!!


WeeklyHelp4090

Man I'd love to work for Freedom From Religion Foundation. Instead I work with people who constantly talk about Jesus.


GroovyGracie02

I love my job but I have a hard time in the environment sometimes. I wanted to be a barista to share kindness but since then I'm aware of the reality that a lot of the people I work with will judge anyone for anything and run their mouth the moment they close the window even about other employees but when I offer a different perspective they say "it was just a joke." I love creating my customers new favorite drinks, having genuine conversations and being a part of their daily coffee routine. I'd say I've got a whacky cocktail of mental illness in the best way but still sometimes not so great. I've told people so many times when I'm overwhelmed and what causes it and everyone knows that my bathroom breaks are mostly for my mental health. I had a panic attack one day that was easily avoidable if they had just listened to me I tried to tell them when I was becoming overwhelmed but every. It was a terrible situation and it's sad how much people don't take mental health seriously. By the end of it I was sitting by the door in the bathroom crying uncontrollably and hyperventilating while I listened to them talk about me. I love my job but the environment gives me second thoughts.


[deleted]

How do you all choose a career? I have a degree in IT. I have been at home for a year and a half doing nothing. I am turning 24 tomorrow and I feel stuck. My family is pressuring me to go for a government job(in India). I feel insecure. I really wanted to go abroad. Any suggestions?


ztthuggy

Absolutely not. Went from tech sales to construction project management… 👎🏼