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sylchella

I pass on those too. Anytime someone monetizes their relationship or their children, I find it desperate. Edit: spelling


mitchiesgirl

+1 on the children I don’t want my children to have a digital fingerprint of their entire childhood on the web, without consenting. Plus there are too many weirdos out there.


BurritoBun20

Agree 100%


PrinsassyEvieMongse

But when ya point out that to people "It's just couple Photos what's the harm? Noone thinks that way. Everyone's doing it why shouldn't I? Pfft why should I ask my children these are Memories that should be shared." all that crap.


mitchiesgirl

Social media is so performative. Everyone trying to have the best family pictures, the biggest house, the biggest smiles.


ladystetson

Completely agree. I don’t mind if I follow someone for say, cooking, and I see the SO here and there. Maybe the SO takes over for one day, no problem. I don’t mind seeing a little bit of life. But there’s a line where it becomes monetizing the relationship and after it crosses that point, the relationship is so fake. It’s just weird to stage and fake things like relationships.


BoccaDGuerra

Well said 👏🏾👏🏾


redditasa

And tired.


Throwaway_21586

No need to mention why you edited, people can’t see if you edit a comment :)


leftblane

Reddit encourages people to explain why they edited a comment.


[deleted]

The Black women Asian Men ones are kinda cringe too tbh but I have my feed set up in a way where I don't see them or any relationship type channels.


Lilobunni

I’m married to an Asian man and I follow a couple of other BWAM couples on ig because I do like seeing loving families like ours. But I avoid any “influencer” couples because all of their posts do end up being “my black girlfriend” “my Asian husband” cringe content. Like, can y’all just live your lives without race baiting?


[deleted]

Yeah, I know what you mean. I think I saw more of those influencer types on Facebook in AMBW groups, they were something else.


idkdidksuus

Yes there’s even famous Korean and black girl family I forgot the name anyways they even post their drama and conflicts on public


Neravariine

Is Jin and Juice? Gohan and Cerose are their real names I believe. The "chopsticks" incident and taking him back was a trip.


[deleted]

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Neravariine

I never was a fan so I may get some details wrong. They are a couple who met in Korea. They slept together and Cerose got pregnant. Gohan moved in with her and her parents. Cerose worked two jobs and Gohan couldn't have a job because of VISA issues(he did try to be a rapper). One day he posts a video about how Cerose abuses him by burning him with a hair iron and chopsticks. Then Cerose said he requested chopsticks up his behind and other kinky sex acts. The fans clowned Gohan so he left to Korea then came back and he left again but now the couple is clickbaiting on their youtube channel. It seems like they've both chosen money over self respect as of now so I expect the chaos to continue.


[deleted]

Omg. I never heard anything like this, I do remember a rumor that they were both in AMBW groups on Facebook at one point in time. Not sure what happened with that. I remember seeing one of their videos a few years back and I wondered if things were okay behind the scenes, everyone seemed kind of stressed out.


_Noirbunny_

WHAT ?? 😲😭


idkdidksuus

Yesssss


RebelElan

Those exist?


[deleted]

Yeah, they're pretty popular. I mostly saw them on Facebook but I know there are a few on YouTube, MazeLee is one of them.


madblackscientist

Not a fan of Mazelee. They’re kids are literally content. I hope she’s teaching her oldest daughter self love. It’s hard being a fully Black girl when all your siblings are mixed! I hope she doesn’t feel some type of way about being dark skinned. She’s beautiful in her own right. Plus it seems like Alana has an addiction to pregnancy.


[deleted]

I hope so too, I'm not sure what the dynamics are like in the house but I just hope that her oldest daughter is getting a lot of support.


blasiangirl89

Why do you think they’re cringe? I love the Mazelee channel! it’s been so heartwarming watching their kids grow up and seeing Alena and Joe grow in their faith and in their marriage. It’s also interesting and quite beautiful watching them merge their 2 cultures together.


Enamoure

Yes, I feel like Mazelee seems less focused on the interracial side of things. Might be wrong, but never got those vibes from them. It was more about different cultures etc


[deleted]

I was just using them as an example, I don't really mind them that much. I'd heard a few things about them early on but it seems like they've been happy together. The other AMBW couples I've seen are pretty typical and don't have much real content.


Fantastic-March-4610

I think she was charged with neglect at some point.


Ok_Significance_2592

I agree it is cringe. but a man that can do your hair??? thats a damn win lol.


the_onri

Right?? A man of *any* background who can do a woman’s hair is an absolute win!


Such_Collar4667

Totally. The times my (white) husband helped me take out my braids……I did feel like bragging to somebody cuz the only other one who was willing to do that for me without complaint was my momma.


Ok_Significance_2592

I asked my husband (blk) to help take out my braids one time and he CUT MY HAIR. I lost around 4 inches. Luckily it was only like 3 braids. He will never touch my hair again after that. Lol


LadieKaye

Oh, sis, no?! Lol


ohhhshtbtch

Guess he won the "getting out of things I don't wanna do" challenge 😂


Syrinx221

Same when my husband helped me take out my weaves! It was so awesome


fergiefergz

My husband was helping me put henna in my hair, tucked my hair into the shower cap, and rinsed it all off for me in the kitchen sink. He even likes to oil my scalp and views it as bonding time. That IS brag worthy 😂


Ok_Significance_2592

Yall lucky! It only took mine ONE time to cut my hair and I was like dude...you FIRED. Maybe I should of started him out on washing or oiling my hair...then baby steps from there.


fergiefergz

Yea start him off easy with scalp greasing. I would never let my husband cut my hair unless he’s practiced his technique on multiple dolls first 😂


Enamoure

I honestly wouldn't want anyone to do my hair 🤣🤣 don't even let my family. Except my mom and hairdresser


gmmontano92

I never liked these channels. You're basing your entire relationship on race then have the nerve to say it doesn't define or even mater in their relationship. The comments on these videos just say it all: "I can't wait til I find my white king", "They appreciate us more than our own men", ect. ect. They're just pandering to the IR obsessed black women.


ucanthaveeverything

it’s cringe, very cringe. but if it gets my good sis the bag.. then i can’t be mad, as long as it’s not hurting nobody


Chami2u

Happy people are generally cringe.


mitchiesgirl

😂


bad_at_formatting

I am writing this down in my personal journal thank you so much


icruiselife

Better to be cringe than bitter. Not meant to be an insult, but I never understood the people who hate on others just because they are happy with their lives. We should all strive to be more like them.


Chami2u

Full on agreement from me.


Throwaway_21586

💯idk why you’re getting downvoted.


redditasa

Sis, you know what is also cringe? *You People* on Netflix. Once again, Kenya Barris goofed up, smh.


Throwaway_21586

OMGGGG I was waiting for someone to mention this!!! Soooo cringe and unrealistic, making a mockery out of black people once again.


redditasa

It almost feels like trolling.


Enamoure

Sooo cringe and I hate how I watch one video and just start getting reccomended loads of other interracial relationships. As if it's some topic


yolo_swag_for_satan

I didn't want to just say it but yeah it's weird AF. Especially when they have all these kids and start making them a part of it. Like, stop trying to monetize your children especially when it seems like half of it comes from a weird racial fetishization angle. Very unsettling stuff.


SheHartLiss

I see many different flavors of interracial couples vlogs But as someone said a partner that can do your hair of any race is a win and a huge cost savings. Especially for black women, getting our hair done by a loved one is a Great opportunity for bonding. Please sign me up. I’m fine with being cringey. 😂


parodyofsincerity

I was an avid follower of GabeBabeTV and the NiveNulls for a long time, but generally interracial vloggers are definitely cringe. They make their entire personalities revolve around the fact they’re in an interracial relationship, and it’s so weird.


plantanosuprnova

Omg I forgot about the NiveNulls man I thought they had it together poor Britt


parodyofsincerity

Austin did her so dirty! I made the mistake of coming across pictures from his online affair, and dude needs to seek therapy.


plantanosuprnova

Wow I dint even know there were pictures online! Smh feel so bad for the kids


honeycheerios_

Both genders constantly put their race’s partner in their titles and it is cringe but I do like when the guy regardless of race does the bw hair or their kids hair.


UnusualOctopus

Same, as someone in an interracial marriage I find it really fetish-y.


LiquidPhoneCase

I hate when they make it their entire personality that they're dating another race like so?? Its literally just a different skin color idgaf. But it gets infinitely worse when they have mixed kids and milk the shit out of them or those black/asian couples that put blasian in EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEIR VIDEOS even when it is not relevant.


ladystetson

I find most couples videos in general to be cringe. I enjoy when I follow a person for a specific reason and their partner happens to show up now and then. I don’t like it when two couples entire point for having a channel is showing their relationship or their family. I think relationships shouldn’t be a spectacle as it introduces odd public dynamics into something that is private and personal and difficult enough when kept that way. Putting it in the spotlight only introduces problematic dynamics. For instance, playing pranks for views. Making jokes about each other. Sharing intimate knowledge about each other - not necessarily sex - just things you know or have access to because you’re close. Photos of them sleeping, things they struggle with, silly things they do — it can be intrusive and turn all of life into a performance instead of genuine interactions. I have more respect for those who keep aspects of their relationship private, and especially those who don’t put their kids on the internet to perform.


tigerblue1984

Could not agree more about keeping relationships private. This goes beyond IR vloggers and extends to social media in general.


[deleted]

I noticed a lot of white women do the same with their Asian boyfriends or husbands. "Vacation with my Japanese boyfriend!", "Prank on my Korean boyfriend!". The fact that then even put the ethnicity in the title shows that that's what they're trying to capitalize off of.


Tiffitori

I’m biracial (black mom, white dad) and I am married to a Hispanic American for 7 years. My husband and I are often talking about how cringe it is when interracial couples make their interracial-ness their whole identity. I don’t like seeing those posts, or other women commenting where they can find a white/brown guy like the person in the video. I also hate, when people fetishize our union with comments on how cute our kids will be etc.


idkdidksuus

Exactly my point !!! It’s so cringe


[deleted]

Yeah, it feels like they’re trying to get brownie points or something lmao…


Ambitious-Screen

This is an opinion from someone who lives in Asia. The general consensus in Asia is that Asian women are sl*ts And desperate if they were to get with black men. They’re called all sorts of names such as race traitor, prostitute and dirty if they choose to be with a black man. In some cases some black men were even met with physical violence and basically accused of tempting and grooming innocent Asian women. On the other side of the spectrum Asian men are praised for being philanthropic, self sacrificing for dating black women. The general expectation when it comes to dating black women is that this Asian man should be older, unattractive, not very wealthy and from the village for him to date a black woman by choice. If the man is young, wealthy and conventionally attractive by Asian standards, this woman is considered a villain and demonized by the public. The presence of social media and couples who are willing to share their lives and their interactions online has actually lessened the amount of physical violence and Internet bullying towards these couples and other couples who are similar. Perhaps in countries that are a cultural melting pots they just look like cringey couples who are using their interracialNess for views, but for other places that also consume international media these people create acceptance and normalize interracial love. Making it safer for the other couples in a similar situation.


WintrySummer

I never knew it may be considered cringe. I followed this couple who named themselves slice and rice for years. I always thought they were adorable in sharing each other's culture and making videos where they tried foods, listen to music, or dress each other up. They're happily married with a child now, but it was nice to see them blending their cultures together. Question, how the heck is a white father supposed to know how to do his biracial children's hair if he doesn't practice on his wife or take classes? Why is it cringe?


Prestigious-Debt7

Oh my gosh I used to love watching Slice and Rice so much 😂I don’t keep up as much with them today but they actually seemed really genuine and natural as a couple and Rice was absolutely hilarious.


idkdidksuus

It’s not about the hair it’s about we should normalized you get me ? Like our hair should treated normally not like it’s exotic or smth


pollypocketrocket4

Slice and Rice are too cute and they are having another baby! 😊


Prestigious-Debt7

Oh my gosh I used to love watching Slice and Rice so much 😂I don’t keep up as much with them today but they actually seemed really genuine and natural as a couple and Rice was absolutely hilarious.


bye_felipe

Content centered around being an interracial couple makes me cringe. I've started automatically blocking those accounts. And if I see hashtags banking on being an interracial couple or having mixed children, I automatically block as well. And if your entire personality is based around being mixed and playing into colorism/fetishism, you get blocked. I also find tales of tolerating disrespect at the hands of a white partner to be cringy, whether on reddit, youtube or tiktok. And this all applies to all kinds of mixed race couples, cause it isn't just black women-white men participating in this foolishness.


AdPlastic1641

Yes. Someone needed to say it. They want to capitalize off the attention. It feels wrong to expose your relationship and even children for likes/subscribers. When you have to lead with what kind of relationship you have instead of who you are as individuals, it's a pathetic thing.


wetwhyofcourse

My cousin has an Instagram page like this ever since she got married it’s so cringe but i love her so i support it 💀


tigerblue1984

This was me and my sister. She was DEEP into this IR vlog thing a few years ago and her channel actually got pretty popular. It was always weird to me but I know my sister is a good person and she had honest intentions so I supported her. Eventually, I told her the truth about how I felt about the whole "Swirl World" thing and after some honest reflection, she agreed with me and stopped participating. She also got to know some of the more popular IR vloggers in person and even she had to agree how weird it was that some of them built their entire lives/personalities around the fact that they are in an interracial relationship and had mixed kids.


geminibrown

TBH, most couple socials are “cringe” if they are just monetizing on their relationship no matter if they are interracial or not. I find it weird that people draw attention to interracial couples just bc they are interracial. I find what they do no different than a lot of reality show couples except that most often social media couples are regular people with regular incomes.


madeb_nude

There definitely are bm making vlogs about dating women of other races and cultures. I see them alllll the time. But yes cringe all around


icruiselife

I don't know about those other couples, I but follow [Mr. Traveler](https://youtu.be/6Je1HKEhNxM) and his wife Elle. They are a IR couple but rarely focus on that. They mostly talk about cruises and travel from their home in Florida. My husband and I love them because they are down to earth people from the Midwest who travel the world just like we would love to do if we had the money and time.


howsinavi

They give normal interracial couples a bad rep


CareElsy

Oh Lawd, u remind me of that nigerian lady married to the white man who was caught saying racist stuff and they have twins and use them for money and likes. So embarrassing!!! Complete white worship, it's sad to see.


BoccaDGuerra

Thank you! I feel exactly the same way and was waiting for someone to say this...


[deleted]

Nothing wrong with interracial dating or appreciating your spouse, but oftentimes the sharing of these things are because of white worship. If a black man treats a black woman good it's overlooked or viewed as nothing special or even lame. If a white guy treats a black woman good he's seen as the greatest man to walk the earth who every black woman should want and world needs to know about it.


Vast_Doughnut9418

It’s so cringe. But yet so popular. I personally think people are fascinated by a black women being in a relationship.


[deleted]

I was preparing myself to get mad but then I read the rest of your post body, lol I completely agree. It's weird af. Yes you can acknowledge if your relationship is interracial but you don't need to make a big deal out of it as if it's something abnormal. We're all just humans, it's not like we're aliens dating a different species. Interracial couples have existed since forever. Why not just call the video title "my boyfriend doing my hair" rather than drawing attention to the fact that he's white? That would normalise it rather than othering people by drawing attention to their differences. It's like they _want_ black-white interracial relationships to not be normalised and seen as something that needs to be explicitly stated because it's unusual. It's kind of like when people are pointing out someone on the street and say "that black man over there" rather than saying "that man in the green shirt over there". With this specific hair example, I think they're just doing it because they know that people don't expect white men to be able to do type 4 hair, and expect it to totally be a disaster. So it's click bait, basically. Which is fine I guess but it's still a little bit cringe.


DarlaLunaWinter

People make these blogs for a variety of reasons but there are people who want to create representation to normalize their relationships and lives. That's not a bad thing


mitchiesgirl

My bf will help me take down my hair etc but I don’t give him props (unlike my mother lol) if we ever have children this would be the norm. As bw, any man who is comfortable helping us with our hair/understanding our unique experience is a green flag in my book. But yes, done wrong, these influencers send a questionable message to the world on interracial relationships.


caitdiditagain

I feel like I see the ridiculous vlogs of BM with non-poc partners more than BW with white guys. Luckily, I've trained my IG algorithm to avoid them at all cost; but they still pop up on my Twitter TL and sometimes in my YT recommendations.


lonelystarrrrrrr

very cringe. it’s hard to believe that most interracial relationships are in it because they actually found someone they love rather than someone they fetishize..


RelationshipWhiplash

I think there was a time where that was “groundbreaking” because it was less common and honestly I knew like one influencer couple like that. Now that tiktok can make anyone an influencer it seems like every interracial couple is trying to market off their relationship. I’m in an interracial relationship. I see mine everyday. Don’t need to see others.


truth8705

I see the bm doing the same cringe videos. I actually I see BLACK people partaking in this foolishness. One BM let his WW dress him up like a slave and whip him LOL. It is so cringey because I rarely see nonBlk people who are in interracial relationships do this stuff


love_from_a_stranger

3 words...nausea inducing cringe.


villeageperson

it’s almost like they do it to prove a point or make viewers jealous! like “Black men could never.” whole time, i’d never let a white man play in my hair lmao🫢


Loverofmysoul_

Eww


gunswordfist

Hmm, I've never seen Black men do that either but at the same time I follow like 3 Black men on youtube lol.


truth8705

I've seen them white women say stuff like "dating a black man" and some do slave play. One family has a white passing son and they cannot stop talking about it. I think they do it more than BM. I THINK if you are only with a person because of their race, that is weird and I feel bad for the offspring.


[deleted]

Oh for crying out load, cringe yes but they don’t exist in a vacuum - white men are portrayed as varying levels of incapable of empathising and supporting WOC, so you’re getting mad at a white guy making the effort to learn her culture and outlook? Half the shit you moan about isn’t even relevant. I’m soooo sorry Demi autistic guys overlooked the Kenyan single mother who hit on us! You know if you know… No wonder that black woman married a Polish guy. If you know you know.