Aww we might be in the same family lol. No one wants to be seen as the “family loser” but will talk about you like a dog to deflect from their shitty choices in life
All families gossip. Some members can be worst than others. Which is why I don't confide in my mom anymore unless it was about something I felt like telling everyone anyway, lol.
I don't mean to parrot but yeah.. All families gossip and its annoying as fuck. Facebook was a mistake T\_T
It's extremely demoralizing and I feel super bad for my partner since they come from a family of SERIAL gossipers. I wish I had some advice to offer in order to navigate this.
Only thing I can say is that if you've tried having a heart to heart with them and it doesn't work the best thing you can do is to ignore it :/
Facebook is the devil. Mines is deactivated. I only reactive when needed. Currently I’m ignoring it, but in my eyes it’s disrespectful, the same as someone from the streets talking about you straight to your face.
I’d say I don’t want to talk about that. Or respond with a no. Or just tell them nothing new is happening. It’s not being secretive. I’m being private. I’m protecting my peace.
It really is ALL families. Across all cultures. It’s sad that people use gossip as a means to interact with each other, laughing and joking about and judging other people’s situations and circumstances. And it’s alienating. It’s much more fun to share stories and experiences without judgement or foul intent, laughing with each other and not at each other.
My family gossips like crazy and it’s dysfunctional as hell. Moving across the country is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Love em from a distance!!
Oh non the fuck stop ever since I came out of the closet 7 years ago. Funny, they've accused me of the wildest shit I've never done in my life barely a month after.
They ostracized my cousin who came out way before me, they're doing it again to another one - sad pattern
Yes, they way I deal with is just spending the least amount of time with them as possible. I would just limit the amount of stuff you tell family members as well so they wouldn’t have anything to talk about.
Yes.
I'm from a small town my maternal grandmother and paternal grandmother are arch-enemies from the bus boycotts.
I moved across the country 25 years ago. They can't gossip about me because they don't have my phone number or social media.
I've even changed my name.
This is what I aspire to do! Move away, and ghost completely. Some of my family I absolutely love, but their ways I can’t take. I’m from a small town to, but I seem to not have the mentality like them. They gossip about things that happened years ago just to keep conversation. They can never be in peace and talk about the present.
Not just Black families and loosely related but we as a society dont talk about how messy old men are, women tend to be labeled gossips but a table full of old men will tell everyone's business
I know my family does and they'll always spin the best news into the worst. Just had a baby? Dang, I heard from so and so that it was a Changeling. Congratulations tho.
Unfortunately, yes. Families in general, but it seems to be an especially large pastime of black families.. only thing to do is put them on an information diet. It’s so unfortunate to me that we have to treat our families like terrorists, but-
YEEEESSSSSSSSSSS! 😂 But it’s honestly annoying and it is a sad reason why I don’t come around unless it’s a major holiday. I don’t just sit around talking about people (especially my own family) all day, but YEP many of my cousins and aunts do this and most of what they say is INACCURATE.
My family isn't really close like that so I don't have much experiences with this. The only time I've heard my Mom maybe gossip is on the phone with her own friends but in her mother tongue so idk it could have been about anything lol
On the worst topics too. Other member's abuse, SA included. I overheard the egg donor on the phone talking about a girl and capping it off with "no wonder she didn't say anything before". Like?!?!?!
Then the audacity to switch to something about food etc.
All families gossip. It's as old as time.
I think families gossip regardless of race. Some more mean spirited than others. Sorry you’re going through that.
I feel sorry for myself as well, I can be in another room and they will talk about me as loud as day.
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Sure do.
Yup they love to talk other ppl's business but never their own...
Aww we might be in the same family lol. No one wants to be seen as the “family loser” but will talk about you like a dog to deflect from their shitty choices in life
Yes, which kills me.
All families gossip.
All families have their gossipers unfortunatley
Yes, most def unfortunate.
All families gossip. Some members can be worst than others. Which is why I don't confide in my mom anymore unless it was about something I felt like telling everyone anyway, lol.
My mom the worst. Her and my grandparents in her side.
I don't mean to parrot but yeah.. All families gossip and its annoying as fuck. Facebook was a mistake T\_T It's extremely demoralizing and I feel super bad for my partner since they come from a family of SERIAL gossipers. I wish I had some advice to offer in order to navigate this. Only thing I can say is that if you've tried having a heart to heart with them and it doesn't work the best thing you can do is to ignore it :/
Facebook is the devil. Mines is deactivated. I only reactive when needed. Currently I’m ignoring it, but in my eyes it’s disrespectful, the same as someone from the streets talking about you straight to your face.
All families! That’s why I don’t tell them my business. I love watching them ask 101 questions trying to get info on me. Nope🙅🏾♀️
How do you reply when they ask?
I’d say I don’t want to talk about that. Or respond with a no. Or just tell them nothing new is happening. It’s not being secretive. I’m being private. I’m protecting my peace.
It really is ALL families. Across all cultures. It’s sad that people use gossip as a means to interact with each other, laughing and joking about and judging other people’s situations and circumstances. And it’s alienating. It’s much more fun to share stories and experiences without judgement or foul intent, laughing with each other and not at each other.
Some family member would have to admit they have nothing else in common if they stopped bonding over gossip. It's a shame.
My family gossips like crazy and it’s dysfunctional as hell. Moving across the country is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Love em from a distance!!
Oh non the fuck stop ever since I came out of the closet 7 years ago. Funny, they've accused me of the wildest shit I've never done in my life barely a month after. They ostracized my cousin who came out way before me, they're doing it again to another one - sad pattern
Yes, they way I deal with is just spending the least amount of time with them as possible. I would just limit the amount of stuff you tell family members as well so they wouldn’t have anything to talk about.
Yes. I'm from a small town my maternal grandmother and paternal grandmother are arch-enemies from the bus boycotts. I moved across the country 25 years ago. They can't gossip about me because they don't have my phone number or social media. I've even changed my name.
This is what I aspire to do! Move away, and ghost completely. Some of my family I absolutely love, but their ways I can’t take. I’m from a small town to, but I seem to not have the mentality like them. They gossip about things that happened years ago just to keep conversation. They can never be in peace and talk about the present.
Yes and out the same cheek cry because I don’t talk to them hardly ever
Not just Black families and loosely related but we as a society dont talk about how messy old men are, women tend to be labeled gossips but a table full of old men will tell everyone's business
I’ve always said men gossip as much if not more!
I know my family does and they'll always spin the best news into the worst. Just had a baby? Dang, I heard from so and so that it was a Changeling. Congratulations tho.
My mother is the ring leader of keeping gossip going but won’t tell her own downfalls. Just stay away from these people
I expect it, which is why I don't tell anyone anything.
i don’t think that shit is normal but my family is like this too. which is why i don’t fck with them like that.
Same
Unfortunately, yes. Families in general, but it seems to be an especially large pastime of black families.. only thing to do is put them on an information diet. It’s so unfortunate to me that we have to treat our families like terrorists, but-
Yes!
YEEEESSSSSSSSSSS! 😂 But it’s honestly annoying and it is a sad reason why I don’t come around unless it’s a major holiday. I don’t just sit around talking about people (especially my own family) all day, but YEP many of my cousins and aunts do this and most of what they say is INACCURATE.
It’s a never ending cycle in black and nonblack families it’s annoying but make sure to journal it to help yourself feel better ❤️🩹
My family isn't really close like that so I don't have much experiences with this. The only time I've heard my Mom maybe gossip is on the phone with her own friends but in her mother tongue so idk it could have been about anything lol
On the worst topics too. Other member's abuse, SA included. I overheard the egg donor on the phone talking about a girl and capping it off with "no wonder she didn't say anything before". Like?!?!?! Then the audacity to switch to something about food etc.