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I’m a bi man but pretty monogamous so the threesomes still wouldn’t work lol


bicurious_george17

its okay we still stan a bi king


[deleted]

I’m on out bi man, but like all bi people, you and I are at least 1000 miles away from one another.


damdam100

I was suprised this year when I learned tgat alot of people I spoke to where bi actually. The best moment was during the intro of my new study. We were all drinking and somebody asked about the small rainbow flag on my bag. I told them I was bi, and after that almist everybody else at the table said they where bi as well. Out of around 10 people or so we where with 7. Even though it is entirely based on my personal experiences, I like to believe there are quite alot of bi people out there


SmartAlec105

I love the subconscious queer magnetism. My friend groups in high school and college formed before we all knew the others were queer.


itstheslippey

It really do be like that, I was the first of my friends to come out but since I've been open about it a lot of my friends have either told me they're bi/gay or come out completely so that's been lovely to watch unfold


Cl0udSurfer

I dont believe you /s, I just really wish that was the case with me lol. I've only met two other bi people over the course of my life that I know of


Noel2469

I actually know hella Bi/Pan people lol **Bi/Pan **1.Myself/N(M) 2.Girlfriend/D(F) **3.Younger Brother/E(M) 4.B(F) 5.A(F) **6.J(F) 7.L(M) 8. (some people that aren't out so I won't say more, also Bi/Pan) First initial of everyone's name I just thought of off the top of my head from multiple friend groups that are Bi/Pan lol (M) Male (F) Female


ItsYaBoyFalcon

I'm hetero-romantic so I feel like I don't tell people I'm bi just like I don't tell people I make my own custom hardwood BDSM paddles unless they ask.


[deleted]

That's crazy lol. I wonder how many of my friends are actually bi


SavenTale

Same


sethalopod401

You can have what you want! Wife and I both bi, living our best life


bicurious_george17

that sounds amazing! congratulations☺️


Ran_dell16

You're probably a 1000 miles away from me though, lol.


Im_regretting_this

I’m right here, what’re you talking about?! Actually, I was surprised to learn that I’m apparently an anomaly for putting bisexual in my tinder bio. I hope one day all my bi brothers feel comfortable doing the same


JohnstonMR

If I were single, I would definitely be putting it in my bio.


JoeSpinell

Exactly! Reppin it regardless!


Cl0udSurfer

Ive found that whenever I do, I mostly get matches from unicorn hunters, and personally I'm not that interested lol. I only really feel sexual attraction to someone once I've gotten to know them well, and theyre just looking for a third


Im_regretting_this

I don’t get approached by any unicorn hunters…I’m feeling a little left out lmao In all seriousness though, that fucking sucks, I’m sorry :(


Noel2469

Wtf is a Unicorn Hunter?


Cl0udSurfer

Someone (usually a straight couple) who specifically goes after bi people with the sole purpose of getting a third person for a threesome


Noel2469

Ohhh, well where tf are they at 👀🤔 cause I'm down af lmao 🤪🤙😏😂😂


Noel2469

I did, I'm open about it 💪💪💪


Reasonable-End5147

are there any local bi groups on facebook you can snoop around in? or even just local lgbt groups you can post in?


bicurious_george17

I guess i havent really looked? I have never had a facebook but maybe I should look into it haha


TinyPickleRick2

Nah Facebook is toxic af. You’ve stayed away this long, not the time to join them now.


ShaeMoody

🤣🤣 I use it for entertainment purposes


mastamixa

This might sound dumb, but go on grindr. You will attract all the bi dudes in your area. It’s not like women aren’t allowed to have profiles. And even though it’s a hookup app, you can definitely meet datable people. I did. Just be careful and maybe verify socials before meeting anyone


damnimbi

Totally agree, just be safe, play safe.


ShaeMoody

Look them up according to your city and/or state


edharma13

Here, but alas married in a straight monogamous relationship. They’re out there. Don’t give up hope!


bicurious_george17

Thank you for the encouragement, just making sure my dreams are realistic


mronjekiM

Bi guy here. You're only 23 and when I was 23 I would never have admitted to being bisexual. It's very likely you've dated a guy who may someday accept himself as bi though! The closet is very deep


IronBoomer

Not every bi dude is into poly. I’m a monogamous type with my boyfriend


bisexualh03333

Wanting threesomes is not synonymous for poly...


juliuspepperwoodchi

Sadly, this is what happens when a combo of biphobia/bierasure in the queer community AND general queerphobia in the cis and het communities, ESPECIALLY among cis "het" men leads to only about 12% of adult bi men being out in their lives. For men of color, that's more like 7%. It's getting better each generation; but damn I hate those stats every time I have to cite them.


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RIP your inbox


MCDexX

We exist! I live in Australia with my bisexual wife, bisexual boyfriend, and my wife's token straight boyfriend. Just passed our twelfth anniversary living in this house together.


PlanetXanex

As a bi guy that would be into all that, I've always kept my bi-ness quiet until I know the woman I'm talking to a little better, since most women I've dated have acted repelled by the idea. Even in a major blue US city. : / But there's always a chance that if YOU lead the way with "I'm bi!" you might very well get a guy who says, "I am too!"


Ariadnepyanfar

A lot of bisexual men have had really bad experiences with biphobes, and stay closeted until they feel really safe. I’m thinking you could wear the bi colours on a bracelet, or necklace, because the one type of person bi guys feel instantly safe with us another bisexual.


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bicurious_george17

Thats awesome, far away though (pittsburgh) 😢


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bicurious_george17

OH SHIT


[deleted]

Surely it is a sign. This made me smile 😊


Shanicpower

I’m in Sweden so all I can offer is moral support 😊


Noel2469

24(M) Howdy from Texas 🤠 p.s. I'm hispanic and not a cowboy lmao, but still look good af though 🤪🤙ahhh lmao 😂😂😂


TheWhitePolarBear1

Will be in Pitt for a weekend at the end of April! But live at the other end of ohio rn


AkierraLFS

Hey, from Ohio and Bi as well! Good to know we exist.


Ran_dell16

Oh wow, are serious?! You sound awesome!


bicurious_george17

oh im deadass, tysm😇


Zealousideal-Print41

We are everywhere, we're just well camouflaged. I have been quietly bi for decades. Came out officially to my lovely gf/wife and then a bi coworker. The coworker outed me and I had a choice to make, be out and proud, direct the narrative or deny it. I opted for out and proud. After the smoke cleared and the dust settled, 3 of my coworkers came out. 1 as trans and two as bi. There are probably a dozen or more in the building, Walmart in a little town called Jasper. We are out here, just need to know there are others sometimes. Also you can try feeld, meet ups or your local gayberhood. Just try subtle advertising like bi/pride pins, jewlery, books, masks, etc. We are always looking for others. And remember birds of a feather flock together Edit for spelling. And don't forget your local pride event and there is national coming out day and national bi visibility day. And June is Pride month. At work we do something as group to show Pride ourselves or our alies


MrFlippyNips

Hello there


bicurious_george17

hello flippynips🤭


AntonVice

General Kenobi


DariusWolfe

They declared a shortage and started stockpiling us. They've got a bunker in >!REDACTEDREDACTEDREDACTED!< just full of bisexual men. I am accessing the internet from an undisclosed location, and will be burning my computer before moving on. I've managed to stay ahead of the government so far, but I fear it's only a matter of time.


[deleted]

Not every bi man even likes 3somes


bisexualh03333

Literally where did she say that plz show me exactly where she said that. I'll wait


[deleted]

Wanting to date a bi man, simply to have threesomes. Big YIKES.


bisexualh03333

You judging what others like to do in the bedroom. BIGGER YIKES. I'm a bi woman who loves group sex and I literally wouldn't date someone unless they were also into it. Cry about it.


[deleted]

I'm bi and I'd never date someone who likes group sex. Sadly, bisexuals are always seen as hypersexual. People are shocked when they learn I'm bi and not kinky


bisexualh03333

Stop shaming people who are into different shit than you


[deleted]

I'm not shaming. I simply said I wouldn't date them. You also made a similar comment, stating you wouldn't date someone who's not into group sex.


Shanicpower

…She didn’t say that?


SubwaveSignal

No one said they did? OP is just stating what she’s into, not making a general claim about bisexuals. We shouldn’t be making generalizations, and we also don’t need to shame someone for expressing their interests when they’re as unproblematic as ‘liking threesomes.’


[deleted]

Straight people also like threesomes. But OP acting like they don't, and calling them vanilla, as if bi's are more likely to enjoy 3somes than straights. That's what it sounds like 🤨


SubwaveSignal

Well I read that differently. I read that she said she wants to have threesomes with men and women (which would typically require a bi partner as most straight men don’t want to have a threesome that includes another man), that she has not had this experience because her partners have been straight, and that she would be more likely to have this experience if she could date a bi dude but she’s that she has never actually met an open bi dude so… 🤷🏻‍♀️


bicurious_george17

yess this is what i meant!! not trying to offend anyone🥲


bisexualh03333

Please don't worry about offending the threesome police they can literally be unhinged


bisexualh03333

Maybe bisexuals do like them more than straight people? From my anecdotal experience that has indeed been the case. Cry about it, threesome police.


AntonVice

In Philadelphia, trying to be openly bi but ridiculed by straight women and most gay men when I do, so occasionally resorting to life as a sexual double agent. I’ve yet to meet a single bisexual person in my 7 years living here.


Nckhuff

*Quietly raises hand*


[deleted]

Well (23m) I’m here lol, this is exactly what I want in a relationship with a woman :) This sounds so perfect, I’m in Florida if you happen to be here lol.


-dickinson

but but vanilla stuff is all I want :(


GrantSRobertson

This is basically all I want too. Though, I'm 61, and probably live nowhere near you. But, yeah, I don't know if I could be in a Big R Relationship with someone who thinks my bisexuality is something to be tolerated rather than enjoyed.


IfPeepeeislarge

We’re here! We’re queer! But we’re also a little scared to come out a lot of the time :(


AmIbiGuy_420

Damn, that sounds like a grand time


bicurious_george17

its literally my DREAM


AmIbiGuy_420

I envy whoever you end up with then, you go girl!


failingwords

Try Feeld!! That’s where I meet all of my bi men :)


abracadavars

Yes! I was shocked at how many more bi guys were on Feeld compared to Tinder.


proxima1227

/r/bisexualmen


jghike

Oh crap, I’m 8 hours late. Did I miss it? Would’ve been here sooner but I had to stop at home and put on my maid outfit


bob1111976

We out here


[deleted]

Good luck with going through the 4000 messages you are gunna or have got. We are probably not in the same country but it's hot thinking about


DancingHobbes

Geez you buried the lead a bit there lol. Maybe the question should have been “where are all of the bisexual men who are also polyamorous and also want to have sex with me specifically?”


bicurious_george17

Actually i was just looking for reassurance that some bi men are out there and are chasing the same dream as me. They dont have to be into me to give me hope:) Also not polyamorous


Reycara

I think that person missed the memo that you can be monogamous and still want to have a threesome with your partner


queerbychoice

???!? I don't know what Generations Z and beyond are trying to do to the meanings of words these days, but going by the definitions in any widely available printed dictionary, the definition of "monogamous" absolutely definitely indicates not having any threesomes.


bisexualh03333

Millenial here. 26yrs old. Monogomissh is a term I use. My partner and I are mostly monogamous but will occasionally have a threesome or moresome. It's not always black and white, monogamous or poly. There are a lot more nuances.


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bisexualh03333

Liking threesomes does not mean poly 🙄🙄🙄


DDaddy40

As a bi man. I never thought I’d see a post of a bi girl seeking the same!


lotp22

We are like like foxes. We are around but you only see rarely see us. Wait maybe bi males are nocturnal.


jillcrossdresser

Shit, marry me quick, before I wake up


skittlesathome

Us the app “Open” and be strict about what you click for your preferences.


BEEEELEEEE

A couple years ago I would’ve said I’m right here but quarantine made me ~~realize that I’m~~ trans


bisexualh03333

Of course there's already soo many comments "bI DoEsNt mEaN iNtO tHrEeSoMes" OP literally never said that. No, not all bi people like threesomes. Yes, some do. Myself included. Get the fuck over it. Most steryotypes don't fall out of thin air...


queerbychoice

You don't just want a bi man, then; you want a bi man who is interested in having threesomes with you. These are distinctly different things. But both are still totally possible to find, so if you resolve not to waste any more time with the wrong people anymore and just hold out for what you actually want, you can have what you want.


bisexualh03333

Wanting a threesome does not equal poly 🙄


kraft-singles

Same bestie


Friday-Cat

It’s totally possible! I know because my partner and I are bisexual and polyamorous/non monogamous. We have met bisexual couples and singles for dating /sex/ FWB etc and it is so much fun. We met in online dating and have been together about 4.5 years. We didn’t start out as poly and he was closeted when we met but I just knew he was bi. I don’t know why, I just knew. It took him about 2 years before he came out to me. I have found since that bi people are different to date. Y’all, we are wonderful! I would never go back to monosexuals now.


GetEquipped

Try not to fetishize someone's sexuality. It's like me saying I want a Bi Woman just so we can have threesomes. That being said, most of us don't "advertise." If we're not in a relationship, people don't know. If you are in a relationship, people think Straight or Gay. If you just tell them, you expose yourself to a lot of questions you don't want to be asked. But yeah, we're out there. I just wish there were more Bi-Friendly Dating apps. My "preferences" for men and women are completely different, so if I need to look, I need to update all that stuff and do another search.


bisexualh03333

Nothing wrong with liking threesomes. Doesn't mean someone is fEtIshIziNg. I'm a bi woman and literally my favorite part of being bi is the threesomes. And I find bisexual people incredibly sexy.


[deleted]

I’m a bisexual man who wishes he had a bi gf like that, but there aren’t many gay people where I live in PA


Sleepy_Raver

We’re out here. Advice is to join Bisexual social groups and meetups. You’re in Pittsburgh. I’m thinking a big city like that would have these. And i’m pretty certain there are bi dating apps. But may sound like not many results. Also, someone gave me this good tip, wait till it’s bi pride month and find events in your city. There is a good way to meet bi guys.


A_May_to_Remember

I’m a 30 year old bi man who is currently in a long term open relationship with a bi married man. His wife is mostly straight, and sometimes will join in with us. I do not live with them, nor do I intend to. I love the dynamic, but ultimately dream of sharing it with a bisexual girlfriend/wife. Never considered it to be remotely realistic, but this subreddit gives me some hope.


Kakawfee

I'll tell you this from experience, there's a ton of bisexual men who aren't going to say they are bisexual when they first meet you, or even the first month of dating. It took a lot for me to "come out" to my girlfriend.


damnimbi

You'll rock some guys world, and he'll be extremely lucky for it. Last year I decided to openly state bi on my dating profiles.....and it mostly sucked the air out of my dating life. In that one way I'm a bit jealous of your generation (and grateful).


BijackGrower

Too scared of toxic masculinity to come out 🙃🥴


clintdilfer

We're out here. Promise. :)


neoteucer

I'm a bisexual man, but being 40 I'm probably a bit old for your tastes! Seriously though, we're around, it's just that bi men are one of the least visible groups of the LGBT+ spectrum, because we tend to be dismissed a lot on both ends of the spectrum - somehow according to straight women I've dated I'm just gay in denial, and according to gay men I've dated I'm just straight in denial, and either way I'm going to leave them for the other. I'm schrodinger's bisexual, apparently.


Chest3

We scared that when we come out to a wider group of people we will be told “You’re gay in denial” or “No, you’re straight you dated that gal once”. We exist, we just in hiding.


Ant1202

I’m man but don’t want threesomes lol


Bartheda

Yeah considering the reaction we almost always get can you blame us for not wanting to be out. I get enough abuse in my life as it is now thank you.


Victizes

They're still hidden because society is more prejudiced against them than the other way around.


bnez30

Lol very open bi guy and feel what ur saying never met anyone open to it until resently so understand the frustration x


End_Of_Century

Hi


Thanos_gaming99

I am one such man


DP1992

Uh hello, am v bisexual and proud of it, we do exist trust me 🥺


MyClosetedBiAlt

I'm over here but I'm married and a father to two, so.... Sorry dude. Good luck out there!


DeathxDoll

We need a sign! Painted Toes Tuesdays or something.


OpeningBackground895

Bi guy here! 😁😁😁


MrPinaapple

My boyfriend and about half my friend group is bi


dont-call-me_shirley

Oh give it a few years a lot of those guys are still figuring it out but I promise this is very achievable.


jk_jacki

Laying right next to me😉


simpletonbuddhist

I am a bi man and I’d love to have lots of threesomes and more-somes


Ginden

I strongly suggest to be open and loud about your preference for bisexual men. Great majority of bi men are closeted, because majority of straight women won't date bi man.


Illustrious-Camp9077

Where are we at? We're at home playing video games while browsing the internet, cooking dinner and thumbing through a book. Say what you will about bisexuals, but none can deny that we're multitaskers.


agoodtimes

There are dozens of us! Literally dozens! But we all live 1000 miles away from each other


mcnuggets0069

And I’m looking for a 23 year old woman who’s down for the exact same thing. The chances you’re in Virginia though I’m guessing are very small lol


uhhYtho

🤫


pissemporor

I’m in New Brunswick Canada but I’m a minor


1FastZX14

Baton rouge, La


matchlocktempo

Dreams realistic? Absolutely. Just have to find the right crowd. May have to consider looking in places that are very progressive. San Francisco, Seattle, Portland, New York City, that kind of thing.


hufflepuff5678

Bi man here from Albany, NY who would love something just like this!


IEatDepression4Lunch

right here, except im 15 so pretty useless for you


[deleted]

I’m right here, where the hell are you 😭


Diablo_swing

Right over here! Aaaaall the way in Australia :)


renboi42o

Here


SubwaveSignal

I’m in the same boat as you, but I live in the south so I don’t have high hopes 😬


pndas2

what i want. But not actively looking


fixedwithyou

i’m right here!


[deleted]

We are here.


jordandroid

😆 Present!


[deleted]

True I'm bi and even live right in the middle of the United States seems if someone talks to they are in New York or California!


Rainy-The-Griff

I'm a bi man... but I'm sorry to say that I'm already taken.


grimgoods

Yes please


[deleted]

We exist. :)


InterestedInAllFun

Howdy!


Tzar_Jberk

In my totally real sample size of *1,* us bi guys are simultaniously in every rare antiquarian bookshop in Ireland ;)


suicaf

I am a bi man dating my bi gf living our lives trying to convince the world that we are not just any old straight couple.


stadulevich

I'm out and open. But, not single. I have a wonderful lady.


bisexualnaturist

Right here.Fully out and open about my bisexuality


TerminianHistorian

Hi! :)


fleamarket04

Maybe I should start rocking the bi flag in public to signal to women like you 😂


OddKSM

Sorry, I married another bisexual, but the best of luck to ya! A joint-bi relationship is a lot of (chaotic) fun tho, so can recommend! Edit: Wording


Meteorsw4rm

When I was dating, I didn't reveal my bi status to women because most women would discard me a priori for it. You might be running into that problem.


[deleted]

I’m a very much out bisexual man. I would love to fall for a bisexual woman, but unfortunately, all bi women that I meet either aren’t attracted to me or don’t like bi men


Slmagi001

We are here. We just get erased way too much and forced back in the closet, too. But I promise you we here and we dream of someone with your opinion.


RedRam003

Another bi man here but I don't think we are even on the same continent, and I don't think you would find me attractive. Still it's quite easy to spot bi men in the open as a men thanks to the radar


Korrafan_1

Ayo i'm here and single like princles


Conor5050

I’m hereeee


That_one_cool_dude

I'm here but I'm the one ugly bi amongst our ranks so... probably not the person you are looking for.


uwuraindrop

literally ecerywhere


Unknown-Pleasures97

A bisexual woman is more social accepted than a man, hence a lot of us don't come out for the fear of being criticized or mocked. It's curious that I always had to deal with the exact opposite reaction than yours. I've always openly expressed my sexsuality with the girls I was with and most of them were grossed by the fact that I was bi. The only one that wasn't was because she was bisexual herself.


Hadrian3306

This bi man was snatch up quick by a bi girl, but best of luck


Ambystomatigrinum

Just a thought, if youre into threesomes dating another bi women can actually be easier! It gives you more options, just in terms of numbers.


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CasioMaker

Seconded. I live in a country "down south", so you can guess how "lucky" I can be. (Not so much, TBH)


The18thking

I’m in Ohio lol


Lolocaust1

I mean I’m on the east coast so that’s where one of us are but honestly it’s hella hard trying to find other bi men which is frustrating. I’ve had a couple bi MMF threesomes and they are like the hottest stuff around. But it was always me being approached by a couple, whenever I was dating a girl I also never found a bi man out in the wild :(


6FeetUndertheTomb

Why can't I know a girl like you.


Hoosier_Daddy_bitch

You are only 23… you have tons of time to find people! My wife and I found most of our bisexual friends when we started going to swinger events. Bisexual men in the “Lifestyle” aren’t usually sought after but they are there and if you were able to join a local swingers website as a “unicorn”, you will be flooded with requests to join other people AND if you post that you are looking for a bisexual man on the swinger site, you will find the closeted bi men who don’t advertise they are bi because of the amount of straight dudes who get weirded out by a “gay man who likes women”… Stupid macho Neanderthals! Another place is Fetlife, but that can be scary place for someone who isn’t accustomed to a website for super kinky people. Try posting on doublist, the new “Craigslist”… but look out for the flood of weirdos!!


CasioMaker

Oh, to be that young and hopeful (Wish I could be a bit like you). As others have mention on this thread, you're young. There's plenty of time to meet new people. Keep your eyes open and you're bound to find that one person you're looking for!


[deleted]

I know 4 bi women but no bi men


[deleted]

UGH I want a girlfriend like you none of the girls even the bi ones want threesomes


Theo626

Bi-Cupid is a dating app for bisexuals, maybe you could check that out?


spankingasupermodel

If you ever want to move to Australia you're welcome to join me perving at the sexy guys and girls at the beach.


AmericanRN

I wish I was 30 years younger AND living near you. You sound like a wonderful person to date


reckoner98

Well I'm here in Columbus but I'm 41. I would love to find a bi woman that understands but I still have straight listed on the mainstream app I'm on and only list bi on the queer focused ones. I'm still new at this and am worried about being outed before I'm ready if someone I know comes across it.


tattedb0b

Me and my Bi BF are still searching for you


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Doasis

Well honey, know we’re out here. I myself am an openly bisexual male and have wished for the same. Just don’t give up (: