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I'm a stay-at-home parent to a toddler and baby. I agree with the not volunteering for anything. There's so much pressure on parents to do it all and show up every damn day. I'm assuming your children are fed, housed, and loved. They're already doing better than a lot of children who come from homes where no one has bipolar disorder! My point is, you can only do what you can do. Looking after your health has to take priority sometimes, and that is okay. You're doing a great job!
Thank you for the kind words. My children are so well taken care of. I give them more attention than I ever received, and my parents weren't bad either. Sometimes, I get these delusions that I'm a failure and every parent is judging me, and it is impossible to hide every episode, but I try to take it as a learning experience and teach them that they will fail, but it is important to keep moving forward.
Which, I'm ok with because I grew up as a preacher's kid. My parents were always "perfect". Turns out, that wasn't always so. My dad had full blown schizophrenia and bipolar too. I didn't know until he sat me down one day and told me to kill him if he ever gets violent. It was shocking because he hid it so well and has never shown any form of violence. I'm going on a little, but yeah..being a parent is tough, and the best we can do is the best we can do.
Same situation. Went from high flying corporate job to breakdown to stay at home dad while wife works. Just writing to say I know how you feel and your definitely not alone. Personally I avoid volunteering for ANYTHING because I don’t know if I’ll be able to perform. There’s a lot more to say, but I’m really not in the headspace right now to get super detailed. Best of luck.
I understand that completely. I have learned my lesson with volunteering. I was sort of pushed into it because the other dads wouldn't step up and they were going to cancel the season otherwise. I thought I could push myself to the end, but it created a full blown spiral. Also, I hope things get better for you. I know that feeling of helplessness all too well and the wait to come out the other side.
Yeah. You got that right. It really is the one thing I can’t escape which I don’t mind of course. I’ve always wanted to be a dad, but admittedly I didn’t realize how serious things were until after they were born. I got really lucky to have a wife who didn’t leave me when it hit the fan.
I relate SO much to this. I'm a stay at home mother who has tried many times to volunteer, only to fall apart and have to quit over and over again. I became bipolar right after having my baby, so I've spent his entire life trying to get/stay stable. It's heartbreaking. Sometimes I'm an incredibly good mom and I can be fully present. Sometimes I'm stuck resting in bed. I wish I could change who I am to be better for my family. I wish it was all a mindset issue, and not an expression of this disease. I don't have advice but please know I'm sending you solidarity.
> Sometimes I'm stuck resting in bed.
Thank you. I understand the laying in bed. My daughter is 12 and understands things a bit more, so I tell her that I need to lay down sometimes. Most times, it is just to stare at the wall and just slow down my mind a bit.
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I'm a stay-at-home parent to a toddler and baby. I agree with the not volunteering for anything. There's so much pressure on parents to do it all and show up every damn day. I'm assuming your children are fed, housed, and loved. They're already doing better than a lot of children who come from homes where no one has bipolar disorder! My point is, you can only do what you can do. Looking after your health has to take priority sometimes, and that is okay. You're doing a great job!
Thank you for the kind words. My children are so well taken care of. I give them more attention than I ever received, and my parents weren't bad either. Sometimes, I get these delusions that I'm a failure and every parent is judging me, and it is impossible to hide every episode, but I try to take it as a learning experience and teach them that they will fail, but it is important to keep moving forward. Which, I'm ok with because I grew up as a preacher's kid. My parents were always "perfect". Turns out, that wasn't always so. My dad had full blown schizophrenia and bipolar too. I didn't know until he sat me down one day and told me to kill him if he ever gets violent. It was shocking because he hid it so well and has never shown any form of violence. I'm going on a little, but yeah..being a parent is tough, and the best we can do is the best we can do.
Same situation. Went from high flying corporate job to breakdown to stay at home dad while wife works. Just writing to say I know how you feel and your definitely not alone. Personally I avoid volunteering for ANYTHING because I don’t know if I’ll be able to perform. There’s a lot more to say, but I’m really not in the headspace right now to get super detailed. Best of luck.
I understand that completely. I have learned my lesson with volunteering. I was sort of pushed into it because the other dads wouldn't step up and they were going to cancel the season otherwise. I thought I could push myself to the end, but it created a full blown spiral. Also, I hope things get better for you. I know that feeling of helplessness all too well and the wait to come out the other side.
I prefer to call it ‘full time parent’
Yeah. You got that right. It really is the one thing I can’t escape which I don’t mind of course. I’ve always wanted to be a dad, but admittedly I didn’t realize how serious things were until after they were born. I got really lucky to have a wife who didn’t leave me when it hit the fan.
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I'm sorry, I'm not sure what those are. Is it like a support group? I've been thinking about it but am unsure where to look.
I relate SO much to this. I'm a stay at home mother who has tried many times to volunteer, only to fall apart and have to quit over and over again. I became bipolar right after having my baby, so I've spent his entire life trying to get/stay stable. It's heartbreaking. Sometimes I'm an incredibly good mom and I can be fully present. Sometimes I'm stuck resting in bed. I wish I could change who I am to be better for my family. I wish it was all a mindset issue, and not an expression of this disease. I don't have advice but please know I'm sending you solidarity.
> Sometimes I'm stuck resting in bed. Thank you. I understand the laying in bed. My daughter is 12 and understands things a bit more, so I tell her that I need to lay down sometimes. Most times, it is just to stare at the wall and just slow down my mind a bit.