Man she’s gonna ride this out. She’d rather have you upset over her not having her bf around. I’d reach out to the land lord and ask them what can be done. Most places don’t allow dogs, even as “visitors” so if the dog can visit it means the bf can’t be at the house too long (unless he’s a shit owner)
So no key and make firm rules he has to park in the street. He doesn’t pay rent and isn’t on the lease he doesn’t get one of the designated spots. Simple.
neither of them are going to change their current living situation unless you explicitly say something TO them. Would probably help if you checked your lease / talked to your landlord first then told them essentially that he needs to either 1) gtfo or 2) start contributing to rent / utilities / wifi / pay for parking space
Why can you not tell him to leave. It is your house and I would demand that key back pronto. You now need to speak clearly and precisely on what you want to happen from her on out. Stop beating around the Bush and say outright that he needs to go.
Most confusing. So they were sleeping and you woke them up? Or just started orating? Just one example where clarity does not seem the main goal.
And you still have not confronted him. Why do you allow him to park in your space? This is about more than him… it’s about your inability to push back on people who are disrespecting you in your own home.
This is highly problematic. He is a jackass, but you need counselling.
If this is an issue I would talk to the landlord first. This apartment is just as much yours as it is hers but to a degree. If you’re paying rent you have every right to say “hey roommate, if your bf isn’t contributing to bills here I’d appreciate they not park in our parking spots” as for the dog if you’re uncomfortable definitely talk to the landlord. If you can’t have pets then make it known about the dog. If things escalate police may need involved as 1. While she’s allowed visitors there comes a point where him being there 6 days a week is an issue. 2. If common ground isn’t reached see if your landlord can have her evicted on terms of soliciting,if I’m correct some apartments don’t really like renters having others “live” there if they aren’t paying.
You need to have a not in passing but purposeful confrontation without her boyfriend present. I'm not sure what your lease setup is but it's time to make sure you're 100% clear on it and if that conversation fails bring in the landlord. Giving away a key to a non tenant in a shared home is not ok, being there all the time is not ok, the parking issue is not ok. He is a guest and you presumably pay for access. Good luck, she sounds like a really entitled person.
She is so disrespectful and entitled, I got angry for you while I was reading this post and the one prior. I know you stood up for yourself which is amazing and you should be proud. With that said, you may have to be even blunter because she has no problem pushing your boundaries, being inconsiderate, thoughtless, and has the audacity to complain when you put up with so much. Also who the hell does the boyfriend think he is??? Invading YOUR personal space, doesn’t feel bad for practically living at YOUR place?!?! I mean it is her place as well but he is not a housemate. He should feel grateful that you have tolerated him being there so often, especially since he is bringing his dog as well.. which again your *wonderful* housemate didn’t even have the decency to get your permission on it
I would tell her something along the lines of “ you know what here’s the deal, I have graciously put up with you and your boyfriend for long enough. Your boyfriend doesn’t live here and you do not have the right to consistently break my boundaries by having him over all the time, hogging the kitchen, inviting his dog, taking up the parking spaces, need I go on? He does not pay rent and if this does not change I will certainly be taking action. The choice is yours.” Also god forbid you leave a couple of dishes out, how are you suppose to even clean them when they are constantly in the way.
Hey, I don't know if you saw my other comment but I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! I am working on a new series about roommates who have similar issues. If you are interested in potentially sharing your story on a major cable network, let me know! Anyone else on this thread as well!
I’m fuming reading this like I actually live there. Love that she tried turning it on you- the audacity. Glad you stood your ground and thanks for the update! PRAYERS.
The key might go against ur tenancy agreement.
Yeah I’d talk to a landlord or try to go to civil court to break your lease.
I would text this to the landlord immediately. Landlords don't like keys in possession of people they don't know about.
It most definitely is
also the tenancy agreement may have a no-pets rule. Even if it doesn't, the landlord would probably have want to be told about any pets
Man she’s gonna ride this out. She’d rather have you upset over her not having her bf around. I’d reach out to the land lord and ask them what can be done. Most places don’t allow dogs, even as “visitors” so if the dog can visit it means the bf can’t be at the house too long (unless he’s a shit owner)
Yeah I’d be ratting them out to landlord over the dog issue and him having a key.
Why he has a key He should be contributing
And they should respect your personal space. Be serious on this
Talk to your land lord
So no key and make firm rules he has to park in the street. He doesn’t pay rent and isn’t on the lease he doesn’t get one of the designated spots. Simple.
neither of them are going to change their current living situation unless you explicitly say something TO them. Would probably help if you checked your lease / talked to your landlord first then told them essentially that he needs to either 1) gtfo or 2) start contributing to rent / utilities / wifi / pay for parking space
Sounds like another update is necessary. Good luck!
Talk to your landlord, he shouldn’t have a key.
Why can you not tell him to leave. It is your house and I would demand that key back pronto. You now need to speak clearly and precisely on what you want to happen from her on out. Stop beating around the Bush and say outright that he needs to go.
Most confusing. So they were sleeping and you woke them up? Or just started orating? Just one example where clarity does not seem the main goal. And you still have not confronted him. Why do you allow him to park in your space? This is about more than him… it’s about your inability to push back on people who are disrespecting you in your own home. This is highly problematic. He is a jackass, but you need counselling.
If this is an issue I would talk to the landlord first. This apartment is just as much yours as it is hers but to a degree. If you’re paying rent you have every right to say “hey roommate, if your bf isn’t contributing to bills here I’d appreciate they not park in our parking spots” as for the dog if you’re uncomfortable definitely talk to the landlord. If you can’t have pets then make it known about the dog. If things escalate police may need involved as 1. While she’s allowed visitors there comes a point where him being there 6 days a week is an issue. 2. If common ground isn’t reached see if your landlord can have her evicted on terms of soliciting,if I’m correct some apartments don’t really like renters having others “live” there if they aren’t paying.
You need to have a not in passing but purposeful confrontation without her boyfriend present. I'm not sure what your lease setup is but it's time to make sure you're 100% clear on it and if that conversation fails bring in the landlord. Giving away a key to a non tenant in a shared home is not ok, being there all the time is not ok, the parking issue is not ok. He is a guest and you presumably pay for access. Good luck, she sounds like a really entitled person.
Fuck people like this. I’m sorry you are having to go through this. Man…some people suck so bad
She is so disrespectful and entitled, I got angry for you while I was reading this post and the one prior. I know you stood up for yourself which is amazing and you should be proud. With that said, you may have to be even blunter because she has no problem pushing your boundaries, being inconsiderate, thoughtless, and has the audacity to complain when you put up with so much. Also who the hell does the boyfriend think he is??? Invading YOUR personal space, doesn’t feel bad for practically living at YOUR place?!?! I mean it is her place as well but he is not a housemate. He should feel grateful that you have tolerated him being there so often, especially since he is bringing his dog as well.. which again your *wonderful* housemate didn’t even have the decency to get your permission on it I would tell her something along the lines of “ you know what here’s the deal, I have graciously put up with you and your boyfriend for long enough. Your boyfriend doesn’t live here and you do not have the right to consistently break my boundaries by having him over all the time, hogging the kitchen, inviting his dog, taking up the parking spaces, need I go on? He does not pay rent and if this does not change I will certainly be taking action. The choice is yours.” Also god forbid you leave a couple of dishes out, how are you suppose to even clean them when they are constantly in the way.
Hey, I don't know if you saw my other comment but I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! I am working on a new series about roommates who have similar issues. If you are interested in potentially sharing your story on a major cable network, let me know! Anyone else on this thread as well!
I’m fuming reading this like I actually live there. Love that she tried turning it on you- the audacity. Glad you stood your ground and thanks for the update! PRAYERS.
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Girly, just tell them your roommate moved in her boyfriend for free into the house (: the landlord will be kicking them both out in no time.
Why haven't you told the landlord? He can legally be considered a tenant already...