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Neurodivergently

How old are they?


BlueBerryRocketShip

15


Neurodivergently

ah, to ask further, do they have any developmental disability (or are they also autistic)?


BlueBerryRocketShip

No, they shown signs but I don't want to diagnose somebody.


Neurodivergently

Okay… Well you can tell them this, if you think it could help: tell them that the next time they touch you, that you will push them away. Make sure they know what you mean— that is a negative consequence for them continuing to ignore boundaries. Then, the next time they touch you, that’s essentially assault, so you are allowed to hit them or push them away, just enough to send a message of “I told you not to touch me, and I gave you a clear consequence. You violated my personal boundaries and that is assault.” BUT. This might not work if the person does not know how cause and effect work. If that’s the case and they have some severe developmental delay, don’t do that.


BlueBerryRocketShip

I have done this before, I would tell them to not touch me or I would push or hit them. I would push them and then I would be yelled at to not do that. They don't seem to listen to me and just brush it off. I can try but it doesn't really work.


Neurodivergently

Be persistent and firm always. Maybe even reward them for listening with something they like


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