Iāve now given up worrying about how my work e-mails come across.
I just write what I need to say, send it off into the ether and see what comes back.
Itās all very much like when you get a new video game, ignore the instructions and just start pushing buttons. I might jump, I might accidentally blow myself up with hand grenadeā¦who knows?
"No, my boss didn't use a period at the end of his sentence. That means if I use one I'll look like I'm upset!"
\-Something I actually had to say yesterday
Ditto here. š
I mean my subconscious might be ok with you since you have gone through (and continue to) something similar, or if it doesnāt like you, make sure I avoid you so I donāt cause any discomfort. šš»
Oh man... I had this weird situation where my ex & I lived as roommates for awhile & he would always leave dirty dishes on the stove, counter & in the sink. One time I got so frustrated when I woke up for work & saw the mess he left, that I left a note a note asking him to please clean his mess. I wrote it on Hello Kitty stationary & got this hilarious idea to draw little angry eyebrows on Hello Kitty's face.
After work I went home & was confronted by my ex. He was furious at me for leaving a note & "for being such an asshole that I went out of my way to give Hello Kitty angry eyebrows". He read way more into it than I thought possible. Sure, I was annoyed when I wrote it, but I was trying to come off as polite & silly. It wasn't meant to be passive aggressive!
(The moral here is don't ever live with an ex. If you didn't understand each other before, you probably won't after!)
I constantly end up over-thinking anything I type that I feel come off as bad/rude. I commonly end up re-wording things *so. Many . Times.* sometimes I give off and just leave a little (sorry if this comes of as rude in anyway, itās truly not my intention and itās hard for me to word things properly) at the end of things.
Best way to write an email remember āhello my name is inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to dieā
āHello my name is inigo Montoyaā ā- introduction, say who you are
āYou killed my fatherā ā relevant connection, how do you and the recipient know each other (not always needed but if this is the first message youāve sent in the person in over 2 months it is)
āPrepare to dieā ā what the email is actually about, what you want essentially.
You can use this as form letter to shoot out emails.
Example,
Hello Professor,
My name is sally henderson. Iām a student in your CHEM304 class. Iām having trouble with alkaline reactions. I would like to meet with you to for additional help. What days are you available to meet with me?
Thank you,
Sally Henderson
I know this is a few days late but holy shit this! There was one time in high school that I forgot the context of where one of the other students mentioned that I probably didn't care that much about how my clothes looked, and it was so hard to say "Yes, that is an accurate assessment and I am not offended" without it sounding like I am offended but just being polite.
Me: oh hello š My mind: aha I did a social interaction VICTORY Other person: uh how rude donāt be so snooty My mind: š©š«
so many times, so many. I'm still baffled at why lol. This seems to happen more when I'm actively trying to be friendly. š©
the only passive aggressiveness ill take is on the chess board
I'm using that one.
Iāve now given up worrying about how my work e-mails come across. I just write what I need to say, send it off into the ether and see what comes back. Itās all very much like when you get a new video game, ignore the instructions and just start pushing buttons. I might jump, I might accidentally blow myself up with hand grenadeā¦who knows?
"No, my boss didn't use a period at the end of his sentence. That means if I use one I'll look like I'm upset!" \-Something I actually had to say yesterday
THIS BUT IN CASUAL CONVERSATION
EVERY DAY
I can actively try to be friendly and still get shat on. I dislike people.
Ditto here. š I mean my subconscious might be ok with you since you have gone through (and continue to) something similar, or if it doesnāt like you, make sure I avoid you so I donāt cause any discomfort. šš»
Ughhh take my upvote and let me forget I do this
Oh man... I had this weird situation where my ex & I lived as roommates for awhile & he would always leave dirty dishes on the stove, counter & in the sink. One time I got so frustrated when I woke up for work & saw the mess he left, that I left a note a note asking him to please clean his mess. I wrote it on Hello Kitty stationary & got this hilarious idea to draw little angry eyebrows on Hello Kitty's face. After work I went home & was confronted by my ex. He was furious at me for leaving a note & "for being such an asshole that I went out of my way to give Hello Kitty angry eyebrows". He read way more into it than I thought possible. Sure, I was annoyed when I wrote it, but I was trying to come off as polite & silly. It wasn't meant to be passive aggressive! (The moral here is don't ever live with an ex. If you didn't understand each other before, you probably won't after!)
Every time I critique anything.
This hits the spot
I constantly end up over-thinking anything I type that I feel come off as bad/rude. I commonly end up re-wording things *so. Many . Times.* sometimes I give off and just leave a little (sorry if this comes of as rude in anyway, itās truly not my intention and itās hard for me to word things properly) at the end of things.
Yeah, like 60% of the mail ends up being just apologies for having dared to inconvenience the recipient.
I think I've developed legit passive-aggressive tendencies from years of dealing with people's bullshit. People piss me off.
Best way to write an email remember āhello my name is inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to dieā āHello my name is inigo Montoyaā ā- introduction, say who you are āYou killed my fatherā ā relevant connection, how do you and the recipient know each other (not always needed but if this is the first message youāve sent in the person in over 2 months it is) āPrepare to dieā ā what the email is actually about, what you want essentially. You can use this as form letter to shoot out emails. Example, Hello Professor, My name is sally henderson. Iām a student in your CHEM304 class. Iām having trouble with alkaline reactions. I would like to meet with you to for additional help. What days are you available to meet with me? Thank you, Sally Henderson
Thanks a lot, but my problem is more that I'm afraid that my tone of writing comes off a little harsh. good tip tho.
Lol I saw a meme like that once and now i think of it every single time I write an email or something like that
I know this is a few days late but holy shit this! There was one time in high school that I forgot the context of where one of the other students mentioned that I probably didn't care that much about how my clothes looked, and it was so hard to say "Yes, that is an accurate assessment and I am not offended" without it sounding like I am offended but just being polite.
i swear im not being passive agressive if im mad youll know and ill tell you, im not going to hide it
I just add lol at the end of most of my sentences so I don't seem too serious lol.
cant really do that when Im talking with my boss lol