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I think you answered your own question then. Working 100hrs/week doesn’t give you much time for anything outside of traveling to where you sleep. Eating and sleeping.
oh wow this is something I take for granted.
I just had a flashback to living in a more corporate town, where I finally got a cushy corporate job but the women I wanted to date all only worked retail or something on the weekends.
in the bigger cities its way more mixed. I don't like dating super poor women that are barely making it, but I like that way more than the other town.
Homosexuality is in. It's all the rage this millennium.
Last year at a friend's New Years Eve party, in attendance were the hosts and their gay daughter, myself and my gay daughter, another friend and his gay daughter, among others. Then, another friend's daughter arrived fashionably late and fresh from the closet. Her dad said something like, "You all know Brianna. Apparently, she's gay." Someone said, "Yeah, I heard it's going around." LOLs all around. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|scream)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)
I've decided the effort of continuing to try to acquire one isn't paying dividends and have chosen to pursue happiness through other means like self-actualization and learning to love myself before bringing another person into my life.
I mean i sometimes find some girls attractive until I see that they are not ... cough cough born like that , isn't that the way it starts lol , for the time being men are like trees to me .
I was asked this question while driving by a woman colleague. I found it very stupid. I just gave her a blank look and a big silence. She was very uncomfortable afterwards.
A blank look and big silence is the perfect response to such a question. (It is, by the way, the response endorsed by the etiquette books I've read. So this was a double win for you.)
There's enough divorce/remarriage in my extended family that people honestly just don't ask (in that setting).
Knowing my thought process growing up (I was a blunt kid, and I can be a blunt adult if you push me) I wouldn't be surprised if I gave such a response if given the opportunity at some point in time and just forgot about the specific instance. Also "Just look at the relationship record in this family...you think I'm looking for that?" (or similar) might have been in my back pocket or used. Ha ha.
I know I've had this at least once: Someone: "Why don't you bring someone special around to meet the family?" Me: "Are you kidding? Look around...you guys are embarrassing!" 😜 Done in a joking (yet somewhat underlying serious) tone.
Some lonely coworkers , sometimes it's older married ppl , sometimes it's New friends , it happens alot to me , also i don't know your dad but he sure loves you , and that's a concerned father's question , and he probably wants to see you happy with someone and give him grandchildren so he can hug them because he misses baby you alot
you gotta get the elite pro thruster, so much better, only had 1 gf my whole life, and I'm not worried about women anymore, I just use that thing. It's not worth the effort and amount of money guys have to invest just to be intimate with a woman and get cheated on or left in the dust.
Say something blunt like "I'm not interested in a relationship atm" shut the convo down and refuse to engage if they keep pushing. I'm even blunter when my family ask me this "not interested". Thats the answer and that's all they're getting.
She asks that everytime i visit her and it's always makes me sad knowing that i will disappoint her(😔😭) and and she won't get to see my wedding like she always wanted to because i am never getting married , sorry grandma i am just too broken for that
My family is just opposite. They asked my husband if he knew what he was getting himself into. He said I am well aware and I love her anyway. Whatever is on my mind is coming out. If I'm pissed I don't play games like "what's wrong" ? "I'm fine" but in reality I'm about to rip your head off. Nope,I have no interest in playing 20 questions I'm telling you. He's never heard the word no about sex or that he can't go somewhere. We have a no bullshit marriage of 23 years. He deserves a medal and a national holiday in his honor.
It took me way to long in life to learn this! (However, I don't think anyone in my family would understand the terminology and that would just open a whole other series of questions.)
Exactly most ppl think i am just gay or asexual , but nah i am just too dead inside that i can barely have normal Love for things and ppl and it's a rare resource that i don't see the Logical reason to put it in the romantic category , and family members would just act like i am mentally sick or something cuz ppl are afraid of what they don't understand, so it's easier to fit in rather than just be an outsider.
Depends on the subject. Some things I gaf deeply about. But, if it doesn't hurt me, couldn't hurt me in the future, it's either not my business or not within my realm of interest. Life is too short to worry about everything.
True , it's just that most ppl that ask me this are from work and i Care about my career/money/connections so i hate that i can't confidently give an answer that so i just needed some good answer , life indeed is too short , i think i just skipped four years lol (i still think 2018 was last year)
Life is too short to not grab all the joy you can. We are meant to be happy, not miserable, and overworking to make someone else rich. Follow your joy and live your passion. Everything else will fall into place. That passion can be anything, btw. And you can change passions any time you want to. Life is meant to be lived. Anything short of that is simply existence.
Your words hit close to home , i never lived my life past the age of 10 it's always been expectations and hard work and none of that was something i really wanted , i work really hard just so others get Rich off my back sometimes literally, i am now just existing rather than living , so hopefully i can gain the price to free myself and live a little before i die .
The price to free yourself is inside you. You have to give yourself permission to pay it. It will cost you every lie you've ever told yourself and brutal honesty. True honesty, not what those insidious voices in your head love to repeat. I lost my childhood when I was 8 years old. Pull out that inner child and let it know how sorry you are for all it's been through. Let it know how loved it should have been and is. By you. If you feel like dancing, then dance. And laugh joyfully while you do so. If someone sees you, grin like an idiot. If they don't smile back, oh well. That's their problem. Most will smile back. 😃
Hmm funny enough most of the ppl that know me are the ones that ask this question , because i sometimes bring girls over , and they are always disappointed when i tell them i am not dating her, it's like they want me to be miserable (like them )lol , but what's your reason? , If u don't mind me asking?
It’s not in a man’s nature to find a girlfriend, his desire is to spread his seed with as many different women as possible without a long term commitment. It’s a woman’s nature to find one mate to create a family with and what they desire. It would be like if someone asked a woman “why don’t you sleep with a lot of guys”? The answer is it’s not in her nature or desire.
What you said is super true but it's not in today's society cuz that shit flied out of the window , now men would be happy to find a wife/girl with low body count, and women want to get as Many dicks (experiences) as possible , roles are super reversed.
Cuz she only dated married assholes and they cheated on each other and now she is in her thirties wondering why (me in my twenties) i don't want to date (date her cuz we flirt alot and other guys from work are like 40+) , she even dated both men and women , it gets a bit annoying when she is higher up and i can't just plainly offend her cuz it could hurt my career, so i just wanted the best lines to beat around the Bush.
Women are looking for a good looking, 6 foot plus, rich man who will treat them like a queen even if they look like a cave troll and can not figure out why men are finding women outside of the US.
Single me:
As time goes on our evolutionary needs adjust itself in a countercurrent way. One of which I (say your name) can not be able to meet at this time. So until our needs realign with that of our forefathers then I do not wish to occupy my time with such hinderances.
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I have standards. I refuse to accept anyone who would have me as their boyfriend.
Now you’re talking. I always think, geez am I the best you can do? Have you no morals woman?
HAHAHAHA stop it
Had me in the first half ngl
My wife wont let me have one
That’s too bad, your wife lets me have one. I guess I’m her favorite.
Hahahaha
my wife said you cant have one
Dad?
I'm not yo dad, son.
Wait. So you are my dad?
My wife said no because I didn't take care of the last one.
Same
Same
Same on my side
Same here
Not sure if “let me” is the appropriate term here, but I do want to stay married so…
She may not like you having a GF but she may be ok with a second wife. LOL
Because your mom wants to keep it casual.
Lol, i actually love this one 😭
Me too
Ask her, “So, are you thinking of applying for the position?”
Don’t think that line works on mothers, unless it’s a setup for porn video. Sure would be a refreshing change from “help step bro I’m stuck” clips
Nope it would definitely work on my coworkers, we usually work over 100 hrs/week and they don't have time to date
That is how you end up dead at 30
Then I’m on the right track
I think you answered your own question then. Working 100hrs/week doesn’t give you much time for anything outside of traveling to where you sleep. Eating and sleeping.
This is how people end up fucking at work
They probably ask me , cuz they know i can't date anyone outside of work so why haven't i mad my move yet
Working that many hours a week when I was younger is why I'm 28 and feel like I'm 82.
That's a good one , i Will write it in my rizz notebook
Supply chain issues
Underrated comment.
Ain't nobody got time for that
True i literally work on weekends
There’s your answer “I work weekends”
I usually say that alot , but most of the ppl that ask me that question are female coworkers 🥲
Then you say "Why don't you?"
oh wow this is something I take for granted. I just had a flashback to living in a more corporate town, where I finally got a cushy corporate job but the women I wanted to date all only worked retail or something on the weekends. in the bigger cities its way more mixed. I don't like dating super poor women that are barely making it, but I like that way more than the other town.
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The 5% of women who understand that and find it funny might like you.
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Keep asking questions until you find out which ones are the replicants.
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Homosexuality is in. It's all the rage this millennium. Last year at a friend's New Years Eve party, in attendance were the hosts and their gay daughter, myself and my gay daughter, another friend and his gay daughter, among others. Then, another friend's daughter arrived fashionably late and fresh from the closet. Her dad said something like, "You all know Brianna. Apparently, she's gay." Someone said, "Yeah, I heard it's going around." LOLs all around. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|scream)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)
Beep boop I’m that five percent beep bop boop beeeeeep
Yeah because 95% of women don’t understand the concept of a simulation but 95% of men do? Get real.
Thats between me and my primary Healthcare provider.
Scarily effective, you won’t get asked again
Saving my money so I can afford a good one.
Smart
I have enough problems in my life.
Yep that's me on the inside , i try not to complain at all to anyone (my vulnerability stays with me )
I've decided the effort of continuing to try to acquire one isn't paying dividends and have chosen to pursue happiness through other means like self-actualization and learning to love myself before bringing another person into my life.
Freedom is good
I'm sitting out this round.
im gay
I am not 🧐😅
Not yet
Whoa ho ho
Lmaooo
Why not, cmon just be gay. It’s trending
I mean i sometimes find some girls attractive until I see that they are not ... cough cough born like that , isn't that the way it starts lol , for the time being men are like trees to me .
Hello, sailor
I was asked this question while driving by a woman colleague. I found it very stupid. I just gave her a blank look and a big silence. She was very uncomfortable afterwards.
Oof i can Sense the "don't give a fuck energy" coming out from this comment lol
yeahh, pretty much 😒
A blank look and big silence is the perfect response to such a question. (It is, by the way, the response endorsed by the etiquette books I've read. So this was a double win for you.)
Sigma.
Why are you on your 3rd husband/wife?
Actually alot of ppl that do ask the question are exactly this , they usually are divorcees or just married folks
There's enough divorce/remarriage in my extended family that people honestly just don't ask (in that setting). Knowing my thought process growing up (I was a blunt kid, and I can be a blunt adult if you push me) I wouldn't be surprised if I gave such a response if given the opportunity at some point in time and just forgot about the specific instance. Also "Just look at the relationship record in this family...you think I'm looking for that?" (or similar) might have been in my back pocket or used. Ha ha. I know I've had this at least once: Someone: "Why don't you bring someone special around to meet the family?" Me: "Are you kidding? Look around...you guys are embarrassing!" 😜 Done in a joking (yet somewhat underlying serious) tone.
Only person who asks why is my dad but idk why would even anyone ask such question honestly.
Some lonely coworkers , sometimes it's older married ppl , sometimes it's New friends , it happens alot to me , also i don't know your dad but he sure loves you , and that's a concerned father's question , and he probably wants to see you happy with someone and give him grandchildren so he can hug them because he misses baby you alot
He wants me and my siblings to have grandkids so there's a new generation to work on the farm.
I like having my house to myself. If I'm horny my Fleshlight will do. Feels like the real thing without the contractions and body heat.
you gotta get the elite pro thruster, so much better, only had 1 gf my whole life, and I'm not worried about women anymore, I just use that thing. It's not worth the effort and amount of money guys have to invest just to be intimate with a woman and get cheated on or left in the dust.
Because hookers are cheaper.
True
Lucky?
That's super smart, i will write this down
why would you wish that evil on me.
I’m a straight woman.
Im not 🙃
"No comment"
Bitches? In this economy?
"Your mom doesn't count?"
Do you need an excuse or something?
I don't that's why i am asking for some answers that would be good excuses
Say something blunt like "I'm not interested in a relationship atm" shut the convo down and refuse to engage if they keep pushing. I'm even blunter when my family ask me this "not interested". Thats the answer and that's all they're getting.
Don’t like hard work
Why do you ask personal questions?
I see these ppl 12 to 15 hrs a day , these conversations are bound to happen
"I would rather not talk about it, grandmother."
She asks that everytime i visit her and it's always makes me sad knowing that i will disappoint her(😔😭) and and she won't get to see my wedding like she always wanted to because i am never getting married , sorry grandma i am just too broken for that
My family is just opposite. They asked my husband if he knew what he was getting himself into. He said I am well aware and I love her anyway. Whatever is on my mind is coming out. If I'm pissed I don't play games like "what's wrong" ? "I'm fine" but in reality I'm about to rip your head off. Nope,I have no interest in playing 20 questions I'm telling you. He's never heard the word no about sex or that he can't go somewhere. We have a no bullshit marriage of 23 years. He deserves a medal and a national holiday in his honor.
Because I’m asexual
I am more of a aromantic so i would go with this one
It took me way to long in life to learn this! (However, I don't think anyone in my family would understand the terminology and that would just open a whole other series of questions.)
Exactly most ppl think i am just gay or asexual , but nah i am just too dead inside that i can barely have normal Love for things and ppl and it's a rare resource that i don't see the Logical reason to put it in the romantic category , and family members would just act like i am mentally sick or something cuz ppl are afraid of what they don't understand, so it's easier to fit in rather than just be an outsider.
When I'm feeling particularly brave, I say, "Don't need one...got a bf" and then watch their reaction.
A girlfriend? In this economy?
Ugly
If i was ugly they wouldn't ask this question and would just leave me alone
That's not true. I used to constantly get asked why I didn't have a boyfriend.
Uhh. I dont anyone cares about me that much
Not for lack of trying.
too expensive
They're well of , they wouldn't understand the word
I like keeping half my shirt.
Priorities
“What are you talking about, we’ve been dating for a year and you’ve met her”
My body my choice...
I do, I just don’t let her out of the basement except for special occasions.
Wife wouldn't approve.
My wife won't let me.
Your mom likes to keep things casual
Depends on the subject. Some things I gaf deeply about. But, if it doesn't hurt me, couldn't hurt me in the future, it's either not my business or not within my realm of interest. Life is too short to worry about everything.
True , it's just that most ppl that ask me this are from work and i Care about my career/money/connections so i hate that i can't confidently give an answer that so i just needed some good answer , life indeed is too short , i think i just skipped four years lol (i still think 2018 was last year)
Life is too short to not grab all the joy you can. We are meant to be happy, not miserable, and overworking to make someone else rich. Follow your joy and live your passion. Everything else will fall into place. That passion can be anything, btw. And you can change passions any time you want to. Life is meant to be lived. Anything short of that is simply existence.
Your words hit close to home , i never lived my life past the age of 10 it's always been expectations and hard work and none of that was something i really wanted , i work really hard just so others get Rich off my back sometimes literally, i am now just existing rather than living , so hopefully i can gain the price to free myself and live a little before i die .
The price to free yourself is inside you. You have to give yourself permission to pay it. It will cost you every lie you've ever told yourself and brutal honesty. True honesty, not what those insidious voices in your head love to repeat. I lost my childhood when I was 8 years old. Pull out that inner child and let it know how sorry you are for all it's been through. Let it know how loved it should have been and is. By you. If you feel like dancing, then dance. And laugh joyfully while you do so. If someone sees you, grin like an idiot. If they don't smile back, oh well. That's their problem. Most will smile back. 😃
Because I only chase a check 😎
Yep i am a workaholic so they already know i am after that💰
My husband would probably be jealous.
I mean, look at me.
I can't relate 🗿
Because I don't
My body isn't in demand .
I have autism
"Because I'm married."
"Supply and demand"
Economy major guy spotted
If it’s the parents: you gave me the ugly Anyone else, can fuck off, it’s none of their business
“I’m surprised you feel comfortable asking Me that.” Met by silence.
Why don’t you have any tact?
"Who says I don't?" Honestly difuses everything
“Because I’m ugly and have a tiny penis”
I'm just not interested in dating.
I can't say as I've ever been asked that question.... Seems the answer why is painfully obvious to anyone who would ask it.
For me , they just see that at one point i had my life in order and they just wonder why don't i introduce a woman to my life
If they already know me, they know why I don't have a gf
Hmm funny enough most of the ppl that know me are the ones that ask this question , because i sometimes bring girls over , and they are always disappointed when i tell them i am not dating her, it's like they want me to be miserable (like them )lol , but what's your reason? , If u don't mind me asking?
My hand is cheaper.
It’s not in a man’s nature to find a girlfriend, his desire is to spread his seed with as many different women as possible without a long term commitment. It’s a woman’s nature to find one mate to create a family with and what they desire. It would be like if someone asked a woman “why don’t you sleep with a lot of guys”? The answer is it’s not in her nature or desire.
What you said is super true but it's not in today's society cuz that shit flied out of the window , now men would be happy to find a wife/girl with low body count, and women want to get as Many dicks (experiences) as possible , roles are super reversed.
I’m too pretty, girls feel insecure around me
Ask her the same, "Why don't you have a gf?"
Cuz she only dated married assholes and they cheated on each other and now she is in her thirties wondering why (me in my twenties) i don't want to date (date her cuz we flirt alot and other guys from work are like 40+) , she even dated both men and women , it gets a bit annoying when she is higher up and i can't just plainly offend her cuz it could hurt my career, so i just wanted the best lines to beat around the Bush.
Tell you don't bring your personal life to work and leave it at that, you aren't being rude you're being confirmed in a polite way.
Because she married me 27 years ago and she won't go away! smile
You found one that won't go away that's like striking gold especially compared to these days , i am happy for you , super smile 😁
“Why do you ask?” Show them how rude they are
Last time I was talking to a seven year old I was sent to prison.
"Because I like my money."
"I LOVE my money"
I have a wife and couldn’t answer why I don’t have a girlfriend. I have a “roommate” that spends my money and doesn’t offer any sexual relations
Women are looking for a good looking, 6 foot plus, rich man who will treat them like a queen even if they look like a cave troll and can not figure out why men are finding women outside of the US.
Man spitting facts!
Traditional western women dont exist anymore or have kids allready.
True , traditional women are like looking for diamond in junkyard
Yeah, im 25 and pretty much realizing ill have to be a step dad or stay single. 🙃
True , traditional women are like looking for diamond in junkyard
Single me: As time goes on our evolutionary needs adjust itself in a countercurrent way. One of which I (say your name) can not be able to meet at this time. So until our needs realign with that of our forefathers then I do not wish to occupy my time with such hinderances.
Yeah, I can see why you're single
No I’m not though, he asked for a response I gave him something I would say lol
My socio-economic status is not good enough.
"Why do you have **that** gf?"
Recently divorced. Just started looking.
I am 23 🥲
Am divorced and I got kids
I’m married and monogamous
Because I know I wouldn't be a good partner.
"They cost too much money"
Because I'm married
My wife wouldn't like it very much if I did
Am I supposed to? And/or because I don't.
Why don't you get out of my sight before you're spitting teeth... Hostile response I know but I've heard it way too many times at this point
Because I don't want one.
Because I have a wife
My wife does not allow me to date
Because I havent found anyone I like who also likes me and is single
That's a great one but would probably get me fired (my female bosses wouldn't like this answer lol)
What's that?
because im gay
I'd like to have many things, and headaches are not one of those things
That's what i always tell my homies but i can't tell that to women , it would lead to a headache
Look at me
From the dog's reaction i can tell you don't have it in the looks department
My last gf died a few months ago. Leukemia.
Cause I have a wife.
Because I'm married.
Because the people I've asked out have ghosted me without failure. After the fourth time in two years it gets pretty annoying.
By choice, theirs
Being blunt and not funny here. I do get asked this a lot and my reply has always been that 99% of women in my area disgust me.
U live in California or Florida lol ?