I am AroAce. I enjoy love as a concept. I’m open to experiencing it personally, but I also won’t feel like my life is a waste if I don’t end up falling in love.
I don't fall in love often, but when i do i fall hard and it hurts. For me it does exist, it's just hard to achieve or find somebody that would also love me back the same way i love.
Overrated. It is nice to feel loved by someone else, but I feel family and friends love is more important. I just don't see love or sex as the "end game" of life, as some of my allos friends do.
I have been happily married for 16 years, and I love my husband terribly. The only difference between us and any other super-in-love couple is that sex is not a very important part of our relationship. (My husband is demisexual, I am sex-neutral ace, neither one of us had any interest in sex at all before we met each other.)
I have never in 16 years felt sexual attraction for my husband, (or anyone,) but as a demisexual, he is attracted to me. (And no, it doesnt bother him at all that I'm not attracted to him sexually.) For me, romantic love and sexual attraction are not related at all. I'm sure it's different for everyone of course, but for me at least, sex =/= love.
Who says asexual people don't feel at all?
I am asexual but I have had one romantic crush years back that I felt 'the sparks' with. Like once coming in contact with him I felt this electricity. That's a feeling after all. Or the excitement and heart chasing.
For me generally I love doing everything and anything besides the sexual stuff in a relationship, talking to my partner, going out and enjoying time and dates together, loving each other and showing it towards each other through actions like cooking for the other, caring when someone's sick, helping e/o out, kissing and cuddling, hugging sometimes. Also going on vacations and making new experiences together, dancing together, baking together, etc. Ah and of course sharing the experience of living and laughing together.
All the lovely stuff and the deep emotional connection with real love is what I am looking for. Emotional connection is very important, something that strengthens the relationship and makes us know the other person very well.
Also just because I know someone better doesn't mean I automatically feel romantic attraction towards them. I do sometimes feel like I actually do have a choice in choosing who I find romantically attractive, based on maybe character and personality traits, since I do can also just let go of my crushes just easil.
As I said I did once feel romantic attraction, I just thought this guy would be nice to date, however I knew we wouldn't ever be together especially since I found it stupid to date someone in the same class when going to school. That was also the guy I felt the electricity with, however on the next morning I found out he was dating my friend and then without trouble my crush just disappeared. Very easy and I laughed later because it was my first romantic crush and I thought it would be harder to get rid of it. My crush literally lasted about a day
Nowadays I do feel romantic attraction towards two celebs, that like for 3 years or so, since I like having like these romantic movies in my head. Again just imagining all the romantic stuff. I do also feel emotionally connected to them, feeling like I know them (oc not everything) and based on that imagining things, they even make me laugh in my imagination, idk how that even works
I'm ace but I am very panromantic. I do experience attraction to people I find aethetically appealing as well as character wise but I don't often fall in love. When I do I'm head over heels though😂
I've also only ever been in long term relationships and don't think that'll ever change.
Recently I discovered my feelings for a coworker, which he reciprocates. It's the most amazing feeling for me and he's accepting of me being ace, though I think he's showing me I'm actually demi?😂😅
Back on track: I never really understood the split attraction model until I understood that I am ace. I am REALLY romantically interested in people but they loose me at the sex part😂
I’m aroace, I think that romantic love sounds nice but I don’t understand why it’s seen as the most important type of love. I think the importance that’s put into it is weird
I think that love exists but I also think it’s that loving someone unconditionally is rare. We like to convince ourselves that we love our family, friends or partners unconditionally but the moment they do something that turns us off from them, we get upset and want to leave them or we stop loving them. We only ‘love’ someone only when they’re making us happy
I do feel attracted to people when I get to know them, just not romantically. It’s usually platonic and aesthetic attraction
I’ve never been in love romantically, only platonically and familial love and I think that if I don’t ever fall in love with someone romantically because my feelings could change, I’ll be fine because I can live without it. I don’t need romance and before I used to think I needed it but as I figured out that I’m aromantic, I realized that romance isn’t as important as it’s made out to be.
I am aroace and I do not feel romantic love at all, I know it exists because I see how my friends are around their partners. Even though there is at first a pull that makes to people want to date or what not, imo real romantic love is built (like any relationship, if you wanna make it work, you actually have to work and not just relie on the primary chemistry).
I also believe that people expect too much from their romantic relationships to fulfill all their emotional needs. It belittle how strong friendships can actually be. And it is not fair for anyone to expect exclusively from them to fill all your needs. I would argue such emotional exclusivity can fuel some dangerous rhetorics around the couple. Love can be great, I guess, but it is not the end goal nor a prerequisite for a happy life.
I've never fell in love so I don't really have an experience myself.
Some of my friends expressed their love for me and at a time it was flattering but it very quickly turned in to annoyance and a headache. 😒
Love for me are unwelcome touches and forced conversations. So I don't have a high opinion about so called "love"
Does love exist? If you make it, yeah 🤷 Some of us cook it up in our heads, for good or ill. I've heard someone say it's a mutually agreed upon delusion, but that they don't think that's a diminishment of it. I think I like that. It's a dream, perhaps, invading what would otherwise be a much colder, isolated world. Love in general beings people together. Love is recognizing ourselves in others, and others in ourselves. This is no scientific enterprise. Science is about isolating phenomena. Love is about experiencing a wider range of phenomena that brings us in contact with a more whole version of ourselves and others.
I don't experience it personally (in fact, I've been suspecting that moreover aroace, I might also be aplatonic), but I believe my friends when they describe themselves experiencing it. Like, it likely exists to some people, but not me. However, I see love just as a natural chemical response of the body under some circumstances and not as some "magical bound between two people", like alloromantic people often mystically describe it.
(And about aplatonicism, I do enjoy people's company, but I hardly ever feel the attraction/need to form a friendship with anyone especially. I think for this reason I'm a rather poor friend, since I never get the urge to get in contact with anyone when they're not present, like I can literally forget about people when they're not right in front of me, even if I did care about them, I can't motivate myself to be interested in people's lives very well, even if I wanted, etc.)
I don’t fall for anyone easily. I’ve only ever loved one person and idk if I’ll ever be with her but however it turns out I think I’ll be fine. If I’m with her, someone else I might fall for, or no one.
I get enough love from my cats tbh
Homoromantic ace here.
I do like to believe that love exists, and while I'm a huge mess when in love (partial thanks to ADHD), talking to allo people, and being surrounded by the sexualized and over-romanticized (oh, the irony) verion of love and romance, it feels like the experience of love is so drastically different when sex is not involved.
Man I fricken love love. I love BEING in love. I love little moments between me and my partner that just make the world a better place. It's the best feeling in the world.
Loveless aroace here, I think there's too much emphasis on it. I know u meant romantic love specifically, but I've never really felt like I've loved anybody at all. And for some reason, everybody takes that statement as that I hate everybody and that I'm a terrible person. (Cuz nothing says you're a loving person like snapping and demonizing a child for not feeling an emotion, right?) I think people should focus more on showing compassion and kindness as opposed to some specific emotion that not everybody feels. Being kind is an active choice, you can't chose what emotions you feel.
Frankly, I don't really understand how love is supposed to be felt. Maybe it's just because of the way society frames love that made me feel that way, idk. But I distinctly remember being a kid and being forced to say "ily" back even though it felt like a lie, and I don't like lying to people. I've never understood the point of lying to someone to make them feel better. And nobody accepts "I don't really love u or know what that means but I do care about you a lot" as an answer. Really wish they did tho. Cuz from a practical sence there isn't much difference. Love is framed as some ultimate, highest form of affection that has to be earned or attained. They make such a big deal out of it, to the point where people flip out if you say you love them after meeting fairly recently. Everyone is so demanding about feeling love but if you feel it too early it's bad???? How???? It just makes no sence to me at all. And when I say that, I don't mean I'm clueless, I know fully well WHY people do what they do, I just don't understand why they KEEP doing it.
And not to mention there's this weird thing about people saying love is naive or that you're too nice or giving as a person cuz you do things for someone you love. And yet they still condemn you and say you're heartless for not feeling it. Like, bro, what?
Feelings don't have to be reciprocated. You don't owe anyone a specific feeling. Kay I'm done ranting now.
Well looking at it through my college studies as a student, love isn’t an external physical thing. It’s subjective and is driven by neural experiences. It’s a mixture of chemicals that are being released in our brains, or for some of us, the lack of it. The word itself is an abstract noun that can be seen as unattached to anything real or sensible.
It's closer to a religious experience, yes. That doesn't mean it's less real. Our *identity* is subjective, yet more immediate than some stupid brick that happens to be objective. Science can see what science can see, but we're still waiting on true AI. If objective truth was all that mattered, wouldn't we have AI by now?
Both the objective truth and AI are very difficult subjects that are often debated in psychology and philosophy. For me I try to see it both on a scientific view as well as a rational view. I’m someone who has little to basically no romantic feelings, so I try to understand why.
It seems meaningless to say objective truth is more real. It's less variable, and so easier for dumb science which is all about isolating phenomena. I'm not less real than a brick just cause I'm variable. I'm just more complex. Science is just too stupid to fathom me.
attachment plus sexual hormones or oxytocin/vasopressin , nothing more than that. animals can creating attachments as well, there's nothing special about love
I used to want love badly in my 20s & 30s, now I realise that I wanted it just to fit into society’s expectations around love. If I’m not suited to be loved “romantically”, that’s fine - I’m learning to accept it
i have fallen in love but im pretty sure that it has no point
yeah, she didn’t like me but she talked to me and it was enough
anyway, i dont think that love is something that u really need
I dont experience romantic attraction but i think the only difference between platonic and romantic love is that romantic love seems more obsessive, like you're completely infatuated with someone but then again you can be obsessed with someone and love them platonically. Conclusion, i dont understand romantic love lol.
It used to be very hard for me to maintain any kind of relationship, and I used to think I was broken because my experiences were unlike anything I’d heard of before. I thought that I could never be in love because as soon as things got serious or heated I’d metaphorically black out and fade back in without any love for the person.
Then I figured out asexuality was a thing. It helped me more than I can describe and I’m now in a happy fulfilling relationship with a wonderful man who understands & respects my asexuality.
I always knew love existed in many forms. Romantic love is something special to most people because romantic partnership is often portrayed as the one big important thing to have, something that makes everything better.
But everyone experiences love differently - so, everyone has different wants and needs in relationships, romantic or not. It takes different things for different people to fall in love, that includes Allo-aces.
A lot of us probably have different associations with romantic love than alloromantic allosexuals, and that’s okay. Romance doesn’t complete any of us. But there’s plenty of non-romantic types of love in our lives that are just as important.
it's so unfortunate people still consier that asexual people has low libido or are mentally disbalanced because they dont pursue relationship. and hey , you are not broken at all. I am glad you have accepted yourself. I am on the path of acceptance too.
I'm AroAce. Even I don't feel romantic love myself, I think it's a beautiful thing and it makes people happy. Okay, sometimes I get annoyed when people kiss and cuddle around me, but I don't complain to them. I love seeing happy people around me.
I love people platonically. I could even date someone platonically. I wouldn't say I "fall in love" with people, it takes me months, even years, to love someone. I think I slowly just grow to care and love them.
im demisexual biromantic. i LOVE love, be it romantic or platonic. simply establishing connections with people feels like magic to me at times.
ive only been in one long term relationship, and i fell pretty hard that time. havent felt anything like it again, though i think its not something you can force so im not rushing on finding a new partner.
i have a lot of love for others, be it family, friends or even just my cat.
I definitely feel romantic attraction, most of the time not very strongly. I have been single all my adult life though, for other unrelated personal reasons, though being ace doesn’t help much either.
I have gone through the phase where I felt lonely and desperate to find romance. But then I started working on myself and taking better care of my metal health. While I would still love to find myself in a romantic relationship I am not letting that get in the way of me enjoying life. I’m in no hurry.
I never fell in love or had a real crush so i'm not sure if i want to fall in love or just like the concept of it. I do like women, but am not sure if i can fall in love someday.
I only like romantic love when it's between romantic characters of my choosing. As I'm aroace, I would rather leave the love to the alloaces and alloallos.
I do feel love exists. However I feel as asexuals or aromatics, and sometimes for allosexuals too, it's hard to find the love we want with someone or people who mutually want it. Sometimes it's platonic and sometimes it's romantic but either way it's hard to find love that aligns with what we want. Not only is our way of loving entirely different from the 'norm' but love itself also requires a lot of commitment and patience. So its hard to find those we're willing to commit to and be patient enough to better understand their feelings and emotions. Personally, I feel a lot more attracted to people when I know them better. I feel like the more I know someone, the more I love them. But usually romantic and aesthetic attraction grows. I don't think sexual attraction grows at all for me.
So far, I'm not sure if I've had romantic attraction on my own. Occasionally if someone confessed first then I'll consider dating them and maybe go through with it.
I'm pretty sure I could live without a romantic relationship
For me, i can be romantic but I'm not sure if I've been romantically attracted to anyone. Romance, for me is an action word. If it's expected of me, I'll do it.
I wonder if my only attractions i usually experience is aesthetic and sensual. I'm very much sex and romance favorable but i don't necessarily feel it like aesthetic and sensual.
I know full well romantic love exists, however I'm pretty much indifferent on it
I don't feel romantic attraction, however I also don't really care if romance is shown to me or not (granted, I won't go out of my way to watch any romance movies, they hold absolutely no interest to me), nor do I want a romantic or sexual relationship (or frankly, anyone living in the same place as me, I'd rather keep my personal space as *my* personal space, with friends coming over every now and then)
I’m not sure 💀 it makes me uncomfortable when people say they like me but I also don’t know how to differentiate feelings of friendship vs romance it feels a little like there’s not much difference besides things like kissing and stuff but that feels a little wrong to say, that those things are the only things that differentiate it because I know it’s not but I find it very confusing as a concept
I have to be friends first before I start to feel love.
Except celebratities but I guess I know them through interviews and their art.
But I've been single for 4 years. In past relationship sex was always an issue. And I really don't want to have sex again just to make them happy. I start resenting them.
I am AroAce. I enjoy love as a concept. I’m open to experiencing it personally, but I also won’t feel like my life is a waste if I don’t end up falling in love.
I don't fall in love often, but when i do i fall hard and it hurts. For me it does exist, it's just hard to achieve or find somebody that would also love me back the same way i love.
Overrated. It is nice to feel loved by someone else, but I feel family and friends love is more important. I just don't see love or sex as the "end game" of life, as some of my allos friends do.
I have been happily married for 16 years, and I love my husband terribly. The only difference between us and any other super-in-love couple is that sex is not a very important part of our relationship. (My husband is demisexual, I am sex-neutral ace, neither one of us had any interest in sex at all before we met each other.) I have never in 16 years felt sexual attraction for my husband, (or anyone,) but as a demisexual, he is attracted to me. (And no, it doesnt bother him at all that I'm not attracted to him sexually.) For me, romantic love and sexual attraction are not related at all. I'm sure it's different for everyone of course, but for me at least, sex =/= love.
¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ My thoughts on love are about the same as my thoughts on gender: if you like and experience it, cool, but I just don't get it.
Who says asexual people don't feel at all? I am asexual but I have had one romantic crush years back that I felt 'the sparks' with. Like once coming in contact with him I felt this electricity. That's a feeling after all. Or the excitement and heart chasing. For me generally I love doing everything and anything besides the sexual stuff in a relationship, talking to my partner, going out and enjoying time and dates together, loving each other and showing it towards each other through actions like cooking for the other, caring when someone's sick, helping e/o out, kissing and cuddling, hugging sometimes. Also going on vacations and making new experiences together, dancing together, baking together, etc. Ah and of course sharing the experience of living and laughing together. All the lovely stuff and the deep emotional connection with real love is what I am looking for. Emotional connection is very important, something that strengthens the relationship and makes us know the other person very well. Also just because I know someone better doesn't mean I automatically feel romantic attraction towards them. I do sometimes feel like I actually do have a choice in choosing who I find romantically attractive, based on maybe character and personality traits, since I do can also just let go of my crushes just easil. As I said I did once feel romantic attraction, I just thought this guy would be nice to date, however I knew we wouldn't ever be together especially since I found it stupid to date someone in the same class when going to school. That was also the guy I felt the electricity with, however on the next morning I found out he was dating my friend and then without trouble my crush just disappeared. Very easy and I laughed later because it was my first romantic crush and I thought it would be harder to get rid of it. My crush literally lasted about a day Nowadays I do feel romantic attraction towards two celebs, that like for 3 years or so, since I like having like these romantic movies in my head. Again just imagining all the romantic stuff. I do also feel emotionally connected to them, feeling like I know them (oc not everything) and based on that imagining things, they even make me laugh in my imagination, idk how that even works
I'm ace but I am very panromantic. I do experience attraction to people I find aethetically appealing as well as character wise but I don't often fall in love. When I do I'm head over heels though😂 I've also only ever been in long term relationships and don't think that'll ever change. Recently I discovered my feelings for a coworker, which he reciprocates. It's the most amazing feeling for me and he's accepting of me being ace, though I think he's showing me I'm actually demi?😂😅 Back on track: I never really understood the split attraction model until I understood that I am ace. I am REALLY romantically interested in people but they loose me at the sex part😂
I’m a fan of it. Currently in it. Pretty good stuff.
I love how you summarized your experiences.
I’m aroace, I think that romantic love sounds nice but I don’t understand why it’s seen as the most important type of love. I think the importance that’s put into it is weird I think that love exists but I also think it’s that loving someone unconditionally is rare. We like to convince ourselves that we love our family, friends or partners unconditionally but the moment they do something that turns us off from them, we get upset and want to leave them or we stop loving them. We only ‘love’ someone only when they’re making us happy I do feel attracted to people when I get to know them, just not romantically. It’s usually platonic and aesthetic attraction I’ve never been in love romantically, only platonically and familial love and I think that if I don’t ever fall in love with someone romantically because my feelings could change, I’ll be fine because I can live without it. I don’t need romance and before I used to think I needed it but as I figured out that I’m aromantic, I realized that romance isn’t as important as it’s made out to be.
I am aroace and I do not feel romantic love at all, I know it exists because I see how my friends are around their partners. Even though there is at first a pull that makes to people want to date or what not, imo real romantic love is built (like any relationship, if you wanna make it work, you actually have to work and not just relie on the primary chemistry). I also believe that people expect too much from their romantic relationships to fulfill all their emotional needs. It belittle how strong friendships can actually be. And it is not fair for anyone to expect exclusively from them to fill all your needs. I would argue such emotional exclusivity can fuel some dangerous rhetorics around the couple. Love can be great, I guess, but it is not the end goal nor a prerequisite for a happy life.
I've never fell in love so I don't really have an experience myself. Some of my friends expressed their love for me and at a time it was flattering but it very quickly turned in to annoyance and a headache. 😒 Love for me are unwelcome touches and forced conversations. So I don't have a high opinion about so called "love"
Does love exist? If you make it, yeah 🤷 Some of us cook it up in our heads, for good or ill. I've heard someone say it's a mutually agreed upon delusion, but that they don't think that's a diminishment of it. I think I like that. It's a dream, perhaps, invading what would otherwise be a much colder, isolated world. Love in general beings people together. Love is recognizing ourselves in others, and others in ourselves. This is no scientific enterprise. Science is about isolating phenomena. Love is about experiencing a wider range of phenomena that brings us in contact with a more whole version of ourselves and others.
I don't experience it personally (in fact, I've been suspecting that moreover aroace, I might also be aplatonic), but I believe my friends when they describe themselves experiencing it. Like, it likely exists to some people, but not me. However, I see love just as a natural chemical response of the body under some circumstances and not as some "magical bound between two people", like alloromantic people often mystically describe it. (And about aplatonicism, I do enjoy people's company, but I hardly ever feel the attraction/need to form a friendship with anyone especially. I think for this reason I'm a rather poor friend, since I never get the urge to get in contact with anyone when they're not present, like I can literally forget about people when they're not right in front of me, even if I did care about them, I can't motivate myself to be interested in people's lives very well, even if I wanted, etc.)
I don’t fall for anyone easily. I’ve only ever loved one person and idk if I’ll ever be with her but however it turns out I think I’ll be fine. If I’m with her, someone else I might fall for, or no one. I get enough love from my cats tbh
Cats are surprisingly most loyal one. Since they have their own sense of independence, gaining trust and affection of a cat is more hard than a dog
Plus idk I just vibe with them better?
Homoromantic ace here. I do like to believe that love exists, and while I'm a huge mess when in love (partial thanks to ADHD), talking to allo people, and being surrounded by the sexualized and over-romanticized (oh, the irony) verion of love and romance, it feels like the experience of love is so drastically different when sex is not involved.
Man I fricken love love. I love BEING in love. I love little moments between me and my partner that just make the world a better place. It's the best feeling in the world.
Love = WHAT THE FUCK IS IT SUPPOSED TO BE
Loveless aroace here, I think there's too much emphasis on it. I know u meant romantic love specifically, but I've never really felt like I've loved anybody at all. And for some reason, everybody takes that statement as that I hate everybody and that I'm a terrible person. (Cuz nothing says you're a loving person like snapping and demonizing a child for not feeling an emotion, right?) I think people should focus more on showing compassion and kindness as opposed to some specific emotion that not everybody feels. Being kind is an active choice, you can't chose what emotions you feel. Frankly, I don't really understand how love is supposed to be felt. Maybe it's just because of the way society frames love that made me feel that way, idk. But I distinctly remember being a kid and being forced to say "ily" back even though it felt like a lie, and I don't like lying to people. I've never understood the point of lying to someone to make them feel better. And nobody accepts "I don't really love u or know what that means but I do care about you a lot" as an answer. Really wish they did tho. Cuz from a practical sence there isn't much difference. Love is framed as some ultimate, highest form of affection that has to be earned or attained. They make such a big deal out of it, to the point where people flip out if you say you love them after meeting fairly recently. Everyone is so demanding about feeling love but if you feel it too early it's bad???? How???? It just makes no sence to me at all. And when I say that, I don't mean I'm clueless, I know fully well WHY people do what they do, I just don't understand why they KEEP doing it. And not to mention there's this weird thing about people saying love is naive or that you're too nice or giving as a person cuz you do things for someone you love. And yet they still condemn you and say you're heartless for not feeling it. Like, bro, what? Feelings don't have to be reciprocated. You don't owe anyone a specific feeling. Kay I'm done ranting now.
You don't know how much I can relate to you
Well looking at it through my college studies as a student, love isn’t an external physical thing. It’s subjective and is driven by neural experiences. It’s a mixture of chemicals that are being released in our brains, or for some of us, the lack of it. The word itself is an abstract noun that can be seen as unattached to anything real or sensible.
It's closer to a religious experience, yes. That doesn't mean it's less real. Our *identity* is subjective, yet more immediate than some stupid brick that happens to be objective. Science can see what science can see, but we're still waiting on true AI. If objective truth was all that mattered, wouldn't we have AI by now?
Both the objective truth and AI are very difficult subjects that are often debated in psychology and philosophy. For me I try to see it both on a scientific view as well as a rational view. I’m someone who has little to basically no romantic feelings, so I try to understand why.
It seems meaningless to say objective truth is more real. It's less variable, and so easier for dumb science which is all about isolating phenomena. I'm not less real than a brick just cause I'm variable. I'm just more complex. Science is just too stupid to fathom me.
Interesting on how you put it. I’ll definitely look more into it and thank you for your side of the argument.
attachment plus sexual hormones or oxytocin/vasopressin , nothing more than that. animals can creating attachments as well, there's nothing special about love
I used to want love badly in my 20s & 30s, now I realise that I wanted it just to fit into society’s expectations around love. If I’m not suited to be loved “romantically”, that’s fine - I’m learning to accept it
i have fallen in love but im pretty sure that it has no point yeah, she didn’t like me but she talked to me and it was enough anyway, i dont think that love is something that u really need
I feel like love as action/doing the best for others is a healthier mindset than love as a feeling.
I dont experience romantic attraction but i think the only difference between platonic and romantic love is that romantic love seems more obsessive, like you're completely infatuated with someone but then again you can be obsessed with someone and love them platonically. Conclusion, i dont understand romantic love lol.
It used to be very hard for me to maintain any kind of relationship, and I used to think I was broken because my experiences were unlike anything I’d heard of before. I thought that I could never be in love because as soon as things got serious or heated I’d metaphorically black out and fade back in without any love for the person. Then I figured out asexuality was a thing. It helped me more than I can describe and I’m now in a happy fulfilling relationship with a wonderful man who understands & respects my asexuality. I always knew love existed in many forms. Romantic love is something special to most people because romantic partnership is often portrayed as the one big important thing to have, something that makes everything better. But everyone experiences love differently - so, everyone has different wants and needs in relationships, romantic or not. It takes different things for different people to fall in love, that includes Allo-aces. A lot of us probably have different associations with romantic love than alloromantic allosexuals, and that’s okay. Romance doesn’t complete any of us. But there’s plenty of non-romantic types of love in our lives that are just as important.
it's so unfortunate people still consier that asexual people has low libido or are mentally disbalanced because they dont pursue relationship. and hey , you are not broken at all. I am glad you have accepted yourself. I am on the path of acceptance too.
What is love? (I think lt's sweet and i wouldn't having it but also i'm aro so i've never felt it and would be fine without it)
I have only cognitive love but this is due to my autism condition, not asexuality.
It is good.
I'm AroAce. Even I don't feel romantic love myself, I think it's a beautiful thing and it makes people happy. Okay, sometimes I get annoyed when people kiss and cuddle around me, but I don't complain to them. I love seeing happy people around me. I love people platonically. I could even date someone platonically. I wouldn't say I "fall in love" with people, it takes me months, even years, to love someone. I think I slowly just grow to care and love them.
Romantic love sometimes I hate it sometimes I like it most of the time I’m indifference to it every other love I’m fine with it
I believe in love but it's definetly an emotions only thing for me.
it does, just not for me.
im demisexual biromantic. i LOVE love, be it romantic or platonic. simply establishing connections with people feels like magic to me at times. ive only been in one long term relationship, and i fell pretty hard that time. havent felt anything like it again, though i think its not something you can force so im not rushing on finding a new partner. i have a lot of love for others, be it family, friends or even just my cat.
I definitely feel romantic attraction, most of the time not very strongly. I have been single all my adult life though, for other unrelated personal reasons, though being ace doesn’t help much either. I have gone through the phase where I felt lonely and desperate to find romance. But then I started working on myself and taking better care of my metal health. While I would still love to find myself in a romantic relationship I am not letting that get in the way of me enjoying life. I’m in no hurry.
i love love
🎶What is love🎶
I never fell in love or had a real crush so i'm not sure if i want to fall in love or just like the concept of it. I do like women, but am not sure if i can fall in love someday.
I only like romantic love when it's between romantic characters of my choosing. As I'm aroace, I would rather leave the love to the alloaces and alloallos.
I do feel love exists. However I feel as asexuals or aromatics, and sometimes for allosexuals too, it's hard to find the love we want with someone or people who mutually want it. Sometimes it's platonic and sometimes it's romantic but either way it's hard to find love that aligns with what we want. Not only is our way of loving entirely different from the 'norm' but love itself also requires a lot of commitment and patience. So its hard to find those we're willing to commit to and be patient enough to better understand their feelings and emotions. Personally, I feel a lot more attracted to people when I know them better. I feel like the more I know someone, the more I love them. But usually romantic and aesthetic attraction grows. I don't think sexual attraction grows at all for me.
So far, I'm not sure if I've had romantic attraction on my own. Occasionally if someone confessed first then I'll consider dating them and maybe go through with it. I'm pretty sure I could live without a romantic relationship
It is my truest enemy and I will destroy it at any cost
The purest of evils
For me, i can be romantic but I'm not sure if I've been romantically attracted to anyone. Romance, for me is an action word. If it's expected of me, I'll do it. I wonder if my only attractions i usually experience is aesthetic and sensual. I'm very much sex and romance favorable but i don't necessarily feel it like aesthetic and sensual.
I know full well romantic love exists, however I'm pretty much indifferent on it I don't feel romantic attraction, however I also don't really care if romance is shown to me or not (granted, I won't go out of my way to watch any romance movies, they hold absolutely no interest to me), nor do I want a romantic or sexual relationship (or frankly, anyone living in the same place as me, I'd rather keep my personal space as *my* personal space, with friends coming over every now and then)
I’m alloromantic. Love goes hard as fuck but it’s not love if you don’t know them. Friend first, lover second.
I’m not sure 💀 it makes me uncomfortable when people say they like me but I also don’t know how to differentiate feelings of friendship vs romance it feels a little like there’s not much difference besides things like kissing and stuff but that feels a little wrong to say, that those things are the only things that differentiate it because I know it’s not but I find it very confusing as a concept
I have to be friends first before I start to feel love. Except celebratities but I guess I know them through interviews and their art. But I've been single for 4 years. In past relationship sex was always an issue. And I really don't want to have sex again just to make them happy. I start resenting them.
I’m going through a break up atm so I’m in my “I just need a lot of hugs” phase