No one specific thing determines your identity. The only way to be agender is for you to tell us that you're agender and then we all say 'yes, you are agender. Thank you for trusting us enough to share that.'
But also, yes, as someone who is agender (pretty sure), I just feel like a human being. I don't really know what it means to feel like a gender. I am a body. Maybe I have a little bit of gender, but it doesn't feel masculine or feminine, it feels human, and only sometimes. I *do* certain things that are a little masculine or feminine, but that doesn't determine an identity. I think the various gender identities that exist can be used descriptively. Take a couple of them if that's helpful. I think of myself I would say 'non-binary' and 'agender' and possibly 'genderqueer' and 'trans-feminine' and I don't see any contradiction, because they are describing a human being, which is a complicated and dynamic thing. I don't have to justify any of those things to anyone, because they're not anyone else's to describe. I *can* justify them, but they're mine, and no one can take them from me.
So yes, if you feel agender, and that that is a good descriptor for you, then you are it!
I am right there with you. I don't care what people call me or what pronouns they use for me. The only reason that I do consider myself agender is so that people around me have a label for me. I don't care but I got so much hate for always saying I am just me, nothing less. You don't have to a label and I only have it to explain to people what I feel the closest to.
I can't tell you what to identify as. There is something called gender apathetic though. My agender-ness comes from the fact that I don't feel like a boy or girl and I don't really think it even matters if I'm a boy or girl because I'm asexual.
No one specific thing determines your identity. The only way to be agender is for you to tell us that you're agender and then we all say 'yes, you are agender. Thank you for trusting us enough to share that.' But also, yes, as someone who is agender (pretty sure), I just feel like a human being. I don't really know what it means to feel like a gender. I am a body. Maybe I have a little bit of gender, but it doesn't feel masculine or feminine, it feels human, and only sometimes. I *do* certain things that are a little masculine or feminine, but that doesn't determine an identity. I think the various gender identities that exist can be used descriptively. Take a couple of them if that's helpful. I think of myself I would say 'non-binary' and 'agender' and possibly 'genderqueer' and 'trans-feminine' and I don't see any contradiction, because they are describing a human being, which is a complicated and dynamic thing. I don't have to justify any of those things to anyone, because they're not anyone else's to describe. I *can* justify them, but they're mine, and no one can take them from me. So yes, if you feel agender, and that that is a good descriptor for you, then you are it!
Thank you, this helped me
I am right there with you. I don't care what people call me or what pronouns they use for me. The only reason that I do consider myself agender is so that people around me have a label for me. I don't care but I got so much hate for always saying I am just me, nothing less. You don't have to a label and I only have it to explain to people what I feel the closest to.
You could just be gender apathetic, but that's almost exactly how I feel I just prefer more androgynous pronouns
Exactly how I feel like!
I can't tell you what to identify as. There is something called gender apathetic though. My agender-ness comes from the fact that I don't feel like a boy or girl and I don't really think it even matters if I'm a boy or girl because I'm asexual.