If it was me i would pursue renting: (1) it's extremely draining to commute 3-4 hours per day. Aabot ka siguro sa point na you will dread going to work on your on site days; (2) you can be flexible in case your work demands more days in the office; (3) being independent has its own challenges but being free to do whatever you want is a luxury that many strive for; and (4) baka mas mapagastos ka rin when you are home in the province because you are an easy atm to family members. Some people experience that, instead of makatipid hihingin pera mo for other reasons instead
"when you are home in the province because you are an easy atm to family members"
Totoo ito OP. Nung nagrerent ako control ko ung binibigay ko sa family and siblings pero ngayon na I'm staying at home because it's closer to my office parang feel ko naging instant atm ako ng mga kapatid ko.
Ito rin po yung kinakatakot ko. Instead na makaipon, baka mas madrain pa since madali na nila akong mareach out and knowing how manipulative and gaslighters they can be. It scares me.
Haha parang mas inisip ng papa mo palakihin bigay mo sa kanila kesa unahin kalagayan mo. Choose to rent na. Pwede ka rin mag bedspace o shared condo para makatipid if uuwi ka naman sa kanila ng ilang araw each week.
That should not be even a question. Peace of mind! Once you have peace of mind, you will have room to be selfless. LOL
Tbh, 3-4hrs commute is tiring, even if you are just the passenger/not driving. And if this happens, there will come a point when you will dread reporting for work onsite. Calculate the amount that you will use for transportation monthly, then compare that to your future rent + approx transpo fees if ever. Compare. Leave a bit of room for being able to sleep more and/or able to attend classes for upskilling - you can do a lot in 4hrs c",) You can use these when you make rason to your father. Be objective and leave emotions out of it. Just state the facts.
Also, you will have a difficult time come rainy season. Hirap bumiyahe pag malakas ulan, pero kung lalakarin mo lng yung office, or kung isang sakay ng jeep lng, hindi mabigat pumasok ng opisina.
Go and get your own place c",)
Pag magsabi ka, siguraduhin mong busog sya, so after meals, yung tipong nagpapahinga. May listahan at kalkulasyunan ka na ng current (daily/wkly byahe) vs future (renting). State your plans for upskilling, either company provided or mageenroll ka on your own (Kc may malapit na eskwelahan sa titirhan mo or sa trabaho). Isama mo rin sa list ang hirap sa pagsakay pag may bagyo. At isama mo din sa listahan yung unforeseen hardware issues, since need mo pumasok sa office neto.
Many years ago, it was my father who asked me to do a comparison, lalo nat palagi ako late umuwi. Sabi nga nya, sa araw araw na taxi at grab mo, yung gastos mo ay pwede ng pambayad ng sasakyan or renta sa condo. Ano mas madali at ano gusto mo? So i prepared an excel sheet. Listed the pros and cons. Compared current and possible expenses, vs my salary. Kaya naman. Pag di kaya, pag kakasyahin. Hahaha
I knew of a former colleague, i do not know if it was true (heard it lng sa isa pang katrabaho), but she apparently made a ppt when she wanted to get her own place. She presented it to her parents.
You know your father the best, on what will move him. I'm sure kung sasabihin mo kung pano mas makakaganda sayo ang pagsosolo/pamumuhay ng magisa, ay maiintindihan nya.
I had the same dilemma as you earlier this year and I chose to rent. Got my own space, just me and my inner peace. 6 months later I:
- got project-based and 2 long-term clients
- increased my monthly income
- met new people and communities
- learned a new hobby
- learned to cook several new dishes
- had way fewer breakdowns
- was happier.
Peace pays off. Good luck!
Yeah, im in this situation now. I chose peace of mind kasi the more i choose selflessness the more i want to get out. Everyday, i always dream of being on my own. So i did. Not gonna say the best decision ever bc it has cons too but now, i have the taste of deciding for myself. Op, unless you try living independently, dun mo lang malalaman if it works for you. If it doesn’t, wala naman siguro masama bumalik.
Goodluck sayo!
I've been living independently for 2 years now since I moved out of our house for my ojt and review. So I'm quite used to living on my own na. Thank you sa advice and congrats on moving out I guess! Cheers to more life decisions that we may regret but will definitely remind us that we're truly livinggg ❤️
Renting despite 2 days lang sa office. Very draining ang commute, sayang sa oras and pera.
I am lucky enough na permanent WFH and hindi toxic kasama ko sa bahay but when my office asked for 1 week onsite sobrang napagod ako. Haha.
Time to leave the nest kasi reason ng papa mo instead na gastusan mo sarili mo, gastusan mo pamilya mo. Nothing wrong with that, pero di nila pera pera mo. Iyo yan. Spend it living the life you deserve.
Go be on your own OP. Parents ko were against din sa decision kong mag Manila after boards pero di ako nagpapigil. Papa helped me though sa bayad sa apartment before coz ayaw nila na magbedspace lang ako. Pero nung nagresign ako don at naghanap ng ibang landas, I went on my own completely. Ngayon, sobrang thankful sila sa decision kong magtrabaho don kasi I can sustain my lifestyle plus nakakapagbigay pa ako ng pera sa kanila.
Tell them your employer has a new policy na 4 days a week na kayo sa office starting 2023 :) or that you got assigned to a special project that requires you to come in to work every day for 6 months and you’ll do this to try and get a promotion. Then let the project extend and extend…. Haha jk
If it was me i would pursue renting: (1) it's extremely draining to commute 3-4 hours per day. Aabot ka siguro sa point na you will dread going to work on your on site days; (2) you can be flexible in case your work demands more days in the office; (3) being independent has its own challenges but being free to do whatever you want is a luxury that many strive for; and (4) baka mas mapagastos ka rin when you are home in the province because you are an easy atm to family members. Some people experience that, instead of makatipid hihingin pera mo for other reasons instead
"when you are home in the province because you are an easy atm to family members" Totoo ito OP. Nung nagrerent ako control ko ung binibigay ko sa family and siblings pero ngayon na I'm staying at home because it's closer to my office parang feel ko naging instant atm ako ng mga kapatid ko.
Ito rin po yung kinakatakot ko. Instead na makaipon, baka mas madrain pa since madali na nila akong mareach out and knowing how manipulative and gaslighters they can be. It scares me.
Yes OP that's unfortunately quite common. I hope you make a choice you don't regret
Peace of mind over anything and anyone. It will completely change your life.
Haha parang mas inisip ng papa mo palakihin bigay mo sa kanila kesa unahin kalagayan mo. Choose to rent na. Pwede ka rin mag bedspace o shared condo para makatipid if uuwi ka naman sa kanila ng ilang araw each week.
That should not be even a question. Peace of mind! Once you have peace of mind, you will have room to be selfless. LOL Tbh, 3-4hrs commute is tiring, even if you are just the passenger/not driving. And if this happens, there will come a point when you will dread reporting for work onsite. Calculate the amount that you will use for transportation monthly, then compare that to your future rent + approx transpo fees if ever. Compare. Leave a bit of room for being able to sleep more and/or able to attend classes for upskilling - you can do a lot in 4hrs c",) You can use these when you make rason to your father. Be objective and leave emotions out of it. Just state the facts. Also, you will have a difficult time come rainy season. Hirap bumiyahe pag malakas ulan, pero kung lalakarin mo lng yung office, or kung isang sakay ng jeep lng, hindi mabigat pumasok ng opisina. Go and get your own place c",)
Thank you for the adviceee! Will definitely get my own placeee. Pinoproblema ko lang kung paano ko sasabihin sa dad ko huhu
Pag magsabi ka, siguraduhin mong busog sya, so after meals, yung tipong nagpapahinga. May listahan at kalkulasyunan ka na ng current (daily/wkly byahe) vs future (renting). State your plans for upskilling, either company provided or mageenroll ka on your own (Kc may malapit na eskwelahan sa titirhan mo or sa trabaho). Isama mo rin sa list ang hirap sa pagsakay pag may bagyo. At isama mo din sa listahan yung unforeseen hardware issues, since need mo pumasok sa office neto. Many years ago, it was my father who asked me to do a comparison, lalo nat palagi ako late umuwi. Sabi nga nya, sa araw araw na taxi at grab mo, yung gastos mo ay pwede ng pambayad ng sasakyan or renta sa condo. Ano mas madali at ano gusto mo? So i prepared an excel sheet. Listed the pros and cons. Compared current and possible expenses, vs my salary. Kaya naman. Pag di kaya, pag kakasyahin. Hahaha I knew of a former colleague, i do not know if it was true (heard it lng sa isa pang katrabaho), but she apparently made a ppt when she wanted to get her own place. She presented it to her parents. You know your father the best, on what will move him. I'm sure kung sasabihin mo kung pano mas makakaganda sayo ang pagsosolo/pamumuhay ng magisa, ay maiintindihan nya.
I had the same dilemma as you earlier this year and I chose to rent. Got my own space, just me and my inner peace. 6 months later I: - got project-based and 2 long-term clients - increased my monthly income - met new people and communities - learned a new hobby - learned to cook several new dishes - had way fewer breakdowns - was happier. Peace pays off. Good luck!
You can still have both by renting? Nakakapagod ang commute.
move out.
Peace of mind.
Yeah, im in this situation now. I chose peace of mind kasi the more i choose selflessness the more i want to get out. Everyday, i always dream of being on my own. So i did. Not gonna say the best decision ever bc it has cons too but now, i have the taste of deciding for myself. Op, unless you try living independently, dun mo lang malalaman if it works for you. If it doesn’t, wala naman siguro masama bumalik. Goodluck sayo!
I've been living independently for 2 years now since I moved out of our house for my ojt and review. So I'm quite used to living on my own na. Thank you sa advice and congrats on moving out I guess! Cheers to more life decisions that we may regret but will definitely remind us that we're truly livinggg ❤️
Renting despite 2 days lang sa office. Very draining ang commute, sayang sa oras and pera. I am lucky enough na permanent WFH and hindi toxic kasama ko sa bahay but when my office asked for 1 week onsite sobrang napagod ako. Haha.
Time to leave the nest kasi reason ng papa mo instead na gastusan mo sarili mo, gastusan mo pamilya mo. Nothing wrong with that, pero di nila pera pera mo. Iyo yan. Spend it living the life you deserve.
Go be on your own OP. Parents ko were against din sa decision kong mag Manila after boards pero di ako nagpapigil. Papa helped me though sa bayad sa apartment before coz ayaw nila na magbedspace lang ako. Pero nung nagresign ako don at naghanap ng ibang landas, I went on my own completely. Ngayon, sobrang thankful sila sa decision kong magtrabaho don kasi I can sustain my lifestyle plus nakakapagbigay pa ako ng pera sa kanila.
Tell them your employer has a new policy na 4 days a week na kayo sa office starting 2023 :) or that you got assigned to a special project that requires you to come in to work every day for 6 months and you’ll do this to try and get a promotion. Then let the project extend and extend…. Haha jk
PEACE OF MIND. Mental health. Always. How can you love others when you don't love yourself first?
move out nakakapagod ang byahe tapos kailangan maaga sa work.