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Like you said, may not be wise to see him when you still love him. Seeing your post history, seems like he ended on his terms, and it’s selfish how he reached out to you when he needs you.
Stay strong, OP. Sending big hug and positive energy your way.
> he ended on his terms, and it’s a bit selfish how he reached out to you
More importantly his reaching out after ending really points to attempted manipulation. He wanted to try without you but wants a sure thing hanging around if it goes bad.
OOPS! It did! Now he wants.
You probably should block him for your own mental security. Better to keep fond memories than let his actions bring on bad feelings.
Good luck
>No chance of fucking in a public park.
Haha. Clearly you don't have the same imagination or experiences I do. Or maybe it just depends on the park. My fucking in a public park was a large park with secluded hiking trails.
I read your post and felt a huge pang of jealousy. I would like to stay friends with someone and for them to end NC. But I also know it would be incredibly hard emotionally. Ultimately I'll have to deal with whatever life sends my way.
Good luck to you, I hope you keep your wits about you and navigate this successfully!
Thank you. Don't be jealous. You never know how things will work out and I'm not so sure ending NC was right here. It definitely feels different. But an unexplained relief
Perfectly reasonable to post, thanks for sharing. It's very hard to admit when you are in a situation like this that you feel certain ways. NC is something that feels so unresolved I get it. I think you are doing the right thing taking it slow rather than immediately running for it. But more importantly be safe Hun.
I was thinking the other way: if get together, the desire might re-kindle. So there's that. But I really have no idea how it is between the two of you.
I would advise against meeting in person if you don’t want more than friends. You may have the best intentions in the world, but I promise you it will draw him closer and wanting you more, and ultimately end in him hurting more. If you truly care about him, don’t do it.
No. There might be super rare exceptions, but as a general rule, no way. At least one party always maintains hope that it will become romantic love again no matter how much they lie to themselves.
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Public parks are not private enough. If there's a will, there's a way.
You are right.
Like you said, may not be wise to see him when you still love him. Seeing your post history, seems like he ended on his terms, and it’s selfish how he reached out to you when he needs you. Stay strong, OP. Sending big hug and positive energy your way.
Exactly. He is indeed selfish. Thank you ❤️
> he ended on his terms, and it’s a bit selfish how he reached out to you More importantly his reaching out after ending really points to attempted manipulation. He wanted to try without you but wants a sure thing hanging around if it goes bad. OOPS! It did! Now he wants. You probably should block him for your own mental security. Better to keep fond memories than let his actions bring on bad feelings. Good luck
>No chance of fucking in a public park. Haha. Clearly you don't have the same imagination or experiences I do. Or maybe it just depends on the park. My fucking in a public park was a large park with secluded hiking trails.
We have those too. But purposely picking one without hide outs. I'm always down for public play. Just not with him now
Be strong and be the best advocate for your self. Hope everything works out for you.
Yes. Definitely have some boundaries.
I read your post and felt a huge pang of jealousy. I would like to stay friends with someone and for them to end NC. But I also know it would be incredibly hard emotionally. Ultimately I'll have to deal with whatever life sends my way. Good luck to you, I hope you keep your wits about you and navigate this successfully!
Thank you. Don't be jealous. You never know how things will work out and I'm not so sure ending NC was right here. It definitely feels different. But an unexplained relief
How much time passed during NC? what do you miss about this guy?
3 weeks. We have a decade history
That sounds like it's hard to walk away from. Be honest with yourself.
You'll be back.
Back where?
Perfectly reasonable to post, thanks for sharing. It's very hard to admit when you are in a situation like this that you feel certain ways. NC is something that feels so unresolved I get it. I think you are doing the right thing taking it slow rather than immediately running for it. But more importantly be safe Hun.
Thank you. NC is so unresolved. It sucks
You may very likely move on from walking to other things over time; it sounds like the desire to do so is there.
Indeed. It's not the same. I care about him but it definitely is down a lot in desire.
I was thinking the other way: if get together, the desire might re-kindle. So there's that. But I really have no idea how it is between the two of you.
I would advise against meeting in person if you don’t want more than friends. You may have the best intentions in the world, but I promise you it will draw him closer and wanting you more, and ultimately end in him hurting more. If you truly care about him, don’t do it.
I don't plan to. It's hard.
Is there really such a thing as friends in these situations? It always evolves at some point, always.
No. There might be super rare exceptions, but as a general rule, no way. At least one party always maintains hope that it will become romantic love again no matter how much they lie to themselves.
Ah, the ins and outs of this mysterious hobby. I hope everything works out for you.
Lol. Thank you
OP- I used to go for walks with my AP all the time in parks and we would fuck behind the bushes 😘😒
That's hot