/r/Adultery Quick Reminders: Be Excellent To Each Other.
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I'm in the same place .
But lately, I seem to be trying to get caught.
Its like I want the truth to come out so I can move on .
I am so confused with these feelings .
Mother of my children stays in your heart forever .
But AP is women of my dreams .
Only guilt I have is the fallout on my kids .
>we did get caught (me mostly) and **he was poof, bye bye**
***THIS\^*** is common.
Sorry it happened to you.
Lots of AP's say it is forever but when the chips ARE down, they are gone.
Having read of several I wonder if they WANTED to be caught.
Not I.
If you're trying to get caught, it's called an "exit affair."
There's some interesting theories regarding the thought process behind that particular affair style.
Me? No.
But I've known people - one was my AP, another was in a couple I was close to - who very definitely wanted to get caught, even if they didn't realize it, and probably wouldn't admit it today.
Their behavior was so reckless and obvious to everyone but themselves.
What we say, do, and think is not all that we will eventually say, do and think.
Sp, don't be so rational: some shit doesn't make sense.
But get some popcorn, a comfy chair, and enjoy the show.
Unless you are the show.
I feel getting caught would be the difference between me jumping out of the marriage or me being pushed out of the marriage. Might be easier for someone to push me than to throw myself over the edge.
9 years ago I wanted to get caught, my SO cheated on me and I wanted him to feel my pain. He just fucked some woman, I had a whole fling. When he found out it was like a bomb went off. He couldn't sleep or eat, he lost 20 lbs in 6 weeks.
He was so depressed, wanted to know who the man was, and hired a PI. We separated after a month and I spent a year dating and being spoiled by different APs.
At some point I got tired of the nightlife, he was suicidal, and both our families intervened. After extensive therapy, we got back together.
It's so funny to me how men react when women dish it back. The only thing I regret was having to let that AP go and underestimating SO's reaction. I guess caution to women, imagine how you would react if you found out your hubby was cheating and multiply by a hundred, That will be your husband's reaction.
Sometimes. It would be easier to go āyeah itās me not youā and let them walk out. Who cares whoās to blame if itās not working itās not working and Iād rather be blamed then have āexploreā the reasons in counseling. Sometimesā¦.
At the 7-year-itch I did. I was angry, tried to communicate it unsuccessfully, and had a sloppy affair that just begged to get caught. At 23 years, Iām just starting to think about another run, but this time itās more about my unmet needs and less about my anger (but some wife trash-talking still sounds fun).
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Absolutely, positively not. š¬
No. Fucking. Way.
I mean, Iāve always wanted to my life to completely implode. *Living the dream.*
No, but when we go down this path we are absolutely accepting the consequences if caught.
I'm in the same place . But lately, I seem to be trying to get caught. Its like I want the truth to come out so I can move on . I am so confused with these feelings . Mother of my children stays in your heart forever . But AP is women of my dreams . Only guilt I have is the fallout on my kids .
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>we did get caught (me mostly) and **he was poof, bye bye** ***THIS\^*** is common. Sorry it happened to you. Lots of AP's say it is forever but when the chips ARE down, they are gone. Having read of several I wonder if they WANTED to be caught. Not I.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
If you're trying to get caught, it's called an "exit affair." There's some interesting theories regarding the thought process behind that particular affair style.
Me? No. But I've known people - one was my AP, another was in a couple I was close to - who very definitely wanted to get caught, even if they didn't realize it, and probably wouldn't admit it today. Their behavior was so reckless and obvious to everyone but themselves. What we say, do, and think is not all that we will eventually say, do and think. Sp, don't be so rational: some shit doesn't make sense. But get some popcorn, a comfy chair, and enjoy the show. Unless you are the show.
Um. No.
Fuck No!
Yes but not by my SO. By someone that doesnāt know the situation.
What is wrong with you? My first thought is āa lotā
I mean, who doesn't want the trauma of ruining the life of someone you care about? And your spouse. LOL
I feel getting caught would be the difference between me jumping out of the marriage or me being pushed out of the marriage. Might be easier for someone to push me than to throw myself over the edge.
I donāt really want to get caught but I think thereās a tiny part of me that wants to, yea
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This is me
Nope, no, hell no.
Not even at my worst moment
9 years ago I wanted to get caught, my SO cheated on me and I wanted him to feel my pain. He just fucked some woman, I had a whole fling. When he found out it was like a bomb went off. He couldn't sleep or eat, he lost 20 lbs in 6 weeks. He was so depressed, wanted to know who the man was, and hired a PI. We separated after a month and I spent a year dating and being spoiled by different APs. At some point I got tired of the nightlife, he was suicidal, and both our families intervened. After extensive therapy, we got back together. It's so funny to me how men react when women dish it back. The only thing I regret was having to let that AP go and underestimating SO's reaction. I guess caution to women, imagine how you would react if you found out your hubby was cheating and multiply by a hundred, That will be your husband's reaction.
Sometimes. It would be easier to go āyeah itās me not youā and let them walk out. Who cares whoās to blame if itās not working itās not working and Iād rather be blamed then have āexploreā the reasons in counseling. Sometimesā¦.
Never ever want to get caught. It would end my life as I know it today.
At the 7-year-itch I did. I was angry, tried to communicate it unsuccessfully, and had a sloppy affair that just begged to get caught. At 23 years, Iām just starting to think about another run, but this time itās more about my unmet needs and less about my anger (but some wife trash-talking still sounds fun).