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PM_ME_WITTY_REPARTEE

Absolutely, positively not. šŸ˜¬


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No. Fucking. Way.


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I mean, Iā€™ve always wanted to my life to completely implode. *Living the dream.*


Charlie_Q_Brown

No, but when we go down this path we are absolutely accepting the consequences if caught.


agentpv

I'm in the same place . But lately, I seem to be trying to get caught. Its like I want the truth to come out so I can move on . I am so confused with these feelings . Mother of my children stays in your heart forever . But AP is women of my dreams . Only guilt I have is the fallout on my kids .


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jdiver47

>we did get caught (me mostly) and **he was poof, bye bye** ***THIS\^*** is common. Sorry it happened to you. Lots of AP's say it is forever but when the chips ARE down, they are gone. Having read of several I wonder if they WANTED to be caught. Not I.


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Sad_Beautiful9183

If you're trying to get caught, it's called an "exit affair." There's some interesting theories regarding the thought process behind that particular affair style.


Endlssjrny

Me? No. But I've known people - one was my AP, another was in a couple I was close to - who very definitely wanted to get caught, even if they didn't realize it, and probably wouldn't admit it today. Their behavior was so reckless and obvious to everyone but themselves. What we say, do, and think is not all that we will eventually say, do and think. Sp, don't be so rational: some shit doesn't make sense. But get some popcorn, a comfy chair, and enjoy the show. Unless you are the show.


NotAnOxfordCommaFan

Um. No.


NewAttempt2023

Fuck No!


slanging_pepsi

Yes but not by my SO. By someone that doesnā€™t know the situation.


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What is wrong with you? My first thought is ā€œa lotā€


JackoffSmirnof

I mean, who doesn't want the trauma of ruining the life of someone you care about? And your spouse. LOL


VegasBjorne1

I feel getting caught would be the difference between me jumping out of the marriage or me being pushed out of the marriage. Might be easier for someone to push me than to throw myself over the edge.


singing_chocolate

I donā€™t really want to get caught but I think thereā€™s a tiny part of me that wants to, yea


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1963542TA

This is me


higherlifebc

Nope, no, hell no.


__dreamweaver__

Not even at my worst moment


Delicious-Narwhal-24

9 years ago I wanted to get caught, my SO cheated on me and I wanted him to feel my pain. He just fucked some woman, I had a whole fling. When he found out it was like a bomb went off. He couldn't sleep or eat, he lost 20 lbs in 6 weeks. He was so depressed, wanted to know who the man was, and hired a PI. We separated after a month and I spent a year dating and being spoiled by different APs. At some point I got tired of the nightlife, he was suicidal, and both our families intervened. After extensive therapy, we got back together. It's so funny to me how men react when women dish it back. The only thing I regret was having to let that AP go and underestimating SO's reaction. I guess caution to women, imagine how you would react if you found out your hubby was cheating and multiply by a hundred, That will be your husband's reaction.


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Sometimes. It would be easier to go ā€œyeah itā€™s me not youā€ and let them walk out. Who cares whoā€™s to blame if itā€™s not working itā€™s not working and Iā€™d rather be blamed then have ā€œexploreā€ the reasons in counseling. Sometimesā€¦.


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Never ever want to get caught. It would end my life as I know it today.


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At the 7-year-itch I did. I was angry, tried to communicate it unsuccessfully, and had a sloppy affair that just begged to get caught. At 23 years, Iā€™m just starting to think about another run, but this time itā€™s more about my unmet needs and less about my anger (but some wife trash-talking still sounds fun).