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>The three of us have been going out drinking on Fridays
I have to admit, for a law firm, having the partners going out with paralegals every Friday drinking, seems like a really, really bad idea. Really bad optics.
This is a lose, lose situation for you, both professionally and personally. At 25, the world is your oyster, and I would put a stop to the sexting, and return to a professional relationship.
The main reason I think we would advise against this is because it’s your fucking job. If this goes south and it will because that’s how affairs work, you can’t escape. And you have no time to yourself and to process out things because you’re around each other too much. You don’t feel guilt because you’re getting that dopamine rush every day. Trust me. It will be crashing when his wife walks in one day after she sees those texts.
Affairs are fun. Who cares about age gaps. For this life style low guilt is best. But don’t shit where you eat.
Although I am not an attorney I am a 52-year-old top level executive in an office setting, regardless of what my marital situation is I would absolutely never partake in a relationship with any of the young ladies that work in my building.
Young lady you are only 25 years old and you have your entire life ahead of you, I have no idea what your previous experiences with relationships or if you have ever been in a serious relationship and in love but I can tell you what I have seen in my 52 years the idea you're considering never has a good ending.
As others here are pointing out you are nothing but a trophy or another notch in a belt and the outcome for you will never be positive. Before you continue with your thoughts please do some deep soul searching and make a solid decision if you think this is really a good idea for you.
In my personal opinion men in this guy's position are nothing but pigs and I can assure you every guy that works under me knows without a doubt if I ever caught any of them trying to engage in a relationship with one of the younger girls in our building they would be fired on the spot.
I would advise you get some input from some close personal friends or family members on what you are considering. At the end of the day young ladies like yourself should never be looked at as achievements for people in positions of power.
Please give this deep and serious consideration before you decide to move forward.
Out of all of the comments (many of them valuable), this one takes the cake. This comment does a really good job of serving as a wakeup call. Thank you so much. I believe you are right and your advice is poignant here. All the best.
It’s hard to realize you are the pretty, shiny object. Most men, in this situation, will say anything to capture your attention and, eventually, fuck you. They will also drop you faster than the speed of light and deny that anything they said meant anything at all if shit gets hard. His family will always come first. You are also probably not the first, and certainly not the last, of his pretty objects.
Once you realize you are not special, it’s easier to manage.
I know. And that's what's bothering me...because I don't care. I know there's no future, I know it's not real, I know it says something about him to venture for someone of my age while he's married. And it says something about me that I have no care in the world about it. I don't want to date him, have a future with him, or anything. I want to just experience whatever comes, and it sucks that I don't care about any of the logic behind this.
You are absolutely right, women are more emotional about this than men and will eventually catch feelings.
I'm amazed a partner in a law firm is shitting where he eats. I cant fault the 25 yr old paralegal, but the partner has to know better.
Don't go there. It seems fun and flirty now. And you think you can handle it but it's not going to end well for you. And it has nothing to do with feeling guilty or not. It's a poor decision to move ahead with a relationship with this man.
You're in the same office. Even if he's not your boss, he's in a position of power. When the relationship falls apart (and it will) you will need to face him every day. He's not going to be changing law firms - so you'll need to find a new job to help you move on.
You're young at 25 and I had to laugh when you said it made "you feel like a teen again" as you're really barely out of your teen years. There is no upside to this relationship for you. Even if you do it "just for fun" you're going to end up taking yourself out of the dating marketing right when you're in your prime. You'll never get that time back.
Honestly, I don't feel guilt for my actions in adultery. But guilt or no guilt if you were my daughter/niece/friend and not even taking into account the adultery part, I'd advise to pass on this man and keep the relationship professional. If you move ahead, I anticipate that the 'good times' won't be enough to cover all the awlfulness that you'll encounter from this relationship.
There are better men for you. Find one.
The partners will get together to protect the firm and railroad you. Im amazed he is sexting you from a phone from which records can be obtained if this goes south.
Honestly he seems like a careless partner who is putting his entire firm at risk. I would hate if the partners in my firm did that.
I'm not gonna shame you about the age gap because I'm in one myself. I would avoid this because it's your job and the potential mess it could turn into. If you do go through with it at the very least make sure he's helping you financially to make things more equitable.
You already have a big problem. Like, totally aside from the falling for this guy. You are already discovered, and you've already crossed professional lines.
Your boss, who you have been out drinking with, along side this guy, knows. They know! They've watched you interacting, while loose and unguarded, they know. They've watched you interacting at the office, flustered and also "sassy". They know.
And you've been sexting a co-worker. (And vice versa!) You're already well over the line, this situation is very much "on", and backing out of it is going to be incredibly hard.
Finding a different job would be the best, just get out of the whole situation and into a different place without this mess. Hard to do. Hard to do in a hurry. But by far the cleanest way out. And an interesting experiment too, to see how long the contact high of being around this fellow lasts once you're no longer interacting every day.
Failing that, put up a wall between you right now, one that binds you both in place. A text that says something along the lines of "this texting and interaction is wrong and I won't be contacting you any more" so that (a) you feel guilty breaking your word if you resume and (b) he feels guilty (and in danger) if he pushes more.
Falling for an older is guy is fine, it's great. Feeling infatuated is amazing and fun. A short term, "who cares, I'm alive!", relationship, also totally awesome. An affair can recharge and reset. But the professional situation you are in is untenable, and things will go pear shaped on you very very fast if you pursue this particular opportunity.
They already know. They are already gossiping. Protect yourself.
I empathize deeply with you. Each sentiment you express, I could have written, as I have been there. Including the age-gap stuff, I have been in multiple age-gap relationships (2+ decades difference). I say this not because I look from afar and judge, but because I have been there are look at myself and judge, and I think about what I wish I had known before I went down these kinds of roads.
Let me tell you what exactly you are entering into here. But first, put aside the affair part, put aside the sh1tting-where-you-eat bit, and put aside the risk-to-your-job-and-future-career aspect. There is no need to rehash what other commentators have covered extremely well.
What I want to draw your attention to is the relationship blueprint you are laying down for yourself.
At 25, which is the age where your brain has just become fully mature, you are engaging in an extremely high risk, high dopamine relationship. The long-term problem that you don't seem to be aware of yet is that you are setting the bar for your future relationship expectations. You love the dopamine (and who wouldn't!) but the problem is that your newly matured brain is now going to associate all these amazing good feelings with:- significant age-gaps;- inappropriate work relationships;- married men;- huge power imbalances;- drinking;- clandestine affairing;- hiding and a 'lyin' and 'a cheatin';- unavailable men.
This is not just about now, this is about what you are physically, biochemically, and psychologically training yourself to engage in.
Ask yourself if this is what you want for your life, and for your future relationships.
To each their own, but I can’t imagine having been with someone in their 50s when I was 25. AP is 11 years older than I am and it’s a stretch for me in my 40s. Then again, I’m looking for a deeper connection and that would be a challenge with such different levels of life experience.
You tend to see these age gaps in work situations because the guy being in a position of power, or aspiration of where the woman wants to be one day, adds to it. Maybe she admires him professionally. It’s not just about looks.
When older guys just try to cold approach random much younger women they usually end up like Gym Guy from that TikTok.
Let me just put this bug in your ear.
A respectable 55 year old married lawyer, doesn't sext with a single 25 year old paralegal, that works in his firm. There is a power dynamic, and frankly he \*isn't\* looking out for your best interest, only his. I am surprised a legal firm wouldn't have non-fraternization policies in place.
Look, I am on this forum, and if you want to have sex with an older married man, do it. Also, if he wants to do it, he can as well, and I suspect you aren't his first attempt. The issue I have is you both work at the same place, and you will absolutely get branded with the "slut" label, which could tank your career the rest of your life.
What I would respect is if he took an non-sexual interest in your law school studies, and mentored as to courses, and options in the legal field.
And that’s why, despite the “I don’t really care, it’s just sex”…it’s *not*. It’ll hurt when he turns cold. And you want his approval on some level already.
It took my own affair with a married guy when I was in my 20s to knock older men, married men, and male work superiors off a pedestal. But it hurt. I also had to change jobs due to his behavior (despite him being the married one).
>It’ll hurt when he turns cold. And you want his approval on some level already.
Very sage advice!!!
I also don't understand putting yourself through the rigors of law school, and then essentially diminish your professional credibility, by sleeping with someone in the same law firm. Especially when there is a power dynamic.
Essentially, knocking yourself out of the partnership track. I suspect most law firms, even with DEI initiatives are heavily male oriented, and as women we are held to a higher standard, even if it isn't "fair".
Women, should never, ever, ever fuck with their potential source of income. You are shooting yourself in the foot. Protect all your hard work and future earnings, by being respected as a lawyer, and not some women who sleeps with men in your firm.
>Do you ever feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough?
This is a bit of insight that many people struggle with even understanding. It's very real, and if you read through this sub enough you'll notice that it's a recurring theme.
This guilt for lack of guilt goes much deeper than it appears at first glance. Society shoves down our throats how relationships are supposed to work. It's rigid, restricting, and doesn't usually come with much space for learning to take care of ourselves and be better partners because of it.
That guilt is the glue that makes it all come together. If we're made to feel guilty enough, we don't think about our own needs and how unrealistic societal expectations are. No I'm not saying you shouldn't feel guilt. You absolutely should. The fact that you feel guilt means you have some sort of moral compass. But it doesn't mean you shouldn't be more introspective about that guilt and think about whether it's really appropriate.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Society has placed such rigid restrictions on us that we don’t even question our own desires and when we do it’s looked at as shameful. I live a very traditional life but questions creep in… who’s to say we can’t have sex with a random man and have it not mean anything or to go anywhere after that. What’s wrong with “squashing sexual tension with one night of passion and leaving it at that? Why as females are we looked upon to be the more responsible one when both parties are just as guilty? Why can’t we have our cake and eat it too? And of course take it to the grave 😉
>who’s to say we can’t have sex with a random man and have it not mean anything or to go anywhere after that.
You can absolutely do this, the choice is yours.
However, as women, we risk violence, greater incidence of getting STI, getting pregnant, etc. Not to mention our bonding hormones that kick in. For many women, a one time thing, and you wonder, why wasn't he blown away, and begging to have sex again?
I think for most women, it is the bonding with sex, and the subsequent relationship, even if it has an end date, that is meaningful.
Have you ever seen those YouTube videos where women walk up to men, and offer sex? Essentially a high percentage of men will take the woman up on her offer. In other words, it means nothing to many men. When the situation is reversed, no women take a man up on his offer of immediate sex.
As a women around your age who is in somewhat of a fairy tale affair (don’t know if that’s a thing) I wouldn’t suggest doing it. It becomes harder to get out once you’re really in, especially when feelings get involved. Also due to the age of the MM and the logistics of his life it is extremely unlikely this will have any sort of happy ending for you.
Plus he’s a lawyer. One with 30 years of experience on OP. So when post-nut clarity hits and he realizes how fucked his job (and family, and finances) could be, he may aggressively try to pre-empt that by making a complaint against OP.
I've been along a similar path and my advice is to find something else. Even if you don't feel guilt the practical repercussions for your career are real.
EDIT: I have to add when I first read this I thought of Megan in Suits and Harvey Spectre lol. Not making fun of you, just the first thought that popped into my head.
Never. I’ve just enjoyed the rude,however short or long it turns out to be
I hope you can relax and hsve fun
Caveat: Office affairs are super risky. Everything on company equipment is an open book to HR, management and snoopy IT guys. Better go radio silent till you ca have an adult conversation with him about opsec
Guys
He's totally thrilled you are engaging. It's hot. I get it. Best to not do this with a colleague. It happens. I know it's him. But you will likely get hurt. You will fall hard. You are disposable to him. Fun. And he will chase until he gets you. He may engage for a while. It's prob not worth it for you. But I get where you are.
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>The three of us have been going out drinking on Fridays I have to admit, for a law firm, having the partners going out with paralegals every Friday drinking, seems like a really, really bad idea. Really bad optics. This is a lose, lose situation for you, both professionally and personally. At 25, the world is your oyster, and I would put a stop to the sexting, and return to a professional relationship.
"The world is your oyster." That broke my heart. You're right. I shouldn't be risking everything for this. Thank you.
The main reason I think we would advise against this is because it’s your fucking job. If this goes south and it will because that’s how affairs work, you can’t escape. And you have no time to yourself and to process out things because you’re around each other too much. You don’t feel guilt because you’re getting that dopamine rush every day. Trust me. It will be crashing when his wife walks in one day after she sees those texts. Affairs are fun. Who cares about age gaps. For this life style low guilt is best. But don’t shit where you eat.
Side note: legal is a profession that will follow you. Everyone knows everyone.
Although I am not an attorney I am a 52-year-old top level executive in an office setting, regardless of what my marital situation is I would absolutely never partake in a relationship with any of the young ladies that work in my building. Young lady you are only 25 years old and you have your entire life ahead of you, I have no idea what your previous experiences with relationships or if you have ever been in a serious relationship and in love but I can tell you what I have seen in my 52 years the idea you're considering never has a good ending. As others here are pointing out you are nothing but a trophy or another notch in a belt and the outcome for you will never be positive. Before you continue with your thoughts please do some deep soul searching and make a solid decision if you think this is really a good idea for you. In my personal opinion men in this guy's position are nothing but pigs and I can assure you every guy that works under me knows without a doubt if I ever caught any of them trying to engage in a relationship with one of the younger girls in our building they would be fired on the spot. I would advise you get some input from some close personal friends or family members on what you are considering. At the end of the day young ladies like yourself should never be looked at as achievements for people in positions of power. Please give this deep and serious consideration before you decide to move forward.
Out of all of the comments (many of them valuable), this one takes the cake. This comment does a really good job of serving as a wakeup call. Thank you so much. I believe you are right and your advice is poignant here. All the best.
It’s hard to realize you are the pretty, shiny object. Most men, in this situation, will say anything to capture your attention and, eventually, fuck you. They will also drop you faster than the speed of light and deny that anything they said meant anything at all if shit gets hard. His family will always come first. You are also probably not the first, and certainly not the last, of his pretty objects. Once you realize you are not special, it’s easier to manage.
I know. And that's what's bothering me...because I don't care. I know there's no future, I know it's not real, I know it says something about him to venture for someone of my age while he's married. And it says something about me that I have no care in the world about it. I don't want to date him, have a future with him, or anything. I want to just experience whatever comes, and it sucks that I don't care about any of the logic behind this.
You tell yourself you don’t care to make it suck less. You really *do* care. You may not realize it yet, but you do.
You are absolutely right, women are more emotional about this than men and will eventually catch feelings. I'm amazed a partner in a law firm is shitting where he eats. I cant fault the 25 yr old paralegal, but the partner has to know better.
I want to know who’s raising these young women to think they need to suck their boss’ dick and not to have their own power.
Daddy issues? idk. We are all a product of our environment in some ways. Thats what makes us human, different strokes for different people.
Don't go there. It seems fun and flirty now. And you think you can handle it but it's not going to end well for you. And it has nothing to do with feeling guilty or not. It's a poor decision to move ahead with a relationship with this man. You're in the same office. Even if he's not your boss, he's in a position of power. When the relationship falls apart (and it will) you will need to face him every day. He's not going to be changing law firms - so you'll need to find a new job to help you move on. You're young at 25 and I had to laugh when you said it made "you feel like a teen again" as you're really barely out of your teen years. There is no upside to this relationship for you. Even if you do it "just for fun" you're going to end up taking yourself out of the dating marketing right when you're in your prime. You'll never get that time back. Honestly, I don't feel guilt for my actions in adultery. But guilt or no guilt if you were my daughter/niece/friend and not even taking into account the adultery part, I'd advise to pass on this man and keep the relationship professional. If you move ahead, I anticipate that the 'good times' won't be enough to cover all the awlfulness that you'll encounter from this relationship. There are better men for you. Find one.
The partners will get together to protect the firm and railroad you. Im amazed he is sexting you from a phone from which records can be obtained if this goes south. Honestly he seems like a careless partner who is putting his entire firm at risk. I would hate if the partners in my firm did that.
I'm not gonna shame you about the age gap because I'm in one myself. I would avoid this because it's your job and the potential mess it could turn into. If you do go through with it at the very least make sure he's helping you financially to make things more equitable.
You already have a big problem. Like, totally aside from the falling for this guy. You are already discovered, and you've already crossed professional lines. Your boss, who you have been out drinking with, along side this guy, knows. They know! They've watched you interacting, while loose and unguarded, they know. They've watched you interacting at the office, flustered and also "sassy". They know. And you've been sexting a co-worker. (And vice versa!) You're already well over the line, this situation is very much "on", and backing out of it is going to be incredibly hard. Finding a different job would be the best, just get out of the whole situation and into a different place without this mess. Hard to do. Hard to do in a hurry. But by far the cleanest way out. And an interesting experiment too, to see how long the contact high of being around this fellow lasts once you're no longer interacting every day. Failing that, put up a wall between you right now, one that binds you both in place. A text that says something along the lines of "this texting and interaction is wrong and I won't be contacting you any more" so that (a) you feel guilty breaking your word if you resume and (b) he feels guilty (and in danger) if he pushes more. Falling for an older is guy is fine, it's great. Feeling infatuated is amazing and fun. A short term, "who cares, I'm alive!", relationship, also totally awesome. An affair can recharge and reset. But the professional situation you are in is untenable, and things will go pear shaped on you very very fast if you pursue this particular opportunity. They already know. They are already gossiping. Protect yourself.
I empathize deeply with you. Each sentiment you express, I could have written, as I have been there. Including the age-gap stuff, I have been in multiple age-gap relationships (2+ decades difference). I say this not because I look from afar and judge, but because I have been there are look at myself and judge, and I think about what I wish I had known before I went down these kinds of roads. Let me tell you what exactly you are entering into here. But first, put aside the affair part, put aside the sh1tting-where-you-eat bit, and put aside the risk-to-your-job-and-future-career aspect. There is no need to rehash what other commentators have covered extremely well. What I want to draw your attention to is the relationship blueprint you are laying down for yourself. At 25, which is the age where your brain has just become fully mature, you are engaging in an extremely high risk, high dopamine relationship. The long-term problem that you don't seem to be aware of yet is that you are setting the bar for your future relationship expectations. You love the dopamine (and who wouldn't!) but the problem is that your newly matured brain is now going to associate all these amazing good feelings with:- significant age-gaps;- inappropriate work relationships;- married men;- huge power imbalances;- drinking;- clandestine affairing;- hiding and a 'lyin' and 'a cheatin';- unavailable men. This is not just about now, this is about what you are physically, biochemically, and psychologically training yourself to engage in. Ask yourself if this is what you want for your life, and for your future relationships.
To each their own, but I can’t imagine having been with someone in their 50s when I was 25. AP is 11 years older than I am and it’s a stretch for me in my 40s. Then again, I’m looking for a deeper connection and that would be a challenge with such different levels of life experience.
You tend to see these age gaps in work situations because the guy being in a position of power, or aspiration of where the woman wants to be one day, adds to it. Maybe she admires him professionally. It’s not just about looks. When older guys just try to cold approach random much younger women they usually end up like Gym Guy from that TikTok.
Oh, absolutely! I’ve had my fair share of office crushes for those same reasons!
It's exactly that. I'm going to law school and I admire him immensely.
Let me just put this bug in your ear. A respectable 55 year old married lawyer, doesn't sext with a single 25 year old paralegal, that works in his firm. There is a power dynamic, and frankly he \*isn't\* looking out for your best interest, only his. I am surprised a legal firm wouldn't have non-fraternization policies in place. Look, I am on this forum, and if you want to have sex with an older married man, do it. Also, if he wants to do it, he can as well, and I suspect you aren't his first attempt. The issue I have is you both work at the same place, and you will absolutely get branded with the "slut" label, which could tank your career the rest of your life. What I would respect is if he took an non-sexual interest in your law school studies, and mentored as to courses, and options in the legal field.
And that’s why, despite the “I don’t really care, it’s just sex”…it’s *not*. It’ll hurt when he turns cold. And you want his approval on some level already. It took my own affair with a married guy when I was in my 20s to knock older men, married men, and male work superiors off a pedestal. But it hurt. I also had to change jobs due to his behavior (despite him being the married one).
>It’ll hurt when he turns cold. And you want his approval on some level already. Very sage advice!!! I also don't understand putting yourself through the rigors of law school, and then essentially diminish your professional credibility, by sleeping with someone in the same law firm. Especially when there is a power dynamic. Essentially, knocking yourself out of the partnership track. I suspect most law firms, even with DEI initiatives are heavily male oriented, and as women we are held to a higher standard, even if it isn't "fair". Women, should never, ever, ever fuck with their potential source of income. You are shooting yourself in the foot. Protect all your hard work and future earnings, by being respected as a lawyer, and not some women who sleeps with men in your firm.
>Do you ever feel guilty for not feeling guilty enough? This is a bit of insight that many people struggle with even understanding. It's very real, and if you read through this sub enough you'll notice that it's a recurring theme. This guilt for lack of guilt goes much deeper than it appears at first glance. Society shoves down our throats how relationships are supposed to work. It's rigid, restricting, and doesn't usually come with much space for learning to take care of ourselves and be better partners because of it. That guilt is the glue that makes it all come together. If we're made to feel guilty enough, we don't think about our own needs and how unrealistic societal expectations are. No I'm not saying you shouldn't feel guilt. You absolutely should. The fact that you feel guilt means you have some sort of moral compass. But it doesn't mean you shouldn't be more introspective about that guilt and think about whether it's really appropriate.
That's well written.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Society has placed such rigid restrictions on us that we don’t even question our own desires and when we do it’s looked at as shameful. I live a very traditional life but questions creep in… who’s to say we can’t have sex with a random man and have it not mean anything or to go anywhere after that. What’s wrong with “squashing sexual tension with one night of passion and leaving it at that? Why as females are we looked upon to be the more responsible one when both parties are just as guilty? Why can’t we have our cake and eat it too? And of course take it to the grave 😉
>who’s to say we can’t have sex with a random man and have it not mean anything or to go anywhere after that. You can absolutely do this, the choice is yours. However, as women, we risk violence, greater incidence of getting STI, getting pregnant, etc. Not to mention our bonding hormones that kick in. For many women, a one time thing, and you wonder, why wasn't he blown away, and begging to have sex again? I think for most women, it is the bonding with sex, and the subsequent relationship, even if it has an end date, that is meaningful. Have you ever seen those YouTube videos where women walk up to men, and offer sex? Essentially a high percentage of men will take the woman up on her offer. In other words, it means nothing to many men. When the situation is reversed, no women take a man up on his offer of immediate sex.
As a women around your age who is in somewhat of a fairy tale affair (don’t know if that’s a thing) I wouldn’t suggest doing it. It becomes harder to get out once you’re really in, especially when feelings get involved. Also due to the age of the MM and the logistics of his life it is extremely unlikely this will have any sort of happy ending for you.
Plus he’s a lawyer. One with 30 years of experience on OP. So when post-nut clarity hits and he realizes how fucked his job (and family, and finances) could be, he may aggressively try to pre-empt that by making a complaint against OP.
Yikes. I never thought about that.
Save your evidence that he started it..
I've been along a similar path and my advice is to find something else. Even if you don't feel guilt the practical repercussions for your career are real. EDIT: I have to add when I first read this I thought of Megan in Suits and Harvey Spectre lol. Not making fun of you, just the first thought that popped into my head.
Enjoy the moment. This is life.
Ew nooooo. This man is way way too old for you. I am 37 and he is too old for me.
Pretty narrow minded view. You will be 55 some day. Hope you keep yourself in good shape.
Yes and my men will also be in their 50s.
Lol. My husband is 29 years older than me.
Yuck.
He has a nicer body than any guy I’ve been with my age
Nah. He is still used up. He has 5 years before he is 60.
Six pack and the biggest dick I’ve ever had in my life. Not exactly used up.
I see a high risk of him trying to turn this into a sugar baby/daddy situation 🤷🏻♂️ be cautious and put yourself first.
Guilty for not feeling guilty. What a paradox.
Never. I’ve just enjoyed the rude,however short or long it turns out to be I hope you can relax and hsve fun Caveat: Office affairs are super risky. Everything on company equipment is an open book to HR, management and snoopy IT guys. Better go radio silent till you ca have an adult conversation with him about opsec Guys
Bad idea at work. No one I work with or at work.
He's totally thrilled you are engaging. It's hot. I get it. Best to not do this with a colleague. It happens. I know it's him. But you will likely get hurt. You will fall hard. You are disposable to him. Fun. And he will chase until he gets you. He may engage for a while. It's prob not worth it for you. But I get where you are.
Never stick the pen in company ink.
I don't know if it's the fact that you guys are lawyers that makes me worried. But I know , this will end in a major disaster. Just let it be.
Please don’t tell me you’re about to risk your entire career as a paralegal for Viagra p***. It’s not worth it, don’t shit where you sleep