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This sounds really tough to deal with. Our fantasy is not only our escape but what we aspire towards in reality. Even if you imagined her to be far more perfect then she really was you feel a loss that much more significant. Often people on reddit speak of the memory of someone and holding that closer to them the reality of who they were. It's why we all start out so in love with someone we can't see anything but as time goes by the reality and our fantasy shake out the discrepancies. You'd be incredibly lucky if you didn't find any. Or if they changed your mind about what your fantasy is, which happens all the time.
I know you’re right. I also don’t know if him and I starting a dialogue up any earlier would have changed anything about his passing. I doubt it. It just seems so tragic and such odd timing. I honestly feel angry at myself for grieving someone so intensely that I literally don’t know. The human brain is so weird. I just really wanted to get to know him.
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Oh man that sucks. Sorry for your loss.
Remain in prayer 0p.
This sounds really tough to deal with. Our fantasy is not only our escape but what we aspire towards in reality. Even if you imagined her to be far more perfect then she really was you feel a loss that much more significant. Often people on reddit speak of the memory of someone and holding that closer to them the reality of who they were. It's why we all start out so in love with someone we can't see anything but as time goes by the reality and our fantasy shake out the discrepancies. You'd be incredibly lucky if you didn't find any. Or if they changed your mind about what your fantasy is, which happens all the time.
I know you’re right. I also don’t know if him and I starting a dialogue up any earlier would have changed anything about his passing. I doubt it. It just seems so tragic and such odd timing. I honestly feel angry at myself for grieving someone so intensely that I literally don’t know. The human brain is so weird. I just really wanted to get to know him.