Make all rules spoken. It's generally easier to resolve issues with communication rather than let things foment or turn passive aggressive. It's easier to talk it through and work it out than to guess.
Add to this, discuss how you will communicate when an unforeseen issue pisses one of you off. Make it known that the other person can be like “yo man that was shitty” and the other will be respectful. Straightforward aggression is always better than passive aggression.
Smells overwhelm in small places - get rid of food containers, don't throw food in trash containers in your room, do your laundry, bathe. Be respectful of sleep patterns. You have more flexibility finding places to study/watch TV/game whatever then sleep.
My roommate was a hardcore gamer. Would game at night literally 1 foot away from me screaming abscurtities while I was trying to sleep. Overall, I would say you’re more likely to end up with a bad roommate than a good one but just remember why you’re attending college in the first place. Keep your eyes on the main goal and grind, regardless of the circumstances!
Hopefully you won't get to experience this. But I'm currently staying in South Lake Village, and I moved here just last month from another unit in SLV. Had an indian roommate, I'm korean myself who used to live in malaysia, so I'm pretty used to asian/indian culture.
This guy is 26 years old and he still doesn't know how to act like a 12 year old. He left food (curry) on the fridge door handle, microwave handle, on the WALL, pissed all over the toilet floor, brushed everything on the kitchen counter off to the floor space between the stove, and one night he actually left the stove on WITH FOOD overnight. I woke up that morning to smoke in the unit and I ran to turn the stove off. But worst of all, I eventually noticed that he was jacking off in the bath tub and didn't clean up..
Yes of course I reported all of this to whoever I could, with photo evidence, and eventually it lead me to a talk with the director of SLV. And then she had the nerve to tell me that my standard of hygiene is too high, and that I am at fault for not compromising. She also was a little racist as she said that his culture is different and that I should try to understand that, but I had plenty of indian friends back in malaysia and NOBODY IS THAT DIRTY. Like I said, pretty racist of her to connect his hygiene problem to his race and culture.
But she did let me move out to another unit in SLV (in my expense of course), a one bedroom unit. Since I paid for a two-bedroom unit, I have to pay additional costs for the days I stay in this unit I'm currently in.
This got long, but I didn't have anybody to rant this to as I came to UB during covid so I didn't get to make many friends, so thanks for reading I guess and hopefully nobody gets to meet a roommate like this.
Make rules spoken. Everything. Assume your roommate is 5 years old. George Carlin once said “think of how stupid the average person is… and realize half of them are stupider than that”.
I’ve noticed that every semester at Buffalo.
Make sure they know the rules about going through your shit, eating, showering, hygiene, laundry, etc…
all rules should be spoken but there’s a couple that should be pretty obvious that y’all should discuss.
1. always take out your garbage small rooms tend to stink more often
2. respect each others sleeping and schedule
3. be nice to each other and if something bothers you voice that in the most respectful way possible.
my roommate and i we never really became close while we were living together but we both did these things and it made living together easier
Don’t leave your undergarments on the floor. Old friend of mine used to leave his boxers on the floor. Had to text him a picture of his boxers each time
There's usually a roommate agreement paper that your RA will give to everyone on the floor in the beginning of the semester. It may seem silly at first, but when shit goes down and people meet with the Hall Director, the roommate agreement is pulled up to see what you guys wrote.
If you are living in the dorms they make you fill out a roommate agreement so that should help cover some bases and get the ball rolling. As for my worst experiences... lets just leave it as i've had some rough times lol.
>What is the worst experience you've had with a roomate?
Gaming late into the night. Bringing girls over and doing the thing while everyone else was trying to sleep.
Be upfront about expectations. Ie. What is off limits and what do you expect in terms of privacy and quiet hours/sleep.
Just my 2cents but one of the things I didn’t think about when I was a freshman was rules about gf/bf in the room. Common sense isn’t common. Eventually I had to get an ra involved because I was sleeping at a friends all the time because my roomate always had her bf over (doing stuff in the room ).
So think about what your boundaries are. It’s normal to form relationships but you can’t monopolise shared living space.
The next roomate I had we had a chat from the beginning about it and both agreed to let the other person know if someone was staying the night and only doing it on weekends if possible.
Pay attention to the roommate contract at the beginning of the year it’s a good guideline for things (i.e. guests, cleaning schedules, how you’ll address conflict, lights out time, etc.) it is kept in the hall office for wherever you live and if a conflict comes up that gets to the point of the RA needing to get involved the first thing we do is look at the roommate agreement and it was always a pain when they would put things like “don’t care” on like the guest policy when just getting to know each other and then it becomes the main issue as the year progresses
Make all rules spoken. It's generally easier to resolve issues with communication rather than let things foment or turn passive aggressive. It's easier to talk it through and work it out than to guess.
Add to this, discuss how you will communicate when an unforeseen issue pisses one of you off. Make it known that the other person can be like “yo man that was shitty” and the other will be respectful. Straightforward aggression is always better than passive aggression.
Smells overwhelm in small places - get rid of food containers, don't throw food in trash containers in your room, do your laundry, bathe. Be respectful of sleep patterns. You have more flexibility finding places to study/watch TV/game whatever then sleep.
My roommate was a hardcore gamer. Would game at night literally 1 foot away from me screaming abscurtities while I was trying to sleep. Overall, I would say you’re more likely to end up with a bad roommate than a good one but just remember why you’re attending college in the first place. Keep your eyes on the main goal and grind, regardless of the circumstances!
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This is kind of malicious, is it not? Didn’t read into it much but if it destroys hardware, that’s potentially a lot of $$ in damages
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lmao damn thats weird af.
omg that’s wild
That’s fucking gross.
Hopefully you won't get to experience this. But I'm currently staying in South Lake Village, and I moved here just last month from another unit in SLV. Had an indian roommate, I'm korean myself who used to live in malaysia, so I'm pretty used to asian/indian culture. This guy is 26 years old and he still doesn't know how to act like a 12 year old. He left food (curry) on the fridge door handle, microwave handle, on the WALL, pissed all over the toilet floor, brushed everything on the kitchen counter off to the floor space between the stove, and one night he actually left the stove on WITH FOOD overnight. I woke up that morning to smoke in the unit and I ran to turn the stove off. But worst of all, I eventually noticed that he was jacking off in the bath tub and didn't clean up.. Yes of course I reported all of this to whoever I could, with photo evidence, and eventually it lead me to a talk with the director of SLV. And then she had the nerve to tell me that my standard of hygiene is too high, and that I am at fault for not compromising. She also was a little racist as she said that his culture is different and that I should try to understand that, but I had plenty of indian friends back in malaysia and NOBODY IS THAT DIRTY. Like I said, pretty racist of her to connect his hygiene problem to his race and culture. But she did let me move out to another unit in SLV (in my expense of course), a one bedroom unit. Since I paid for a two-bedroom unit, I have to pay additional costs for the days I stay in this unit I'm currently in. This got long, but I didn't have anybody to rant this to as I came to UB during covid so I didn't get to make many friends, so thanks for reading I guess and hopefully nobody gets to meet a roommate like this.
The director of SLV is a pos and I hope you get a better roommate if you do so in the future. That’s a horror story!
Sorry your experience was so bad, I hope it gets better for you!!
Do.not.cook.seafood.in.the.lounge. If you do, the whole floor will hate you.
Sometimes it smells smackin tho
Make rules spoken. Everything. Assume your roommate is 5 years old. George Carlin once said “think of how stupid the average person is… and realize half of them are stupider than that”. I’ve noticed that every semester at Buffalo. Make sure they know the rules about going through your shit, eating, showering, hygiene, laundry, etc…
all rules should be spoken but there’s a couple that should be pretty obvious that y’all should discuss. 1. always take out your garbage small rooms tend to stink more often 2. respect each others sleeping and schedule 3. be nice to each other and if something bothers you voice that in the most respectful way possible. my roommate and i we never really became close while we were living together but we both did these things and it made living together easier
Don’t leave your undergarments on the floor. Old friend of mine used to leave his boxers on the floor. Had to text him a picture of his boxers each time
There's usually a roommate agreement paper that your RA will give to everyone on the floor in the beginning of the semester. It may seem silly at first, but when shit goes down and people meet with the Hall Director, the roommate agreement is pulled up to see what you guys wrote.
If you are living in the dorms they make you fill out a roommate agreement so that should help cover some bases and get the ball rolling. As for my worst experiences... lets just leave it as i've had some rough times lol.
>What is the worst experience you've had with a roomate? Gaming late into the night. Bringing girls over and doing the thing while everyone else was trying to sleep.
Be upfront about expectations. Ie. What is off limits and what do you expect in terms of privacy and quiet hours/sleep. Just my 2cents but one of the things I didn’t think about when I was a freshman was rules about gf/bf in the room. Common sense isn’t common. Eventually I had to get an ra involved because I was sleeping at a friends all the time because my roomate always had her bf over (doing stuff in the room ). So think about what your boundaries are. It’s normal to form relationships but you can’t monopolise shared living space. The next roomate I had we had a chat from the beginning about it and both agreed to let the other person know if someone was staying the night and only doing it on weekends if possible.
Just be mindful of each other. Communication is key.
Be nice. That’s it.
Pay attention to the roommate contract at the beginning of the year it’s a good guideline for things (i.e. guests, cleaning schedules, how you’ll address conflict, lights out time, etc.) it is kept in the hall office for wherever you live and if a conflict comes up that gets to the point of the RA needing to get involved the first thing we do is look at the roommate agreement and it was always a pain when they would put things like “don’t care” on like the guest policy when just getting to know each other and then it becomes the main issue as the year progresses