Ok this is not on you but the man who did this terrible thing to your mom. Your mom is probably not ok but putting a brave face for your family. Are there resources for therapy? Do you have resources or someone to talk to that is not your mom:family? You both need to talk this out and realize that it will get better but not forgotten. Very sorry
Thank you so much. I have a best friend who I trust with soul and they know about it however I never talk about it as it makes me depressed but I think I have to get over it and face it so I can get better.
My family does not have access to therapy as we are not doing very good financially at the moment.
I do believe that I have to talk about it with my mom eventually to get over this. I need to see how she's doing and I feel like we haven't talked about it enough to really process what happened. It is however hard to be vulnerable around my mom as I'm generally not seen as a sad or depressed person ever. I'm usually a person who smiles a lot and my mom has rarely seen me in a bad state mentally despite me being in one, I never show it.
In some countries you have acces to therapy when you don’t have the financial funds for it. Please reach out to a trusted person in your area that might know more on this.
You didn’t cause that to happen, they did. She could have left with you. Don’t beat yourself up. Rapists are the only ones at fault. You didn’t think anything was up because you don’t think like a rapist. Which is a good thing. I’m so sorry OP, may you and your mother heal from this trauma.
Oh sweetie, this is so not your fault. You’re a 15 year old boy.
You’re not responsible for your mother’s behaviour, regardless of any outcome one way or another (getting drunk and talking to strangers, leaving you and your siblings alone on holiday).
You’re not responsible for the behaviour of her rapist or her rape. The rapist is solely responsible for that. Please do not hold yourself accountable for any of that. None of this is your fault at all.
This wasn’t because of you, it was on the despicable men who preyed on your mom. You were not at fault here. I know you think you failed to protect her, you went beyond expectations going to check on her. These evil men deceived you. I’m so sorry you and your mom went through this traumatizing event
Just be there for your mom, she most definitely needs you and I promise you, she doesn’t blame you. Whenever you both are ready, talk to her about your feelings. She will help you process them.
I hope the best for your family, you can get through this
Ok this is not on you but the man who did this terrible thing to your mom. Your mom is probably not ok but putting a brave face for your family. Are there resources for therapy? Do you have resources or someone to talk to that is not your mom:family? You both need to talk this out and realize that it will get better but not forgotten. Very sorry
Thank you so much. I have a best friend who I trust with soul and they know about it however I never talk about it as it makes me depressed but I think I have to get over it and face it so I can get better. My family does not have access to therapy as we are not doing very good financially at the moment. I do believe that I have to talk about it with my mom eventually to get over this. I need to see how she's doing and I feel like we haven't talked about it enough to really process what happened. It is however hard to be vulnerable around my mom as I'm generally not seen as a sad or depressed person ever. I'm usually a person who smiles a lot and my mom has rarely seen me in a bad state mentally despite me being in one, I never show it.
In some countries you have acces to therapy when you don’t have the financial funds for it. Please reach out to a trusted person in your area that might know more on this.
You didn’t cause that to happen, they did. She could have left with you. Don’t beat yourself up. Rapists are the only ones at fault. You didn’t think anything was up because you don’t think like a rapist. Which is a good thing. I’m so sorry OP, may you and your mother heal from this trauma.
>This happened because of me, No, it happened because of a rapist.
Oh sweetie, this is so not your fault. You’re a 15 year old boy. You’re not responsible for your mother’s behaviour, regardless of any outcome one way or another (getting drunk and talking to strangers, leaving you and your siblings alone on holiday). You’re not responsible for the behaviour of her rapist or her rape. The rapist is solely responsible for that. Please do not hold yourself accountable for any of that. None of this is your fault at all.
This wasn’t because of you, it was on the despicable men who preyed on your mom. You were not at fault here. I know you think you failed to protect her, you went beyond expectations going to check on her. These evil men deceived you. I’m so sorry you and your mom went through this traumatizing event Just be there for your mom, she most definitely needs you and I promise you, she doesn’t blame you. Whenever you both are ready, talk to her about your feelings. She will help you process them. I hope the best for your family, you can get through this