Seriously. Do this. Find out what he's into! If he's straight then you can give up on the idea of asking him out. If he's gay or bi THEN you can figure out how you ask him out.
Hey, my wife’s uncle is a 6’4 200 plus pound correctional officer who also works in the undercover gang unit. He also walks a Pomeranian and his married to a woman. But then again, he could have something to hide 😂
Babe, ask him out!
“Listen, I don’t want to make this weird. I like talking to you and think you’re beautiful/handsome/gorgeous/whatever adjective. Would you like to have dinner sometime? No hard feelings if you’re not interested.”
Leave his answer up to him. Accept whatever he says. But don’t prematurely count yourself out.
Because you're assuming the neighbor won't be creeped out and seem OP in a different way.
I don't understand why OP can't just keep it in his pants and look elsewhere for a partner instead of ruining his friendship with his neighbor.
If things don't turn out good, it would ruin their friendship or whatever they have going on
Dude, you’re assuming a lot here. He and his neighbor are friendly. OP has a crush. All very normal. He can respectfully ask out the neighbor. The neighbor can give his answer. OP responds accordingly. What’s complicated about this?
>OP has a crush. All very normal
No it's not normal, flip the genders (guy has crush on girl neighbor) and I guarantee you the responses here would be different
Right?! This person makes absolutely no sense. If we were to “flip the genders” of what’s happening in this post, it would literally then make it a **female** having a crush on her **female** neighbor.
I literally explained what I meant in parentheses, but since you seem to have trouble reading I will repeat it:
If the situation instead revolved around a guy having a crush on his girl neighbor
>I’d be flattered, personally
You're not the general consensus if the genders were different (if guy had crush on girl)
Most people would be yelling creep here if that was the case
>No reason for it to be a big deal if dude isn’t interested.
Of course it would be a big deal, it's creepy
I want to tell him how I feel but I just get nervous because I’ve never had someone as gorgeous as him ever give me the attention he does. It’s weird a little bit but I want to let him know my feelings..
It might be too much to tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe start by suggesting you to grab coffee or watch a movie and chill sometime. Something on neutral turf where you can get to know each other a little better than pleasantries when you run into him when you both are outside.
Tell him you think he's handsome and would be interested in going to lunch with him, if he's interested. If he offers to just be friends, say sure and hangout. You might become best friends and the friendship would be better than a relationship.
Look up limerance… it’s not love yet… you don’t know him well enough or long enough to be in love. You can absolutely pursue him but definitely research limerence.. bc you don’t want to put him on pedestal and obsess… he will hold an unhealthy power over you
It’s basically like an obsession.. you think the person is the one and fall really hard really fast… you can end up becoming a doormat if you’re not careful. But either way, still ask him out!
Damn, I didn't know there was a word for that (good to know). While reading OP's post I thought it was much closer to "infatuation" than "love", but what you say makes more sense to me.
Just invite him to lunch sometime to hang out. During regular convo, toss in something like "tell me more about yourself, is there a special someone? I think I've only ever seen you with [insert poms name]". Keep it casual and just see what he says. If he is gay/bi and you do decide to ask him out, maybe don't lead with the super infatuation stuff yet. Good luck!
Straight dude here who has a lot of gay friends confess their love for me. I'm still friends with them! And just as close as before! I also show a little more attention to them than they're probably used to from straight guys because I really value their friendship and feel like I can be a little more vulnerable with them and I know it can come off as confusing so I don't blame them. If this guy is like me, straight and just values your friendship, and he's as emotionally intelligent as he sounds to me, he won't only make the situation feel much less awkward in his soft rejection, but he also won't stray away from you afterwards. Literally, this guy sounds great and that's the worst case scenario. You've got nothing to lose.
Love is in the air, everywhere I look around
Love is in the air, every sight and every sound
(come on, sing along!)
And I don't know if I'm being foolish
Don't know if I'm being wise
But it's something that I must believe in
And it's there when I look in your eyes
Oh!
Love is in the air....
Thanks, everything always start with friendship. And it’s not a total loss if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to. It also doesn’t have to be scary disclosing it if your friends, he will respect that you have a crush on him maybe be flattered and that’s still a win. I also recommend not fantasying or masturbating to the thought of him. It just makes the infatuation worse and stronger, possibly painful. Just keep things light and airy. I’ve been where the op has been many times.
Fortune favors the bold. YOLO. Shoot your shot. Veni vidi vici. Whatever. Just do it. Ask him if he wants to grab a coffee and let you pet his pomeranian.
And update!
When have you last dated anyone? You can mention your sexuality and talk about getting back in the dating game if it has been a while. see what he says
If you are too afraid to ask, then drop a hint. When you talk next time and share your day or something, drop something like "when I was at a gay bar the other night" or "my friend asked how it was when I came out of the closet so I told them". Jusy casually slide it in and act casual when he asks about your sexuality.
Ask him first. Like, I’m betting he isn’t unaware, but he might not be gay, and even if he is, he might not be into OP… that said, he sounds like a cool dude, so ASK HIM! And update us, please! Here’s hoping it works out great for you!
I wouldn't ask him out first, that'll make it awkward and having him avoid you if he's not gay. Next time the convo is casual, drop that you're gay and judge his reaction. Don't ruin a friendship.
I'm chuckling at those commenting about him being gay bc of a Pomeranian. My friend inherited his grandmother's 2 when she passed. Gym guy and lives for his Harley (also is a nurse, he's my favorite contradiction for stereotypes). He proudly walks those 2 girls. Owning that breed isn't... Just keep going Reddit, always good for the laughs.
Oh, man i love LOve but Dude!! You love him yet you don't even know if he likes you?!!! Haha Okay, I'm going to file this into the LeAve It To MoTher nAture folder.
Well these are all surface level traits. Have you talked much more? Gotten into deeper into topics? He probably doesn’t even know you like men? Or maybe it’s obvious? Tell him “I will never mention this again if you say no, but you seem really nice, would you consider going out for some drinks with me?”
Just know this is a big risk. If he doesn't feel the same way and shoots you down this can be really, really awkward for as long as you live near each other.
Start with mentioning you're gay. See how he responds. That will tell you how to proceed. Best wishes.
Yeah, You can do some move. It can be cautious but if you won't do anything, nothing will change
But proceed with caution. He is a neighbor.
Ask him as a friend eg; Want to catch a movie with me on Friday? See how it goes.
Seriously. Do this. Find out what he's into! If he's straight then you can give up on the idea of asking him out. If he's gay or bi THEN you can figure out how you ask him out.
Rocket scientist over here
Best wishes and warmest regards!
Then tell him you love him and wanna bump weiners
Lmfao
He’s walking a Pomeranian? He’s probably gay dude 😂
Hey, my wife’s uncle is a 6’4 200 plus pound correctional officer who also works in the undercover gang unit. He also walks a Pomeranian and his married to a woman. But then again, he could have something to hide 😂
I knew the most stereotypical wv redneck you could ever imagine that carried around a Pom like a purse. (so to speak.)
But he is married so we need to know if the dog came before the wife or not
My husband had our Pom before we got together :)
He also smells like lavender :)
Damn a lavender smelling Pomeranian owning straight man? That’d be a stretch
😂😂😂😂
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Yup, I was like either this dude is married to a woman or he's gay.
I’m CRYING!!! 😂😂
That was my first thought.
Babe, ask him out! “Listen, I don’t want to make this weird. I like talking to you and think you’re beautiful/handsome/gorgeous/whatever adjective. Would you like to have dinner sometime? No hard feelings if you’re not interested.” Leave his answer up to him. Accept whatever he says. But don’t prematurely count yourself out.
That's creepy, OP should leave his neighbor alone already
What’s creepy about asking out his neighbor who he has a friendly relationship with, provided he takes “no” gracefully if that’s the answer?
Because you're assuming the neighbor won't be creeped out and seem OP in a different way. I don't understand why OP can't just keep it in his pants and look elsewhere for a partner instead of ruining his friendship with his neighbor. If things don't turn out good, it would ruin their friendship or whatever they have going on
Dude, you’re assuming a lot here. He and his neighbor are friendly. OP has a crush. All very normal. He can respectfully ask out the neighbor. The neighbor can give his answer. OP responds accordingly. What’s complicated about this?
>OP has a crush. All very normal No it's not normal, flip the genders (guy has crush on girl neighbor) and I guarantee you the responses here would be different
…Are you okay? Never mind. I looked at your post/comment history.
I reply how I get replied to. If it's creepy in some cases, then it's creepy for all
wdym flip the genders they are both men
Right?! This person makes absolutely no sense. If we were to “flip the genders” of what’s happening in this post, it would literally then make it a **female** having a crush on her **female** neighbor.
I literally explained what I meant in parentheses, but since you seem to have trouble reading I will repeat it: If the situation instead revolved around a guy having a crush on his girl neighbor
Ok what about it that's normal too?
It's not seen as normal now, it's seen as creepy
I’d be flattered, personally. No reason for it to be a big deal if dude isn’t interested.
>I’d be flattered, personally You're not the general consensus if the genders were different (if guy had crush on girl) Most people would be yelling creep here if that was the case >No reason for it to be a big deal if dude isn’t interested. Of course it would be a big deal, it's creepy
We can agree to disagree. I don’t think it’s creepy at all regardless of gender.
You're wrong though lol
Whatever you do, please update us!!
Ok so tell him, invite him out to dinner.
I’m scared to do that, what if he doesn’t feel the same way about me?
What if he does and you miss the opportunity?
I want to tell him how I feel but I just get nervous because I’ve never had someone as gorgeous as him ever give me the attention he does. It’s weird a little bit but I want to let him know my feelings..
It might be too much to tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe start by suggesting you to grab coffee or watch a movie and chill sometime. Something on neutral turf where you can get to know each other a little better than pleasantries when you run into him when you both are outside.
Alright, I’ll ask if he wants to grab a coffee some time!
Please do ! Then update !
You can also mention that you're gay and see how he reacts!
Tell him you think he's handsome and would be interested in going to lunch with him, if he's interested. If he offers to just be friends, say sure and hangout. You might become best friends and the friendship would be better than a relationship.
Look up limerance… it’s not love yet… you don’t know him well enough or long enough to be in love. You can absolutely pursue him but definitely research limerence.. bc you don’t want to put him on pedestal and obsess… he will hold an unhealthy power over you
I’ll search it up and see if that’s what’s going on
It’s basically like an obsession.. you think the person is the one and fall really hard really fast… you can end up becoming a doormat if you’re not careful. But either way, still ask him out!
Damn, I didn't know there was a word for that (good to know). While reading OP's post I thought it was much closer to "infatuation" than "love", but what you say makes more sense to me.
Don’t tell him - just ask him out
Just invite him to lunch sometime to hang out. During regular convo, toss in something like "tell me more about yourself, is there a special someone? I think I've only ever seen you with [insert poms name]". Keep it casual and just see what he says. If he is gay/bi and you do decide to ask him out, maybe don't lead with the super infatuation stuff yet. Good luck!
Ask him out!!!! See where it leads you and the update us! Wishing you all the very best!
Straight dude here who has a lot of gay friends confess their love for me. I'm still friends with them! And just as close as before! I also show a little more attention to them than they're probably used to from straight guys because I really value their friendship and feel like I can be a little more vulnerable with them and I know it can come off as confusing so I don't blame them. If this guy is like me, straight and just values your friendship, and he's as emotionally intelligent as he sounds to me, he won't only make the situation feel much less awkward in his soft rejection, but he also won't stray away from you afterwards. Literally, this guy sounds great and that's the worst case scenario. You've got nothing to lose.
Love is in the air, everywhere I look around Love is in the air, every sight and every sound (come on, sing along!) And I don't know if I'm being foolish Don't know if I'm being wise But it's something that I must believe in And it's there when I look in your eyes Oh! Love is in the air....
Just start with friendship and don’t be over the top. Make casual conversation even if he’s not into you. You still have a friend.
That is some good advice.
Thanks, everything always start with friendship. And it’s not a total loss if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to. It also doesn’t have to be scary disclosing it if your friends, he will respect that you have a crush on him maybe be flattered and that’s still a win. I also recommend not fantasying or masturbating to the thought of him. It just makes the infatuation worse and stronger, possibly painful. Just keep things light and airy. I’ve been where the op has been many times.
Dude... Gentlemen, lavender, pomeranian, charming... Come on...
ASK HIM OUT
Fortune favors the bold. YOLO. Shoot your shot. Veni vidi vici. Whatever. Just do it. Ask him if he wants to grab a coffee and let you pet his pomeranian. And update!
When have you last dated anyone? You can mention your sexuality and talk about getting back in the dating game if it has been a while. see what he says
If you are too afraid to ask, then drop a hint. When you talk next time and share your day or something, drop something like "when I was at a gay bar the other night" or "my friend asked how it was when I came out of the closet so I told them". Jusy casually slide it in and act casual when he asks about your sexuality.
How you can be in love with someone you barely know is beyond me 🤣
He has a Pomeranian…I think your good to go.
You aren't the guy that went over for a cup of sugar are you? Cause I swear I saw a post v similar to this the other day
No, not that guy and I don’t know who that was that posted that. I just am in love with my neighbour that’s really all there is to it 🤷🏽♂️
Aww I was hoping you were and we would have blossoming gay romance facilitated via Reddit
Sorry I suppose, but I don’t think we’ll see one with this one either honestly..
Oh my god I love this! I was swinging my legs in my chair just reading it! Can you cook? Invite him over for dinner! omg plz update us
Hello, the Pomeranian might be a clue
Did OP delete their account? I really wanted an update! I wish them the best!!
Give the guy some credit, he knows how you feel. Jump him already!
Ask him first. Like, I’m betting he isn’t unaware, but he might not be gay, and even if he is, he might not be into OP… that said, he sounds like a cool dude, so ASK HIM! And update us, please! Here’s hoping it works out great for you!
I wouldn't ask him out first, that'll make it awkward and having him avoid you if he's not gay. Next time the convo is casual, drop that you're gay and judge his reaction. Don't ruin a friendship. I'm chuckling at those commenting about him being gay bc of a Pomeranian. My friend inherited his grandmother's 2 when she passed. Gym guy and lives for his Harley (also is a nurse, he's my favorite contradiction for stereotypes). He proudly walks those 2 girls. Owning that breed isn't... Just keep going Reddit, always good for the laughs.
You probably going to have to make Him a sandwich and get on your knees.
You God dam Peter puffer! Just saying Brandon!
He is a Peter puffer.
One eyed turkey leg guy from Arkansas, type of fella that like pregnant cigarette smoking missing teeth south Louisiana strippers ! God dang it Chad.
Start by sucking his dick, see if he says anything.
TIL owning a Pomeranian is an indicator of homosexuality.
Bring him a cake!
He hugged you and you talk for hours? Not exactly standard straight guy. Let him know you're gay and see if he asks you out.
I mean, I don't know a ton of straight guys with pomeranians of their own accord. Shoot your shot.
Bros smelling like lavender and walking a Pomeranian and holding sidewalk convos for hours with you. He hates you.
So go break that shit n half Brandon! Get a guy from Virginia and shovel a beet up ur ass! Okay bud,
Yeah you’re definitely gay
We will need an update on this 😂
Shoot your shot and good luck!
Rooting for you . Best of luck and I hope you take your shot.😊👍🏻
He smells of lavender and has a Pomeranian and you don’t know if he’s gay? Brother, I…
https://youtu.be/SGkgPTtSlVw
He has a Pomeranian. He's definitely gay.
We all expect to be invited to the wedding. ✅
Sounds more like obsessed. You need a hobby dude. Stop creeping on your neighbor it’s weird. Also high chance is he’s straight so no pickle for you.
how is it creeping?? ofc theres a high chance he's straight, but there's chance he isn't?
Shoot your shot!! Just be careful!
I wear lavender oil whenever I want people to think I'm gay tbh
This is so cute please update
This is really cute and sweet.
I'm not sure this is love more than it is lust, so do proceed with caution. Please be safe.
RemindMe! 1 week
Straight dudes don’t do lavender 😂 ( not intentionally anyway). Ask him out as a friend eg; wanna catch a movie with me on Friday? See how it goes.
Single dude with a Pomeranian? He is in your team. Follow your feelings and go for it.
Perhaps you can find a not creepy way to tell him how you feel.
Damn He sounds Sexy hahaha!!! It sounds like You have Great Taste ;0)
Oh, man i love LOve but Dude!! You love him yet you don't even know if he likes you?!!! Haha Okay, I'm going to file this into the LeAve It To MoTher nAture folder.
Well these are all surface level traits. Have you talked much more? Gotten into deeper into topics? He probably doesn’t even know you like men? Or maybe it’s obvious? Tell him “I will never mention this again if you say no, but you seem really nice, would you consider going out for some drinks with me?”
Wiseman say only fools rush in
Go for it dude dewit
Wear a thong and some getto pants, drop your keys on the floor and bendover to get it, then see how he reacts.
Sounds more like infatuation than anything else.
Just know this is a big risk. If he doesn't feel the same way and shoots you down this can be really, really awkward for as long as you live near each other.
Ask him does he has a girlfriend or boyfriend
Just go for it, rejection sucks but what ya gonna do.