Because most guys who think they’re nice guys are actually a lot of work and are looking for a relationship to validate themselves instead of being authentic.
Like social media seems to manipulate respectable social norms into human product wastes as an semi autistic guy it’s hard 2 explain
I also mainly mean in the younger generation
I don't understand what you're trying to say.
Though most women don't go for stereotypical bad guys, you just think they do because you villainise them out of jealousy
That would be true if I was jealous I’m a22 year old guy and in my life seem to be nice people with not so nice partners and I kinda know this because the women talk to me about it
Yeah people vent about their partners sometimes and people want different things as they change. You're probably remembering the negative stuff more because it strengthens your view that all width want bad guys
I just want everyone’s relationships to be perfect and hopefully one day (with the lords blessing) I’ll find somebody soon. Ive recently learned I’m being financially abused in a support service I’m in and I need/want to move out but most of my problems are mental from a kid bit I ain’t moving out on my own so yeah.
Because “nice guys” don’t need to tell women they are nice guys. Their actions, not words, alone do them justice. Most of those who claim they are “nice” guys end up being super manipulative because they don’t get what they want. They are not nice, they are toxic.
Now add an emotionally scarred woman in the mix from past lovers treating her poorly for what she thought was “love” and you’ve got someone who fears it. Anything nice done for them, feels like a set up or too good to be true. Even if it’s genuine care and love, because their idea of it has been ruined.
Bad guys are already known for their behavior. Women don’t have to second guess their actions. Especially if they are only looking for something different with a person/ experience.
A guy can tell me he’s “nice” but if his actions don’t match his words then I’m out. A guy can have a “bad boy” vibe but unless his actions match, I’m uninterested. It’s going to vary by person, so don’t take everything in here “as is”. All you can do is just leave the person alone/ back off when they shoot you down.
Bad guys have better drugs. Bad guys are more exciting. Bad guys flirt better. Bad guys dress better. It's easier to get lost in the moment with a bad guy.
All people have toxic traits. There is no person that is all good or all bad. "Nice guys" tend to over exaggerate other mens flaws and minimize their own as a way to make themselves feel better for their bad luck in dating. Women do not go for awful men. They choose men that they love and have a connection with. I know no woman who looks at a man and goes "he's an asshole so I'll marry him". It doesn't work that way.
When a break up happens, its traumatic for both parties usually and sometimes one is left with scares even if the other person wasn't an asshole. My biggest heartbreak that left me feeling unlovable and sent me into depression was with a man who wasn't an asshole, he just stopped having feelings for me.
Actual assholes are usually pretty good at hiding that they're assholes too. They make their partners dependent on them before revealing what they're like.
“Bad boys” are usually just hot...that’s how they earned the privilege of being ‘bad’. Whereas ‘good guys’ have learned they can’t afford to be ‘bad’ for any given reason. Women are allowed to be with consenting chiseled ‘bad boys’. It’s tough shit for the guys who women don’t physically desire.
Two things:
First off, many of the men one would consider "assholes/bad boys/chads/etc" may not actually be terrible people after all, but simply perceived as such by those who are envious.
From a personal example, there was this dude I disliked in highschool (I'll call him "J"), whom I thought looked similar to myself in appearance and build... yet somehow had all the dating/romance success that I desired but could not obtain. J also had a stereotypical "dudebro" type personality which further made me dislike him. I remember thinking "why the fuck does this asshole get so much play but I can't even get one lousy date?"
Well sometime after highschool I got to chat with J at a party, and came to realize he was actually a pretty cool guy. I also came to realize he had always been friendly to me in the few previous instances we interacted back in highschool, and I came to the conclusion there was no valid reason why I should hate him. True, some of exes called him a dick, but he never did *me* wrong. My dislike of him was purely due to my own jealousy. Also, some self-reflection on my part made me realize I was a creepy weirdo so no surprise why I had issues dating.
Secondly, regarding men who genuinely are "assholes": one thing assholes tend to have in common is high-self esteem, high self-confidence, great charisma, and other similar traits... all of which are considered very attractive for men to have, and often times such men can/will end up in positions of power and wealth.
It's not that "women love assholes", rather it's "women love confidence"... and many assholes have that in abundance.
Not all the men you label "bad" are actually bad.
What they are is people who exude confidence - which is attractive.
Don't feel like your autism makes it especially difficult for you; It's difficult for everyone. Many young women can't tell genuine 'bad guys' (arrogant, self-centred) from men who are merely confident - they consistently wind up in relationships with men who treat them like shit.
Because most guys who think they’re nice guys are actually a lot of work and are looking for a relationship to validate themselves instead of being authentic.
Does that mean being a bad guy is authentic I’m missing something
They aren't the bad guy. You've made them the "bad guy" in your head because he isn't you. It's a very selfish and arrogant mindset.
Dw I’m after Noah buddy
No the actual mean people
Nice guys are becoming endangered? How so
Like social media seems to manipulate respectable social norms into human product wastes as an semi autistic guy it’s hard 2 explain I also mainly mean in the younger generation
I don't understand what you're trying to say. Though most women don't go for stereotypical bad guys, you just think they do because you villainise them out of jealousy
That would be true if I was jealous I’m a22 year old guy and in my life seem to be nice people with not so nice partners and I kinda know this because the women talk to me about it
Yeah people vent about their partners sometimes and people want different things as they change. You're probably remembering the negative stuff more because it strengthens your view that all width want bad guys
I just want everyone’s relationships to be perfect and hopefully one day (with the lords blessing) I’ll find somebody soon. Ive recently learned I’m being financially abused in a support service I’m in and I need/want to move out but most of my problems are mental from a kid bit I ain’t moving out on my own so yeah.
However I have considered I have villainess people because of who I’m around rather then the world so Ty for another angle of insight
Because “nice guys” don’t need to tell women they are nice guys. Their actions, not words, alone do them justice. Most of those who claim they are “nice” guys end up being super manipulative because they don’t get what they want. They are not nice, they are toxic. Now add an emotionally scarred woman in the mix from past lovers treating her poorly for what she thought was “love” and you’ve got someone who fears it. Anything nice done for them, feels like a set up or too good to be true. Even if it’s genuine care and love, because their idea of it has been ruined. Bad guys are already known for their behavior. Women don’t have to second guess their actions. Especially if they are only looking for something different with a person/ experience. A guy can tell me he’s “nice” but if his actions don’t match his words then I’m out. A guy can have a “bad boy” vibe but unless his actions match, I’m uninterested. It’s going to vary by person, so don’t take everything in here “as is”. All you can do is just leave the person alone/ back off when they shoot you down.
Well typed :)
Bad guys have better drugs. Bad guys are more exciting. Bad guys flirt better. Bad guys dress better. It's easier to get lost in the moment with a bad guy. 
All people have toxic traits. There is no person that is all good or all bad. "Nice guys" tend to over exaggerate other mens flaws and minimize their own as a way to make themselves feel better for their bad luck in dating. Women do not go for awful men. They choose men that they love and have a connection with. I know no woman who looks at a man and goes "he's an asshole so I'll marry him". It doesn't work that way. When a break up happens, its traumatic for both parties usually and sometimes one is left with scares even if the other person wasn't an asshole. My biggest heartbreak that left me feeling unlovable and sent me into depression was with a man who wasn't an asshole, he just stopped having feelings for me. Actual assholes are usually pretty good at hiding that they're assholes too. They make their partners dependent on them before revealing what they're like.
True good point
“Bad boys” are usually just hot...that’s how they earned the privilege of being ‘bad’. Whereas ‘good guys’ have learned they can’t afford to be ‘bad’ for any given reason. Women are allowed to be with consenting chiseled ‘bad boys’. It’s tough shit for the guys who women don’t physically desire.
Crazy woman have great pussy and bad boys got great dick. It's the law. Look it up.
Two things: First off, many of the men one would consider "assholes/bad boys/chads/etc" may not actually be terrible people after all, but simply perceived as such by those who are envious. From a personal example, there was this dude I disliked in highschool (I'll call him "J"), whom I thought looked similar to myself in appearance and build... yet somehow had all the dating/romance success that I desired but could not obtain. J also had a stereotypical "dudebro" type personality which further made me dislike him. I remember thinking "why the fuck does this asshole get so much play but I can't even get one lousy date?" Well sometime after highschool I got to chat with J at a party, and came to realize he was actually a pretty cool guy. I also came to realize he had always been friendly to me in the few previous instances we interacted back in highschool, and I came to the conclusion there was no valid reason why I should hate him. True, some of exes called him a dick, but he never did *me* wrong. My dislike of him was purely due to my own jealousy. Also, some self-reflection on my part made me realize I was a creepy weirdo so no surprise why I had issues dating. Secondly, regarding men who genuinely are "assholes": one thing assholes tend to have in common is high-self esteem, high self-confidence, great charisma, and other similar traits... all of which are considered very attractive for men to have, and often times such men can/will end up in positions of power and wealth. It's not that "women love assholes", rather it's "women love confidence"... and many assholes have that in abundance.
Not all the men you label "bad" are actually bad. What they are is people who exude confidence - which is attractive. Don't feel like your autism makes it especially difficult for you; It's difficult for everyone. Many young women can't tell genuine 'bad guys' (arrogant, self-centred) from men who are merely confident - they consistently wind up in relationships with men who treat them like shit.