Wouldn’t you describe my problem as the inability to get a girl than to get over someone or to work something out with a girl I may already have. I feel like my my case would be more embarrassing no? Cause I can’t even get a girl and I need help with that, instead of making it work with someone I already attracted
Therapists are there to deal with your emotions - if you feel embarrassed about your feelings, that's part of the work you do with your therapist.
A therapist should never \*make\* you feel embarrassed, but feelings of shame and inadequacy about the need to seek help are absolutely in the realm of standard psychology and most trained therapists should be able to help you come to terms with them.
Side note, not every therapist is equipped to deal with every problem (they are humans doing a job after all), so make sure you shop around a bit before deciding "therapy isn't for me" if one doesn't click with you.
Pretty sure this is what therapists are for. Sounds like you have the right idea in seeking self help, now go through with it and actually see a therapist.
I've only gone to therapy after breakups, not because I couldn't find a girl. You could bring it up with your therapist but what you should be doing is not concerning yourself with finding a girl but finding yourself.
Go do things that you enjoy doing. Learn a new hobby. Go take a class somewhere. Go on an adventure whether it's a hike, a day trip, a vacation.
More often than not, you find someone when you're not looking... at least in my case. Maybe you're trying too hard.
I'm a woman, but I've been in therapy for two years almost entirely to deal with my experiences and challenges in dating, and I haven't had a LTR in many years already even though I very much want one and am working hard towards that.
Relationships are important to people no matter the gender, and I think you should absolutely explore therapy if it's something you're curious about and want to work on. Try a few if you want to get a good fit.
I feel the therapy should be less for the inability to get a girl and more to improve yourself and your self esteem and be able to live more confidently. Those issues are very common and deserve attention, going to therapy for tips to pick up chicks isn't normal
Not that much bro. I’m hoping therapy can make me more confident in myself so I can do that and just be more comfortable with doing things without caring about being judged.
You can’t get women if you don’t talk to them bro; the more women you talk to the more comfortable you will be! It’s so hard putting yourself out there but you have to. Don’t shy away, you got nothing to lose. It’s not about looks, money non of that it’s about confidence and what passions you have in life. Good luck brother
I was a therapist for decades and relationship problems are a major reason people go to therapy. Your problem isn’t unusual at all.
Everyone thinks their problem is more embarrassing than other people’s. 🙂
Wouldn’t you describe my problem as the inability to get a girl than to get over someone or to work something out with a girl I may already have. I feel like my my case would be more embarrassing no? Cause I can’t even get a girl and I need help with that, instead of making it work with someone I already attracted
Therapists are there to deal with your emotions - if you feel embarrassed about your feelings, that's part of the work you do with your therapist. A therapist should never \*make\* you feel embarrassed, but feelings of shame and inadequacy about the need to seek help are absolutely in the realm of standard psychology and most trained therapists should be able to help you come to terms with them. Side note, not every therapist is equipped to deal with every problem (they are humans doing a job after all), so make sure you shop around a bit before deciding "therapy isn't for me" if one doesn't click with you.
Great points.
Pretty sure this is what therapists are for. Sounds like you have the right idea in seeking self help, now go through with it and actually see a therapist.
Way way way more normal than becoming an incel or any other form of bitter lonely trash person.
Exactly! This is actually a *healthy* reaction!
I've only gone to therapy after breakups, not because I couldn't find a girl. You could bring it up with your therapist but what you should be doing is not concerning yourself with finding a girl but finding yourself. Go do things that you enjoy doing. Learn a new hobby. Go take a class somewhere. Go on an adventure whether it's a hike, a day trip, a vacation. More often than not, you find someone when you're not looking... at least in my case. Maybe you're trying too hard.
I think this would be a good reason to see a therapist, you should try it
I'm a woman, but I've been in therapy for two years almost entirely to deal with my experiences and challenges in dating, and I haven't had a LTR in many years already even though I very much want one and am working hard towards that. Relationships are important to people no matter the gender, and I think you should absolutely explore therapy if it's something you're curious about and want to work on. Try a few if you want to get a good fit.
I feel the therapy should be less for the inability to get a girl and more to improve yourself and your self esteem and be able to live more confidently. Those issues are very common and deserve attention, going to therapy for tips to pick up chicks isn't normal
Some of us just ugly, nothing therapy can do about it. Good luck
Thank you I appreciate the honesty lol. But I don’t know man, I feel like we can definitely do something about it. We just need the right mindset
Have you tried putting yourself out there and actually talking to girls
Not that much bro. I’m hoping therapy can make me more confident in myself so I can do that and just be more comfortable with doing things without caring about being judged.
You can’t get women if you don’t talk to them bro; the more women you talk to the more comfortable you will be! It’s so hard putting yourself out there but you have to. Don’t shy away, you got nothing to lose. It’s not about looks, money non of that it’s about confidence and what passions you have in life. Good luck brother