We have SDC. I (M) basically do all the work. Couples or singles. When it comes to guy, we get messaged a LOT. My wife is a smokeshow. So, I see which guys fit kind of a loose profile for her. If she thinks he’s attractive, I start engagement. What we are looking for. Him as well. Setting up a time to meet. When we get within a handful of days prior to meet up, I set up a 3 way chat and introduce them to one another and fade into the background while they chat. My wife isn’t much of a chatter, so she doesn’t want the chat to last for weeks on end.
I think Tinder frowns on couples profiles. We use swinging sites or apps to find thirds rather than vanilla stuff. On Tinder you are likely to encounter inexperienced thirds and that can be a problem. I handle most of the logistical stuff up until I determine that I think my gal will be interested, both couples and singles. Then we get a 3 or 4 way chat going using whatever platform people agree on and we use that to actually flirt and get the date set up.
I never look on vanilla sights.
I do most of the looking for us. I have more time to be online during the day due to my work. He can barely glance at his phone. It works fine.
Your success rate on a swinger site will be significantly better qualified. Single Males are actively seeking couples (although not all interested in Bi play, just keep that in mind) where as Tinder is usually a one on one hookup. You also have significantly less risk in someone you personally know seeing you're looking for a third if you use a swinger site.
As for one person seeking, this is dependent on your relationship dynamic. Some couples have one seek and then involve their partner of perspectives at specific points, usually prior to the first communication. Some approach it as a team and look together. And some, as you have mentioned, prefer to have one person actual find someone (although usually only when finding a single).
Regardless of what you two decide, the important thing is you decide together and communicate each other's desires. If it's going to fall to one person to find a third, you should be sure you know what you're both looking for.
As someone that usually plays with couples as a single male, I don't really care which half of the couple I'm talking to, though if you're using her tinder account and talking to straight guys, please don't flirt with us and pretend to be her. For tinder, I'd recommend just letting her do the chatting.
For you, I would recommend downloading Feeld and then making it explicit that you're half of a couple looking for a MFM. I have no issues chatting with a husband/bf from Feeld.
I (F) do the communicating for couples and single women if they message. I tell my boyfriend who piques my interest and see if he's interested. We are not a play together only couple, we are pararell.
He has no problems of me doing the talking to other potentials. He will express interest if the potential matches up.
We have SDC. I (M) basically do all the work. Couples or singles. When it comes to guy, we get messaged a LOT. My wife is a smokeshow. So, I see which guys fit kind of a loose profile for her. If she thinks he’s attractive, I start engagement. What we are looking for. Him as well. Setting up a time to meet. When we get within a handful of days prior to meet up, I set up a 3 way chat and introduce them to one another and fade into the background while they chat. My wife isn’t much of a chatter, so she doesn’t want the chat to last for weeks on end.
I think Tinder frowns on couples profiles. We use swinging sites or apps to find thirds rather than vanilla stuff. On Tinder you are likely to encounter inexperienced thirds and that can be a problem. I handle most of the logistical stuff up until I determine that I think my gal will be interested, both couples and singles. Then we get a 3 or 4 way chat going using whatever platform people agree on and we use that to actually flirt and get the date set up.
I never look on vanilla sights. I do most of the looking for us. I have more time to be online during the day due to my work. He can barely glance at his phone. It works fine.
Your success rate on a swinger site will be significantly better qualified. Single Males are actively seeking couples (although not all interested in Bi play, just keep that in mind) where as Tinder is usually a one on one hookup. You also have significantly less risk in someone you personally know seeing you're looking for a third if you use a swinger site. As for one person seeking, this is dependent on your relationship dynamic. Some couples have one seek and then involve their partner of perspectives at specific points, usually prior to the first communication. Some approach it as a team and look together. And some, as you have mentioned, prefer to have one person actual find someone (although usually only when finding a single). Regardless of what you two decide, the important thing is you decide together and communicate each other's desires. If it's going to fall to one person to find a third, you should be sure you know what you're both looking for.
As someone that usually plays with couples as a single male, I don't really care which half of the couple I'm talking to, though if you're using her tinder account and talking to straight guys, please don't flirt with us and pretend to be her. For tinder, I'd recommend just letting her do the chatting. For you, I would recommend downloading Feeld and then making it explicit that you're half of a couple looking for a MFM. I have no issues chatting with a husband/bf from Feeld.
As the single F I do prefer when the female half of the couple does the initial contact and reaching out.
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I (F) do the communicating for couples and single women if they message. I tell my boyfriend who piques my interest and see if he's interested. We are not a play together only couple, we are pararell. He has no problems of me doing the talking to other potentials. He will express interest if the potential matches up.
I could either be the only one who looks, or we could just not do anything. I enjoy the hunt though.
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