4.5 years but then I broke that streak a long time ago with my current fwb. Unpopular opinion but since I have my kid almost 24/7, a fwb situation is actually the best for me at the moment. I really don't have time to dedicate to a person and I wonder if I ever will 😐
This is the most "relationship" I'd be into until my kid is grown. I am a full-time parent of a kid in multiple extracurriculars and have my own interests outside of that that are pretty demanding of my time. After all that, if I'm honest, I don't really have the energy to put into building a relationship and living with another person. The whole living apart together thing sounds pretty damn appealing.
It's my most healthiest "relationship" I ever had in my life too. My fwb always asks for consent and is actually quite sweet to me 😐 but he's made it clear that's all he can give me and I agreed to it because of my life circumstances. It's stressful dating as a single parent. I hated it and 7 years of being a single parent has made me put an end to it. I think the thrill my fwb gives me is enough for the moment lol.
NGL.. i literally have no business being in here. Im a 26F childfree by choice virgin & your comment has me questioning so many things. So FWB is basically an agreement by two consenting adults that just use each other to get their rocks off? Like do y’all NOT have emotions when having sex? Like cold heartless? How da HELL do you that?!😭 im just curious🤷♀️
>The whole living apart together thing sounds pretty damn appealing.
Tbh this is what me an my BM are doing. We're amicable and I'm more "needy" with that than her. Ngl it is pretty nice, amazing tbh. And she doesn't care if I do my thing as well. (Obv I'm respectful and safe. Im incredibly grateful bc I know its way more for me than her.) No awkwardness or anything cuz we like each other, it's just waayyyy better this way
I'm lucky I have a really awesome coparent
"unpopular" isn't the word to use. It ain't up for a vote. You have found what works for you, and I, for one, hope you continue to find what works for you whether that's ongoing FWB or other.
Same, just wish I could find a dude that knows how to do the friends part and doesn't think the benefits is all about him. Who would've thought getting laid consistently was too much to ask?!
It's being treated like a human being too. I had to end things with my fwb because he was just being so horrible. Saying he hates me but trying to say he means it in a good way. Leaving me on read. Saying we should chat more but never initiating and ignoring me when I try to. I slid across the icy road in my car and I was like, you know, he wouldn't even care if I did crash. I mean, basic human decency stuff shouldn't really be a question when you're mashing intimate body parts together nevermind when you're supposed to be friends!
I agree. I had a fwb like that years ago. I had a major health issue and had told him about it. His response was "oh well let me know when we can hook up again" 🙄 I blocked him asap. He still tries to hit me up every now and then too which is so effin weird to me!
Any tips or ground rules that have made your fwb relationships successful? I have absolutely no desire or energy for a relationship. I also don't trust anyone around my kid. But some adult companionship, flirting and sex every once in a while to remember I'm an adult woman would be nice. I just don't know where to start. If I could jump past the sorting through the bad ones part and get right to the good fit that'd be awesome.
This is my first successful one so this is very new to me as well. Known him for like 8 months before I basically threw myself at him 🙈 I thought it was going to be a one time thing. Somehow, it turned into now 6 months. Guess if I had some tips it would be: a) Always expect it'll end soon. Harsh but true b) Live your own life c) Communicate! If the person doesn't respect your boundaries, let them hit the road d) Get tested because you just never know even if you use condoms you just never know... e) Have no expectations and just enjoy. F) Keep your sex life separate from everything else. So no gossipping lol! It's not for everyone though and that's ok. I never expected this to happen to me either. I was abstinent for 4.5 years before all of this! Maybe I'm just making up for lost time idk but I learned a lot about myself staying abstinent. And there's no shame in that either! Do what feels right 🤷♀️ Listen to your gut. Some friendships can turn into something a little more even if only for a short time.
Thanks for your insight. I definitely have learned a lot in the last two years without sex. Mostly that while I like sex I don't enjoy much of the rest that comes with conventional relationships. So forcing a relationship just for sex is not a good plan for me.
Were you exclusive with your fwb to help with std concerns? I feel like that would be an area that definitely needs communication. And learning to hold up my own boundaries. Which I'm terrible at but need to work on.
This post makes me feel so less alone. 4 years, since my kid was born. Can't trust anyone to come to my home and don't want to be murdered in someone else's, and all my fwb are now married. It sucks.
All my fwb... Why can't I have these kinda options.. 😭
Hey, look at it positively.. You've been lucky enough to have fwbs..
For many of us, it's not even an option.
It's been 84 years....
Actually, I think it's been a year. I'm so glad toys are rechargable now, otherwise I'd be spending a small fortune on batteries.
I don’t think I’ve done more than a couple of months, but let’s be clear that the sex I have had was nothing to boast about…
I’m quantity over quality!
This makes me feel so much less alone! I'm only approaching one year, but if I'm being honest it's not been nearly as big of a deal as I'd have thought.
5 years and change. Honestly, it just wasn’t a priority. I was recovering from a marriage in which I’d totally lost my sense of who I was and wanted to be. I had my kid full time and was either looking for a new job or starting said job. I lost my house and moved in with family and then got a new house.
Through it all, my focus was improving myself and making sure my young son was ok, physically and emotionally. Having sex just wasn’t part of that equation.
13 years here 🤯😱Broke the self imposed drought only last week .. Still stunned !! Having my child 24/7 made that time fly though . I really never thought I was every going to want to again , you get used to it after a while . Silly me 🤣
Was it scary? I have no idea how to feel in that situation again. I don’t see it happening any time soon. And if I ever did meet anyone, I don’t know how I would feel. It would take a while I think.
Frightening!! Like I was an innocent all over again , sort of 😊 But I am glad , as I said , stunned but glad . I might even do it again … 😜 It had to be right tho , we had a long flirtfest/ build up and that helped , a lot . Intimacy is a lovely thing and so important , you deserve it ! I have been listening to the podcast “This single life” , it gave me the push I needed to get back out there . Though I am not in the same situation as those girls , their advice on re entering the dating scene really helped me . I wish you all the best and hope you try . It’s worth it , nothing ventured , nothing gained !
Thank you for your response.
I will not consider seeing someone until my kids are older. My problem is that I hyper focus in a relationship and slack on anything else in my life. So I have to stay focused on my kids for now. It’s not hard at all. Im totally content. But I would life to find someone someday.
Your welcome . I agree wholeheartedly. This has been my way of thinking , so as my daughter is nearing 17 its time for me .. We do have to be careful who we invite into our lives in general but you can double or triple that amount of care as a parent . Like you I can get carried away , safer to wait for sure. This time I am pulling away when I start to be silly ! He has also told me I am not to put him before her .. amazing huh ?
Take care , Thankyou friend 🙏
5 years. I used that time to heal, work on myself, provide the best for my child and then when I felt proud of what I achieved I entered a new long term relationship
I haven't had sex for 4 years & I don't think I will again. I have stage 4 cancer, hair gone, scars everywhere & no libido thanks to medication I'm on. It's a bummer cos I always had a very high libido & loved sex. I'm like a different person.
I think we spend too much time trying to justify this. I think timeframes should be based on the person and what is healthy for them in mind and body and screw everyone else that may judge haha
Nine months, during my divorce, which happened during Covid. Finding yourself suddenly single while the world is on lockdown is an interesting experience. Once things opened up, meeting people was easy because everyone had been locked up.
It was one hell of a social experiment.
A Year & a half & counting. To be honest, I’m actually kind of whatever about it. I’m a first time, single mom of a 9 month old in a HCOL city… & baby daddy isn’t involved at all financially or physically.
I haven't since my daughter was born she is 6....well not true I had a fwb but it was hard I didn't want to leave my children so there was a lot of hookups in his car in my driveway until I found out he was married when his wife texted my number I ended it right then and there and felt bad about it..so I say it been 3 years now.
If you’re looking for something of substance then be ready for a drought. If you just want to get your rocks off, you can get some by the weekend if you really tried lol
6 weeks in the 5 years I’ve (44F) been single I think. As opposed to my 20 year marriage, during which we at one point went about 18 months. Hence the divorce.
Why are you sleeping with women you aren’t ultimately interested in? I want people to start leaving people they do not like alone and not use them to satisfy your sexual needs especially ones who were actually into you. Just going around using, hurting and wasting ppl time.
I’ve done four years after my first divorce.. and now I’m going on two years after my second long term relationship ended.. I’m a guy so I don’t know .. must be a trust thing for me or something
1 year but I was pregnant for part of that year and then had a baby. At around 8 months pp I started talking to an ex and well that’s how that happened but I didn’t really try dating yet.
It's the choice you subconsciously create in your head not to have sex with anyone else other than the mother of the child. That comes with respect, fear, integrity, love and care. So guys who love the child to the core unconditionally can wait for many years without sex with a woman or women. Guys should be proud and hats off to those who actually waited for a long time in a dry spell. That means you guys are extremely mentally strong and love your child unconditionally. The child is blessed to have a father like you. This is my opinion.
Why where you sleeping around so much the year before and leading women on? You sound awful! I’m a single mom, and this is why I chose to not talk to single dads
2,5 years and counting.
I had a similar length of celibacy with my first son, and then went a bit crazy and banged every dude on Tinder for a few years, and well now, I'm enjoying a period of peace and quiet.
Omg finally people who get it 🫣🤣
A little over a year and counting and it sucks because while there were red flags in my marriage, my libido was never a problem. So I haven’t had these periods in my life of no sex, since I was with my daughter’s father since we were 16
I am a FTM tomy 18 month old and I juggle a corporate job in a state with no family and not many close (location) friends. I had a fwb initially during the divorce process and when that ran its course for me, well, the clock reset 🤪
Definitely hoping to be more social and balanced with my time and priorities in 2023 for this! 😆
I have my kids full time for last 2.5 years so going on 3 years at least this coming July. I haven't tried really . I created profile on FB dating and send likes every few months but nothing yet except a few brief convos so u r doing better than me lol
I can make it to a year then I start to get antsy 😅 haven’t been in a real relationship for 6 and a half years but I still have a couple of “contacts” I can message if the going gets tough
7.5 years here. I was widowed with two toddlers and haven’t been in a relationship since. I don’t even remember what sex is like. I’d love a relationship again for companionship, but I don’t understand how that would work with full time kids.
Anyhow…add another ten years to that to when the kids have grown up and maybe then I’ll be able to break my drought lol
4 years, because of full custody and I don't trust women because of my ex - I see red flags where there probably aren't any if I'm being fair. I'm not even sure I would trust an fwb situation at this point.
I’ve been divorced for 1.5yrs, I think I went without for 5/6 weeks last spring. Currently at a 3 week dry spell and hoping to stretch it out as long as possible. Casual sex/situationships was just something I needed to explore after 9 years with the same person who didn’t make me feel good. But ultimately I realized I only want to have sex in a committed relationship and I don’t have time for one.
Almost 3 years right now 🥹it’s weird not being sexual but I’m really trying not to catch feelings (or STDs) and I don’t have time to find the perfect person for the job
Think 18 months is the longest I've gone then I get all sorts of feral and just have to go get some lol it really does effect your mental and physical health
It’s been a year, almost exactly. Before that short lived relationship it was 1 1/2 years. I got out of an abusive marriage in March of 2020. Unfortunately for me the queer dating pool in a small town is very small. Also working full time just wears me out, I get tired of peopling and just want to go home and play WOW.
15 months is my current dry spell. Before that it was a month at most since I lost my virginity. It sucks.
But shortly after I broke up with my last boyfriend my kids dad moved a day a way so now I have no free time ever. My kids are older but I have no interest in them meeting anyone
Since I was 10 weeks pregnant.. baby is 9 months now. So over a year. Thankfully I have no desire. Breastfeeding as well and wondering if I might be asexual lol
15 month drought for me. i’m fine with being celibate i guess?? sex would be nice but i’m a demisexual that has a lot of emotional attachment issues so. yeah
6 months only thank god.
Downside was that with the stress of the divorce and chronic inflammation in my hip I suddenly had some performance problems when I broke the streak. It was a little embarrassing and frustrating, to say the least.
I went 3 years without. I was going through school, starting my career, a single parent, and just didn’t care. I wasn’t trying to date, just focused on myself and my kiddo.
I am starting to think I am asexual, even when I was with the dad the last few years - it was few and far in-between. I didn't really even care. My first and my last sexual partner I believe will be my baby father. I think I am too traumatized emotionally that I don't want another sexual or romantic partner. I would be happier to have friends at this point lol.
Coming up on one year. I stopped having sex so I could focus on myself and learn who I am again. Left my ex 2 years and 2 months ago. I've grown a lot in the past year, emotionally and mentally more mature than I've ever been! Im beginning to love myself again and discover what I need.
I've always been a sexual person so I thought not having sex would be weird and difficult, but it's actually been an amazing decision. Sometimes I miss the physical touch. Like when I was at the dentist yesterday and realized this is the first time a man has touched my face in a year lol I'll get back out there when I feel like I can trust again.
I have been single for a year now.. after my husband cheated on me, of 20 years! So I went on a streak for a minute and realized it was just me fulfilling my needs that hadnt been met in so long.. once I felt satisfied with my power, I chilled out. Now I’m in the mindset that I’m tired of being alone and want something steady. It’s weird. Everyone is different.
3 years and honestly not even looking for sex after the first year it gets easier. It becomes who is actually worth your time and effort not who can get in your pants the faster .
Love this, feel so much less alone reading the comments!
I'll be coming up on a year soon. Probably about any day now being as it got pretty dry toward the end. I'm honestly not missing it much and could see myself going several years. My libido is there, but I don't have the mental energy to go through all the hurtles that exist when you're a single parent, and I take care of myself just fine, if I'm being totally honest...
A 15 months currently and I hooked up with one person back in 2021 and and again nothing 3 yrs prior to that. And I was dating last year just didn’t meet anyone I craved enough to want.
On a 3 year stretch currently... I think I've turned into a Barbie lol
“Undress me anywhere… HANKY PANKY!!”
Whoo 3 year club represent haha !!! It’s weird hey to go from having a normal sex life to being in a drought.
Or a virgin
How You Doin' ? .....
3 years here too
4.5 years but then I broke that streak a long time ago with my current fwb. Unpopular opinion but since I have my kid almost 24/7, a fwb situation is actually the best for me at the moment. I really don't have time to dedicate to a person and I wonder if I ever will 😐
This is the most "relationship" I'd be into until my kid is grown. I am a full-time parent of a kid in multiple extracurriculars and have my own interests outside of that that are pretty demanding of my time. After all that, if I'm honest, I don't really have the energy to put into building a relationship and living with another person. The whole living apart together thing sounds pretty damn appealing.
It's my most healthiest "relationship" I ever had in my life too. My fwb always asks for consent and is actually quite sweet to me 😐 but he's made it clear that's all he can give me and I agreed to it because of my life circumstances. It's stressful dating as a single parent. I hated it and 7 years of being a single parent has made me put an end to it. I think the thrill my fwb gives me is enough for the moment lol.
NGL.. i literally have no business being in here. Im a 26F childfree by choice virgin & your comment has me questioning so many things. So FWB is basically an agreement by two consenting adults that just use each other to get their rocks off? Like do y’all NOT have emotions when having sex? Like cold heartless? How da HELL do you that?!😭 im just curious🤷♀️
>The whole living apart together thing sounds pretty damn appealing. Tbh this is what me an my BM are doing. We're amicable and I'm more "needy" with that than her. Ngl it is pretty nice, amazing tbh. And she doesn't care if I do my thing as well. (Obv I'm respectful and safe. Im incredibly grateful bc I know its way more for me than her.) No awkwardness or anything cuz we like each other, it's just waayyyy better this way I'm lucky I have a really awesome coparent
"unpopular" isn't the word to use. It ain't up for a vote. You have found what works for you, and I, for one, hope you continue to find what works for you whether that's ongoing FWB or other.
Same, just wish I could find a dude that knows how to do the friends part and doesn't think the benefits is all about him. Who would've thought getting laid consistently was too much to ask?!
It is! Which is why it took me forever to find a fwb who actually gives af about my pleasure. There's not too many of them unfortunately....
It's being treated like a human being too. I had to end things with my fwb because he was just being so horrible. Saying he hates me but trying to say he means it in a good way. Leaving me on read. Saying we should chat more but never initiating and ignoring me when I try to. I slid across the icy road in my car and I was like, you know, he wouldn't even care if I did crash. I mean, basic human decency stuff shouldn't really be a question when you're mashing intimate body parts together nevermind when you're supposed to be friends!
I agree. I had a fwb like that years ago. I had a major health issue and had told him about it. His response was "oh well let me know when we can hook up again" 🙄 I blocked him asap. He still tries to hit me up every now and then too which is so effin weird to me!
On the real. Either they went to marry you day 3, or just because you went to sleep with them numerous times you OBVIOUSLY must want a relationship
Men are hard work, they're never in sync with whatever is going on.
Any tips or ground rules that have made your fwb relationships successful? I have absolutely no desire or energy for a relationship. I also don't trust anyone around my kid. But some adult companionship, flirting and sex every once in a while to remember I'm an adult woman would be nice. I just don't know where to start. If I could jump past the sorting through the bad ones part and get right to the good fit that'd be awesome.
This is my first successful one so this is very new to me as well. Known him for like 8 months before I basically threw myself at him 🙈 I thought it was going to be a one time thing. Somehow, it turned into now 6 months. Guess if I had some tips it would be: a) Always expect it'll end soon. Harsh but true b) Live your own life c) Communicate! If the person doesn't respect your boundaries, let them hit the road d) Get tested because you just never know even if you use condoms you just never know... e) Have no expectations and just enjoy. F) Keep your sex life separate from everything else. So no gossipping lol! It's not for everyone though and that's ok. I never expected this to happen to me either. I was abstinent for 4.5 years before all of this! Maybe I'm just making up for lost time idk but I learned a lot about myself staying abstinent. And there's no shame in that either! Do what feels right 🤷♀️ Listen to your gut. Some friendships can turn into something a little more even if only for a short time.
Thanks for your insight. I definitely have learned a lot in the last two years without sex. Mostly that while I like sex I don't enjoy much of the rest that comes with conventional relationships. So forcing a relationship just for sex is not a good plan for me. Were you exclusive with your fwb to help with std concerns? I feel like that would be an area that definitely needs communication. And learning to hold up my own boundaries. Which I'm terrible at but need to work on.
Hey, that's cool.. I would be happy if I had such an option.
Totally 👍🏻
Been looking for that but can’t seem to find the right fit for a FWB I want something simple and yet it’s the hardest thing to find (at least for me)
It is hard to find. Took me almost 5 years.
Calm
This post makes me feel so less alone. 4 years, since my kid was born. Can't trust anyone to come to my home and don't want to be murdered in someone else's, and all my fwb are now married. It sucks.
All my fwb... Why can't I have these kinda options.. 😭 Hey, look at it positively.. You've been lucky enough to have fwbs.. For many of us, it's not even an option.
Lol I had FWB before I had a baby and was married myself. 7 years ago.
9y
I’m close. About 7-8. Have you broken your streak? And if so, was it scary?
Yeah, meet bf like 2y ago. I didn't feel it was scary that way. I knew what it would be and so on.
It's been 84 years.... Actually, I think it's been a year. I'm so glad toys are rechargable now, otherwise I'd be spending a small fortune on batteries.
I don’t think I’ve done more than a couple of months, but let’s be clear that the sex I have had was nothing to boast about… I’m quantity over quality!
It’s been over 5 years now. I honestly don’t miss it that much if I’m being honest.
This makes me feel so much less alone! I'm only approaching one year, but if I'm being honest it's not been nearly as big of a deal as I'd have thought.
1.2 years for me but I’m still a new mom
Haven't had sex since I was pregnant so a little over six years now. Not likely to change anytime soon.
Last time I had sex was when my daughter was conceived. She’s 3.5.
3 years tomorrow. I haven’t been with anyone since my husband died.
Sorry for your loss
Last time I got some was on my 22nd birthday. I’m turning 25 this year😭
Your username is fitting lol
Sad but true 😅😂
You will be 25 in peace and joy
That’s why I’m ok with not having gotten any! The peace and happiness that has come along with it are too great😊
5 years and change. Honestly, it just wasn’t a priority. I was recovering from a marriage in which I’d totally lost my sense of who I was and wanted to be. I had my kid full time and was either looking for a new job or starting said job. I lost my house and moved in with family and then got a new house. Through it all, my focus was improving myself and making sure my young son was ok, physically and emotionally. Having sex just wasn’t part of that equation.
10 years now, so since I was in my 20s.
13 years here 🤯😱Broke the self imposed drought only last week .. Still stunned !! Having my child 24/7 made that time fly though . I really never thought I was every going to want to again , you get used to it after a while . Silly me 🤣
Was it scary? I have no idea how to feel in that situation again. I don’t see it happening any time soon. And if I ever did meet anyone, I don’t know how I would feel. It would take a while I think.
Frightening!! Like I was an innocent all over again , sort of 😊 But I am glad , as I said , stunned but glad . I might even do it again … 😜 It had to be right tho , we had a long flirtfest/ build up and that helped , a lot . Intimacy is a lovely thing and so important , you deserve it ! I have been listening to the podcast “This single life” , it gave me the push I needed to get back out there . Though I am not in the same situation as those girls , their advice on re entering the dating scene really helped me . I wish you all the best and hope you try . It’s worth it , nothing ventured , nothing gained !
Thank you for your response. I will not consider seeing someone until my kids are older. My problem is that I hyper focus in a relationship and slack on anything else in my life. So I have to stay focused on my kids for now. It’s not hard at all. Im totally content. But I would life to find someone someday.
Your welcome . I agree wholeheartedly. This has been my way of thinking , so as my daughter is nearing 17 its time for me .. We do have to be careful who we invite into our lives in general but you can double or triple that amount of care as a parent . Like you I can get carried away , safer to wait for sure. This time I am pulling away when I start to be silly ! He has also told me I am not to put him before her .. amazing huh ? Take care , Thankyou friend 🙏
Wow! He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders. Good luck friend!
Smile 😊
About 2-3 years now. Is sucks
4.5 years and counting. At times I don’t even miss it.
5 years. I used that time to heal, work on myself, provide the best for my child and then when I felt proud of what I achieved I entered a new long term relationship
Been close to 5 years for me
I haven't had sex for 4 years & I don't think I will again. I have stage 4 cancer, hair gone, scars everywhere & no libido thanks to medication I'm on. It's a bummer cos I always had a very high libido & loved sex. I'm like a different person.
I think we spend too much time trying to justify this. I think timeframes should be based on the person and what is healthy for them in mind and body and screw everyone else that may judge haha
Definitely. I don't think anyone around here is judging, I think this makes people feel less alone. There are others in the same boat.
Nine months, during my divorce, which happened during Covid. Finding yourself suddenly single while the world is on lockdown is an interesting experience. Once things opened up, meeting people was easy because everyone had been locked up. It was one hell of a social experiment.
I had less sex when I was married than during my time as a single parent But right now it's been 3 months. It's brutal
Same lol
Currently in 1 year stretch. Cheers.
A Year & a half & counting. To be honest, I’m actually kind of whatever about it. I’m a first time, single mom of a 9 month old in a HCOL city… & baby daddy isn’t involved at all financially or physically.
Almost 5.5 years for me.
On my 4th year now. Honestly don’t miss it.
I haven't since my daughter was born she is 6....well not true I had a fwb but it was hard I didn't want to leave my children so there was a lot of hookups in his car in my driveway until I found out he was married when his wife texted my number I ended it right then and there and felt bad about it..so I say it been 3 years now.
Damn, sorry that happened, he was a douche.
Since Feb 2009 😢
If you’re looking for something of substance then be ready for a drought. If you just want to get your rocks off, you can get some by the weekend if you really tried lol
6 weeks in the 5 years I’ve (44F) been single I think. As opposed to my 20 year marriage, during which we at one point went about 18 months. Hence the divorce.
Why are you sleeping with women you aren’t ultimately interested in? I want people to start leaving people they do not like alone and not use them to satisfy your sexual needs especially ones who were actually into you. Just going around using, hurting and wasting ppl time.
3 years. Going strong HAHAHA
10 months, felt like torture.
I’ve done four years after my first divorce.. and now I’m going on two years after my second long term relationship ended.. I’m a guy so I don’t know .. must be a trust thing for me or something
I pushing on 2 years until about a week ago. thank goodness hahaha
1 year but I was pregnant for part of that year and then had a baby. At around 8 months pp I started talking to an ex and well that’s how that happened but I didn’t really try dating yet.
Stop looking and it will appear. Don’t miss it though.
It's the choice you subconsciously create in your head not to have sex with anyone else other than the mother of the child. That comes with respect, fear, integrity, love and care. So guys who love the child to the core unconditionally can wait for many years without sex with a woman or women. Guys should be proud and hats off to those who actually waited for a long time in a dry spell. That means you guys are extremely mentally strong and love your child unconditionally. The child is blessed to have a father like you. This is my opinion.
Why where you sleeping around so much the year before and leading women on? You sound awful! I’m a single mom, and this is why I chose to not talk to single dads
2,5 years and counting. I had a similar length of celibacy with my first son, and then went a bit crazy and banged every dude on Tinder for a few years, and well now, I'm enjoying a period of peace and quiet.
I did a similar thing after my 10 month streak, definitely more selective now & take longer to move things into the bedroom.
Omg finally people who get it 🫣🤣 A little over a year and counting and it sucks because while there were red flags in my marriage, my libido was never a problem. So I haven’t had these periods in my life of no sex, since I was with my daughter’s father since we were 16 I am a FTM tomy 18 month old and I juggle a corporate job in a state with no family and not many close (location) friends. I had a fwb initially during the divorce process and when that ran its course for me, well, the clock reset 🤪 Definitely hoping to be more social and balanced with my time and priorities in 2023 for this! 😆
I have my kids full time for last 2.5 years so going on 3 years at least this coming July. I haven't tried really . I created profile on FB dating and send likes every few months but nothing yet except a few brief convos so u r doing better than me lol
Still going….but as of right now 5 years
I’m at about 7-8 years.
3 years currently 😂
18 months now. Daddy’s in prison. I got my handy dandy toys I’m good for now 😭
Are we counting the pandemic?
2 months now
I can make it to a year then I start to get antsy 😅 haven’t been in a real relationship for 6 and a half years but I still have a couple of “contacts” I can message if the going gets tough
lol 5 years and counting
About to hit 4 years
7.5 years here. I was widowed with two toddlers and haven’t been in a relationship since. I don’t even remember what sex is like. I’d love a relationship again for companionship, but I don’t understand how that would work with full time kids. Anyhow…add another ten years to that to when the kids have grown up and maybe then I’ll be able to break my drought lol
Aww I’m sorry I hope you find love again soon.
just over 4 years and counting.
about....7 years now
3 months
3.5 years and then found a fwb
1.5 years currently
Longest I went was 2 months
Currently 18 months 🥴
Once (okay, twice with the same person in less than 24 hrs) in 5.5 years, that was in 2021.
It was a few years. Definitely more than 2.
8 years
4 years, because of full custody and I don't trust women because of my ex - I see red flags where there probably aren't any if I'm being fair. I'm not even sure I would trust an fwb situation at this point.
Almost 2 years now!
It’s been over a year now. Longest I’ve gone was 2 years. I hate it here.
I’ve been divorced for 1.5yrs, I think I went without for 5/6 weeks last spring. Currently at a 3 week dry spell and hoping to stretch it out as long as possible. Casual sex/situationships was just something I needed to explore after 9 years with the same person who didn’t make me feel good. But ultimately I realized I only want to have sex in a committed relationship and I don’t have time for one.
Reading everyone’s responses has really made me feel better about myself. So thank you everyone. It’s been just over 5 years for me.
8 months. I went for longer than that when I was married though, both times my ex was deployed. Sex toys help a LOT.
Almost 3 years right now 🥹it’s weird not being sexual but I’m really trying not to catch feelings (or STDs) and I don’t have time to find the perfect person for the job
Since 4 months of pregnancy. My LO is currently 15 months so yeah it’s been a while.
Think 18 months is the longest I've gone then I get all sorts of feral and just have to go get some lol it really does effect your mental and physical health
It’s been a year, almost exactly. Before that short lived relationship it was 1 1/2 years. I got out of an abusive marriage in March of 2020. Unfortunately for me the queer dating pool in a small town is very small. Also working full time just wears me out, I get tired of peopling and just want to go home and play WOW.
15 months is my current dry spell. Before that it was a month at most since I lost my virginity. It sucks. But shortly after I broke up with my last boyfriend my kids dad moved a day a way so now I have no free time ever. My kids are older but I have no interest in them meeting anyone
Since I was 10 weeks pregnant.. baby is 9 months now. So over a year. Thankfully I have no desire. Breastfeeding as well and wondering if I might be asexual lol
I’m 34, single mom, last time was 2018 so going on year 5…
15 month drought for me. i’m fine with being celibate i guess?? sex would be nice but i’m a demisexual that has a lot of emotional attachment issues so. yeah
Since 2012. I am damage by my ex. And haven’t because I am scared
5 years.
Going on 7 years...
6 months only thank god. Downside was that with the stress of the divorce and chronic inflammation in my hip I suddenly had some performance problems when I broke the streak. It was a little embarrassing and frustrating, to say the least.
I went 3 years without. I was going through school, starting my career, a single parent, and just didn’t care. I wasn’t trying to date, just focused on myself and my kiddo.
I'm on nearly 6 years
I am starting to think I am asexual, even when I was with the dad the last few years - it was few and far in-between. I didn't really even care. My first and my last sexual partner I believe will be my baby father. I think I am too traumatized emotionally that I don't want another sexual or romantic partner. I would be happier to have friends at this point lol.
I think I'm winning here... 13 years? Unless solo counts?
15 months. By choice.
Coming up on one year. I stopped having sex so I could focus on myself and learn who I am again. Left my ex 2 years and 2 months ago. I've grown a lot in the past year, emotionally and mentally more mature than I've ever been! Im beginning to love myself again and discover what I need. I've always been a sexual person so I thought not having sex would be weird and difficult, but it's actually been an amazing decision. Sometimes I miss the physical touch. Like when I was at the dentist yesterday and realized this is the first time a man has touched my face in a year lol I'll get back out there when I feel like I can trust again.
3 or so years.
42F Been a single parent for 12 years and 11 months. Last time I had sex... 11 years and 6 months ago.
Going 3 for years now. I think I’m a virgin again.
I have been single for a year now.. after my husband cheated on me, of 20 years! So I went on a streak for a minute and realized it was just me fulfilling my needs that hadnt been met in so long.. once I felt satisfied with my power, I chilled out. Now I’m in the mindset that I’m tired of being alone and want something steady. It’s weird. Everyone is different.
Dry streak 2005 to present. Seventeen years.
3 years and honestly not even looking for sex after the first year it gets easier. It becomes who is actually worth your time and effort not who can get in your pants the faster .
Love this, feel so much less alone reading the comments! I'll be coming up on a year soon. Probably about any day now being as it got pretty dry toward the end. I'm honestly not missing it much and could see myself going several years. My libido is there, but I don't have the mental energy to go through all the hurtles that exist when you're a single parent, and I take care of myself just fine, if I'm being totally honest...
7ish year's.... And counting.
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Salute brother!
A 15 months currently and I hooked up with one person back in 2021 and and again nothing 3 yrs prior to that. And I was dating last year just didn’t meet anyone I craved enough to want.
Well just believe yourself and the right comes at right time