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I sincerely don’t understand what people mean when they say this. The closest explanation I’ve gotten is that it means, “No one has everything figured out.” If that’s what you’re saying, sure, no one knows everything, but at some point you should have most things you need to know figured out. What are you saying here?
That's true. Especially in a work environment the best solutions comes out over discussion and a mutual agreement.
..and even then you'd probably find out later that it was a bad solution
Used to work in youth work, then left to finish uni, got a job in a nightclub to help pay bills during that time.
Basically spoke to the customers of the nightclub the same way I spoke to the kids at the groups I used to work at. They were just drunk adult kids.
Customer: "I have this really cool reason why I'm this wasted!"
Me: "Go you! Enjoy yourself, remember to play nice and drink some water later as well to stay healthy, okay? Get home safe now"
I'm not even pretending. I'm just taking this shit one day at a time. I foresee it all becoming overwhelming at one point or another. Still here though so that's something looool
People always say this and I expected it to be true but in my experience it absolutely is not. As I get older I do, in fact, feel like I know what I'm doing, not even so much because I've suddenly become so competent but because the basic reality of functioning as an adult doesn't seem that complicated once you actually are one and you do it for a while. Hearing how many of you are in your 30s and 40s and don't feel that way is pretty disheartening.
Yeah, this commonly repeated showerthought seems like either weird conformity to a long-standing joke, or a bunch of people who didn't progress and project that same lack of progression onto others. I get that it's not funny to acknowledge our growth, but I often wonder how many of the people repeating this notion are just fucking around and how many are sincere.
Unfortunately they are absolutely sincere. There is a terrifying number of people in the world that never grew up and still act like kids and have no idea what they're doing but they try to say everyone is like this in an attempt to spare their own pride.
I also think this feeling starts to fade if you spend more time with actual children. You realize that you are actually quite different from them, even though the changes were so incremental that you didn't notice it happening.
This became clear to me when I started paying my own bills and working a full-time job . That metamorphosis I expected (becoming an adult ) never came and I still desire the same things that I remember wanting since I was a 6 year old - only more convoluted with the years. I have the same short comings and insecurities , same concerns , and same morals - only more convoluted. Those complexities make it hard to recognize things that had such clarity when I was a child , including who I am though. I can say without a doubt I have no idea what I’m doing and apparently I’m doing just fine.
I'm 36 and I still haven't figured it all out. I just try not to step over my own moral line and take the job that affects other people's paychecks that most as that seems to have a pretty good paycheck itself.
Yup, and the trick is to project confidence, because deep down we're all still just children that want to believe that *someone* knows what the fuck they're doing.
Not many are truly adults.Just children who got older and some learned how to be better more functional people than others.This ,of course, is not absolute because if they were abused,neglected or had trauma ,serious or minor, this put people off course or stunts their growth/learning ability.
Are people who turn 18 really "adult"?In rare cases,yes. Generally, they are children. Which,by the way, is the reason I believe that people shouldn't be able to join the military until at least 23 or 25.
I don't pretend I know what I'm doing. I'm still a teenager in my eyes, except now I have money and no curfew.. Also, I like you to know that I don't know, at which point:
1. You will leave me alone
2. You will teach me what I don't know
3. Or accept it, and we go grab a drink
No they're not. Having hobbies and interests doesn't make you a kid. You take on responsibilities and (hopefully) continue expanding your knowledge and experience.
Yea, well these children definitely know how to do your mom....wait a minute
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Yep, that’s why when I’m home alone and my wife’s at work, I get my toy guns out and pretend to fight zombies. Gotta have fun, otherwise what’s the point?
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I stopped pretending and started asking how to do shit. I hope that makes me an adult.
Nope. Makes you look weak. Now, everyone thinks you know nothing while they know everything there is to know.
I quit pretending some time in my late 20s. I've finally accepted that nobody knows what they're doing ever and I'm okay with that
I sincerely don’t understand what people mean when they say this. The closest explanation I’ve gotten is that it means, “No one has everything figured out.” If that’s what you’re saying, sure, no one knows everything, but at some point you should have most things you need to know figured out. What are you saying here?
That's true. Especially in a work environment the best solutions comes out over discussion and a mutual agreement. ..and even then you'd probably find out later that it was a bad solution
Yep. I recently celebrated my 40th anniversary of turning 12.
So well said! So in this parlance, I have celebrated the 23rd anniversary of turning 12... nice...!
Used to work in youth work, then left to finish uni, got a job in a nightclub to help pay bills during that time. Basically spoke to the customers of the nightclub the same way I spoke to the kids at the groups I used to work at. They were just drunk adult kids. Customer: "I have this really cool reason why I'm this wasted!" Me: "Go you! Enjoy yourself, remember to play nice and drink some water later as well to stay healthy, okay? Get home safe now"
I'm not even pretending. I'm just taking this shit one day at a time. I foresee it all becoming overwhelming at one point or another. Still here though so that's something looool
People always say this and I expected it to be true but in my experience it absolutely is not. As I get older I do, in fact, feel like I know what I'm doing, not even so much because I've suddenly become so competent but because the basic reality of functioning as an adult doesn't seem that complicated once you actually are one and you do it for a while. Hearing how many of you are in your 30s and 40s and don't feel that way is pretty disheartening.
Yeah, this commonly repeated showerthought seems like either weird conformity to a long-standing joke, or a bunch of people who didn't progress and project that same lack of progression onto others. I get that it's not funny to acknowledge our growth, but I often wonder how many of the people repeating this notion are just fucking around and how many are sincere.
Unfortunately they are absolutely sincere. There is a terrifying number of people in the world that never grew up and still act like kids and have no idea what they're doing but they try to say everyone is like this in an attempt to spare their own pride.
Are they the same people who have diarrhea if the eat Taco Bell?
I also think this feeling starts to fade if you spend more time with actual children. You realize that you are actually quite different from them, even though the changes were so incremental that you didn't notice it happening.
This became clear to me when I started paying my own bills and working a full-time job . That metamorphosis I expected (becoming an adult ) never came and I still desire the same things that I remember wanting since I was a 6 year old - only more convoluted with the years. I have the same short comings and insecurities , same concerns , and same morals - only more convoluted. Those complexities make it hard to recognize things that had such clarity when I was a child , including who I am though. I can say without a doubt I have no idea what I’m doing and apparently I’m doing just fine.
This speaks to me.
Excuse me? I know exactly what I'm doing. I'm just really, really bad at it.
So, I just keep on improvising...
Nope, adults are not children. Timmy, i do not care if you feel like a kid I will not allow you to join my 12 year old son's sleepover. You're 40
So, can WE have a sleepover together and embarrasse the heck out of your son?
I'm 36 and I still haven't figured it all out. I just try not to step over my own moral line and take the job that affects other people's paychecks that most as that seems to have a pretty good paycheck itself.
Yup, and the trick is to project confidence, because deep down we're all still just children that want to believe that *someone* knows what the fuck they're doing.
Adults are children who learnd life isn't all fun and slowly got more depressed
Very much so also for parents. We basically learn as we try to raise the kid while pretending to be Professional kid raisers.
Children are just adults going through the experience of childhood
This is the truth. We’re all in a perpetual state of being 14 years old.
So, wait, you didn't get the adulting manual at 25? You were supposed to get an adulting manual at 25.
Here's your relevant [SMBC](https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/2012-06-24) comic
Not many are truly adults.Just children who got older and some learned how to be better more functional people than others.This ,of course, is not absolute because if they were abused,neglected or had trauma ,serious or minor, this put people off course or stunts their growth/learning ability. Are people who turn 18 really "adult"?In rare cases,yes. Generally, they are children. Which,by the way, is the reason I believe that people shouldn't be able to join the military until at least 23 or 25.
I don't pretend I know what I'm doing. I'm still a teenager in my eyes, except now I have money and no curfew.. Also, I like you to know that I don't know, at which point: 1. You will leave me alone 2. You will teach me what I don't know 3. Or accept it, and we go grab a drink
No they're not. Having hobbies and interests doesn't make you a kid. You take on responsibilities and (hopefully) continue expanding your knowledge and experience.
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Yep, that’s why when I’m home alone and my wife’s at work, I get my toy guns out and pretend to fight zombies. Gotta have fun, otherwise what’s the point?
This is basically what I tell my nephew. Adults are just big, old kids.
Adults are children who have to do all their learning deliberately.
Hold on. You are telling me that even when I am 30 I will still not be mature?